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How To Get Her To Have Sex With You – Even When She Doesn’t Want To!

Can you have sex with your partner, even if she’s not in the mood, has a headache or doesn’t want to? You bet you can! Here’s how!

Women want men to understand one simple reality – that sometimes, she’s just not up for it, and it’s nothing personal.

Sometimes sex can be the last thing in a person’s mind. Hey, even guys in their sexual prime have those days when they’d rather be alone, get some TV time and cement that butt impression on their couches. Sometimes a deluge of projects and deadlines can drown little Johnny’s screams for action. Of course, women have these days too! (Plus the PMS. Well, some have PMS the whole year!)

Have Excellent Timing

This is simply knowing the difference between a good and a bad time. Jerks who march up to her in the middle of the night, all hot & horny, a little drunk and expecting some action, would be better off couching with their blow-up dolls. If they’re going to be Mr. Wrong Timing, they might as well be masturbating!

A 6th sense is needed to develop timing and it takes a balancing & gauging act to know the difference between a genuinely bad, hopeless sexual situation, and a massage-able/negotiable one – there are no hard and fast rules. Your ability to calibrate will improve as you get to know your woman.

Master The Art Of Gentle Persuasion

Great lovers master the art of gentle persuasion and subtle influence. They don’t decide for women, they gradually encourage them into a decision. A little look here, a little touch there, a massage packaged as time-out from her stressful schedule – and she’s bound to come around. It will only be a matter of time before she caves in and melts into his arms – it’s magic.

Set A Woman At Ease

Set her at ease. Clear the way for her brain to focus on your caresses instead of on last week’s deadline. A woman at ease is in a state of openness – to anything – sex included. And that’s way better than having someone wary of your moves. Anything you do to an inattentive (or defensive) brain might as well amount to nothing.

Second, ease her into sex. Before you know it, both of you will be sweating it out in the kitchen. It just happened. Unfortunately, many guys make this too difficult. Instead of creating that “in the moment phenomenon,” they get pushy, rude and crass. They pressure, which only emboldens her defenses.

They might eventually be forceful and strong enough to get what they want – but the next time around, it’ll be doubly hard. They’ll be fighting unnecessary battles just for the lay – not to mention, accommodation sex won’t be as satisfying.

What’s a woman to do? Over time, she’ll cut the sex short by faking an orgasm. Then later, she’ll block the sex altogether with every excuse.

So set the lady at ease, and ease her into knockin’ boots with you. Make it an easy and obvious decision, then give her a great time so she’ll want to do you over and over. This is the simplest prescription for your recurring sexual droughts.

5 Oral Sex Mistakes Men Make

By isabellastone

Oral sex isn’t something every guy is good at. Are you making one of these crucial oral sex mistakes? You’ll be surprised at what you find out!

She’s lying on the bed, legs spread, and slides her panties to the side – you know what she wants.

She’s kissing you roughly, pushing your hands away from her, pulling your head down – you know what she wants.

She takes you deep inside her mouth, flashes you a sexy smile, and then straddles your face – you know what she wants.

Whether you’re having a hot one night hook-up, or are in a long term relationship, girls often love head. It can be when they’re at their most horny, most intimate. or just the final straw of seeing what kind of lover you are before they have sex with you.

Trouble is, girls are picky; and all wired completely differently. Your ex loved you sucking her clitoris, your current girlfriend hates it.

The fact is, head is hard enough to get right as it is – so don’t screw up by making the five most common problems guys have when giving head.

1. Don’t Aim Too High

If where you’re licking more closely resembles a girl’s belly button, than it does her vulva, you’re way too high. You may think you can avoid getting down and dirty by just licking around her vulva – don’t kid yourself, this won’t work. There are very specific areas girls are sensitive in: fail to hit the spot and you won’t turn her on.

2. It’s Not All About You

Guys often make the mistake of thinking girls are as fixated on penetration as they are: so they think head should actually be a. Fingering b. Using your tongue in place of your penis. Neither is correct. Sure licking inside her vagina or fingering her, feels good: but that isn’t the point of head. Your mission, is to find her clitoris, then bring in your fingers as an added extra, not the main show.

