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9 Smokin’ Hot Handjob Techniques

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A great handjob or blowjob has three elements. Its WET, its WARM and it has good suction/friction.

When beginning a genital massage it is typically best to start with lighter, irregular strokes – like teasing. Do a wide variety to touches and strokes early on. Be quite playful. As you go further and further into the genital massage, stick with two or three main strokes that your partner really enjoys but do mix them up until you are ready for the big finale.

Eventually you will want to develop a good rhythm that your partner can get into – that is the key to bringing your partner to orgasm with a genital massage. When your partner is arriving at an orgasm, it is very important that you don’t vary your technique at all! Moving even slightly into a different hand position can bring your partner back down from the brink and cause you to have to start bringing him back up again. If your partner is close to having an orgasm, the same stroke over and over will push him over the edge! You know how it works with rubbing your clitoris! Not much difference here.

1. Use More Lube Than You Think You Need

Use an excessive amount of lube if you know he can get cleaned up afterwards. If you are at his office in the high rise you can’t be quite as liberal with the slick stuff. Lots of lube will give him a super-sexy, ultra-slippery feeling all over his scrotum, penis and perineum. You can probably never use too much lube, the slicker the better.

2. Tickle Him First

Begin by just using the tips of your fingers. Let them float all around your partner’s penis, pressing lightly and then moving into a firmer press.

3. Use Your Palms

Roll the shaft of his penis in between your palms. You can do this lightly or harder if your partner likes more stimulation. Some guys like it if you shake his member gently and then toss it back and forth between your hands (open-palmed). Obviously you do that more when it is still a bit soft.

4. Stroke With Both Hands

Take one hand and wrap it around his shaft, pulling towards the head. As you’re finishing the stroke with that hand, begin a new stroke with the other hand. Be careful not to pull too hard, however, because anything more than a gentle to a medium pull can give your partner the uncomfortable sensation that he is being “milked” or that you are rubbing his skin raw.

5. The Big “O”

Do a reverse of the technique above. Make an “O” with your hand and put it on the top of his penis and push it down so the head pokes through. As you are moving your hand down take your other hand and do that same. Then take the bottom hand and move it on top. Do this in smooth succession like he is entering an endless vagina.

6. Stimulate His Head

Hold the base of the shaft firmly with one hand while rubbing your palm on the head. This traps blood at the head, making it more sensitive to whatever you’re stroke you’re using on the head.

7. Twist It Up

Give a long stroke from the base all the way to the tip of the head in a twisting motion. You can twist up the entire penis or save the twisting until you reach the head for a varied effect. Put both hands on your partner’s member, one at the base and the other at the head. Use the above technique, but twist with both hands at the same time. You can also twist in different directions to spice up the move.

8. Different Strokes For Different Folks

Try using different strokes with your partner’s shaft pointed in different directions. This causes blood to flow in different areas, making him more sensitive to your movements.

9. Give Him A Ring

Make your thumb and forefinger form a ring around the base of your partner’s penis. Move this ring up and down the shaft in long strokes. You can do this gently or in a more firm fashion depending on the stage of genital massage your partner is in.

7 Places To Have Sex In The Office

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Sex in the office can be incredibly hot – whether your partner is a co-worker or your current flame just stopping by. There’s something super sexy about having sex at work – even if it’s just a little foreplay before you head home for the real deal. Here’s how to get it on in the workplace.

On A Desk

Of course, having sex on a desk at the office is cliche – but it’s really fun! If you’re having sex with the boss, doing it on the boss’s desk is even naughtier. If not, any desk will suffice. Find a desk hidden away in a conference room or in a cubicle in the corner of the room to avoid getting caught. Bonus points if you actually throw all of the stuff off the desk first in one sweep of your arm!

Best Sex Position: Missionary or woman on top if you both are lying on the desk. You can also have the woman sit on the desk and the man enter her standing.

Against The Filing Cabinet

This can actually be a great way to hide from your co-workers if you can find a little nook created by a few filing cabinets. Doing it up against a filing cabinet is super sexy because it’s impromptu – and has an air of naughtiness to it. Just make sure you’re not having sex up against the side of the filing cabinet that has the handles. Ouch!

Best Sex Position: Standing, of course. Depending on how tall the cabinet is, the girl could sit on the top of the cabinet while her man lifts her skirt up and per forms oral sex on her.

In The Elevator

Most of the time, you only have enough time for passionate kissing in an elevator until the doors open. However, you can extend the time you have if you’re alone by pushing the emergency stop button. This may or may not set off an alarm, so you may want to find out beforehand from the building maintenance staff if you’re going to need to make a run for it afterwards.

