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How To Get Her To Orgasm Faster During Sex

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An orgasm will depend on a woman’s physiology. The only marker you really have on any timeline is based on how long it normally takes whenever the two of you have had sex in the past. But what if it’s been ages since the last time you had sex, or if she has yet been able to orgasm during intercourse?

Give Her Time

There are some ladies who take a long while to get where they need to be before experiencing orgasm. With such a vast number of factors involved in the process, it is a delicate juggle that may or may not line up on any given night. Some women, however, have the self-knowledge, experience, confidence and wherewithal to climax in record time.

Maybe she can elicit what she needs from her body just by thinking sexy thoughts, or maybe she has a partner that really knows how to get her motor running. Maybe, just maybe, your wife is one of the rare few who barely need any assistance at all! These are the women that the rest of us envy.

Know The Factors That Affect Her Orgasm

Many factors affect a woman’s ability to orgasm, such as her mindset, where she is in her menstrual cycle, any positive or negative sexual experiences she may have experienced in the past, where and how she spent her day, how much stress she’s under, even the things she has eaten or ingested including food, water, drugs, alcohol and/or medications.

Some of these things will affect her positively – fond memories from a smell or a touch can send her right into sexy space, or small amounts of booze might help her to loosen up when she’s feeling anxious. Others, like fatty foods, excess alcohol and many prescription medications, will only serve to dampen her sexual fire.

Find Out If She Orgasms During Masturbation

Ask your lady if she masturbates and experiences orgasm on her own. If she does, she’s likely to orgasm during sexual intercourse far more easily than her non-masturbatory counterparts.

Don’t bother asking her how long she takes as an indicator of how long it’ll take while you’re inside of her though; like you when you touch your own cock, she knows her body so well that masturbation will get her to climax consistently much faster than any other method.

What will help to move things along is extended foreplay before penetrative intercourse – fingering and oral sex are sure to get her nice and warm before penetration. You’ll get her that much further along the path to climax this way, so that her juices are revved and ready to go when you make the transition from foreplay to intercourse.

Find Out What She Likes

Ask her to show you what she does on her own, or what angles, pressure and rhythm she really enjoys. If you can get to know what gets her off solo, you’ll be that much closer to learning what really makes her tick.

All of this information doesn’t truly answer the question though, does it? I’m not avoiding it, I promise. I just want to ensure that you understand all of the factors involved before you start checking the clock and timing your lover’s orgasmic process.

In a nutshell, most women take anywhere from ten to thirty minutes to achieve orgasm during penetrative sex. That time frame doesn’t include foreplay or aftercare, but rather direct clitoral head stimulation or G-Spot play during intercourse.

Drive Any Girl Wild In Bed With These 3 Raunchy Sex Secrets

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Sex tips are the backbone for men that every woman wants and desires to have in bed. These men know how to fully satisfy women’s innermost desires and get them to respond because they have taken the time to know the art of lovemaking.

And most of all, they love to lavish attention on the beauty that is the female body. Here are 3 steamy sex secrets from the sex gods that you can use to make your woman fall all over you. Pay heed to this “gender intelligence” and become a sex god yourself!

1. The Art Of Silent Conveyance

Let your eyes, hands and body do the talking . A woman should know that you want her without you having to speak the words. This is conveyed in the way that you look at a woman, the way that you behave around a woman and the way you touch a woman’s body.

Let your fingers rest on hers for a second longer than necessary. Look at her with desire in your eyes. Get her emotionally prepared for what is coming next, and have her eagerly anticipating it as well!

2. The Art Of Tender Embrace

Once you are sure that your advances are welcomed, take her into your arms and begin kissing her, caressing her at the same time. Touch her all over, but do not fumble, stumble or grope. Your movements should be fluid and you should embrace her body.

Give her sensual delight and she will be over the moon in no time. Embracing her is not just fumbling around with her breasts and vagina; it is the intimate act of getting her physically and mentally aroused for sex.

3. The Art Of Oral Exploration

Sexual intercourse is not the only way to sexually gratify a woman. Cunnilingus is often billed as one of the “most wanted” sexual acts by women, and for a simple reason. The tongue is your body’s strongest muscle. And the tantalizing touch of a man’s tongue on a woman’s body is like no other, and cannot be replicated by any other things.

Being naturally lubricated with saliva, your tongue is also a far more effective and maneuverable tool than your penis to give her awesome orgasms. Learn how to tease her clitoris orally and you will have her as hot as a tigress in heat, waiting to burst forth with orgasmic pleasure.

