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How To Make A Woman Enjoy An EXPLOSIVE Orgasm!

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An orgasm is something every guy wants to learn how to give their partners. If you are anything like the other men reading this article, you probably yearn to be the best lover your woman has ever had, right? But if you have been reading any of the gossip columns in women’s magazines, or been checking out any of the sex surveys in recent years, you would be WELL aware that the vast majority of women are NOT satisfied in bed!

So how do you give your woman a phenomenal time in bed? Simple! Read on and learn about these 5 sexy strategies to light up her orgasmic passions tonight!

Deep Connection Dynamics

By focusing all your attention entirely on her, you can give her what she wants. If you are thinking of other things while you are making love to her or performing oral sex on her, she will sense it. Put all of your attention on her as if she is the most beautiful and desirable woman in the world. She will bask in this type of attention and begin to glow. Once you connect with her emotionally in this manner, you will set the stage for her to respond in a way you would have never imagined!

Play The Voyeur

Many women never reach orgasm with their partners because they are too shy to tell them what they want. Yet the vast majority of women can achieve an orgasm through masturbation. So, encourage her to pleasure herself and OBSERVE the moves she make so that you can do the same to her.

Every woman has specific areas on her body that she loves to be touched. Learn where these “hot spots” are, and give them you undivided attention. Many women can come to an orgasm within ten minutes of sensuous foreplay from their partners, making this an easy way for you to please her without too much effort (or time)!

Practice “Tongue Gymnastics”

Kissing. It is the one thing that makes or breaks a man’s ability to be a great, sensuous lover. Make sure that you do not hold back on the kissing. It is one of the most important aspects of your lovemaking, if not the most important. Start with her mouth and then move to other parts of her body. Her bodily reactions and breathing patterns tell you and show you the sensitive parts of her body. Work on them, slowly tantalizing her senses and turning on the faucet to her orgasmic potential.

Exert Oral Influence

Most women cannot get enough of oral sex, simply because it is a very POWERFUL (and deceptively easy) way for them to reach an orgasm. Use your fingers and tongue to stimulate her clitoris. One great way to give AND receive oral sex simultaneously is in the “69” position, giving you the best of both worlds! Oral sex alone can potentially bring a woman to multiple, mind-tingling orgasms that will only intensify when you proceed to intercourse.

If you need a little more “help” to maximize her pleasure, why not bring along something that can help you in bed, like a sex toy? I would recommend choosing a toy that is intended for anal stimulation. This is one of the most pleasurable sexual acts if done in a proper manner. Anal stimulation, together with clitoral stimulation with your tongue, can provide a deadly “combo” and trigger an intense female orgasm.

Movement Modulation

Instead of just starting intercourse and pumping away, enter her slowly. Modulate your movements and pay attention to her reactions. For instance, start off with shallow penetration, pull out and then tease her a bit, rubbing your manhood against her clitoris. Then enter her again. Gradually build up your thrusts so that it heightens her sexual anticipation and primes her for powerful orgasms when she is ready.

How To Give Her An Emotionally Supercharged Orgasm

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An orgasm can be absolutely amazing or it can be a huge letdown – and it can also be anywhere in between, from mediocre to almost great. For women, an orgasm becomes incredible when she feels strong emotions during sex and climax – even more so than using the best techniques. For a woman, the ultimate orgasm comes from feeling amazing both physically and emotionally. Here’s how you can give your lover a wall-shaking orgasm, leaving your lover completely blissed out and feeling great inside and out.

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Feeling Strong Emotions During Sex Can Make It More Intense

Of course, women respond much better than men to emotional stimuli, but experiencing strong feelings during sex can make it great for both you and your partner.

Why It’s Great For Her

Women are emotional creatures, to put it simply. They attach emotion to everything, whether positive or negative. When they remember things, they remember more about how they felt about what happened rather than remembering exactly what happened in a play-by-play. Women will also react differently to things based on how they feel – whether they’re happy, angry, upset, sad or frustrated.

Use this to your advantage by manipulating your lover’s emotions during sex and getting your woman to experience everything you’re doing while she’s feeling loved, cherished and emotionally close to you.

Why It’s Great For You

While guys get a bad rap for only caring about the physical aspect of sex, experiencing strong feelings during sex can make it better for a man too. Since guys can pretty much tune into sex and oral sex at the drop of a hat, it’s easier to play into a man’s emotions during sex than any other time because his guard is down.

For a man, feeling emotionally close to their partner during sex can give them the confidence they need to really let go and get into it, as well as have an incentive to give their partners pleasure. A man that doesn’t feel emotionally close to his partner during sex isn’t going to care as much about making your girl feel good too – and she won’t return the favor. A woman who feels safe and loved during sex is going to want to give her partner a blowjob or do other things to make him feel extra special physically.

How To Use “I Love You” To Make Her Orgasm Amazing

A woman wants to feel loved and cherished by her man – period. She wants to feel safe with him and that he cares very much about what she thinks and how she’s feeling. You can make your lover feel this way during sex – right before orgasm – by asking your partner to say “I love you” right before she’s about to climax. Then, have your partner say it over and over again until she’s lost herself in the throes of a sheet soaking orgasm.

