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How To Make Your Lover Orgasm Faster During Oral Sex

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Oral sex is fun, but when you’re going down on someone for what seems like hours, it can get boring!. Here’s how to make your lover orgasm fast during oral sex!

Why You Want To Get Down To Business!

When it comes down to oral sex, some people just dilly-dally. They do one thing or the other. This and that. No rhythm. No awareness. That’s wrong.

Oral sex for a woman isn’t just about a man going down on a woman’s vagina, licking her clitoris, and bringing her to orgasm. That’s just basic stuff that we learn right from the get go.

When a woman goes down on a man, she shouldn’t just suck and lick and that’s it. She should involve her hands!

The hands are the key to making anybody come faster.

Oral Sex For Her

Whenever you go down on a woman, you want to kiss her vagina all around and do it really slow. Kiss all around her lips. Take your tongue and flick it in very slowly. Don’t go for her clitoris right away.

When you finally do kiss it, it’s like almost like the flower opening. Every time you kiss her vagina, it just opens up just a little bit more and a little bit more and a little bit more.

You will be able to feel the moisture on your lips. Take your lips and just move them all around so she can feel and anticipate the gliding. Of course going by her clitoris several times so she starts building up pressure inside her body. When you finally do go for her clitoris, slip one finger deep inside her and go right to her G spot, because if you spend enough time getting her prepped, her G spot at this time will be swollen and spongy.

It will feel great to touch.

Then start licking her slowly, changing your techniques up, figuring out what type of rhythm she likes. At the same time, start taking your finger and moving it back and forth on her G spot, adding pressure and building that pressure up ever so slowly. Now she has two sensations going, she’s got her G spot going and she’s got her clitoris going. She’s going to come really fast. She might come from both spots at the same time and explode all over you!

That’s hot!

That will get her wanting more, desiring more, thinking about more. That will distinguish you as a good lover.

Oral Sex For Him

If you’re a woman, don’t immediately go suck a man’s penis.

Kiss his body, tease him, kiss his inner thigh, lick his balls, get involved in the whole area before you go right for his penis and just start sucking. When a woman just goes and sucks on her partner’s penis instantly, it almost feels like he needs to start masturbating. It won’t work for him at all!

He will love when you start altering between his penis and his balls. It will feel great when you start sucking both of them. A favorite move men love when a woman is sucking his penis and tickling his balls at the same time, or playing with his balls or tickling the perineum.

Get your hands more involved because then you’re going to give him the best blowjob of his entire life.

This is how you master oral sex!

You don’t just go for it, you tease, touch and use your hands. Use everything that’s available to you. You’re going to give your partner and lover one of the best experiences they can ever have.

What To Do When He Ejaculates During A Handjob

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A handjob will hopefully end in your lover ejaculating – but what do you do with his semen? Here’s how to handle it when your man has an orgasm during a handjob.

You’ve made it through the hard part – getting your partner up to the point where an orgasm is imminent. Here, you can do a couple things. You can relinquish your partner’s penis back to him and allow him to finish the job. Some couples will choose to let the man finish himself off while she concentrates on his testicles and perineum. If you are an oral sort of gal, men LOVE to have their balls licked and sucked as they masturbate.

Take Him Through The Orgasm

A more popular approach is to help your partner through his ejaculation by performing his favorite strokes and continuing to give him pleasure through his entire orgasm. Don’t make the mistake of stopping the handjob as soon as he begins to ejaculate. Continue your strokes until he begins to pull away. Most men “squirt” out close to ten times when they are having an orgasm. A few significant squirts followed by some very minor ones.

Think about it as an earthquake with a few aftershocks. The euphoric feelings that accompany the ejaculation might last a couple of seconds up to 30 seconds or more. The more you stroke, the longer he’ll come. Don’t cheat him out of any of those precious seconds.

Where Does The Semen Go?

Most of the time, women will let their partner’s ejaculate on their hands. You can keep one hand on the head of his penis while he has an orgasm (this is very pleasurable) and let his semen bubble over your fingers like a volcano, or you can keep your hands on the shaft of your partner’s penis and watch how high his eruptions will go!

If you are uncomfortable with having your partner’s semen on your hands, you can use gloves or you can hold a towel, washcloth or tissue over his urethra just as he is about to ejaculate to catch the semen. Any way you and your partner choose to handle the orgasm is fine – as long as you both are comfortable and enjoy it.

Men Love To Watch

Most men are highly turned on by you being excited (or at least fascinated) by his ejaculation. We like for you to see our eruptions as amazing or thrilling and not “gross”. We want to see wonder in your eyes as we shoot as high or far as far as we can (men are competitors by nature). Here is how one of my readers expressed it: “I want you to watch me and my manhood as I proudly throb and shoot jets of splooge for all to see! Don’t turn away, or block the squirts… sharing the full ejaculation experience with you is HOT!”

Another turn on for men is to ejaculate onto you. On your breasts, your stomach or even youth mouth if you are so willing. Again, we are very visual and marrying the erotic act of ejaculation with a visual image of your nakedness is something that fuels our sexual fires.

