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3 Moves To Heighten Her Arousal

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An orgasm is the icing on the cake for a woman – here are some easy ways to increase your lover’s chances of having an orgasm during sex.

These next moves are specifically designed for increased stimulation when she has become aroused and lubricated, heading toward orgasm. If your wife is not naturally lubricated but is clearly aroused and ready for more intense sensations, it’s time to break out the bottled lube. Lube is definitely a worthy investment for these landmark moves.

If your wife is not naturally lubricated but is clearly aroused and ready for more intense sensations, it’s time to break out the bottled lube.

1. U-Turn Again

This move stimulates the urethra and prepares your wife for the possibility of a squirting orgasm. Spread her labia using the thumb and forefinger from above, and use your other hand to gently stroke a lubricated finger over the delicate spot between her vagina and clitoris.

Don’t stimulate her clit directly, unless she asks you to, and don’t penetrate her just yet either. You may have to use the thumb and ring finger of your other hand to hold her inner labia apart and spot her urethral opening. Once you do, you can use just the very tip of your index finger to tease and tickle the little bump and get her ready for intense orgasms.

2. Rollie-Pollie

Another great massage technique, this move is excellent as you get closer to penetration. It ensures maximum blood flow to her outer genitalia, which will help increase the overall stimulation levels that lead her to orgasm.

Using the pad of your thumb against the side of your index finger, grasp one of her outer labia in each hand and roll them back and forth. Work your way down from her mound to her perineum and then back up again. Vary your speed and pressure based on her response, and get ready for a wet and wild ride coming your way.

3. Heavy Petting

Turning things around again, this move is a great return to a position where your wife can pleasure your penis a bit as well, either with her hands or her mouth. Whether you are on your knees or lying on your side, face her feet, close enough to her groin that the heel of your hand can rest comfortably on the top of her mons.

This is a great follow up to the cupping, drumming and rumbling techniques above in this same position, but again, is best once she is lubricated, so use this as a cue to add a drop or two, if she isn’t already wet.

Let your hands drape down over her vulva and with your index and ring fingers holding her outer labia, slide your middle finger between them, and run it through the folds of her inner labia from top to bottom. Be sure to keep your hand on her pubic mound, and don’t be too forceful or exuberant with this one, unless she asks you to up the ante. Her inner lips are fine and delicate, so they will feel even the lightest touch.

4 Ways To Prime Her For POWERFUL Orgasms

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The female orgasm is often considered the holy grail of sex – you want to give her a female orgasm that leaves her legs shaking. Here’s how to get her ready.

Many men fantasize about their women calling out their names during their private moments in bed. However, most guys are not aware of how to give women the ultimate sexual excitement and make them quiver in orgasmic ecstasy. Below I have 4 definite ways that will turn her on sexually and earn you the sound of her begging for (yet) another gratifying climax in bed. Let’s read on!

1. Touch Her Hands

Let your fingers run along her hands and wrists. A woman’s hands and wrists are very sensitive to touch. You may do an experiment by letting your fingertips cross the area of the skin of her palms, to her wrists, then towards her elbow. You will be surprised at how ecstatic she will be. You may expect this to create a sensual atmosphere for another wild moment in bed.

2. Whisper In Her Ear

It is a fact that the ears are more than just an organ for hearing because it is also one of many erogenous zones on a woman’s body. The ear is also the main bridge towards the body’s organ that is most sensitive to sexual stimulation – the brain. Now you can try speaking softly against her ears and let your breath tenderly touch her sensitive skin. This will allow her to feel a momentary sense of pleasure that will be heightened once you engage in a little dirty talk.

3. Don’t Forget The Neck

The most sensitive part of a woman’s neck is the contour where it meets the shoulder and the back. What you can do to excite her is to simultaneously give gentle touches along the surface of her neck while whispering into her ear all the pleasurable things that you will do only for her. Afterwards, you may allow your lips to work wonders on her neck.

4. Touch Your Lover’s Hair

The scalp of a woman is also highly-sensitive and each strand of her hair has a corresponding nerve ending attached to it. It means that once you touch her hair, you are already giving her thousands of sexual stimulation. Women enjoy the feeling when they touch and fix their hair. As a man, you love the way your woman’s hair smell after bath and the feel of her tresses draped all over the skin of your chest during or after a mind-blowing sex. And yes, she will truly appreciate it if you gently brush her hair with your fingertips. This will set her erotic passions on fire very quickly.

5 Sex Positions For Fingering

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Fingering isn’t just something high school kids do – it can be a legitimate form of hot, steamy foreplay and it can be an incredible addition to penetrative sex. In fact, many girls won’t get off on just penetration alone – they need some extra stimulation to their breasts or clitoris in order to reach orgasm. Using your fingers during sex can be extremely exciting for her! Try these sex positions for the ultimate fingering!

The true fingering aficionado doesn’t need to take a break just to get his hands into the mix. There are several different sexual positions from which you can extend a helping hand and touch your girl’s naughty bits, so get ready to get funky with these legendary moves.