Top 3 Erogenous Zones Of The Torso For Excellent Foreplay

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Foreplay is vital before sex. Learn the top erogenous zones of a woman’s torso to make you’re job exponentially easier when trying to seduce a woman.

1. Neck & Shoulders

The neck and shoulders, a well-known erogenous zone – tickles at first, but when she gets the hang of it, she’ll demand a kissing trail. Manual or oral stimulation is good, both is even better.

Nuzzle her neck with your snout or chin. That’s what some fellows in the animal kingdom do to suggest sexual motive. Occasionally, blow her a warm sigh – which slowly blows all her inhibitions away.

Give her neck and shoulders a good dosage of kissing, licking, sucking and some Transylvanian biting. No wet, sloppy ones please. Manage the slime, spit and slush.

The area could use a relaxing erotic massage. Give her shoulder blades firm squeezes. Use thumb circles especially at the base of the neck, where it’s connected to the shoulders. Stroke it sensually but firmly. Plant pointy kisses when you finish kneading, then gently caress the area using the back of your fingers.

2. Belly Area

See how large it is? How can you let such huge space miss on the action?

Her front torso is a canvass – like her back. And just like her back, it can be a productive playing field. So stop treating this patch of skin as that boring space between the breasts and the vulva during foreplay. It’s a major stop over, so camp there for a while.

Plant generous amounts of light, quick and gentle kisses on this canvass, purposely avoiding the breasts. There’s so much fun to be had. Take the belly button, for example.

It’s a handy place for depositing stuff like ice cubes, grapes, strawberries, syrup or choco drops. Not to mention the fact that women respond well to tongue on their buttons. Even a finger goofing around its outer edges can get her really going.

Do not follow a straight line from the lips down to her garden. Tease her. Let her simmer and hang for a few minutes. Naturally, she’ll want you to heed the call of the vagina and continue down. Which you will… but only in your own terms.

By staying on the area, you fire up specific questions in your partner’s head. It gets her thinking: Will he go all the way down?

That possibility excites her and makes her anticipate the moment when you finally cross Vulval territory. It’s an “almost there, but not quite there yet” anticipation building move – reminiscent of the excitement she encountered when you went higher and higher her inner thighs.

3. Arms

Fingers are your earliest tools for engaging another human being. We shake hands to bridge the physical gap between strangers, for example. Hand holding is commonly the first intimate expression between man and woman – it’s your tip and her tip coming together.

Simple hand holding is always a big hit for women, and it’s always nice to begin this way – no matter how cheesy it may seem. It may be the most mundane thing, but it could very well be the sweetest, most reassuring act this side of the bed.

It indicates warmth, affection and connection – showing her you’re not just there for the lay. When you communicate these things to a woman, an emotional bond waves through the act.

You may then do the classic hand massage. With edible lubricant, drive your thumbs onto her palm in a fanning/circular motion. Perform the same movement, but with less pressure, on the bonier back. Remember, massage is about meat and flesh, don’t knead fragile bones in the hope of relieving tension – you’ll break them.

Up the ante by indulging your girl with some oral sex. Lick those digits in a blowjob manner. Ravish her fingers and flicker your tongue over her columns. Playfully bite and suck all the goodness in that sweet thang.

Lead her hands somewhere nice. Like the naughty parts of your anatomy. Bring them to your stacked chest, and down to your even more well-endowed crotch. Delight her with the variety of textures. Let her feel the benevolence of your face and the suppleness of your behind. Teach her how you want to be touched.

Another favorite is planting kisses on the length of the lady’s tentacles. Beginning from the tips and worming your way towards her body. There’s always something about having someone go nearer, nearer, and nearer you that makes a girl’s heart beat a tad faster during foreplay.

Kissing from the fingertips towards the center means you’re reducing distance between the heads, making it increasingly more intimate and personal. The other way around just creates some sort of a going away psychological distance.

Why A Handjob Can Be Better Than A Blowjob!

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A handjob might take you back to highs school, but it can be better than a blowjob. The touch of a soft ladies hand stroking our rod and lightly caressing our scrotum and nearby regions is divine.

Most men who have been the fortunate recipient of a magnificent handjob will attest that it is often be more thrilling than a blow job.

Why A Handjob Makes Him Feel Special

While great intimacy is found when you make love, sex is a two-way street and there are times when focusing all your sexual energy on him and giving him a glorious hand job will pay back dividends for years to come.

I know that I’ve gushed compliments and favors and extra love and attention on my wife after she has brought me to a glorious climax after an exquisite hand job.  I’m often on a handjob “cloud 9” for a day or two after the special attention.