Best Sex Position: Standing, without removing your clothes. This is so you can high tail it out of there if you have to!

On The Stairwell

A stairwell in an office is a pretty decent place to get it on if you’re not into getting caught, because few people actually travel the stairways, especially if it’s a large building. Most people take the elevator, so why not capitalize on the laziness of your co-workers by having a quickie on the stairwell?

Best Sex Position: Doggy style. You can vary the angle of penetration by having the girl facing up the stairs or down the stairs. Also, you can use the handrail for stability!

In The Supply Closet

Having sex in the supply closet is a great way to escape during the day without getting caught. Slip away on your lunch break when no one is paying attention to where you are and have a quickie in the closet. The other benefit of doing it on your lunch break? Most of your co-workers are probably at lunch too – and not looking for supplies in the closet.

Best Sex Position: Any position that you can manage. Depending on what supplies are in the closet, you may have a lot of sex position options, or you may have very few.

In An Office Chair

This is a good option if you want to try some sitting sex positions – and this is one you can do at home if you have a home office. Have the man sit in the chair and the woman straddle him. She can move up and down to bring her vagina closer to his face if she wants a little bit of oral, or lower it down onto his shaft for deep penetration. Women, wear a loose skirt on the day you plan on doing this – you’ll be grateful that you did!

Best Sex Position: Sitting, with the woman on top. You can also do another version of oral sex here – have the receiving partner sit in the chair and the giving partner kneel with their hands and knees on the floor.

In The Bathroom Stall

Use this one of you’re desperate or if you just don’t have anywhere else to go. It’s not so bad if the bathroom is pretty clean though. It can also be kind of fun if both of you are able to stand on the toilet and aren’t tall enough to tower over the top of the stall. If you can manage this, no one will know you’re in the stall (if you can stay quiet, that is) and you can get a little voyeuristic when people come in to use the restroom. Although, if you get stuck with someone who went to the Mexican restaurant for lunch, it’s going to be far, far from sexy.

Best Sex Position: Any position that doesn’t involve touching the toilet seat with any part of your body!

How To Make Your Girl’s Sex Drive Stronger Than Yours!

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Sex tips are definitely something you want to have on hand to keep your sex life fresh. If you want MORE sex, here’s how to revv up your lady’s sex drive.

Do you ever feel as though you have a HIGHER sex drive than your girl? Maybe you’re always the one who has to initiate sex, or maybe she’s just not in the mood as often as you are.

If you’re finding these things happening with your woman, you’re not alone.

But, I’m going to venture that the REASON WHY she doesn’t seem to want to make love as often as you do is NOT because she has a lower sex drive!

Why She Doesn’t “Want” Sex

What is really happening is you’re just not satisfying her enough during sex to make her CRAVE it!

You see, in order for a woman to experience REAL sexual pleasure, she MUST be having orgasms. Her moaning, saying its good, or just letting you have sex with her IS NOT ENOUGH. Think about how sex would feel for YOU if you always got “close” but were never able to fully get off. That would pretty much suck, right? Well that’s exactly what your girl is going through if you’re not giving her the mind-blowing orgasms she craves!

If you’re not giving your girl orgasms when you make love, it may SEEM like she is having fun. But in reality, she’s probably just being nice, and sleeping with you because she feels she has to. And if this is the case, then she’s not going to want to have sex with you very often.

Worst case scenario, if she’s been with a guy in the past who was capable of giving her orgasms – and you are not – she’s probably not going to stick around very long unless you are married or financially supporting her.

It’s sad, but true.

But fortunately since most guys DON’T know how to give a woman orgasms, you probably don’t have anything to worry about. (But in a way, isn’t that even MORE sad?!?)

Getting Her Off

On the upside, giving a woman orgasms is not difficult, it’s just DIFFERENT! A woman’s body works very differently than a man’s, and once you know the subtle differences, it’s actually very EASY to give your woman not just one orgasm, but 2, 3, 4 or more – even different kinds like blended orgasms!

When you ARE able to give your woman orgasms, sex with you is not frustrating… it’s FUN! So of course, she’ll want to have sex with you all the time! Often times, she’ll even be the one asking you for sex!

How To TELL If You Are Getting Her Off

The lesson to take away here is that your girl’s “sex drive” and how often she wants to have sex with you have nothing to do with body chemistry and everything to do with whether or not you are sexually satisfying her.

With this in mind, here’s how to tell if you are:

  • If your girl wants sex at least 3-4 times a week, then you are satisfying her.
  • If she DOESN’T want sex at least 3-4 times a week, then I am sorry, but you are not.

It’s really that simple.

