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How To Get Her To Have Sex With You – Even When She Doesn’t Want To!

Can you have sex with your partner, even if she’s not in the mood, has a headache or doesn’t want to? You bet you can! Here’s how!

Women want men to understand one simple reality – that sometimes, she’s just not up for it, and it’s nothing personal.

Sometimes sex can be the last thing in a person’s mind. Hey, even guys in their sexual prime have those days when they’d rather be alone, get some TV time and cement that butt impression on their couches. Sometimes a deluge of projects and deadlines can drown little Johnny’s screams for action. Of course, women have these days too! (Plus the PMS. Well, some have PMS the whole year!)

Have Excellent Timing

This is simply knowing the difference between a good and a bad time. Jerks who march up to her in the middle of the night, all hot & horny, a little drunk and expecting some action, would be better off couching with their blow-up dolls. If they’re going to be Mr. Wrong Timing, they might as well be masturbating!

A 6th sense is needed to develop timing and it takes a balancing & gauging act to know the difference between a genuinely bad, hopeless sexual situation, and a massage-able/negotiable one – there are no hard and fast rules. Your ability to calibrate will improve as you get to know your woman.

Master The Art Of Gentle Persuasion

Great lovers master the art of gentle persuasion and subtle influence. They don’t decide for women, they gradually encourage them into a decision. A little look here, a little touch there, a massage packaged as time-out from her stressful schedule – and she’s bound to come around. It will only be a matter of time before she caves in and melts into his arms – it’s magic.

Set A Woman At Ease

Set her at ease. Clear the way for her brain to focus on your caresses instead of on last week’s deadline. A woman at ease is in a state of openness – to anything – sex included. And that’s way better than having someone wary of your moves. Anything you do to an inattentive (or defensive) brain might as well amount to nothing.

Second, ease her into sex. Before you know it, both of you will be sweating it out in the kitchen. It just happened. Unfortunately, many guys make this too difficult. Instead of creating that “in the moment phenomenon,” they get pushy, rude and crass. They pressure, which only emboldens her defenses.

They might eventually be forceful and strong enough to get what they want – but the next time around, it’ll be doubly hard. They’ll be fighting unnecessary battles just for the lay – not to mention, accommodation sex won’t be as satisfying.

What’s a woman to do? Over time, she’ll cut the sex short by faking an orgasm. Then later, she’ll block the sex altogether with every excuse.

So set the lady at ease, and ease her into knockin’ boots with you. Make it an easy and obvious decision, then give her a great time so she’ll want to do you over and over. This is the simplest prescription for your recurring sexual droughts.

How To Touch A Woman & Make Her MELT!

By loveandsex

Foreplay allows you to really be creative with how you get your girl turned on. Use these suggestions to turn your lover into putty before you ever have sex!

Why A Girl Wants Your Hands All Over Her

Women want, long and crave to be touched. Where?

All over their bodies!

But this is not a simple case of hand-to-skin-contact. After all, women, specially the desirable ones, get harassed daily by touchy-feely dimwits with no concept of personal space. These guys love to get their hands on a woman – any woman – add alcohol to the mix and they’ll frisk anybody with the likeness of breasts.

Can you smell the restraining order my friend?

But just as terrible are blokes at the opposite end of the spectrum who only touch when they want something. “Touchy-feely is for girly men,” they’d say. They go tactile only when horny and good to go, and have packaged physical intimacy in such a way that sex becomes the only source for it.

The physical contact then has strings attached: SEX.

And this frustrates women who long for physical connection – but not necessarily intercourse. One wife’s problem, in fact, was that she happens to have a husband who only touches her when he fancies a roll in the sack. So she’s like, “Oh, he just grazed my thigh again, I know where this is going….”

If she indulges his caresses and light foreplay without the reward of sex, she’ll be labeled a “tease” – accused of causing him blue balls because she didn’t put out. She’ll be charged of leading him on. So women, who’ve learned their lessons, are careful because many guys present a take-it-or-leave-it attitude to touching.

But not surprisingly, the yearning for surface area contact can be so overwhelmingly strong that many women have, in one time or another, engaged in sex just to have someone close, just to have someone warm. Sex, in exchange for touch.

Do You Have Any Idea How Fulfilling Touch Is For A Lady?

One way of grasping this is by asking women what they miss most when they “aren’t getting any.” When women experience sexual droughts, what do they crave most? Look out for the answers on this one because it’ll provide you with a fundamental understanding of how women view sex. This is one of the most essential piece of the puzzle.

Women don’t sexually engage only because they get horny, for they can easily help themselves in the shower and harvest climaxes in the most intense and efficient manner. They don’t really miss sucking on your thing, or the fact that you blow your load after two minutes. They don’t mind doing without your masterful strokes or the “almost-kinda” orgasms you cause. A woman misses you for something else!

