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Last Longer In Bed – With This Special Masturbation Technique

Last longer in bed with this simple trick – it’s so easy you’ll wonder why you didn’t think of it yourself! When you last longer in bed, your girl will love it!

Masturbation Affects How Long You Last!

One thing you’ve got to understand if you want to last longer in bed is how masturbation affects how long you last.

The problem that most men have when it comes to premature ejaculation that they DON’T EVEN REALIZE that they are actually causing it to happen, because of negative and unconscious habits.

As weird as it may sound, if you suffer from premature ejaculation, it’s not because you’ve got a “bad gene” or have the wrong penis size or are just plain unlucky, it’s because of the habits you’ve developed during life that are UNCONSCIOUSLY causing you ejaculate prematurely.

And one of the main examples of this that almost every man overlooks is masturbation.

Think About It….

Think for a second about what your habits for masturbation were like when you were younger and growing up.

If you’re like most men then when you were younger you probably didn’t have all the freedom in the world to masturbate. Maybe your mother could pop into your room at any time, or maybe you had a brother or sister that could come barging into your bedroom at any moment or maybe you were living in some kind of community where there really wasn’t any privacy.

Whatever your specific situation was, almost every man growing up can relate to the fact of not feeling like there was necessarily all the privacy available to them when they wanted it.

And what did this mean?

Well it meant that when it came to masturbating you didn’t have many options. You could either take your time doing it and hugely increase the chances of you getting caught, or you could try and orgasm as quickly as possible in an attempt to try and minimize the chances of being walked in on.

From all my communications with men in teaching them how to last longer in bed, my understanding is that most opt for option number 2.

Because no one wants to get caught masturbating. And it’s the logical thing to do at the time.

When Men Get Older, Do Their Habits Change?

But as our opportunities for privacy increase with age most men don’t change this habit. Because we’ve done it all our childhood, most men just keep masturbating with the aim to orgasm as quickly as possible.

But there’s one big problem here – when you masturbate, you condition yourself for how long you last.

Did you get that?

Because that’s an important point.

If you want to know how to last longer in bed, understanding the importance of masturbation is HUGE. When you masturbate you are literally training your body for how long you expect it to last during sex. Most men masturbate for only a few minutes, but when it comes to sex want it to last for over 30 minutes, but this just isn’t how the body works.

If you want to last longer in bed then you’ve got to realize this fact about masturbation and make the change to the way you do it.

And making the change really isn’t that hard. Most men just never do it because they don’t realize the impact that how long they masturbate for has on how long they’ll last. But now that you’ve got this crucial understanding you don’t have to make the same mistake.

Make this habit change today and commit from now on to always take your time to masturbate for as long as you want to go.

Last Longer In Bed And Really Rock Your Girl’s World!

By lloydlester

Last longer in bed and WOW your lover with your newfound sexual skills! When you last longer in bed, BOTH of you benefit!

Is premature ejaculation giving you plenty to worry about in the bedroom? Do you find yourself struggling with confidence and self esteem issues? Are you in a constant state of feeling inadequate with your performance in bed? If you are, then you really should stop, because things may not be as bad as you think. Why? Let’s find out below!

How Long Is Long Enough?

This is one question that practically every man wants to know. They want to know if they are good enough for their female partners. This is understandable. After all, the quality of a couple’s sex life is very often a reflection of the quality of the relationship.

According to sex surveys done over the last decade, 75 percent of men want to know how to last longer in bed. That is a huge figure! But here’s a simple truth – you only need to last as long as her! Many men think (and quite wrongly too!) that they need to go on for hours during sex. Nothing is further from the truth. Most women get an orgasm within 15 minutes, so that is the amount of time you should aim for.

Want to know an even better truth? That “15 minutes” can be shortened significantly – if you learn to give her proper stimulation BEFORE you start intercourse.

Find out what SHE likes in bed. Some women prefer a decent amount of foreplay; others crave oral sex; yet others love a little teasing, dirty talk before sex. Give her what she likes first, and you will have a far easier time managing your endurance in bed.

Ejaculating Early Is No Big Deal, Unless You Choose To Let It Become One!