3. There’s More Than One Way To Do It

When you’ve got to her clitoris not all girls will want you to stimulate it in the same way. Some will love you sucking it, others will want you to lick it fast and horizontal, others slowly length ways. Unfortunately there’s no clear signage down there as to which one your girl is going to prefer. So go for trial and error- start off slow, and keep your teeth way out of there.

4. Girls Are Delicate

Yep, the fairer sex is softer all round. This means that if you’re too rough with her- it will hurt. So keep your fingers well lubricated, your beard soft, or nonexistent, and get your tongue safely far away from your teeth’s interference.

5. Keep It Up

You may feel like you could come after a couple of minutes of jaw dropping head: but sometimes women need, I kid you not, hours. The most common length of time it takes a woman to orgasm is about 20 minutes, so you need to train yourself to last that long and not be a lazy lover.

Get head right though and you’re on to a winner. Make a girl come during a one night stand and she’ll come back for more. Give great head in your relationship and expect to receive in return.

And if you want to convince a girl to sleep with you? Then there’s no better way of showing that you know how to give a woman exactly what she wants.

How To Prolong Ejaculation And Make Sex Last Longer

By lloydlester

Premature ejaculation doesn’t have to control your sex life. Instead, use these simple tips to last as long as you WANT during sex!

Are you having problems with lasting long enough for your girl during sex? Have you been wondering what you can do to prolong your ejaculation time and forever end the shame and embarrassment of being a “minute man”? Do you question your manliness, dread having sex or even make up excuses to avoid intimacy? If you are, then listen up. You see, getting a sensational stamina in bed may seem impossible for most men. And it’s a crying shame, because this is simply not true.

The Straight Scoop

Premature ejaculation is NOT a lifelong condition. The reason why many men believe this is true is because most are too embarrassed to confront it squarely and discuss it with someone (e.g. a doctor or a sexual therapist) who are in a better position to help them overcome this problem. The truth is, as many as 40% of men globally are affected by it. Yet many of us are ignorant of the fact that this condition CAN be treated, and very often, without medical intervention at all.

Quick Fixes

There are plenty of solutions on the market that cater to guys who need that extra bit of stamina in bed. For instance, there are oral supplements that – when taken an hour or two before intercourse – offer the convenience to increase your erection ability and stamina almost on command. There are also local anesthetics (e.g. desensitizing creams) that help you go longer during sex. The downside to these products is that it’s harder for you to have spontaneous, “spur of the moment” sex. Pills and desensiziting products require that you use them before you initiate sexual contact (1 to 3 hours for pills, 10 to 20 minutes for desensitizers).

Natural, Long Term Solutions

The good news is, for the vast majority of men, there are specific, natural ways to re-wire our ejaculatory reflexes, without relying on temporary, costly solutions such as pills.

For example, if it’s a psychological or anxiety-related issue, cognitive exercises that re-train your brain and help you regain confidence, are very effective. If it’s a physical problem, specific exercises that strengthen the core ejaculatory muscles can give you a mighty lift in endurance. For other guys, premature ejaculation can be overcome simply by having more sex!

In short, this is a problem that can be fixed, and the sooner you get it sorted out, the sooner the both of you will get to enjoy sensational, wild sex that lasts all night long!

How To Touch A Woman & Make Her MELT!

By loveandsex

Foreplay allows you to really be creative with how you get your girl turned on. Use these suggestions to turn your lover into putty before you ever have sex!

Why A Girl Wants Your Hands All Over Her

Women want, long and crave to be touched. Where?

All over their bodies!

But this is not a simple case of hand-to-skin-contact. After all, women, specially the desirable ones, get harassed daily by touchy-feely dimwits with no concept of personal space. These guys love to get their hands on a woman – any woman – add alcohol to the mix and they’ll frisk anybody with the likeness of breasts.

Can you smell the restraining order my friend?

But just as terrible are blokes at the opposite end of the spectrum who only touch when they want something. “Touchy-feely is for girly men,” they’d say. They go tactile only when horny and good to go, and have packaged physical intimacy in such a way that sex becomes the only source for it.

The physical contact then has strings attached: SEX.

