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5 Foreplay Tips That Will Drive Him Wild

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Foreplay is an essential part of great sex, but too often it is overlooked. Quickies are great and have their place in every sexual relationship, however, truly great sex comes from lots and lots of foreplay. Women may think that men are eager to get on to the main event, but they enjoy foreplay just as much as a woman does. Here are five great ways you can entice your partner before sex and take your sex life up a notch.

Kiss Him Deeply

Everyone thinks that girls are the ones that love to make out, but that’s just not true! Guys love the deep kissing too, especially when you combine it with neck and ear nibbling and other fun and sexy tricks. Try kissing your partner slowly and deeply, letting him know that you want to make the night last. Switch to kissing his neck and whispering in his ear before kissing him softly on the mouth again. Brush your hand against his penis through his pants (by this time, you’ll likely feel his erection straining against his jeans) and make no move to rush on to something else. Build up the heat by making out like you did before you ever had sex together and you weren’t sure if that night was going to be the night or not. It will drive him absolutely wild!

Masturbate In Front Of Him

Most women feel shy about masturbating in front of their partner, but your guy definitely thinks it’s really, really hot. Instead of having him go down on you to get your pleasure, try giving it to yourself – in front of him! If you want, wear a blindfold so it seems like he’s not there or you can really push his buttons by looking him directly in the eyes while you’re doing it. Use your sex toys and really go all out. Every guy loves a good show and he’ll go crazy watching you give yourself an incredible orgasm. If you want to make it super incredible, practice female ejaculation and squirt while you have an orgasm and he’s watching. He’ll go insane! Don’t fake it though, because he’ll be able to tell right off the bat. Take your time, just like you were masturbating by yourself.

Tease Him

You can turn the heat up by teasing your partner with a handjob or a blowjob – but you’re not going to finish! Start out by giving him head for a few minutes, then switch to giving him a handjob for the next few minutes. Then go back to kissing him and making out with him. You can even let him penetrate you for a few minutes, but don’t let him get carried away! You’ll be driving him insane with small but intense bits of pleasure here and there, and you’ll love how he’ll beg for you to keep going. Make sure you don’t tease too long though, or your partner might lose interest or even lose his erection. When you’re pretty sure he just can’t take it anymore, that’s when the hot, crazy sex will start.

Fulfill His Fantasy

Do you know that your partner really, really likes a certain thing that you and he don’t do very often? Do it! If he likes prostate massage, tease him with your finger while you’re giving him a blowjob. If he thinks stripteases are super hot, work one in before you masturbate in front of him or make out with him. If he likes pain, bite him a few times on your way down to give him a handjob. If he has a deep, dark, secret fantasy, consider doing what you can to fulfill it, even if you think it’s a little weird. You just might have him ejaculating in his pants before you even get them off!

Talk Dirty To Him

You would be absolutely amazed at just how powerful talking dirty can be in the bedroom. Men are visual creatures, but they also like a “game commentary” as well. When you’re kissing him, whisper in his ear about what you’ll do to him when you get his clothes off. Tell him how wet he makes you and how you want to please him and hear him beg to have sex with you. You can experiment with dominant or submissive roles here if you want, or you can simply tell him what you’re doing it right before you do it or as you’re doing it. Use your imagination when it comes to dirty talk and watch him writhe in pleasure!

Advanced Kissing Tips

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Kissing is something you may think is basic, but you can create amazing sexual tension just by putting your mouth on hers – the right way. If you think you’ve mastered kissing tips and know everything there is to know about it, think again! Here’s how you can blow your lover’s mind and take it to the next level.

Take The Next Step In Kissing

Learn how to be both gentle and firm at the same time. Many guys think that they have to be either super soft or really wild, when the best kisses come from guys who know how to be both at the same time. Kiss your lover with a little bit of an urgency, like you have to do it right now. Start off a little firm to show your passion, then relax into softer, sweeter moves to convey how much you’re enjoying it.

Start integrating eye contact when kissing. Eye contact is one of the most powerful forms of body language, and it’s incredibly effective when used with a woman. Pull away for a few seconds while making out with your partner and gaze deeply into her eyes. Hold the eye contact for just a few seconds longer than is comfortable, and then go back to kissing.