How To Make Absolutely SURE You Satisfy Your Woman Every Time

Start by giving her a foreplay orgasm each and every time. Giving a girl an orgasm through intercourse is a MUCH more intense experience for a girl, and giving her one of these body-shaking orgasms usually requires you know some techniques.

On the other hand, giving a woman a foreplay orgasm is easy.

So easy, that there is NO EXCUSE for not being able to give your girl a foreplay orgasm! But first, REMEMBER:

While you’re going to give her this orgasm during foreplay, it’s important that you continue to think of foreplay as PART of the sex, because to your girl, it is! Women love foreplay and you can keep it going until she is DESPERATE for you to be inside of her. Women LOVE this!

Here are a few ways to keep foreplay going:

  • Kiss her for 10-15 minutes before taking off clothes (hers or yours)
  • Rub her over her “area” for 5 FULL minutes and refuse to take her panties or clothes off no matter how much she or you wants it – tell her how much she wants you AND how much you want her
  • If you start the technique I’m about to share with you AFTER you do all this stuff then you are almost GUARANTEED to give her a foreplay orgasm!

Giving A Clitoral Orgasm

The easiest way to give her a foreplay orgasm is by stimulating her clitoris. Here’s one way to do it that I know your girl will like:

  1. When massaging it, use one finger in circular strokes directly on it, but to the upper right. Think of it like the 1:30 position on a clock. For reasons I can’t explain, this particular area of a woman’s clitoris is packed with even MORE nerve endings than the rest!
  2. Make sure she is wet, or add lube (you can also lick your finger).
  3. It’s important that you keep a steady pressure the whole time, but not too hard! We girls are much more sensitive than you are, so start off light, and don’t go harder until she starts pressing herself against you.
  4. Once she starts lifting her hips towards you, go just a little bit faster – and tell her softly and gently, “Come for me baby and totally relax.” This reassures her that it’s “okay” to let herself go, and often you reassuring her is exactly what she needs to go from feeling really good to going OVER THE TOP and having an incredible orgasm!

Discover How To Give Her More Advanced Orgasms

Giving a woman a foreplay orgasm is always a good time, but if you REALLY want to take her pleasure to a level that no man ever has before, you’re gonna have to give her the more ADVANCED types of orgasms that make her whole body pulsate with pleasure! The type of orgasms that leave her lying there wondering what just happened – and instantly have her calling you the BEST she’s ever had!

6 Interesting Role Play Sex Games That You Haven’t Done

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Role play and sex games can be so much fun, but many of them have been played out. Doctor and patient, French maid and even dirty cop have been done over and over again and honestly, where’s the excitement in that? Here are seven role play sex games you probably have never tried! These will not only surprise your man, but give him something to fantasize about for weeks!

1. Photographer & Model

This is a fun one that you don’t really need any costumes, lingerie or props for, unless you want them. All you need is a camera and whether it’s on your phone, a fancy digital camera or a crappy webcam, you can still have tons of fun with this role play game. Take turns switching between the photographer and model roles, so each of you gets to take pictures of the other. Come up with sexy poses, or take close ups of your lover’s most intimate areas.

Have a blast looking over the photos afterwards – you can even run them through a free online photo editor if you don’t have one installed on your computer to make them look even better. Delete them or keep them, it doesn’t matter. Bonus points if you have a timer and a tripod and can do photos of you and your partner together. 

2. New Age Artist

Get some body paints (edible or not, depending on what you’d like to do with them) and pretend you’re a new age artist whose canvas is your lover’s naked body. Don’t be afraid to get really into your role play and create a real work of art. If you’re actually really artistic, all the better! You can even take photos of your work and bring a bit of the photographer/model sex game into this if you like. If your body paints are edible, have fun licking them off! Don’t forget to let your partner paint you as well.

3. Mermaid Fantasy

Any guy who has ever seen Daryl Hannah in the 1980’s movie Splash has a mermaid fantasy – guaranteed. Play up on this by either renting or buying a mermaid costume. Curl your hair with loose waves (or crimp it like Daryl Hannah’s – hey, it was the 80’s, remember?) and throw some beads or seashells in there if you can. Body glitter is also great for this too – use your imagination to create a really ethereal mermaid look.

This is also an excellent bathtub sex game, but if you’ve done a lot of work on your hair and makeup, you’ll probably want to engage in a fair amount of foreplay and fun before you get soaking wet.

4. Vampire & Prey

No, this is not the kind of sex game where you beg your partner to don orange-gold contacts, body glitter and suck on ice before he kisses you. Although if your partner is into that, go for it. A real vampire/prey role play borders a little bit on the BDSM side, and can easily become an excellent game of domination if you’re into that kind of thing.

