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5 HOT Fingering Techniques

Fingering isn’t as “old school” as you might think. If you do it the right way, you can bring your lover to incredible orgasmic heights!

There are some moves that just don’t work without a lot of lubrication, even if you aren’t penetrating her yet. A drop or two just won’t do and most women will appreciate a bit of extra lube for these techniques, even if she is already lubricating on her own.

1. The Electric Slide

Place the tip of your middle finger over her clitoris, then slide the entire length of your finger by, slowly, keeping constant contact with her little bud. Don’t move too fast. Keep a steady hand and don’t put too much pressure on her sensitive parts. She’ll let you know if she wants to go further.

You may want to separate her lips a bit to ensure more intense sensation, but remember that if you move your hand upward toward her during fingering, you will be pushing her clitoral hood out of the way. As you slide your hand back toward her feet, you will push the hood back in place, covering her up and allowing a relief from any intensity. Take your time learning which direction she loves best, and how heavy a hand she prefers.

2. The Tick-Tock Clit Clock

This fingering move is designed to give you a better idea of which sides or spots around her clitoris are the most sensitive to touch. Use a well-lubricated finger on a well-lubricated clitoris, holding her lips apart, exposing her most sensitive area. Imagining her clitoris is a clock face. Use your slick fingertip to trace a small circle around the outside of this clock, stopping and rubbing in even smaller circles at every hour. This will be a bit more difficult than with the previous exercise, working with such a small space, but you may be surprised at what you find.

3. Jack & Jill

Now don’t get me wrong here. I’m not trying to say that her clit is the same as a penis, but I am saying that you don’t have a monopoly on jerking off. Called “jacking” by a lot of men, modern day sexperts like to refer to this little move as “jilling off.” Welcome to a whole new world of clitoral stimulation! Give this a read, then go and welcome your wife.

The essential factor of jilling is to stimulate the clitoris by pumping it, through the protective sheath of the clitoral hood, which acts like a foreskin for the clit’s sensitive head. Use the outer edge of your hand, under your baby finger, to push up gently on the mons and expose the clit. From this position, you can use the thumb and forefinger from the same hand to feel for the clitoral shaft.

Probe around beneath her clitoral hood, where it begins from the crevice of her inner labia. You will be able to feel the stem protruding and should be able to gently grasp it between your fingers. From this position, massage it up and down in steady, rhythmic motions. Keep your fingers on the shaft and don’t pull the clitoral hood back too far. You may not feel like your movements are doing much, but you should be able to tell from her reaction how many nerve endings you are hitting with this one!

4. Knuckle Down

This second-last move is only for masters of jilling, really just a modification of that fingering technique. Having found that super-sensitive clitoral shaft, you have a variety of techniques available to you with this little nub in your hand. Instead of using your fingertips, this method uses the knuckles of your index and middle finger to grasp and stroke the shaft. Don’t forget to experiment during fingering! A change in speed or pressure could make all the difference in making this orgasmic.

5. Turning On

You might have a hard time jilling the shaft if her clitoris is small, or the hood is very tight, but don’t fret! Using either fingertips or knuckles, as in the last two fingering techniques, instead of pumping the shaft, you can turn it from side to side like a key in a lock. Keep your fingering rhythm and don’t try to go too hard or too fast.

This particular movement is probably the best way to mimic her masturbation technique, though you’ll certainly want to take a good look at it before you make a comparison. Either way, this kind of direct clitoral stimulation is definitely at the top of a short list of fingering moves that will let you make her come single-handedly.

Foreplay Moves That Guys Love

By dicksinthecity

Foreplay isn’t just for girls – guys actually enjoy foreplay before the action too. Check out these steamy moves guaranteed to make him hot.

First things first, foreplay was not invented for men. Most men are just in it for the benefit of women. Bless those men! Still, some men don’t give a crap about women. Of course, those men are jerks. If we are going to focus on foreplay moves based solely on pleasing men then all you need to know is that men are all about their penis.

Men are wired to go from 0-100 in sixty seconds. So any sort of “special moves” you think you need to learn or “erogenous zones” you think you need to touch are pretty much moot. I’m not saying women should forgo foreplay on a man all together, lets not get lazy here ladies, I’m just saying that the foreplay can all be penis focused.