Enjoy each step of kissing your partner. Don’t rush through it so you can have sex sooner, and don’t just kiss her for the sake of having sex with her. Make the an incredible activity all by itself, and if you don’t end up having sex afterwards, so be it. The kiss was great, after all!

Girls Like Variety

Learn a variety of kissing tips and techniques. Girls don’t necessarily like to do the same thing with a guy over and over – it gets old after awhile. Take some time to learn a variety of techniques, so you have something new to offer your partner every now and then. Experiment with new things and find out what works for you and your lover and what doesn’t!

Move around while kissing. Don’t just stay on her mouth the whole time – slide your lips down her neck and kiss her gently there, or gently nibble on her ear. Staying in one spot will not only make her mouth tired quickly, it’s also going to get boring pretty fast.

Make it a kiss to remember. Make it slow, soft, sensual and special. If you don’t end up having sex that night, make it so that she thinks about the kiss all night long and that’s all she has running through her mind.

Tease her. Remember that kissing is part of foreplay and you will create a ton of sexual tension if you tease your lover and make her want more. You don’t want to be the guy that overwhelms her and leaves her pulling away, gasping for breath. Always pull away first and make her want to come back for more.

The Importance Of Touch While Kissing

Touch her hair when you kiss. Start with a gentle caress and as you get more and more passionate, it can even progress into a light tug. The nerves in the scalp are extremely sensitive, and playing with her hair while you kiss or tugging it gently can send shivers down her spine.

When it feels right, run your hands over her body. Don’t assume that touching her body means going straight for her breasts or vagina! Run your hands over her arms, touch her cheek softly and gently caress her neck. Put your hand on her hip and draw her closer to you. Touch her in places that she wouldn’t expect a guy to touch – because let’s face it, she’s probably expecting you to head for her nether regions anyways.

Being Kissable

Make sure your lips and mouth aren’t too dry. Your lips should be soft and kissable, but also make sure that your lips and mouth aren’t too wet either. You definitely don’t want to go into a kiss with slippery, slimy lips and tongue.

Practice good oral hygiene – you may think this falls into the category of basic kissing tips, but you wouldn’t believe how many guys expect to kiss a girl right after they’ve had a plate of hot wings and a beer. Don’t do this! Freshen up before you move in. If you have to excuse yourself to the bathroom to get fresh, go for it. Brush your teeth, use lip balm and carry mints. Make sure that you’re fresh and ready to be kissed. She’ll not only appreciate it, but the kiss will be a lot better.

10 Ways To TEASE A Woman

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Foreplay is crucial for a woman to reach orgasm. Here are ten incredible ways to tease and please your girl, so you can give her the best climax of her life!

The LONGER you take to get a woman’s clothes off, and the LONGER you wait to go down on her, and the LONGER you wait to have sex with her – the MORE likely she is to have an orgasm!

Why & How Women Need Foreplay

We’ve all heard the phrase “women are like an oven, they need to be warmed up” – but what most guys don’t know is WHY and HOW.

“Why” Foreplay Is Important

Guess what fellas – your most powerful weapon in the bedroom is not your penis, but the force of ANTICIPATION!

Girls LOVE to be teased way more than men! And the longer you take to do EVERYTHING, the more turned on your girl is gonna get!

“How” To Use Foreplay To Give Orgasms

Here is a step-by-step guide to undressing your girl in way that builds incredible anticipation that will drive her absolutely CRAZY!

By following these simple steps, you’ll have her so turned on by the time she is naked that she will be BEGGING to have you inside of her!

Warning: Some of these foreplay steps may sound basic, but I’ve thrown in some fun tricks to SPICE UP the simple stuff – so make sure you read this guide all the way through!

Kissing All Over

As you are kissing her, rub your hands firmly up and down her back. Once you’ve been kissing for several minutes, work your fingers under the bottom of her shirt, and circle back to her stomach (still kissing, but alternating between her lips, neck, and ear lobes).

Squeeze The Nape Of Her Neck

Gently scratch her back as you are kissing her, and softly but firmly slide your hand up under hair at the nape of her neck and give a nice squeeze.