1. Missionary

From the missionary position, you have your choice of easy access points, if you can keep your balance by kneeling or propping yourself up on one arm. Kim Cattrall recommends a pinkie in the pink. Reach around and while you are thrusting slow and shallow, place a well-lubricated pinkie finger against her anus and apply steady pressure. From this position, you can hold her tight and thrust away. Each movement will rock her insides just right!

Try spreading her outer labia as you thrust, or squeezing them gently around your shaft. If you want to get even greater access to her back door from the missionary position, have her bring her legs together up over her head, then bend at the knees to press the soles of her feet against your chest. From this position she has great leverage to lift up her butt, and you can explore some anal play.

2. From Behind

Whether you are kneeling on the mattress or standing up on the floor behind her, this position is not only super sexy in that primal sort of way, but leaves your hands totally free to play and explore with any erogenous zone you can reach!

Reach around and massage her breasts, hold on to her shoulders, run your fingers down her spine. If she is into it, you can get a good grip on her hair and give it a bit of a tug. Make sure you grasp it close to the nape of her neck, and get all of it in your clenched fist at once. Gentle tugs will stimulate her scalp and might just play into some kinky fantasies of hers too!

For an extra stimulating surprise, try angling away from her body a bit on one side, so you can reach your hand, palm down, underneath your penis. In this position, you can enter her with both your penis and one, or maybe two, fingers, crooked toward the mattress so you can hit her g-spot!

If you are coordinated enough and have enough reach, you can even use the other hand to stimulate her clitoris, or to ask her to rub herself while you penetrate. This is also a great position to use your thumbs for exploring her back door, so be sure to have lots of lube handy.

3. She’s On Top

When it comes to intercourse, studies conclusively show that the woman-on-top positions are the best for getting her to orgasm. This gives her the chance to set the pace and depth, but also gives you the complete use of your hands, with which to make her feel good.

Try just spreading her lips as she bounces on your shaft. If she doesn’t move too much, you can also try twiddling your thumbs over the sensitive nub, or massaging her labia. If she turns around to face your feet in this position, you’ll have great access to her rear passage, and if you sit or prop yourself up a bit, you can fondle her clitoris and breasts at the same time!

4. Side By Side

If what you really need is encouragement to slow down and escape from all the high impact thrusting, a luxurious, relaxing, side-by-side position is perfect for keeping things calm. While you are thrusting in this sex position, just about all of the earlier exercises described above in the “looking-at-her-feet” category can be used. Try resting the heel of your hand on her mons, to stimulate her labia and clitoris while you thrust.

5. Standing At Attention

It’s pretty daring, but sex standing up can be absolutely amazing. If you want to be able to use your hands for anything other than holding her up, have her bend over and put her hands on a table or chair to support herself, thereby leaving you free to use any of the “from behind” positions above!

What Is Foreplay?

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Foreplay is something many men have heard of, but some actually don’t know what it is! But foreplay is essential for great sex, so here’s what you need to know!

Foreplay is generally regarded as the set of activities couples enjoy before he mounts her and pump away. The list includes kissing, licking, sucking, biting, hugging, caressing, nuzzling, smelling, touching, slow dancing, eating off each other’s bodies, teasing, testing the limits of sex toys, kneading, scratching, oral sex, erotic massage, dirty talk and virtually anything inspired by the couple’s imagination that isn’t penis to vagina penetration.

(This list is actually endless.)

Women are suckers for these, it’s in their very nature to be so.

While men can do without such and still be happy, women are more engrossed by them. I’m telling you, investing on these sub-arts guarantees an unbelievable upsurge in your erotic affairs, adding oomph and pizzazz to your encounters.

What Is It For?

You thought foreplay was for heating her ovens, did you? It’s the all-too-common, “We’re gentlemen, so let’s get her hot & wet first”, where foreplay is seen as an opening act.

That mindset has tripped a man too many. When you consider foreplay simply as a preliminary, you will inevitably suck at it. For how can you rock when you’re already imagining how wonderful it would be to slide inside your lover? The finest foreplayers are the ones who are lost in the moment.

Yes, foreplay will eventually heat her ovens, create palpable tension and bring her to a rabid sexual flush – but these are only the side-effects. Getting her hot and ready doesn’t overshadow the fact that foreplay is an end unto itself, not needing any ulterior motive. Side-effects should not be confused with the sheer delight of doing it.

Foreplay was never meant to be just a preliminary and you won’t recognize the delights offered by its outstretched arms until you stop seeing it as one. It would be a great sensual waste, for example, if you kiss with the hope of it leading somewhere, and miss on the fact that the kiss in itself is full of savory, mouth-watering treats. Such a waste.

Think about this for a minute: For many women – foreplay is it. (Let me give you time to let that one sink in.) For many women, foreplay is the thing, it is the sex thing. It’s their reason for the deed!

