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8 Handjob Techniques That Will Turn His Knees To Jelly

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A handjob can be even more satisfying than a blowjob for a guy if you do it the right way. Check out these handjob moves that will leave your lover breathless!

1. Involve His Balls

Use any stroke that involves just one hand in combination with strokes that involve pulling, tugging, holding, cupping and lightly massaging your partner’s scrotum.

2. Start The Fire

Start at the base and pull gently upward while twisting (but not too hard) as if you were trying to start a fire with a stick of wood.

3. Thumb Massage

Hold your partner’s penis firmly in both hands and use your thumbs only to massage your partner’s shaft and head. You can do this in strokes or circles, depending on what your partner likes best.

4. Stimulate The P-Spot

Utilize the above technique (one-handed stroke combined with the other hand massaging another area) on the perineum. This will create delightful sensations between his “G-spot” and his penis. This move will bring your partner to orgasm quickly and it is a great move to use while he finishes off. If your partner enjoys this move, you can use it as the core of your genital massage.

5. Squeeze The Lemon

With a well lubed hand, cup your hand on top of his penis head and twist like you were squeezing a lemon on an old fashioned juicer.

6. Play With His Foreskin If He’s Uncircumcised

If your partner is uncircumcised, have fun with his foreskin. Massage it, pull it gently and twist it around to create a variety of sensations. Ask him to play with it in front of you so you can see what he likes to do with it.

7. Side To Side

While sitting in front of him on the bed – put both of your hands out as if you are going to “clap” and place one on each side of his penis – this side to side flat palmed action will be a different sensation and allows you both full view of his rock hard penis. It’s different for him from the way he would normally pleasure himself with his own hand.

8. Dry Massage

For a different approach, try a dry massage. Your partner may find this uncomfortable, however, especially if the skin around his penis is very tight and does not allow for much movement. This only works with light touches. When stroking his penis in a dry massage, just hold the skin tight enough so when you move your hand up and down the skin does not move but rather the inside of the penis moves. Men don’t always have the luxury of having lube on hand when they masturbate and they do just fine with a dry jerk off. It just takes a gentler touch.

How To Give Him A Handjob That Will Trump All Handjobs

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Handjobs are like snowflakes, no two are alike. But how do you give a really, really special handjob? You know, the kind: the ones that are hot, sexy, and stand the test of time. Truly earth shattering and amazing handjobs. We have your tips and tricks to best handle the dicks.

What “She Said” About Giving A Great Handjob

Monkey See. Monkey Do.

There is something so magical about handjobs! Maybe its the remembrance of prom dances of the past or the thrill of discovering yourself.

But giving a good hand job is an art form that any woman should do her best to master. The key to giving him a hand job that will trump all hand jobs is to cater it to what he likes and of course lube!

The best way to cater to what he likes is to pay attention to what he does when he plays with himself. If you have not gotten to the level of masturbating in front of each other, have no fear! You can ask him while making out how he likes to pleasure himself (maybe don’t use those exact words though). A simple”show me” or “i think it’s so hot to watch you play with yourself”. Then as he starts jerking off, pay attention! Watch his grip, speed and pace. Then when you feel like you can take over, grab hold of his cock and let him sit back and relax.

Another way to give him a handjob that will trump all handjobs is remember to be gentle!

Yes it’s called jerking off but pay attention to what he likes. Listen to his moans! You can also straight up and ask him if he likes what you are doing, if he wants you to switch it up or change your pace. And while you are so close to his ear, you might as well let out some moans of your own and let him know how much you enjoy pleasuring him.

Maintain Eye Contact

Once you have him in hand, keep maintaining eye contact with him. This can intensify things for him and be super hot. Of course you do not want to stare at him the whole time, mix it up! Make out with him kiss his neck and chest.

Lube It Up

Another way to give him a handjob that will trump all handjobs is lube! Lube is the best invention since the hand job was invented. And I am not talking about regular lotion here. I mean really good, slick, moist, wet lube! Lube that has only one purpose and it is for sex and handjobs.

You can find lube everywhere from sex shops to target! KY has some great lube if you are shy, or specific sex store sell lubes for different appetites if you are daring. Regardless, once you have the lube use it! Let it slide all over your hands as you wrap them around his member. I guarantee he will be in paradise.

Enthusiasm

And lastly, the number one thing that will make you the best at giving him a hand job is your enthusiasm! BE excited to get him off and tell him how much you like it and of course let him know he is a god with a penis like you have never laid hands on!

What “He Said” About Giving A Great Handjob

Focus

The most important key to giving a great handjob is focus. You need to care about nothing else on earth except giving the best handjob on record. You need to do it like the fate of the world depends on it. You need to work that cock like it’s the first time you’ve ever had your hands on it, and that you’re finally getting your hands on it after a long, long wait.