Getting Her Shirt Off

Lift up her shirt and take it off in the smoothest way possible, being careful not to pull her hair!

Moving On

Now that her shirt is off, slowly progress your kissing downward towards her breasts, kissing the upper area, and still rubbing her lower body with your hands.

BONUS TIP! Gently but firmly, pin her arms above her head and hold them there with one hand while you caress her body with your other, still kissing all over. Girls LOVE this!

Unhooking Her Bra

As you are kissing her neck, reach behind and unhook her bra. If you get stuck, don’t worry! Just smile at her and say, “assistance please” and she’ll unhook it for you.

DO NOT GO STRAIGHT FOR THE BOOBS! Go back to kissing her on the lips and neck! (In fact, until you are fully going down on her, you should always return to her mouth every so often to kiss her passionately). Then, taking your time, make your way down to her breasts, but DO NOT GO FOR HER NIPPLES! Kiss them in slow circles, leaving the nipples for LAST!

Licking Her Nipples

When you get to her nipples, lick them gently, alternating between the two. When your mouth isn’t on one, your finger should be on the other (but lick it first for lubrication).

BONUS TIP! Some girls LOVE to have their nipple pinched! I would say at least 50% of all women! Start gently of course, and increase the pressure and watch her reaction. If she seems to be getting turned on, squeeze a little harder and ask her if she likes it. She’ll let you know =)

Moving Downwards

Move down to her stomach, and use the same slow, anticipation-building style. Try to kiss every inch of it! Slip your tongue under her waistband to tease her once in a while, and “accidentally” graze your chin over her “area,” breathing heavily.

Leave The Panties On

Kiss her on the mouth again while you go to take off her pants. But NOT her panties! It’s time for the fun part!

BONUS TIP: Take her right leg, and starting at her foot, kiss every inch of it, working your way down in slow circles! This should take A WHILE, and she will be loving every second of it! Then, when you get to her clitoris, breathe heavily OVER her panties, letting her feel the heat! Then go back to her left leg (start in the middle this time) and do it all over again!

By the time you get back down to her “area,” she’ll be BEGGING you to rip her panties off and give her more!

The Last Step – Give Her An Incredible Orgasm!

By this time, you should have her so close to climax that you can finish her off in just a few minutes. So just give her what she wants already!

So there you have it! This entire process should take around 30 minutes, and will get her more turned on then she’s EVER been before!

Building anticipation like this paves the way for her to have an intense orgasm, and lots of them at that. Oh, and if you’re with a woman for the very first time, this is a pretty good way to make HER be the one begging YOU to be inside of her, not the other way around.

This stuff will DEFINITELY give you an edge over the other men she’s been with. And if you’d like to get an even BIGGER edge and join the 1% of men who women call the best lovers in the WORLD – I have some great news for you!

How To Make Sex Over 40 GREAT! (Ladies Only)

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Sex tips specifically for women over forty can help older women have a super hot, satisfying orgasmic sex life! Sex tips for these women differ slightly than sex tips for younger women, because as the body ages, it is important to realize that sex can be different too. But that doesn’t mean you can’t have AWESOME sex! It could be better sex than you ever had!

Use Plenty Of Lubrication

A lot of couples assume that if they’re turned on, they don’t need additional lubrication during intercourse. Having plenty of lubrication, natural or otherwise, is essential for great sex for both younger couples and older ones, although, older women may find that they need a little more than they used to. This is not at all uncommon. In fact, every couple should have a bottle of good, water based lubricant in their nightstand drawer, because honestly, it just makes sex feel better!

When there’s less friction and more sensual gliding, things are going to feel better. This is especially true for older women, because as the body ages, the vagina can become drier and less supple. Using good quality lubricants like Pjur can help moisturize the tissues down there and make your genitals look and feel supple and young – not to mention, sex will feel better without the uncomfortable friction!

Have Lots Of Foreplay

When you’re younger, you can often jump right into sex without a lot of foreplay because sex is newer and more fun – it doesn’t take long for the body to get excited. But when you’ve been around the block a few times so to speak, just the idea of having sex isn’t enough to get a woman turned on. Women naturally require lots of foreplay before sex to get them aroused enough for sex to feel good, yet this is one of the sex tips that is most commonly ignored.

