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9 Turn Ons You Haven’t Tried – But Should!

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Foreplay doesn’t just start in the bedroom. You can use foreplay anytime, whether it’s in the morning before he leaves for work (so he’s thinking about you all day) or just here and there to entice him out of the blue. Here are nine tips you can use anytime that you probably haven’t tried – and they’ll have your man begging for sex!

Follow Him Into The Shower – With A White T-Shirt On

The wet t-shirt is almost every man’s sex fantasy, but surprisingly enough, many women have never thought about throwing on a white t-shirt and stepping into the shower. However, this simple move will have your man hard in seconds and he probably won’t be able to keep his hands off you. Next time your man heads for the shower, give him a few minutes to get started and then surprise him by stepping in the shower with him, while wearing a white t-shirt. Thumbs up for shower sex!

Flash Him Out Of The Blue

Guys like to see nudity anytime and anywhere. Surprise him before he goes to work (or when he comes home, or in the car, or at dinner…you get the picture) by flashing him your breasts or even your butt. Do it quickly when he’s least expecting it, then go on about your business as though nothing happened. He’ll be thinking about it all day, or at least until he can’t stand it anymore and rips your clothes off!

Drink A Beer Before Making Out

Most girls pick something light or fruity when drinking, like a margarita or a cosmopolitan. He probably doesn’t mind, because he’s just looking forward to some hot sex once your inhibitions are down a little after a drink or two. But next time, surprise him and get a beer. Almost every guy appreciates a girl that can enjoy a good beer, especially if she has good taste in beer. Plan on a super hot make out session after you down your beer. The taste and smell it on your breath will be especially naughty.

Get A Pedicure

You probably never thought that indulging yourself in a pedicure could be a turn on for a guy, but it can – especially if your guy has a foot fetish. Even if he doesn’t have a fetish for feet persay, lots of guys still find well manicured feet and sexy shoes attractive. Get your toes done, then splurge on a cute ankle bracelet or toe ring. Walk around the house barefoot, or watch a movie with your guy and prop your feet up on the table or his lap. You might just get another foot rub out of the deal because he won’t be able to keep his hands off them!

Order A Steak At Dinner

Just like a guy appreciates a girl who can chug a beer, he also appreciates a girl who can actually eat. Sure, you’re probably ordering salads at dinner, but next time, order a steak – and don’t order it well done because you’re afraid of bacteria. Sit down in front of your man and cut into a thick, juicy, medium rare steak. Eat it slowly and enjoy it. Let him watch you eat it and offer him a bite. You may have to ask for a to-go box so you can get it on in the car.

Give Him An Impromptu Handjob – While Standing Behind Him

Impromptu foreplay is a huge turn on for a guy, but give him a different view by slipping your hands down his pants while standing behind him to give him a handjob. He won’t be able to see you, but he’ll be able to feel and see your hands when he looks down at his member. Stroke him lightly, teasing him until he can’t take it anymore. Bonus points if you’re both shirtless so he can feel your breasts on his back.

Buy A Bag Of Lollipops

Lollipops aren’t just for kids. Next time you’re at the store, pick up a bag of your favorite suckers and stash them somewhere in the house where your man won’t immediately find them. When you’re hankering for something sweet, break out a lollipop and enjoy it in front of your guy. The trick here is to enjoy it slowly, licking and sucking provocatively while he watches – it will instantly make him think of oral sex. If you can avoid being blatant about it while you’re doing it and convince him that you’re just really enjoying your lollipop, even better.

Rock Fire Engine Red Lipstick

This can work both if you’re donning your dressy work clothes, or if you’re dressing up to go out for dinner – especially if you’re wearing red or black. Next time you’re ready to go, don’t smooth on your traditional nude lipstick. Grab a stick of hot, fire engine red lipstick instead. Play down your eye makeup so you don’t look overdone and so your man will focus on your mouth. Of course, confidence is everything here. Smile big and watch as your man’s eyes never looks away from your mouth.

Sexting

Sexting is an excellent tool to for foreplay, but a lot of women think that guys won’t really get off on it. However, men like dirty talk and sexts just as much as women do – but you might want to be a little more explicit when it’s for a guy. Men aren’t going to enjoy a text that describes “smoldering desire” or “burning lust.” He’ll want to hear about the specifics. Send him a racy text while you’re both at work, telling him that you can’t wait to get home. Don’t be shy – describe what you plan on doing to him and how much you want it. You’ll be all he thinks about until he gets home!