Letting Him Take The Reins

Depending where he wants to shoot his load, you may need to do a hand off to him in the final moments. He just might want you on your hands and knees so he can shoot all over your back and rump. Just find a way to communicate this before it is too late. But, if he comes before the plan is fulfilled, you can look forward to trying it next time.

Handing off to him to masturbate has other advantages to you and him. He can finish off really strong (he’s had a lot of practice), aim it where he wants it and you can enjoy seeing him fully enjoying himself.

There might be times where you are unable to bring him to climax with your hands. Even seasoned masturbators have times when they are unable to bring themselves to orgasm. So don’t sweat it. As you give him more and more handjobs you’ll learn the subtle nuances that tend to take him over the edge.

I’ll tell you what will almost certainly take him to his peak if you can’t seem to get him to erupt. Sit facing him, spread your legs wide, part your labia and finger yourself to orgasm. Mutual masturbation is near the top of most men’s fantasy lists. It is an explosive way to finish off a handjob session.

For clean up, you might want to have some baby wipes on hand or a very special touch is to bring in a warm, wet washcloth and wipe him clean. Or perhaps he or both of you were planning on showering afterwards.

How To Fulfill His Handjob Fantasies

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A handjob is something that a guy would much rather get from a girl than do himself. Here’s how to give your lover the handjob he’s been craving.

As with any sexual activity, communication between both partners is absolutely key to having a successful genital massage, fellatio or even intercourse session. You must keep the lines of communication open between you and your partner when performing your hand job to be able to give him the best experience you can and for you to be comfortable.

You will need to learn what he likes and when he likes it – although it is somewhat your responsibility to pay attention to his bodily cues (such as movements and noises) to learn if he really likes something, it is your partner’s responsibility to let you know if something is not working. If your partner does not tell you when something doesn’t feel as good as he would like it to, he is setting you up for failure!

Don’t Be Too Shy To Ask

Ladies, he’s been masturbating his whole life.

He knows his likes and dislikes and will be appreciative if you ask him to not only tell you, but take his own hand over yours and show you what feels best to him. It may differ from encounter to encounter, but you will get a good sense of how he handles himself “in private” and learn the strokes he used and the pace he is accustomed to.

On the same token, it is crucial to let your partner know if you are uncomfortable with something or if a particular move causes your hands numbness, pain or makes them tire or cramp easily. In doing so, you ensure that both you and your partner are on the same page about genital massage and avoid a lot of frustration!

Living The Fantasy

Part of giving a man a fabulous handjob is helping him to live out his fantasies. Most men do have fantasies while masturbating and it often has to do with YOU! He is imagining you in lingerie, or going down on him in the shower, talking dirty to him or trying out some new position or new place for a love nest.

As he closes his eyes while you play with his manhood, help him to be a part of a fantasy. Tell him what part of the fantasy you are and what part he plays (he often wants to simply be the most amazing lover with the package you go wild over).

Why A Handjob Can Be Better Than A Blowjob!

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A handjob might take you back to highs school, but it can be better than a blowjob. The touch of a soft ladies hand stroking our rod and lightly caressing our scrotum and nearby regions is divine.

Most men who have been the fortunate recipient of a magnificent handjob will attest that it is often be more thrilling than a blow job.

Why A Handjob Makes Him Feel Special

While great intimacy is found when you make love, sex is a two-way street and there are times when focusing all your sexual energy on him and giving him a glorious hand job will pay back dividends for years to come.

I know that I’ve gushed compliments and favors and extra love and attention on my wife after she has brought me to a glorious climax after an exquisite hand job.  I’m often on a handjob “cloud 9” for a day or two after the special attention.

If you aren’t giving your man a healthy dose of handjobs then it is almost certain that he is resenting it in some way.

What The Stats Say

Here is what one of my subscriber said when I asked what they most liked about handjobs: “Wish I could give you anything – not something that I’m lucky enough for my wife to be willing to do. So you if you have any advice on how to get her interested in taking matters into her hands, I would appreciate it.”

In a different survey I sent out to thousands of my male subscribers.  I asked that only those who have received amazing blowjobs and handjobs reply.  I asked these men how many of them would prefer an amazing hand job over a “good” (not amazing) blow job.  82% said they would want the amazing hand job.

That is great news for all women.   Almost any women can learn the skills and techniques that will have their men in hand job heaven with the right teaching.  Blowjob skills are much harder to master and quite frankly we men realize that for most women sucking on a guy is not always the most pleasant experience.  Loving – yes.  Enjoyable – not for most women.

Your Hands Do More Than Your Mouth

Obviously a woman does not have a penis.  So either she can ask her man to teach her exactly what to do or she can read one of the most thorough guides ever written that will give her confidence and skills to take any man to moments and heights of pleasure he certainly has never reached before.

There are times in which your hands can do much, much more to a penis than you could dream of doing with your mouth or vagina and therefore, sometimes two hands are better than one mouth or one vulva!