Don’t underestimate the power of foreplay and make sure that you engage in it as often as possible. Foreplay can start as soon as you wake up – lovingly caress your partner, tease them and whisper naughty things in their ear. You’ll both be thinking about sex all day and by the time you get home, it will be all you can do not to rip each other’s clothes off and get it on right then and there.

Invest In Good Quality Sex Toys

When you get older and more experienced with sex, you will naturally want to try new things and stretch your boundaries a little bit. Investing in some good quality sex toys can definitely spice up your sex life. Go shopping with your partner or alone and look for sex toys that you can use together as well as during masturbation. Let your partner get a masturbation sleeve to spice up his solo sessions, and get yourself a great little clitoral vibrator that you can use with him or on your own. When you’re over forty, you can afford to take some risks and experiment with new and fun sex toys!

Share Your Fantasies

If you’ve never shared your sexual fantasies with your lover, now may be the time. You’re getting older, so there’s really no point in keeping everything to yourself and never getting to live out your fantasies. This works well when you’ve been in a long term relationship with someone for quite awhile, because you tend to get more comfortable with someone as you age and continue to have a relationship with them.

So instead of being shy and keeping all of your sexual fantasies to yourself, take a little risk and start to tell your lover what really turns you on. Take turns sharing with each other what new things you’d like to try, or different ways you’d like to do things. If you’re comfortable and safe in your relationship, revealing your innermost desires can really be a lot of fun!

The Fantasy Box

Even if you’re older and wiser, sharing your deepest sexual fantasies with your partner can be a little nerve wracking. Try a Fantasy Box. The Fantasy Box concept is an excellent way to introduce new and different things in your sex life in a fun, new way. Each of you write a few different fantasies that you’d like to try and put them on slips of paper. Put them in a special box, a hat or whatever you can find and mix them up. Pull one out and have a blast acting out the fantasy! This way, you both get to try each other’s fantasies without judgement.

3 Tips To Warm Up Your Man For Sex

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If you have been trying hard to “ignite” a man’s passion because you are eager to take the next step, or because you are very much into him, you are probably secretly dreading that he will remain lukewarm towards you and your efforts will amount to nothing.

What you need to know is that there are certain ways to make a man fall in love with you romantically and sexually. Some women have not figured out what it takes to turn the “sensual switch” on inside a man’s brain, and it is because these women do not fully understand what it is that arouses a man’s sense of passion and imagination.

Sexual Innuendo

Straightforward talk will not make your man ignite. Sensual talk, or that kind of conversation that involves all his senses, will arouse him more. What do I mean with sensual talk? It means you describe something rather than tell him directly.

For instance, you mail him while he is at work on a Friday and you talk about finding your old cheerleader outfit in one of the attic boxes you have been cleaning. Instead of saying you will wear the outfit that night, describe how skimpy the skirt is, and how the buttons on the blouse almost don’t close because your breasts have grown.

Sexual innuendo will fire up his imagination and get him thinking about you doing it with him.

Your “Other Side”

If you just started a relationship with a guy, or you’re in your first months of being husband and wife, you can pull this strategy off nicely. Casually ask your man about his first impression of you. Depending on his response, say something like “yeah, that’s the usual first impression. But there’s a quirk to my personality that you haven’t seen yet…”

Being mysterious even to a guy you’ve known forever will make him feel excited. He won’t know what to expect. He will be mystified and curious, so you’d better prepare a nice surprise. If you’re usually prim and proper, act like a harlot in bed that night. If you’re usually passionate and fiery, act like a blushing virgin.

Give Him A Blowjob

Blowjob, by definition, means taking him in your mouth. But did you know that for a guy, this definition has another clause attached to it? The truth is, a blowjob isn’t considered relevant unless you do it for more than thirty seconds. If all you ever do is quickly take him inside your mouth and bob your head a few times, I’m sorry to tell you but that’s not blowing him at all.

If you can prove to your man that you know how to please him, you won’t even need to warm him up. As soon as you give him the eye, he will come scampering to your side because he knows that sex will always be good with you.