If the phrase “I love you” doesn’t work for your girl, you can also ask her to use other phrases such as “I want you” or “I need you” over and over again as she’s reaching climax.

Make Her Feel Blissed Out Afterwards

This is really a two part sex technique, because you’re not going to stop after just getting your woman to say “I love you” (or whatever other phrase you have chosen) while she’s having an orgasm. You’re also going to follow up with a super sweet, soft kiss after she’s finished, and you’re going to tell your partner that you love her while looking deeply into your lover’s eyes. Bonus points if you cuddle with your lover for a few minutes afterward.

To break it down, what you’ve done when asking your partner to tell you that she loves you over and over while she’s having an orgasm, you have made your lover realize how much she really does love you at the moment that she’s experiencing a physical release. This will make your girl feel more emotionally close to you than she ever has before.

When you follow it up with a sweet, soft kiss and an “I love you” of your own, you’re making your partner feel loved and safe – all while she’s experiencing all of these other positive, wonderful emotions and at the same time, while she’s feeling all of the amazing physical sensations of orgasm.

This is an incredibly powerful way to bond with your partner both sexually and emotionally. When done correctly, this technique will make you and your partner feel closer than ever.

Using This Technique During Oral Sex

You can also use this technique during cunnilingus to make your woman feel even more special – since you’re only giving her physical pleasure and getting none yourself.

What makes using this technique during oral sex so powerful is because you’re focused completely on your partner and her pleasure. Then, after she’s had an orgasm, you’re going to do the same thing – give your lover a soft, sweet kiss and tell her you love her while looking deeply into her eyes. She will feel absolutely incredible and so in-tune with you that she’ll want to immediately return the favor.

Give Her A Squirting Orgasm In 60 Seconds – 4 Tips For A Lightning Fast Orgasm!

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A squirting orgasm is like the holy grail of all female orgasms. It doesn’t have to take forever to learn how to give her an amazing orgasm (and get her squirting too) – here are four great suggestions to give her an orgasm – quickly!

There are certain things you can do to make sure she starts squirting when having sex with you. Men who are able to give their women squirting orgasms hold a very special place in their partners’ heart. This is because it takes special skills and strategies to tug at both the emotional and sexual hot buttons within a woman so that she completely releases her inhibitions to enjoy the “gushing” experience.

If you want to get your wife or girlfriend squirting, keep reading for these four tips that will get her emotionally and physically aroused enough to enjoy a incredible squirting orgasm.

Get Her Into A Sexual Landscape

Simply put, find out what she likes in between the sheets! If you know where and how she likes to be touched, don’t you think that will greatly amplify her sexual anticipation? You bet she would! All you need to do is ASK and OBSERVE. Sounds easy enough, but unfortunately many men fail to do these two simple things.

Pay close attention to her sexual needs. Learn where her hot buttons are, and stimulate her tenderly at those areas… using the manner she would caress herself when she’s masturbating alone. Believe me, this will set her up for some very intense orgasms QUICKLY when the real action begins.

Indulge Her Fantasies

Any man can fulfill the sexual desires of a woman if he starts by knowing what type of men she fantasizes about. Most women fantasize about men who are in positions of power. If you have always been hesitant in the bedroom, now is the time to be strong and assertive. While some women have sex fantasies about cowboys, pirates or sheiks, all of them usually are the same type of man – one who is in control.

The “Dynamic Duo”

It is no secret that a woman’s clitoris is the key female orgasm center. And that is why most guys head straight for the clitoris in their attempts to get their partners to reach an orgasm. But here’s a powerful trick to double her pleasure, and massively reduce the amount of time she takes to climax: touch, caress, tease and stimulate another part on her body.

Once you learn where her sensual hot spots are (hint: her ears, back of her neck, her inner thighs), gently arouse her at one of these areas while you simultaneously stimulate her clitoris.

Use this technique with caution though: Her sexual arousal will escalate rapidly and you won’t be able to turn her off for a while, even if you wanted too!

The Clitoral/G-Spot Orgasm Combo

Learn how she responds and what makes her have an orgasm. Locate her clitoris and rub it in the way that she likes. You can tell this from her reactions. Put her hand over yours and get her to show you just how to do it – you cannot go wrong with this move. Once she is sufficiently lubricated, insert your index or middle finger to locate and stimulate her G-spot (which is usually within 2 to 3 inches inside the front wall of the vagina).

Proper stimulation to these two extremely sensitive areas can bring her to very powerful squirting orgasms that will have her panting for more!

Ladies: How To Orgasm With Him On Top

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Most women can only reach orgasm during sex with their partners if they’re on top. This is mainly because in the woman-on-top sex position, the woman has control over the speed of thrusting as well as the depth and angle of his penis in her vagina. However, lots of guys like to be on top because it feels great for them, but does that mean you should miss out on your orgasm!? No way! Here’s how you can reach orgasm with him on top, every time!