5 Sexting Phrases That Will Make Him CRAZY!

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Sexting is an excellent way to initiate foreplay. With today’s technology, it’s easier than ever before to have a private conversation with your lover where you can say anything to each other – and it’s for your eyes only! While sexting is a great way for men to connect sexually with women (since women are language oriented and all), it’s also a great way for women to connect sexually with men. Sure, men are visual creatures and all, however, if you say the right things, you can get him lusting after you and thinking about boning you all night long by just pushing a few buttons.

1. “Thinking About You Makes Me So Wet!

This phrase is a great starting point when you are first introducing sexting to your lover. It’s seductive and sexual without being too kinky or over the top to start with. Guys need a little mental warm up time too, and just like a woman, your man might be taken aback and possibly a little turned off if you just jump right in instead of easing him into the conversation.

Using the word “wet” actually gets him thinking and visualizing you being wet. Since men are visual creatures, this works much better than saying something like, “Thinking about you gets me so hot!” He can’t visualize hot very well, but he can visualize you being dripping wet just for him perfectly!

2. “I Can’t Wait To Get My Lips Around Your….”

Insert your favorite name for his member here and you’ll instantly get him thinking about you giving him an incredible blowjob. In fact, he’ll probably mentally reference the best blowjob you’ve ever given him, because that’s the one he likely remembers the most.

When he responds to this (which he definitely will!) you can take it a step further and begin elaborating on your favorite blowjob techniques. Describe to him in detail what you want to do and you’ll drive him absolutely nuts! He’ll start imagining everything you’re describing and by the time you actually do get home and get your lips around his you-know-what, he will be so crazy with desire that he may just explode right away!

3. “I’m Such A Naughty Girl For Thinking About You Like This”

He loves imagining you as a naughty girl. Even if you’re pretty kinky, you can pretty much guarantee that he’s already imagined you doing naughtier stuff than you already have. If you’re very vanilla, it’s a sure bet that his fantasies include you shedding your good girl image just for him.

By telling him that you’re naughty for thinking about him “like this,” you plant the idea in his head that you’re thinking very very sexy things – but by not telling him exactly what, you’re allowing his imagination to take over. When his imagination takes over, he’ll get so worked up thinking about you thinking about him that he’ll pretty much rip your clothes off you as soon as you walk in the door.

4. “I Want To Be BAD Tonight!”

Again, this phrase gets him thinking about you being naughty and allows him to indulge in his deepest, darkest fantasies with you. You’re still not telling him exactly what you want to do or how “bad” you want to be, because you want his mind to fill in the blanks. You’ll leave him wondering about and anticipating what you have planned – just be sure not to let him down.

If you suggest that you are naughty or want to be bad, make sure you follow through on your sexting innuendo with the appropriate actions. You don’t necessarily have to get as freaky as he might like, but make sure you do something new that’s a little outside your box so he doesn’t feel let down.

5. “I Want To Take All Of You In Me”

When you use this phrase during sexting, you’re suggesting that he has a big penis, just not in so many words. This plays to his ego and makes him feel great about himself, and he’ll love the idea that you feel like he’s bigger too.

You’ll also get him thinking about penetrating you – which he thinks about all the time anyways – but you’ve just added a little more fuel to his thoughts. He’ll begin imagining having sex with you in tons of different ways and sex positions, effectively getting him wildly turned on by the time he gets home and slips in between the sheets with you!

6 “Innocent” Dirty Talk Phrases That Will Make Her Weak In The Knees

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Dirty talk is an excellent way to get your lover turned on and ready to take you all in. Use these six “demure” dirty talk suggestions during foreplay tonight!

“I Love How Wet You Are”

If she’s already wet, this dirty talk phrase will make her even wetter. A lot of women are self-conscious about being too wet – especially women who are able to ejaculate during orgasm. You’re probably thinking, “Yeah, right – that’s totally hot!” However, she may feel differently about it. Many women are self-conscious about their vaginal secretions, and they may even think that their ejaculate is urine and be embarrassed about it.

Let her know that you think that her wetness is arousing to you – tell her how hot it makes you when she soaks the sheets! This will make her feel sexy for letting go – which actually increases the chances of her squirting when she has an orgasm.

“It Feels So Good To Be Inside You”

She wants to know that her vagina feels good to you. She wants to know that she’s tight and that you love being inside her. Tell her how good her vagina feels against your penis! If you’re a little dirty talk shy, this can even be shortened to “You feel so good!” This should be a real, guttural response and it is best used when you first penetrate her. You can also use eye contact as you’re saying this (and as you’re penetrating her) to give it the maximum effect. Don’t be surprised when she wraps her legs around you and pulls you in deeper, gasping with pleasure!