What She Said About Foreplay Moves:

Focus On His Penis During Foreplay

That’s it. Men do not need long make out sessions, neck kissing or back massages. Once a guy is aroused, the only thing he is thinking about is how long it will take you to stop fussing with him and get your hands on his penis. So get a hold of that python and get comfortable.

Praise His Penis

Once you have laid eyes on his penis, tell him how big, huge, gigantic, large, superior it is. Any adjective that makes his penis sound like the biggest one you have ever seen. You can even say “That is the biggest one I have ever seen.” If you are not into talking, then gasps of surprise and arousal are always a wonderful move that guys dig. Once you have spent a few seconds admiring, its time to move on to the next foreplay move.

Work His Penis

You’ve seen it, you’ve commented on it and you’ve “oohed” and “ahhed.” Now you just have to touch it. So stroke it, caress it, give him a handjob. Keep an eye on your man and see what sort of pressure he likes and how he likes his penis to be pleased.

Put His Penis In Your Mouth

Just like stroking his penis with your hand, do it with your mouth. Although you have more opportunities with your mouth, saliva is a wonderful tool and your tongue is the strongest muscle in the body. Use your spit, use your tongue! Kiss his most prized possession, lick every where. Pretend its an ice cream cone or sucker and start giving that man a blowjob.

There you go. Four easy steps and in all honestly, most likely he was aroused and ready to go before you even got to step one. Foreplay for men doesn’t have to be an all day affair. They can get hit by a gust of wind and be aroused. I am not saying all men are solely about their penis for foreplay, but lets face it, that is where they want to be touched, licked and praised. So you can save yourself a lot of time and energy by focusing your foreplay on his best friend. Even after these tips, I’m pretty sure you could have probably just leaned over and whispered “Lets have sex.” That comment alone would have been all the foreplay you needed to do.

What He Said About Foreplay Moves:

There’s this notion that foreplay is for women. Men love foreplay too. Why? Cause we’re tired of doing all the damn work. We have to jump through all these hoops to get your number, to get you to go out with us, to get you into bed, and then you just take your clothes off and expect us to instantly begin dispensing the multiple orgasms. Really?

Why can’t men enjoy foreplay?

Just massage him. Give him a good one and get him relaxed. Work out the knots. You might think this is in his best interest, but really it’s in yours. The more relaxed and tension free he is, the longer it will last and the better it will be. He’ll be all zen like and won’t be focused on racing to the finish line, rather, he’ll be overjoyed with how good he and it feels and his pleasure will be enhanced, and then he’ll hit it like a rock star.

8 Basic Strokes For Erotic Massage Down South

By loveandsex

Erotic massage doesn’t have to be limited to her back. Instead, make your way to her vulva and massage her down there to get her totally aroused!

Here, you assume the role of a giver. For best results, place a pillow or two under her buttocks. Position yourself beside her or between her legs, in such a way that you have maximum access to her vulva.

These strokes deal largely with the Labia majora, and to the giver, it may seem there’s not much difference among strokes – but to your lady, whose eyes are closed, fully intent on savoring every minute, the trivial variations become different adventures. You’ll be amazed at how simple modifications alter her experience significantly.

You will also notice that none of the strokes intend to penetrate the vagina.

1. “Hello” Technique

Always start with this one. It’s not really a stroke as it is a way to get things rolling. Position your hand like a panty covering her vulva and cup your palm to her shape. Do not move your hand. Not yet. Feel the heat emanating from her. Add eye contact for better results.

“Hello” has a two-fold purpose. One, it’s a getting-to-know-you time. You gain familiarity of her curves & musculature, her soft and fat parts. Molding your palm on her equipment affords you prudence later in the erotic massage. Two, it’s a comfort building technique in that it introduces your hand to her thing. Remember that you’re about to man-handle what women consider as their core, the innermost sanctum of their being.

2. Palm Circulars

Maintaining the “HELLO” position, move your palm in circular motions. Think: Karate Kid “Wax On, Wax Off” motions. Easy, isn’t it?

Here are a few things to consider:

You may go Clockwise or Counterclockwise. (She may prefer one over the other)
Palm circulars go at different intensities. The soft variety is when your palm merely hovers around her vulva, the hard version is when you grab the fleshy parts and move it in circles.
Regarding speed, start the erotic massage slow. Most women prefer RHYTHM over jerky movements, so let your circles flow.