So what do women miss most when they don’t get laid?

They miss being cuddled, kissed, caressed and held!

They miss the feeling of excitement, fun, affection, closeness, togetherness, comfort, warmth and intimacy (or the illusion of it). Such are the premium benefits women get from sex, the VERY REASONS women jump to bed.

Without these, a woman feels isolated, rejected, undesirable, lonely, unneeded and unattractive.

This is interesting, because touch during foreplay, which is supposedly a physical implement, triggers in her an emotional and psychological satisfaction. When she says, “Sex feels so good,” it’s not only a comment on the physical; it’s a compliment on the emotional-psychological as well.

1 Simple, Brilliantly Naughty Secret To Last Longer In Bed & Speed Up HER Orgasm!

By lloydlester

Premature ejaculation doesn’t have to KILL your sex life anymore! This easy tip will help you last longer in bed – AND it will give your girl a faster orgasm!

Most guys worry about premature ejaculation, which usually means climaxing within the first two minutes during sex. While the timing may be a matter of opinion, it is never a good idea to ejaculate earlier than your partner. The key here is to last long enough for HER, in a way that pleases the both of you. But how long is long enough? Let us consider these 2 very different scenarios, and then learn a powerful tip on how to last longer in bed (believe me, this will change the way you think about premature ejaculation!)

The Fallacy Of Sexual Stamina

First Scenario: Joe can last at least 20 minutes when he is having sex. Unfortunately, this is not enough to satisfy his girlfriend who needs a bit more time before she can climax. A guy lasting 20 minutes like Joe may be the envy of other men, but not to Joe’s girlfriend who wants him to last longer so she can be erotically fulfilled.

Second Scenario: Pete and his wife have a sex life that lasts four minutes most of the time. However his wife is able to reach an orgasm very quickly and is satisfied every time they make out.

Which of these two men has the better sex life? Pete may only be able to last a few minutes, but he and his wife are perfectly satisfied. Joe and his girlfriend, on the other hand, are not fulfilled. The best form of lovemaking is one where both parties enjoy the experience.

The Truth About Male Stamina Versus Female Fulfillment

What is the secret to Pete’s success? After all, this is a guy who has an orgasm after only 4 minutes of sexual intercourse. How can he and his wife have such a satisfying sex life?

The answer is simple – Pete knows foreplay and is good at it, which is much better than Joe who prides himself on his staying power. Not only does Pete knows physical foreplay – which is essential for the sexual encounter to be satisfying to his wife – he also knows how to connect with her at an emotional level to hike up her anticipation before sex.

If you have premature ejaculation, start to develop a mindset like Pete’s who knows how to please a woman. Try different ways to get her hot and sexually fulfill your partner every single time. Such sexual competence will have an incredible effect on your performance and level of satisfaction for the both of you. And the confidence that comes along with this will eventually give you a LOT of leverage over your endurance in bed too!

How To Finger A Woman During Oral Sex

By loveandsex

Fingering can bring a whole new level of pleasure to oral sex, but it’s easy to get wrong! Here’s how to finger a girl while you go down on her.

Using Your Hands

Hands and fingers are the most popular complement to oral sex for both men and women. Let’s face it – there are times when using our hands can give our mouths a bit of a break and bring our partner to orgasm that much faster. There are other times when using our hands just gets in the way.

Be sure to pay attention to your partner when doing each of these moves and assess her reaction – if she loves it, great! Keep going. If she seems to be shrinking away, try another hand technique or take the hand away altogether. Also bear in mind that one night she may be in the mood for a certain stroke and another night she may want tongue-only action. This can be said of all cunnilingus efforts though, so keep a watchful eye on your partner.

Fingering Her Into Oblivion

Okay, this is by far the most popular accompaniment to cunnilingus. There are so many more ways to pleasure your partner with your finger inside her and your tongue outside her! Be wary of just sticking your finger inside her vaginal opening though – you’ll want to observe some niceties first. Couple the following techniques with the above clitoral techniques to blow your partner’s mind!

Make sure she is wet. You should almost never have to use lubricant because you will have sufficiently warmed your partner up first and performed some cunnilingus on her already, however, we know that some ladies are drier than others and may require lubricant. If you’re using a condom, finger cot, or latex gloves you’ll need to use water-based lubricant. Remember, baby oil and oil-based lubricants will break down latex and they aren’t that great anyways.
Go slow unless she asks otherwise. This is a big one – you don’t want to jam your finger in there because that will probably end the entire cunnilingus session and several future cunnilingus sessions right then and there.

Fingering During Oral Sex

Slide your finger in and out of her slowly and gently. You can keep your finger straight or you can put a bit of a bend in it if you like to help reach the G Spot (and we’ll go over that in detail a little later in this section). You can also use your finger to press on the walls of her vaginal canal or to go deep inside, depending on how your lady likes it.