“Wow, You Really Know How To Do That!”

Women put a lot of work into giving a great blowjob, handjob or whatever else skill your girl has mastered. If she’s halfway decent at giving head, commend her on her great skills! The same goes if she has just given you a handjob that rivals your own masturbatory skills.

Not only will this make her feel really great about what she’s doing to you, it will make her want to do it that much better. An added bonus is that she will automatically think that means she’s better at whatever she’s doing than every other girl you’ve been with – which works out great for you because you can make her feel that way without actually coming out and saying it (and possibly fibbing a little).

“I Don’t Want This To Stop”

Use dirty talk to make her feel like you want to be with her all night long. Of course, don’t use this phrase if you plan on having a quickie or are the kind of guy that gets yours and gets off. Telling her that you don’t want to stop must be accompanied by a long night of sensual lovemaking, where each step – from kissing to foreplay to oral sex to penetration – is elongated and more drawn out. Not only will she hear that you never want this night to end, she’ll feel it as you take your sweet time with each and every move you make.

“I’ve Never Been This Hard Before!”

Again, this makes your girl feel like she’s the best sex you’ve ever had – not only that, but that she’s also better than what you can give yourself (okay, maybe you are fibbing this time). Either way, this phrase calls attention to your erection (which she’s totally excited to have given you) and makes her feel like she’s turned you on more than anyone ever has before!

Don’t be surprised if after you use this dirty talk phrase that all she wants to do is lavish your penis with attention by giving you a slow, sensual blowjob!

“I Want To Eat You All Night”

So many guys make girls feel like going down on them is a chore. A lot of girls walk away from getting oral sex feeling like their partner didn’t like it, it was gross to him or he just wished it was over so he could get his orgasm and go to sleep. Don’t be that guy! Make her feel like licking her clitoris turns you on just as much as it turns her on!

This is another one of those things that you want to reserve for when you actually do want to go all night. She’s going to feel jipped if you say that and go down on her for ten seconds! So tell her you want to eat her all night and then actually do. Go slow, like it’s the most delicious thing you’ve ever tasted before!

5 Ways To Get Her To Give You Head More Often

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Blowjob tips are essential if you want to get good head in your relationship. Getting head is something no guy wants to turn down. But what if you’re not being offered? Here are five things you can do to get your girl to want to suck you off.

OK, even if your wife or girlfriend “sometimes” gives you head now, I still recommend you read (and reread) this article. It’s all in the name of getting a great blowjob, but what I teach you in the next few pages will do wonders for your sexual connection, your woman’s desire to try new things and the amount of FUN you guys have in the bedroom together.

Here’s a couple of basic rules and things you need to internalize in order to make this “blowjob” thing start to happen in your life.

1. Get Her Turned ON!

If you don’t already have a sex life with your wife or girlfriend, or don’t know how to get things heated up, learn! It’s not all about techniques – it’s about igniting her sexual desire for you. Also, don’t be shy about giving her oral sex. She’s not going to want to go down on you if you never do it for her.

2. Change How You Feel About Getting Head

You need to permanently change your thinking around getting a blowjob. Weirdly enough, if you want to get more head in your life you need to treat them as “no big deal.” If getting a blowjob is the “be all, end all” of your sexuality then it becomes too much pressure for her. If it’s “just something fun you guys can do” it’s more likely to happen and happen often.

3. Do Not Beg!

Don’t beg… EVER. Your woman needs to see you as a sexually powerful man. Most women want their man to be the dominant but respectful one in the sexual relationship. That means you CAN NOT BE ASHAMED OF YOUR DESIRES. If you ever act embarrassed by something you want sexually your odds of getting it go WAY down. Whether you want her to go down on you or put on a sexy clown costume and juggle your balls, you need to OWN your desire and feel confident about it. This can be hard to pull off, but it’s incredibly important.

4. Don’t Be Misogynistic

This whole method is based around loving and respecting women. In my own life I’ve discovered that the more I respect and adore women the dirtier, sexier and weirder things they’ve been willing to do with me. Even if you really want to be dominant with a woman, the best way to get there is to have a sincere desire to give her pleasure and to have FUN with her.

5. Share The Experience With Her

Start thinking of oral sex as “something you guys SHARE” instead of something she does for you. She will love this! This is a really important distinction. Once you internalize this concept you’ll both start having a lot more fun. It’s got to be fun for both of you.

99% Of Women DON’T Know How To Give A Blowjob – Are YOU One Of Them?