If you aren’t giving your man a healthy dose of handjobs then it is almost certain that he is resenting it in some way.

What The Stats Say

Here is what one of my subscriber said when I asked what they most liked about handjobs: “Wish I could give you anything – not something that I’m lucky enough for my wife to be willing to do. So you if you have any advice on how to get her interested in taking matters into her hands, I would appreciate it.”

In a different survey I sent out to thousands of my male subscribers.  I asked that only those who have received amazing blowjobs and handjobs reply.  I asked these men how many of them would prefer an amazing hand job over a “good” (not amazing) blow job.  82% said they would want the amazing hand job.

That is great news for all women.   Almost any women can learn the skills and techniques that will have their men in hand job heaven with the right teaching.  Blowjob skills are much harder to master and quite frankly we men realize that for most women sucking on a guy is not always the most pleasant experience.  Loving – yes.  Enjoyable – not for most women.

Your Hands Do More Than Your Mouth

Obviously a woman does not have a penis.  So either she can ask her man to teach her exactly what to do or she can read one of the most thorough guides ever written that will give her confidence and skills to take any man to moments and heights of pleasure he certainly has never reached before.

There are times in which your hands can do much, much more to a penis than you could dream of doing with your mouth or vagina and therefore, sometimes two hands are better than one mouth or one vulva!

Here, we’ll discuss plenty of techniques that you can use for male genital massage to get your partner aroused and to climax in a matter of minutes – or if you feel like it, seconds or hours!

Generally, a well performed hand job works better than fellatio and gives you a break as well ladies – keep in mind that it is easier to prolong a male genital massage for extended periods of time than it is to give your partner ultra-long, ultra-sensuous fellatio.

That doesn’t mean, however, that you should always replace fellatio with a genital massage. There’s just something about a hot mouth on your partner’s penis that really gets him going. But by learning the tricks and techniques of giving a great genital massage, you can be sure that you can always take matters into your own hands!

Kissing Tips Your Girl Wants You To Know NOW!

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Kissing tips is critical to becoming a great lover. Remember that not all kisses are made equal. There are dry & fleeting ones, there are wet & deep as well. Think about it, do you really kiss your grandma that way? We kiss different people differently.

In the same manner, different parts of her body will profit from varied types of oral stimulation. Classically, there are 5 ORAL TECHNIQUES. One may KISS, LICK, SUCK, BITE & BLOW (KLSBB).

Here’s the guideline for each:

KISS – kiss everywhere
LICK – lick everywhere
SUCK – everything “suckable”
BITE – everything “bite-able”…but not too hard.
BLOW – everywhere on the skin except into the vagina and anus (and very gently on the ears)

For the tender and supple parts, we generally use the gentler and softer variety. The breasts for example, enjoy soft sucks & kisses and mellow biting. For firm, muscularly dense areas like the butt, the harder variety may be applied. But extra-light oral sex can sometimes be better.

1. Put Your Hands To Good Use

And not only the hands, but the rest of your body. Sometimes people are so into the kiss that the mouth becomes the center of the universe. While this is not bad, mouth-to-mouth action doesn’t have to be the sole event. Kiss not just with your lips, but with your hands as well. Put them to good use by stroking her face, back, buttocks or sides – (avoid the breasts too early in the game). Time hand strokes with tonguing to add pizzazz to frenching.

2. Use Yummy Sounds While You’re At It

Simple as it may seem, a “Mmmmm” once in a while, is a potent motivator. It narrates pleasure, spurring on the players. Yummy sounds could be the beginning of a torrid sex session. You’re boosting her confidence with those sounds, and when you’ve got a confident woman in your hands, who knows what she’s going to do next?!

3. Relax Your Tongue

When it comes to frenching, a soft and slow tongue is much better than a hard, pointy one, flicking rapidly. Relax your tongue as it dances with hers. A spatula in the mouth is very weird.

4. Kiss Without Gunning For Sex

Kissing for its own sake works wonders. But kissing angled at getting laid could actually turn her off and activate her flight tendencies. In the end, she may give you the “I have a headache” line. When that happens, you’ve lost twice – you didn’t get to enjoy the kiss, and you didn’t have the sex.

By kissing for the moment, you win twice – you not only enjoy the oral event, but also get to be with her. The choice sounds easy, but in reality, when a boy gets into these situations, it’s easier to fall to the temptation of pushing for the lay than allowing the kisses to work their magic.

Let us now get into the business of eye contacts – another untapped powerhouse. A look is just as powerful as a kiss. One can actually affect somebody from a distance just by looking at them – that’s power!