Here, we’ll discuss plenty of techniques that you can use for male genital massage to get your partner aroused and to climax in a matter of minutes – or if you feel like it, seconds or hours!

Generally, a well performed hand job works better than fellatio and gives you a break as well ladies – keep in mind that it is easier to prolong a male genital massage for extended periods of time than it is to give your partner ultra-long, ultra-sensuous fellatio.

That doesn’t mean, however, that you should always replace fellatio with a genital massage. There’s just something about a hot mouth on your partner’s penis that really gets him going. But by learning the tricks and techniques of giving a great genital massage, you can be sure that you can always take matters into your own hands!

Handjob Tips & Secrets Guaranteed to Give ALL Men Intoxicating Pleasure!

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A handjob isn’t something most women immediately go to when they think if giving their man the most incredible pleasure possible. Most girls will go straight to a blowjob (which certainly isn’t a bad option at all) or sex.

But did you know that in a confidential survey, 82% of men admitted they would take an awesome handjob over a “good” blowjob any day?

WOW!

Who knew that a man would want a handjob over a blowjob, especially when he’s so used to feeling his own hand during masturbation?

Unless Your Man Is BEGGING You To Give Him Handjobs, You’re Probably Not That Great At It

When you stroke him, does he seem mildly interested but wants to quickly move on to something else?

Has it been a long time since he’s asked or even cared to get a handjob?

If this is the case, you might just be really bad at it.

Here’s the good news! It’s not really your fault. 

Women don’t have a penis. They don’t know how to stroke it, tease it, touch it and massage it to give their partners the most mind bending orgasms they’ve ever had. In fact, most women are COMPLETELY CLUELESS as to how to give a handjob!

Not to mention, men are harsh critics when it comes to receiving a handjob. He’s been doing it himself for YEARS – so naturally, he’s going to compare what you’re doing to what he can do. And what you do almost never holds a candle to how he can please himself with his own hands. Not so with a blowjob or even sex – he can’t suck himself off. There’s no judgement criteria there, so it’s easy to please him with your mouth.

The other reason most women don’t know how to stroke their partners into orgasmic oblivion is because there’s no one out there teaching it. 

It Feels SO Much Better To Him When YOU Can Do It Right!

You know how you can’t really tickle yourself because, well, it doesn’t tickle? The same goes for a man giving himself a handjob. It’s just not the same as when someone else does it exactly right. Sure, he knows exactly how and where to touch when he gets himself off, but the sensations are really out of this WORLD for him when a woman does it the right way.

To give your man the most incredible pleasure he’s ever felt – even MORE pleasure than he can give himself – you’ve GOT to be able to give him a great handjob. For him to feel totally, completely satisfied in bed (and not have any temptation to stray), giving an excellent handjob MUST be on your sexual skills list or you risk losing your man forever!

Information You Won’t Find ANYWHERE Else

Oprah’s love, sex and relationship expert has introduced a brand new guide that teaches women how to stroke their partners the way he’s craved for YEARS but has never been able to communicate in the bedroom.

This information was compiled by surveying hundreds of thousands of men as to what they like when they get a handjob, as well as what makes them uncomfortable.

Stroke By Stroke is an unprecedented resource that contains information from actual men that you won’t find ANYWHERE else – guaranteed. It doesn’t matter how many articles you read on how to give a handjob. You’re not going to learn the TRUE SECRETS of what men really want unless you read this.

What You’ll Learn In Stroke By Stroke

  • The 3 simple things you MUST do before you even touch him to make his experience out of this world!
  • The best positions and techniques to get him to orgasm faster so you don’t get cramps in your hands
  • What to whisper in his ear to make him 5x hotter than he’s ever been
  • The best lube for almost ALL handjobs (and what common lube will give you DISASTROUS results! If you’ve ever used THIS lube, it could be responsible for a lackluster handjob!)
  • What 3 positions almost all men have secretly fantasized about
  • The secret spot you can touch when he is about to orgasm that will make him shoot for longer and farther than he has in a very long time!
  • What 80% of women do WRONG when a man is ejaculating from a handjob  

And much, much more!

Stroke By Stroke will tell you everything your man wants but has been terrified to tell you (most men don’t like insulting the woman they are making love to – and especially if they love her).

Simply put, Stroke By Stroke WORKS for one reason and one reason only – one of the world’s most renowned love, relationship and sex experts has put together actual tips from actual men! These are the things they would NEVER DARE say out loud in the bedroom!

You’ll be learning what guys everywhere secretly wish THEIR lovers knew – and after you give him a handjob THIS good, your man will be bragging about how excellent you are to all of his buddies! They’ll be MORE than jealous of him, and they just might ask you to teach their lovers how to do what you do!

You’ll be the BEST lover your partner has ever had, and he’ll be so smitten and in love with you that he’ll NEVER ever let you go!

Think about it….

Get your copy of Stroke By Stroke today and by TONIGHT you could be giving him the handjob of his life!

Not only will your sex life improve, but your relationship will to and you’ll both be more in love than ever!