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Almost any guy can get a blowjob and ejaculate. But does that mean the blowjob was great, or even mediocre? Not hardly!

In fact, chances are, almost EVERY blowjob that your guy has gotten has sucked – and not in the good way! (And this includes the blowjobs he’s gotten from YOU)

Why?

A recent study from Men’s Health magazine shows 44% of men would leave you for some other random chick with better blowjob skills. This actually happens.

You may have a great personality and looks, but when your man discovers another woman who sucks like an angel from heaven, your relationship may collapse worse than a house of cards in a thunderstorm!

Why Is Giving Great Head So Important?

You might think that this is shallow – that guys should be more interested in the mutual love and trust that comes from a great relationship, not how good the sex or oral sex is. But studies and polls show that almost half of guys who are dissatisfied with their sex lives are unhappy because their partners either don’t give them head at all, don’t give them enough head, or are so bad at it that he’d just rather her not do it at all.

Are YOU one of those women?

Listen, finding a woman who can give an intensely satisfying blowjob is a rare find indeed. She is one in a million – a guy who finds a girl who can suck him off and actually ENJOYS doing it will get a ring on her finger in no time. In fact, he may not even get his pants zipped up before he’s running off to the jewelry store. Yes, learning how to give incredible oral sex is the KEY to snagging the man of your dreams.

Then keep reading. We found an incredible resource that will teach you not only the basics of giving a guy head, but tips, tricks and techniques that he’s NEVER had any other girl use on him – guaranteed! He’ll be so surprised when you give him a blowjob like this that he’ll brag about you to all his guy friends – and his guy friends will want you to teach THEIR girlfriends how to give head that good!

Jack’s Blowjob Lessons will teach you how to be the one that every man will actually want to keep and truly fall in love with! (Yes, your oral sex skills are that important!)

WARNING: It’s only fair that we warn you that these tips and tricks are SO HOT that your fella will be begging for you to go down on him ALL the time. If you don’t want to unleash the beast and make him think that you’re a complete and total sex goddess, then don’t read this book. But if you’re ready to see how hot things can really get, Jack’s Blowjob Lessons will show you how to work your man’s member in a way that will make his knees weak, make his legs shake, and make him say your name over and over!

What You’ll Learn In Jack’s Blowjob Lessons

  • Attitude. This is essential. If you have the wrong attitude when you start going down on him, you’ll be lucky if he can even get it up. This guide will teach just how important attitude is and how to come across the right way. You’ll also learn little tricks and techniques that help him to pick up on your attitude so you KNOW you’re conveying the right thing.
  • Blowjob Positions. Positioning yourself for comfort is also incredibly important – a huge reason that girls don’t enjoy giving head or don’t do it very well is that they’re uncomfortable. So they suck on it for a bit and then move on to having sex, because hey, who wants a crick in their neck? But there ARE blowjob positions that will keep you comfortable for hours while you give your man the greatest pleasure he’s EVER experienced!
  • How to set the atmosphere and how to engage in foreplay. Foreplay isn’t just for women. Sure, men can get hard in a few seconds and get it on, but does that mean it’s really GOOD? This guide will show you how setting the right atmosphere and engaging in plenty of foreplay will get your man so hot, he’s trembling before you even put your lips on his penis.
  • Blowjob Techniques. What would a guide about how to give head be without several specific techniques you can use? These are easy to learn and easy to follow, but your man will wonder where you picked them up and just how you got to be so darn good at giving head! (This includes deep-throating – if you can learn how to deep throat during oral sex, he’ll be yours forever.)
  • Dirty Talk. Guys want to hear how much you love sucking them off. Jack’s Blowjob Lessons will give you specific examples of things you can say that will get your man so turned on, he’s gasping for you to finish him!
  • Spitting vs. Swallowing. Semen is one of the biggest reasons that women avoid blowjobs. They think it’s “yucky” and sometimes it is. But this guide will teach you how to swallow or discreetly spit in a way that still makes your man think that you LOVE it when he ejaculates after a blowjob.

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“Let me start by saying WOW!!!!!  We have been married 19 years and together 8 years before that.  My husband has always been good at letting me know what felt good and we often experiment new ways.  After a blowjob he would say “Oh that was great”  So as you said I thought I was doing a good job.  Bought your book last night browsed through it.  Last night I surprised him with a late evening blowjob. His reaction at the end game point “F**K OH F**K WOW, OH MY, WOW F**K, THAT WAS THE BEST EVER I MEAN EVER REALLY I MEAN EVER!” – Cliona

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So are you ready to take the next step and become the BEST lover your man has ever had?

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