It’s when most of the things she loves take place – all the kissing, touching – everything! It’s where she feels those emotional stirrings and ecstasies women desire. It’s when they feel most wanted, most needed, most beautiful – it’s when you’re kissing them and holding them, (not when you’re feverishly thrusting into them). Many guys miss this. It blows my mind how guys simply breeze through something as big of a deal for a girl!

Why Does It Work?

Why do you think foreplay works in revving her engines in the first place?

It’s because women are great fans of it! That’s why it gets them hot and ready to ride you. In a world where girls don’t appreciate F – it won’t work, you can caress and tease all day long, and still end up with a lady bored to death. But our women do appreciate F, it inflames and energizes them. And rushing through it doesn’t endear you to her, as you’re making light of things she loves the most.

Stop treating foreplay as an opening act, and you will be a top act. You will see possibilities when you forget intercourse for the moment, and deal with what is at hand – you’ll do a much more amazing job too!

When that happens, your partner will experience the kind of longing that you want. She will have a real desire to be penetrated, to have you inside her. She will ask, bitch and nag just so you finally do her. So wise up!

How To Turn A Shower Before Oral Sex Into Foreplay

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Oral sex can be a lot of fun, but if he’s not clean first, it’s only fun for him. Here’s how you can get him to shower before oral sex and make it foreplay.

You know that it is pretty much essential for a guy to shower before oral sex for both your sake and his – but just how do you broach the subject? Do you flat out tell him he stinks and needs to wash up before you come within 10 feet of his downstairs area? Absolutely not! This will kill his ego and turn him off for the remainder of the night. He won’t be able to enjoy the blowjob because he’s caught up in worrying if he smells bad down there or not. But does that mean you grin and bear the sweaty man odor?

No way!

You can get him to take a shower before oral sex without telling him he stinks and bruising his ego. It’s called foreplay.

Lure Him Into The Shower

Making a shower before oral sex a part of foreplay is the best way to get your man smelling fresh and clean without him being aware of what you’re up to. Look at it this way – he can’t resist a naked, soapy girl who wants to play with him, can he? Use this to your advantage! Lure him into the shower by telling him you want to be hot, wet and naked with him. Whisper in his ear that you want to feel your wet, soapy body sliding all over his. He’ll probably take his clothes off and high tail it to the shower so fast he leaves a smoke trail!

Soap Him Up To Turn Him On

If you’re whispering in his ear that you want to slide your hot, soapy body all over his in the shower, you’d better make good on your innuendo. Don’t hop in the shower and start scrubbing his balls right away – he’ll definitely get a clue then and he’ll be none too happy about it. Start by slowly soaping yourself down, spending a little extra time on your most sensitive parts, such as your nipples and your clitoris.

He’ll really enjoy the show and you’re bound to get turned on too! If he wants in on the action, let him get you sudsy first. Allow him to soap wherever he’d like and spend as much time as he likes there – that way, when you go to soap him down, it just seems like you’re copying what he’s doing.

When you’re washing his genital area, be gentle and keep up the notion that you’re doing it to turn him on, not to clean him up. If you lose yourself in the idea of pleasuring him, you’re going to forget what you’re doing too – and you’ll both end up getting out of the shower hot, steamy and turned on – not to mention clean. Use the soap as a sort of lubricant to allow your hand to slide up and down his shaft and all around his genitals.

Cup his scrotum gently as you wash him, and make sure to get under where his perineum is. He probably doesn’t want you to wash his anus, so skip that part unless you know for a fact that he likes that area stimulated. If you skip the perineum area, you’re likely to still have a strong odor when your fella gets out of the shower, because this is where most of the sweat and bacteria hangs out. Let him know how much it turns you on to see him all hard and soapy!

Give Him A Preview (Or Finish Him Off) In The Shower

Once he’s clean, you may want to surprise him with an in-shower blowjob. This can be super fun for the both of you, but may require some creativity on your part to find the right oral sex positions. Giving head in the shower is easier than having sex in the shower, but only marginally. The easiest way to do it is to have him stand while you kneel, but don’t be afraid to get a towel soaked in the name of making sure your knees don’t start to hurt five minutes in. If you have a large enough tub or an in-tub chair, you can have him sit down, while you sit cross legged in front of him.

If you’re lucky enough to be able to get into this position okay, this is going to be the most comfortable for you. Another option is to have him sit down in the tub, while you kneel on all fours and go down on him that way – again, a towel is your best friend here. Who cares if it gets soaking wet? You can always wash it later.

You can give him an oral sex “preview” while you’re in the shower, or you can totally finish him off there. It’s up to you and how you want to do it! Sometimes the hot, running water can be super sexy as you suck him off, and if he ejaculates semen in your mouth, the shower makes it much easier to spit and rinse your mouth out discreetly, without him ever knowing that you didn’t swallow! Experiment with different things in the shower and have fun with it!

Even though your main purpose is to get him clean before you go down on him, washing your man up and giving him a blowjob in the shower is fun in and of itself!