Patience And Variety

The other thing is patience, you need to make him ride the wave of pleasure with your handjob. Give it to him fast, then slow, get him on the verge of coming, then back off, vary speeds from kind of fast to super slow to really fast to you know.=

Eye Contact Is Key

Keep eye contact while giving the handjob at all costs. You don’t need to do anything with your eyes except devour him. He needs to feel wanted. You have to have him, and you love worshipping his cock. You are the goddess who is the center of his universe and you love worshipping at the altar of his member. That dick is your key to heaven and you’re going to make sure you get there.

That shit is hot. So is spitting on it. But that’s another story, a porn story…

How To Teach Her To Give An Amazing Handjob

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A handjob can be exquisite if your lady does it the right way. Here’s how to teach her to stroke you to an incredible orgasm!

A Hot Handjob

If you aren’t already fluent in the language of your own anatomy, it’s time to take a bit of a lesson. Take a good look at what’s going on down there the next time you are masturbating and see if you can describe your movements in language someone else can understand. Next time, try it in front of her!

Give her a thorough demo of how you really like to be touched, taking the time to describe your use of pressure, grip and movement. If you are circumcised, be sure to use lube to mimic the gliding movement of foreskin. You can use lube if you have foreskin, too, but it’s less necessary for her to be able to get a handle on you during a handjob. If she is unsure with her grip, try holding your hand over hers so she has an idea of how hard to hold you.

A lot of women are unaware how much stimulation the penis is capable of enjoying, so make sure she knows exactly what you like during a handjob before she lets go. Give her lots of encouraging words when she does something that you like. If she goes too far and it hurts, or if you just want her to change, suggest what she can do instead, rather than jumping on her with criticism.

The P-Spot

If what you really want her to do with her hands is explore your back door in conjunction with a handjob, you should have a little conversation with her about it. Why not take her on a little sex toy shopping spree at my store, looking for fun toys to try with her? When you “happen” to “stumble” on the prostate massager category, casual bring up how curious you are about trying something like that. See how she responds to the idea of putting something other than her fingers inside you.

Next time you try out any anal moves on her, try describing what you’re doing in detail. The method for feeling up her G-Spot from her rear cavity is exactly the same as her method will be for finding your prostate gland. If she is just too grossed out by your back door, tell her to rub your perineum by pressing down from just behind your testicles toward your anus. Stroking this repetitively with the pad of her thumb with firm pressure should stimulate your P-Spot externally for an explosive orgasm.

If you don’t particularly enjoy anything around (or in!) your anus, feel free to skip this when getting your handjob. Most girls aren’t going to be terribly disappointed by this, especially if they can give you a great orgasm without going back there.

5 Places Never To Miss When Giving A Handjob

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A handjob is an incredible way to give your lover an orgasm without getting anything but – well, your hands – involved. Here’s how to give a great handjob!

First, let’s explore some of the places on a man’s genitals that are great for a massage. The more you know your man between his legs, the better your handjob will be.

1. His Scrotum

The scrotum (the sac where his balls are held) is a great place to hold, tug lightly and massage lightly. Cupping his scrotum with one hand can give your partner excellent sensations while you do the dirty work with your other hand! Just be careful not to massage your partner’s scrotum too hard – this is a very sensitive area and a rough approach just won’t work here. Think of his testicles as eyeballs.

You can actually massage your eyeballs, but if you poke or press too hard it hurts. The same with his balls. Try pumping up and down on his shaft, then giving a light squeeze every third or fourth stroke release. A feather to the balls is also very, very delightful.

2. The Perineum

This is probably the area that gives you the most advantage during a genital massage. Why, you ask? When pressure is put on the perineum, it stimulates a man’s sensitive prostate gland. Men love having their prostate gland stimulated (it is like a man’s G-spot) but not all of them know they do. That’s because other than the perineum, the only other way to gain access to the prostate gland is through the anus and there are more men that don’t like going that route than there are that do.

Pressing or rubbing on the perineum (the spot between his scrotum and his anus) during a genital massage can give your partner the thrill of a lifetime. Just make sure that your partner is comfortable with your hand in that spot and make sure he lets you know how low is too low if he is uncomfortable with your hand near his anus. And don’t be afraid to throw some lube down there first! Things will slide right along!

3. His Inner Thighs And Lower Abs

These areas are secondary to the others during a genital massage and you may want to use them just to help warm your partner up – but if he really likes it, feel free to use these areas during the handjob to give your partner more of an “all over” feeling. These spots can take a little more of a rough touch, so they are great to squeeze, press and manipulate when you are really ravaging your partner during a genital massage. Be careful not to do this too hard, your partner is not Play-Doh! If you prefer to go the softer route, these places are very responsive to light touching (such as running your fingers up and down them) or to tickling. Light touches in these areas are best for teasing.

Let your hair caress his thighs while your face is close to his penis and you are fondling and rubbing his erection.

4. The Anus

Obviously this area can be a big no-no spot for men. But the anus has a lot of pleasure points. Some men are fine with you massaging the outside of the anus and that is it. Others have discovered the incredible pleasure of having their prostate massaged via the anus. Insert your pointer or middle finger (after he has been well lubed of course) and find a spongy area the size of a walnut maybe 3 or 4 inches in and begin to stroke it. Do this when you think he is close to coming and it will most likely give him the explosion of his lifetime.