One of the most popular fingering moves is to slide the tip of your finger in and out of her vaginal canal about ½ an inch – you can even move your fingertips in circles to trace the outer rim of her vagina. Ladies love this because the first inch or so of the vagina is jam-packed with pleasure inducing nerves. You can twist your finger as you go in and out as well – this creates a wonderful sensation that carries throughout the entire vaginal canal.

Some ladies prefer two or three fingers, but contrary to popular belief, most ladies prefer only one finger. So unless your partner asks for it, don’t go jamming more than two fingers in her vagina at a time. Again, use your creativity – you can try lots of movements with your hands to find out which she likes best.

IMPORTANT TIP: Also be sure that if you’re not wearing gloves or a finger cot that your fingernails are clean and trimmed well with no hangnails. Hangnails and jagged fingernails can cause small cuts inside your partner’s vagina, not only making the experience extremely unpleasant for her but also increasing the risk of sexually transmitted diseases in non-monogamous partners.

As far as helping hands go, you generally want to stay away from the clitoris with your fingers. This is not a rule, just merely a suggestion. Cunnilingus is not cunnilingus if your finger is doing the work that your tongue should be doing. Let’s remember that the clitoris is extremely sensitive and a warm, soft, wet tongue feels much better than a finger (lubed or not).

You can use your fingers to do other things, such as feel inside her labia or spread the labia out, or tug gently on her mons pubis to stretch the skin out, causing her vulva to be more responsive and sensitive to the efforts of your tongue.

G Spot Pleasure!

Contrary to popular belief, the G Spot is not as elusive as many cunnilingus and other sexual information books make it out to be. First off, what is the G Spot? It is nothing more than a small dime-to-quarter-sized bundle of nerves about two inches inside of the vaginal canal. Generally, it is on the top. Surprisingly, a woman can experience an orgasm from G Spot stimulation alone; however, the feeling of this type of orgasm differs greatly from a clitoral orgasm.

Even more amazing is that it is possible for a woman to have both types of orgasms at once! Trust us on this one – having both orgasms at once is simply an amazing, earth-shattering experience for a woman. Therefore, it is probably a good thing for you to discover where your partner’s G Spot is and put that knowledge to good use every once in awhile.

So how exactly do you find it?

Like we said, most of the given information about the G Spot is largely untrue. It is fairly simple to find. Place the index finger of your right hand inside her vaginal canal with your palm up. You can also use your middle finger if you like, if your partner’s G Spot is just a tad further up the canal.

Gently make a “come here” or “come hither” motion with your finger. That should pretty much do it. It may be further towards the front as well, so experiment with your partner to find out what she likes the best. Combine this technique with some of the clitoral stimulation techniques (with your tongue!) and your honey will be in heaven!

3 Dirty Sex Secrets Men Must Know – REVEALED!

By lloydlester

Sex tips are commonly found by guys who are looking, but the ultra-awesome sex tips that really work are often kept secret. But we’re revealing them!

Are you having a hard time bringing your girl to a delightful orgasm every time you make love? You would be surprised how simple it is to give her the best sex of her life. While it takes less for men to reach a climax during sex, it is an entirely different matter with the ladies. To allay your fears of your girl feigning her orgasms all along, make sure you give her the real deal, with no ordeal! Here’s how to bring your lover to a climatic, heart-thumping experience every time you have sex!

1. Dirty Talk!

Words are your best ally in making her lust for you. Combine both dirty talk and romantic words to produce a potent effect on her. With your well-chosen words, you can make her boil with anticipation way before you even set a finger on her. How do you do this? Simply let her know the things you like about her, particularly about her body and sexuality. Admit with no hesitation how well she switches on your buttons! She will be blushing and turning hotter every minute.

2. Touch Her Everywhere

You should pay attention to her entire body – shoulders, ears, back, hair, between her breasts, inner thighs, forearms and her other hot spots. She will love it when you hold her hand tightly. Treat her as if she was the most precious person in your life. It will heighten the excitement and her sense of pleasure. Whenever possible, look into her eyes longingly.

It will bring both of you closer and heighten the whole sexual experience. Follow up the touches with massages and gentle caresses to help her relax even more. Try to be as natural as possible. Your moves should come across as smooth and gentle. Your patient foreplay and gentleness will build her trust in you. Your passionate and loving touches will seal her trust for you.

3. Appreciate And Tease Your Girl!

Women love to be appreciated. Unlike men, women often cannot separate the act of love with their surroundings and greatly attach emotional intimacy to lovemaking. Therefore, take advantage of that by playing the part well. Be that “one in a million” great lover and surprise her and build up her excitement even more. Try to give attention to her “non sexual” parts as well; this will catch her off-guard and fill her to the brim with excitement and desire.