The next time you climax early, tell her it’s because she is so HOT and turns you on so much. Believe me… women are also very conscious about how they “perform” in bed. So if you “blame” her for your early ejaculation problem, she will actually begin to think that she is really attractive. That will take the pressure off you to perform and help you last longer! But you better buck up the next time you make out with her!

Another great way and practical way to improve your sexual stamina is to train and condition the ejaculatory muscles, also known as the pubococcygeus muscle (or PC). Specific exercises such as Kegel and elevation techniques are proven ways to strengthen and bolster these muscles to give you great control and endurance and amazing sex to boot!

Erotic Massage: How To Give A Killer Butt Massage

By loveandsex

Erotic massage relaxes your lover, getting them ready for sex. You don’t want to neglect the neck – here are the erotic massage techniques you want to use.

The first goal of the erotic massage is to relax your partner. Taking adequate time to apply the following relaxing and stress-reducing massage techniques will help melt away any apprehension your partner may have and encourage her to let go and to trust you. You will want to begin with your lover lying face down on the massage table with her backside exposed to you. Next, take the towel or fabric and gently drape it over her buttocks. This will help make her feel more comfortable about lying naked in front of you.

Next, apply about a teaspoon of warmed massage oil onto one hand and rub it briskly between both of your hands until the oil is warm. Once your hands are primed with oil, you are ready to begin the massage, starting your partner’s back.

Back Techniques

With the flat of your hands facing downward and using long, slow soothing strokes, apply a delicate pressure and move your hands back and forth and up and down the entire area of her back. If you feel too much friction on her skin during your rubbing motions, apply a bit more oil.

When stroking your partner, it’s good to use directional movements. Start at a particular spot on her back and end at another spot. An example of this would be to start at the base of her lower back just above her buttocks, then move up in a long slow stroke to her shoulders, and then down the sides of her arms all the way to her hands. Using both of your hands one on each side of her body simultaneously to do this gives a great effect, but you can as well do it using one hand. After finishing a stroke such as this, you can then repeat it in reverse by starting from her hands up to her shoulders and then back down to the base of her lower back. Or, start by following in reverse and then continue a transition to another area of her body.

Remember that any suggestions in this book are only to give you ideas on how to get started as a great giver of sensual touch massage. By getting a good idea of what to do through these practices, you will become more confident and be more capable of creating your own strokes and techniques. The main rule here is that whatever you try on her, if you notice that she is enjoying it, expand on those moves and techniques using your own intuition and guidance. In short, be creative! That’s the fun part of the exploring your partner through massage. The more you explore, the more you will learn and the more fun you and your partner will have.

Shoulders And Neck

The neck and shoulders are typically very stressful areas. Most people hold a majority of the tension in their neck and shoulder regions. Women especially carry their stress in these locations. So massaging these areas makes for a great opportunity to relax and soothe your partner with your masterful hands. Learn how to massage these areas well and she’ll be putty in your hands – this is what makes this area such a great place to start!

Standing or kneeling beside her on either side, start your stroke from the outside edges of her upper shoulders where her arms connect and move up towards her neck. You can use both hands simultaneously to do this or just one hand and shoulder side at a time. Continue this stroke a few times up to her neck and then back down again to the outer edges of her shoulders. Using the ends of your fingers and thumbs works well for this move versus the entire palm of your hand. Circular strokes are also effective.

If you want to apply a bit more pressure on her shoulder muscles, you can lightly grab (like a light pinch) and knead them between your thumb and fingers. This works well when using both hands together, with one hand on each side of her shoulders. And remember, if she expresses any kind of pain while you are doing this or any other massage techniques on her, back off the pressure or move to another location.

Remember to keep an eye on her facial expressions and body language, as well as any verbal moans or groans. Be sure to check win with her from time to time throughout the beginning phase of the massage so that you can get a better understanding of what feels good to her and what doesn’t.

Now on up into her neck. Again using the ends of your fingers flat against her neck, rub gently up the sides of her neck starting from bottom to top. The lower point of the neck muscle you are massaging here starts around the base of the shoulders, and the highest point is where the muscle connects with the back of her head. These muscles tend to hold quite a bit of tension and stress, so it’s important to spend some extra time in this area.