Dress the part with black clothes and smoky dark makeup. A really pouty mouth with fire engine red lipstick will complete the look if you can pull it off. Or, if your partner would rather be dominant, let him get his Bram Stoker on and you play the helpless victim. However, if you plan on doing any real biting or bloodletting, make sure you observe some safety precautions first.

5. Storybook Characters

Many guys have a bit of a fetish for storybook characters like little red riding hood or many of the Disney Princesses. Seriously though, who didn’t think that Princess Jasmine was totally hot in Aladdin – especially in her slave-to-Jafar outfit? The Princess Leia slave outfit is also a HUGE fantasy among many guys. Let the princess inside you out and dress up in your man’s favorite character. Don’t be afraid to lay it on thick either!

Military/Drill Sergeant

Again, this is an excellent role play when you want to incorporate some submission and domination. You can often find old military clothes at surplus outlets or warehouses, and they’re often pretty inexpensive. Have fun ordering your man to do push ups for you, or other naughty things like perform oral sex on you. If you like to be the submissive one, let your partner have fun ordering you around! Bonus points if you can “roll around in the grass” and get a little dirty too.

Sexy Fun With Candy – 5 Sweet Treats To Try Tonight

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Edible panties aren’t just for bachelor and bachelorette parties anymore – you can actually have a lot of fun with your partner when you incorporate a few sweet treats into your foreplay routine. Fortunately, you don’t have to go to the novelty shop for a pair of slightly sweet but strange tasting gummy underwear if you want to have sexy fun with candy. These yummy creations are available at almost any store, so you can satisfy your partner’s sweet tooth tonight.

Candy Necklace

There are lots of fun things you can do with a candy necklace, ranging from the tame and sensual to the downright naughty. Start off slow by putting the necklace on your partner and nibbling each piece of candy off the necklace slowly to start getting things heated up. This is a great way for you to sneak in kisses on your partner’s neck in between kissing them sensuously on the lips. To take things up a notch, wrap the candy necklace around your partner’s penis and tease him by slowly removing the candy pieces one by one. Just be careful not to nip the skin!

Chocolate Sauce

Chocolate sauce is a great way to turn your partner on, because chocolate is an especially powerful sexual aphrodisiac and it is also downright delicious! Entice your partner by drizzling a little chocolate sauce on their lips and then kissing them deeply, sucking the chocolate sauce off. Drizzle some over their chest and nipples, and then all the way down to their genitals. Leave yourself a chocolate sauce trail to follow from their chin to their inner thighs, stopping a few times to give your partner oral sex. Guys may want to keep a glass of water nearby to rinse their mouth before going down on a girl, because a lot of sugar near or in the vagina can disrupt the pH in the vagina and cause yeast infections.

Red Hots

Don’t underestimate the power of a little heat when it comes to sex and giving your partner head. These little cinnamon candies are great for freshening up before kissing your partner and then surprising them with an extra long, deeply sensual kiss with a hint (or more) of cinnamon candy. They definitely won’t be expecting the cinnamon punch! Bring the Red Hots into the bedroom for even more fun, because they’re great for oral sex. Give him a blowjob with a few of the candies in your mouth and he’ll be clawing at the bedsheets. Not only does the cinnamon create a tingly, warm sensation while you’re going down on him, the candies moving around in your mouth will stimulate spots even he didn’t think he had.

Fruit By The Foot

Fruit By The Foot or Fruit Rollups are a much more inexpensive and better tasting alternative to edible panties. With a little creativity, you can create edible bras, underwear or even a bra and panties set! To turn your partner on, create some fruity, sexy panties and show your partner your creation by modeling them for him. Then, offer him a lick or two – or the whole thing! It’s a great way to get a guy that doesn’t like going down a little more incentive to give you oral sex. You can also wrap Fruit By The Foot or Fruit Rollups around your partner’s penis before you give him a blowjob. You can nibble the treats off his penis or you can wait until they disentigrate, although this may take awhile.

Pop Rocks

Everybody knows that this fun, popping candy is a great for oral sex and if someone hasn’t tried using Pop Rocks when giving your partner head, they probably kn0w someone who has. Before going down on your partner, toss a small handful of Pop Rocks in your mouth and wait until they start to pop and crackle. When the candy starts popping, place your partner’s penis in your mouth and be still for just a few moments, allowing him to fully experience the popping sensations. It will drive him wild! Then give him a few good strokes with your mouth before putting another handful of Pop Rocks on your tongue and giving him some more snap, crackle and pop. Guys can also use Pop Rocks when going down on their girls, but they need to be careful not to get any candy inside the vagina. Instead, try placing the Pop Rocks on her clitoris and holding them there with your tongue, allowing the popping action to titillate her most sensitive spot.