Here is how one of my readers described it:

“She would lube up her middle finger insert it in my ass and massage my prostate. Well you orgasm very quick and when she is massaging the walnut you darn near levitate!! Very powerful!”

And another one of my reader’s says this about the anus:

“Most guys will not admit it but a man’s anal area adds great sensations.”

5. His Penis

Well, of course the penis is the main area on your partner’s body that you want to pay attention to when giving a genital massage. None of the other areas have the capacity to bring your partner to orgasm – but it is important to note that concentrating on massaging the penis only during a genital massage can make it slow work for you. Accessing and utilizing massage techniques on the other areas of your partner’s groin area can make things go more quickly and actually, it will make the genital massage more exciting, pleasurable and satisfying to him.

10 Advanced Tools For Incredible Handjobs

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A handjob doesn’t have to be any old handjob. These simple but effective accessories can turn something “ho hum” into something absolutely orgasmic!

While your hands (and some lube) are really all that is needed for a great hand job, some variety makes it more fun for you and him. Here are some ideas on elements that can be used to add some zest and excitement to your repertoire.

1. Candle Wax

You can buy candles that are specifically designed for body massages. As the candle burns and the wax is melted, you can pour the melted wax on your lovers body. It should be safe to pour on his shaft and testicles. His glans (head) might be too sensitive to the heat. Do a test drop first. I loved it when my wife did this for me but not something I’d want every time. I personally think warm oil/lube is better for a handjob overall but for a man, the smell, sight and feeling of the candle wax being lovingly poured on your penis is special indeed and worth doing now and again.

2. Scarf Or Tie

Take some of your silk scarves or his old ties and put them to good use. Drape the over his body, wrap them around his rod and pass them between his legs. He’ll go crazy from the soft, silky, breezy fabrics touching his sensitive spots. Do this BEFORE you get out the lube to keep them from getting soiled. If you want to get real kinky, use them to “tie him up” while you give him an exciting handjob experience. And while you are at it you can also use them to blindfold him. That adds another very interesting dimension to a handjob. It puts all his energy on assessing the pleasure of your touch.

3. Silk Or Satin Lingerie

Taking off your lingerie will certainly get his blood pumping and you can do one better. Rub your silky nightie or underwear around his shaft and balls. He’ll go nuts. This is what it did for one of my subscribers: “My favorite hand-job spin is this: my girl will take her satin Nighty, turn it inside out, and rub my hard-on with the silky material…WOW I throb big-time! She may add a vibe to tingle my balls with her other hand. Sometimes I can’t hold back and I’ll jizz now.”

4. A Vibrator

As you just read, battery operated toys are not just for women. They work exceptionally well on men’s sensitive areas. Buzz his nipples, his sack, his rod. He’ll even like it if you touch his anus with it (you can put a condom over it if you want to keep it sanitary). If you don’t have a “dildo” on hand, simply use an old battery powered toothbrush. Just keep the bristles away from him.

5. Beads

No, not anal beads (although some men would really go for that too). I am talking about pearl necklaces. If you have a bead necklace that is smooth, wrap it around his shaft and pull it back and forth to massage his manhood. Just be aware that some lubes and oils might eventually break down the string so don’t use an expensive necklace.

6. Fruit

This is for the adventurous. Take a melon and cut a hole in it the size of his erect shaft (make it a little on the tight size. Slide it on his hard-on, then move the melon up and down to push his cock in and out. He’ll smell and taste wonderful. If the suction is too strong, cut a small hole in the opposite side of the melon. You can also use a banana. Cut the end off the banana and gently scoop out enough flesh so that his penis will fit in tight. You can also put the banana in the microwave for a few seconds to warm it up but be VERY CAREFUL to test it with your finger to make sure it is not too hot. If you like the taste of kiwi then cut the top and bottom off a kiwi fruit and take a little flesh out of the center and use the “sleeve” to masturbate your guy.

7. Vegetables

Same idea as above but use a zucchini, eggplant or cucumber. Instead of scooping out the flesh you can often press in a broom handle to create a hole deep and wide enough.

8. Condoms

Put lube on his member and them roll down a condom and use it as a sleeve to jerk off your guy. A nice side benefit is that clean up is a cinch. Also, try a “ribbed” condom and turn it inside out before putting it over his manhood. The ribs will give him lots of wonderful sensations all over. Here’s something else to try with a condom. Blow it up into a balloon, a little smaller than a bowling ball. Quickly insert his penis into the hole to seal it up. If air starts to leak hold it tight around his shaft (or ask him to hold it). You will both be able to see his penis inside the “balloon.” If you can manage it, get him to come and see him squirt all over the inside. Guys will really like this visual.

9. Plastic Baggies

Fill one zippered baggie with warm water and one with ice water. Use them at different intervals touching various parts of his body to bring your man different sensations.

10. Fan

You can use a hand fan or an electric fan to blow air over your man to create a slight breeze. It feels quite refreshing on the testicles which aren’t used to a lot of fresh air.