3. Palm or Thumb Glide

Spread your lady’s legs and see how the slit divides her vulva into a left and a right side. Place your palms on her labia majora. If they’re too big, use your thumb or any of the fingers instead. They have the advantage of inducing more focused strokes.

If in the previous technique you were concerned with circular movements, the Palm Glide is all about UP and DOWN movements. (Glide UP even as high as her belly area, and DOWN, near the anus.)

4. Spread & Squeeze

This time, it’s TO THE SIDES.

The Spread & Squeeze part of the erotic massage teases the vulva to open up. You may use your palm, thumb, or any of the fingers for this. Slowly spread the vulva by stroking to the sides, away from the central slit. Stroke to the sides, (not too far or she’ll feel vulnerable and self-conscious.)

For the Squeeze, go the opposite direction by slowly gliding towards the central slit. Let the two inward strokes meet at the center as if mending a torn dress. Join the two sides of her majora.

Now, with your thumb and forefinger, pinch and hold, then release. The ladies would appreciate a gentle pulling or tugging at this point.

5. Thumb Circulars

This is one of those erotic massage strokes that really get women going. Using the flat of your thumb, employ circular strokes while gliding UP & DOWN her Labia majora. The combination of 2 movements results into spiral strokes on her vulva. Nice!

Vary the size and direction of the circles you make.

6. Finger Walk

Use the flat of your fingers to walk around the vulval zone. Point to an area and then PRESS… and RELEASE. Then repeat. You’re not just brushing or tapping but generating pressure. Imagine you’re playing the piano and you’re masterfully pressing her keys.

A variation is the Finger Moonwalk. Do the press, but before releasing, add a slide element to it. Slide your fingers back towards the wrist, continuing the pressure as you do. Your fingers make possible different variations, experiment and do random press and slides. The multipoint stimulation would make her purr like a cat.

7. Pinch & Slide

This one’s not recommended for sensitive vulvas.

The fleshy areas or those skin folds are homes to the Pinch & Slide. Assuming you’ve employed ample lubrication, pinch an area using your thumb and pointer finger. Hold for a second. That’s the ‘pinch’ part. The ‘slide’ happens when you do a little bit of pulling. As you pull, let the patch of skin or flesh slowly slip from your grasp and pop to freedom.

After releasing, target another area and repeat.

8. The Labial Tug

Her Labia minoras will always be screaming for action during an erotic massage like this.

Using your thumb and pointer finger, tug on her minoras. Not too much but with enough force so she can feel the pull on her clitoris. Tug at different directions and find out what angles work for her. Release by letting it snap off your grasp.

TUG, then RELEASE. Repeat as desired.

After acing the massage, look at your woman and notice how horny she already is. Give yourself a mental pat on the back and proceed to Phase 3 – stimulating the clit itself.

Foreplay Moves That Girls LOVE!

By dicksinthecity

Foreplay is essential for a woman to enjoy sex, so you’ll want to make sure you’re doing things right. Check out these foreplay moves she will really love! Girls are complicated creatures. Unlike guys, girls take a bit more time and work to get all hot and bothered. Yet, if it is done right AND LONG ENOUGH the payoff of having a woman begging for you is well worth it. Here are some moves that can help get her fire going.

What She Said About Foreplay:

1. Tease Her

Seduce her. Take your time with a woman, even though you may be hard and ready to go, she may need to warm up. So don’t head for her boobs or clit right away, work your way there. Start with kissing her neck and shoulders also rub your hands along side her body. Pay attention to how excited she is getting and go slow.

Spend minutes, note MINUTES, not seconds on her neck, then spend MINUTES on her legs, then spend MINUTES kissing her back. Spend time lots of time on her. Think of her body as a treasure map but before you get to the buried treasure, you need to work your way there. Caress her legs and arms and kiss her everywhere. Make it a game to not touch her near her clit nor on her boobs and see how super excited she gets. This is foreplay!

2. Repeat #1.

Seriously, do what you just did all over again. Even though you may feel like you spent “forever” kissing her, she needs more foreplay. She needs more touching all over her body.

3. Mix It Up

Keep doing the above steps but vary your touch and pressure and use more tongue. Now would be a good time to add massage oil and rub her down.

4. Talk To Her!

While doing foreplay steps 1-3 talk to her. I am not saying you need to have a full blown conversation, nor do you need to get all poetic or dirty talk on her. I mean tell her how sexy she is, how hot you are getting, how you can’t wait to feel all of her. Tell her how fantastic her body is and how you are the luckiest bastard in the world that you get to see her half naked or you get to kiss her.