Don’t Ignore The Power Of Foreplay

Foreplay is a very important part of sex, because very few women can reach orgasm from having sex only with no time to get warmed up first. Give your partner oral sex and let him return the favor, or let him finger you and touch your clitoris while you kiss him deeply. Without enough time to get warmed up and turned on, it’s unlikely that you’ll have an orgasm at all, no matter who is on top!

Foreplay will also help you feel more connected to your partner emotionally, and that type of intimacy is necessary for a woman to even feel turned on and to be orgasmic. Without feeling emotionally intimate with your partner, it’s going to be much, much harder to be in an orgasmic state of mind!

Masturbate

Masturbation is essential for a woman to learn how to have an orgasm. Through masturbation, a woman learns what feels best, how she likes to be touched and what doesn’t feel good. It’s kind of like learning the map to orgasm – and if you can’t bring yourself to orgasm by masturbating, how are you going to show your guy the way there?

When masturbating, don’t be afraid to take it slow and really find out what feels good and what doesn’t. Don’t make it a rush job – lock your doors and set aside some time to be with yourself when no one will bother you. Once you really learn what you like and how your body responds to pleasure, you’ll become much more orgasmic in any sex position, including him on top.

Use The Coital Alignment Technique

The Coital Alignment Technique (also called CAT) is when both partners are in the missionary position with him on top, but he aligns himself in a way that allows his chest to be closer to your shoulders rather than directly on top of you and face to face. This amazing sex technique angles his penis differently to allow for more g-spot stimulation, and it also allows for more clitoral stimulation.

Next time you and your partner are having sex with him on top, have him scoot up a bit to where he’s just a little bit above you, where his lips meet your forehead and his chest and hands are closer to your shoulders. When thrusting, instead of thrusting straight in or downward, he will thrust upwards as though he is “pointing” towards your head and shoulders. This will create more friction during sex, which is needed for both clitoral and g-spot orgasms.

Bring On The Sex Toys

Even with masturbation, foreplay and the Coital Alignment Technique, it can still be very difficult for a woman to reach orgasm with her partner on top of her during sex. If you’ve tried everything but still can’t have an orgasm in the missionary position, don’t be afraid to use sex toys to get the job done.

Try putting a dab of lube on your finger and touching your clitoris while he thrusts in and out. He’ll really enjoy watching you pleasure yourself, and you’ll enjoy the fact that you can actually give yourself an orgasm while he’s on top instead of simply going without.

If you’re not able to stimulate yourself manually enough to reach orgasm, bust out your vibrator and slip it in between you and your partner for a little stronger clitoral stimulation. This will help you reach orgasm quickly and easily, and the vibrations may make your partner feel great too!

Best Sex Toys For The Job

If you’re going to use a sex toy to reach orgasm in the missionary position, you don’t want a huge dildo shaped vibrator because it just won’t fit right. Try a slender vibrator or a bullet vibe. These are smaller and will more easily fit between you and your lover. If you want to do it hands free, try using a strap on style bullet vibrator that simply sits over the clitoris.

The Best Sex Positions For Mind-Blowing Orgasms

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Do perfect sex positions actually exist? They do! However, the most awesome sex positions for men and women are different. Also, did you know that by moving even one inch in any direction while in these sex positions, you can dramatically change the feeling and intensity of the pleasure?

Take your time to find the best angles for the both of you, while using these sex positions.

The Best Position For Women To Climax

The reverse missionary is identical to the traditional missionary except that she is on top. This is probably the easiest position for a woman to have an orgasm because she can control the friction to her clitoris or G-spot.

Since you typically want the women to orgasm first, this would be one of your first positions and then move to a position where the guy has full control of his orgasm.

You can vary your leg positions by both of you spreading your legs, or by alternating the one who has them spread and the one who has them together.

The Best Position For Men To Orgasm

Practically every animal species utilizes the rear-entry “doggy-style” position, so it is a natural one for humans to enjoy, as well. Although you won’t have face-to-face contact, there are many benefits. It is great for guys because it gives them full control.

This is one of the greatest sex positions for hitting her G-spot and allows you to fondle her breasts, stomach, clitoris, back, neck and other sensual spots. Even she can touch her clitoris in this position.

She kneels before you (some women enjoy it more if their head is down on a pillow) and you enter her from behind. The main benefit for the guy is a view of her beautiful bottom and being able to see the action, while getting incredibly deep penetration (above-average guys need to be careful as deep thrusts might hit her cervix, which can be quite painful).

The Mistake Couples Make Using Sex Positions

Of course, books show dozens, if not hundreds, of sex positions, but the reality is that there are maybe only eight basic positions, with slight variations for each. So what happens when you’ve tried all eight positions to death? Let’s face it – ­­in the end, lovemaking is generally always the same.

That’s why you should explore ALL aspects of sexuality about each other. I don’t mean anything freaky here. I just mean cultivate an adventurous spirit. Turn foreplay into a game. Add a prop or two.

Try a new place. How about starting off with a plate of fruits? There are literally HUNDREDS of ways you can make your lovemaking more exciting, passionate and fulfilling long-term, rather than just trying new sex positions.