And this frustrates women who long for physical connection – but not necessarily intercourse. One wife’s problem, in fact, was that she happens to have a husband who only touches her when he fancies a roll in the sack. So she’s like, “Oh, he just grazed my thigh again, I know where this is going….”

If she indulges his caresses and light foreplay without the reward of sex, she’ll be labeled a “tease” – accused of causing him blue balls because she didn’t put out. She’ll be charged of leading him on. So women, who’ve learned their lessons, are careful because many guys present a take-it-or-leave-it attitude to touching.

But not surprisingly, the yearning for surface area contact can be so overwhelmingly strong that many women have, in one time or another, engaged in sex just to have someone close, just to have someone warm. Sex, in exchange for touch.

Do You Have Any Idea How Fulfilling Touch Is For A Lady?

One way of grasping this is by asking women what they miss most when they “aren’t getting any.” When women experience sexual droughts, what do they crave most? Look out for the answers on this one because it’ll provide you with a fundamental understanding of how women view sex. This is one of the most essential piece of the puzzle.

Women don’t sexually engage only because they get horny, for they can easily help themselves in the shower and harvest climaxes in the most intense and efficient manner. They don’t really miss sucking on your thing, or the fact that you blow your load after two minutes. They don’t mind doing without your masterful strokes or the “almost-kinda” orgasms you cause. A woman misses you for something else!

So what do women miss most when they don’t get laid?

They miss being cuddled, kissed, caressed and held!

They miss the feeling of excitement, fun, affection, closeness, togetherness, comfort, warmth and intimacy (or the illusion of it). Such are the premium benefits women get from sex, the VERY REASONS women jump to bed.

Without these, a woman feels isolated, rejected, undesirable, lonely, unneeded and unattractive.

This is interesting, because touch during foreplay, which is supposedly a physical implement, triggers in her an emotional and psychological satisfaction. When she says, “Sex feels so good,” it’s not only a comment on the physical; it’s a compliment on the emotional-psychological as well.

1 Simple, Brilliantly Naughty Secret To Last Longer In Bed & Speed Up HER Orgasm!

By lloydlester

Premature ejaculation doesn’t have to KILL your sex life anymore! This easy tip will help you last longer in bed – AND it will give your girl a faster orgasm!

Most guys worry about premature ejaculation, which usually means climaxing within the first two minutes during sex. While the timing may be a matter of opinion, it is never a good idea to ejaculate earlier than your partner. The key here is to last long enough for HER, in a way that pleases the both of you. But how long is long enough? Let us consider these 2 very different scenarios, and then learn a powerful tip on how to last longer in bed (believe me, this will change the way you think about premature ejaculation!)

The Fallacy Of Sexual Stamina

First Scenario: Joe can last at least 20 minutes when he is having sex. Unfortunately, this is not enough to satisfy his girlfriend who needs a bit more time before she can climax. A guy lasting 20 minutes like Joe may be the envy of other men, but not to Joe’s girlfriend who wants him to last longer so she can be erotically fulfilled.

Second Scenario: Pete and his wife have a sex life that lasts four minutes most of the time. However his wife is able to reach an orgasm very quickly and is satisfied every time they make out.

Which of these two men has the better sex life? Pete may only be able to last a few minutes, but he and his wife are perfectly satisfied. Joe and his girlfriend, on the other hand, are not fulfilled. The best form of lovemaking is one where both parties enjoy the experience.

The Truth About Male Stamina Versus Female Fulfillment

What is the secret to Pete’s success? After all, this is a guy who has an orgasm after only 4 minutes of sexual intercourse. How can he and his wife have such a satisfying sex life?

The answer is simple – Pete knows foreplay and is good at it, which is much better than Joe who prides himself on his staying power. Not only does Pete knows physical foreplay – which is essential for the sexual encounter to be satisfying to his wife – he also knows how to connect with her at an emotional level to hike up her anticipation before sex.

If you have premature ejaculation, start to develop a mindset like Pete’s who knows how to please a woman. Try different ways to get her hot and sexually fulfill your partner every single time. Such sexual competence will have an incredible effect on your performance and level of satisfaction for the both of you. And the confidence that comes along with this will eventually give you a LOT of leverage over your endurance in bed too!