Praise her whole body with your touch and your words. I know it sounds corny but in the heat of the moment shit like that can really get a girl going!

5. Repeat!

Seriously, do it all again until she is begging you to have sex with her. And if you really want to score major points, tell her that you want to focus all on her. So if she starts to go down on you, stop her (if you can), and tell her you want this night to be about her.

What He Said About Foreplay:

1. Take The Scenic Route

Look we all know where this going. You want to have sex of some variety, but women love foreplay moves that aren’t shall we say as direct. Pay attention to the parts of her that men rarely notice, like the elbows, or the navel. Start to make a beeline towards the boobs or the vagina, then make an abrupt turn to the right and start to work your way away from it, then go back, coming just a little bit closer, but still not making contact with the target. Repeat this, until she just can’t stand it. Then do it again.

2. Tell Her No

Men are usually all about hitting it, getting off and then going to bed. Do number one until she’s literally begging for you to have sex with her. Then don’t. Until you feel like she’ll put a gun to your head unless you sleep with her. If you can do this right, you will own her and she will love you for it.

I have two friends who are masters of this. Some of the most beautiful women I’ve ever seen are falling all over these guys no matter if the women are single or married, or if the guy’s in shape or not. One of my friend teases women he meets at work to a tee. He’s a bartender and he’ll pick up a girl at the end of the night and take her home. He’ll engage in foreplay and tease her until she just can’t stand it and to where she’s on the verge of having an orgasm just off the anticipation. Then he’ll say “You know what? I’m really tired from work. I’m going to bed. Maybe we’ll pick up where we left off in the morning.” Then he actually goes to sleep. This drives the women nuts.

They literally can’t process it. He always gets laid when he wakes up and often then start molesting him as soon as the sun comes up.

Another friend does a similar move, he’ll tease, please a bit, stop, tease some more and then say “Okay, that’s all you get for now. You’ll get more later, if you’re good.” Then he cuts them off. This drives them nuts and this kind of teasing women love.

The Easiest Way To Have Better Sex

By lloydlester

Better sex is something almost every couple wants to have but they often don’t know where to start. Here’s the most simple way to have better sex tonight!

Are you struggling to come up with bedroom antics to spice up your sex life? Are you giving your woman an orgasm each time you make love? Most men face these predicaments in the bedroom and wonder why their sex lives are heading south. Sounds like you are in need of some simple, honest advice to become a better lover and have better sex?

What Women Really Want In Bed (Hint – This Leads To Better Sex Every Time!)

What most women crave is actually the same as what most men hope to achieve – being able to last long enough. This inherently creates better sex. You see, women are considered “slow boilers” when it comes to sex. It’s not their fault. Their sexual programming requires them to take far longer to reach an orgasm than men. In fact, studies have shown that ninety percent of women could not achieve the big ‘O’ through sexual intercourse alone – simply because the sex does not last long enough. Men are like electric kettles that boil almost instantaneously and lovemaking often becomes a five-minute affair – barely enough to heat up a woman’s erotic nerve centers.

If you really want to be impressive in bed and bring her to the brink of orgasmic overdrive every time you make out, you simply have to increase the time you take to reach climax yourself.

Easy Tips To Hike Up Your Endurance In Bed

There is an entire repertoire of tricks and techniques you can bring to the bedroom to transform your sexual stamina. For instance:

1. Prolonging Sprays Or Creams

Try one of those sprays or creams that are specially designed to increase your sexual endurance. Alternatively, wearing a thick condom will help.

2. Practice Your Kegels

Toughen up your pelvic muscles by practicing simple kegel exercises. No, you don’t need to visit a sexual therapist to learn these. There are plenty of online male enhancement programs that offer easy instructions to practice these exercises from home.

3. Use Different Sex Positions

Experiment with different sex positions and rely on those that do not stimulate your penis as intensely. You will be surprised that many of these positions are women’s favorite too, as they tend to maximize their pleasure in bed.

4. Use Lube!

Try using plenty of lubrication. More lubrication means lesser stimulation. This works phenomenally well for many guys.

There is no need to feel guilty about your lack of lasting power. Try any of these solutions and watch as your stamina transforms and her erotic temperatures soar!