Another effective technique for massing the back of the neck is to lightly grasp the muscles between your thumb and fingers as shown in the picture below. With an in-and-out kneading motion (grasping and releasing), work your way up and down her neck. This technique will feel especially good to her as you can really work those muscles deeply to release the tightness and tension. The amount of pressure you use depends on what she personally likes. The best way to find out is to ask her how it is. Is it too much? Is it too little? Good communication is essential when giving massage.

As mentioned previously, women tend to contain a lot of their stress in their shoulders and neck, and the more relaxed you can get her by massaging these areas, the better off the rest of the massage will go due to her being able to relax and release her tension. If she expresses a lot of pleasure and relief by massaging these areas, by all means continue for a good amount of time before you move on. Ten to fifteen minutes should do well.

How To Be AMAZING In Bed!

By lloydlester

Sex tips are definitely a must have if you want to be an excellent lover. Arm yourself with these incredible sex tips and be the best your partner ever had!

Everyone loves to have great sex. And contrary to conventional wisdom, women love sex as much as guys do, if not more! But what if you feel that your sex life has turned somewhat dull and dreary and needs a little “oomph”? Don’t sweat it! There is plenty you can do to make ordinary sexual experiences into toe-curling erotic adventures in between the sheets. These three sensuous tips, for example, are a great start to give her the best sex of her life!

Set The Scene Right

One of the best sex tips is to make sure you have the right mood set in the area you’re going to be in. Ambience plays a great deal in making sex awesome. Pay attention to the sights and sounds. Try giving your bedroom a sultry, sexy backdrop by introducing colored light bulbs. Did you know that purple color can intensify a woman’s orgasm? It is a surefire way to amplify her erotic energy really fast. Why not spin some romantic, sensual music to get her in the mood too? Women love some moments of intimacy before getting into sex. Sip on a glass of wine and introduce some CD that is hot and delectable to turn up her passion. If you have a fireplace, cuddle up together and seek out her pleasure spots.

Unleash The Art Of Erotic Kissing

Women can’t seem to get enough of kissing from their loved ones. Kissing is super important in an intimate relationship and it surprises me why so many guys gloss over this crucial moment of intimacy. If you want to sizzle up your sex life, try some sexy kissing tricks to get her temperatures moving fast. For instance, suck on an ice cube or sip on a cold drink just before you kiss her. She will get hot really fast! Or consume some foods such as strawberries or honey to introduce some tantalizing sweetness in your mouth when you kiss. And don’t forget to kiss her even when you are making love!

Bring On The Sex Furniture!

Beds are dull and boring. Sex furniture is a great way to spice up the whole sexual experience. These are usually very discreet and blend in really well with the rest of your home decor. Unlike sex toys, both you and your partner can enjoy using sex furniture together. These allow you to experiment with intercourse positions that you don’t usually get with flat surfaces such as like beds or mattresses. With these, you can fit your bodies perfectly together and ensure that her clitoris and G-spot are properly stimulated during sex.

Premature Ejaculation – Stop It By NOT Doing These 2 Things!

By jackgrave

Premature ejaculation can equal no sex life for you. Steer clear of these two problems and say goodbye to premature ejaculation forever!

Did you know that being able to prevent premature ejaculation comes down to avoiding a few simple mistakes? Soon you’ll know exactly what those mistakes are so you never have to make them again!

Problem #1 – Trying To Have Sex Like A Porn Star

If there’s a sure-fire way to not last long in bed then it’s trying to have sex like a porn star. Many men learn everything they know about sex either through porn or from friends who learned from porn.

The bottom line is, since sex is such a taboo subject no one ever takes the time to teach young men the best ways to have sex and how to last long in bed. So what us men do when we’re young (myself included) is we look to the only source we know to learn from – which is porn.

Unfortunately, porn is VERY much unlike the real thing.

There’s no doubt you know this already, but spending our time watching porn has a deep UNCONSCIOUS influence on our ideas of sex that we can struggle to see ourselves. For starters have you ever stopped to think about the fact that porn is EDITED?

Remember, the directors want the porn to run as seamlessly as possible and be as entertaining as possible, which means if the male actor needs to take 5 minutes out to stop him from reaching orgasm early, then they’ll let him do that and just cut those 5 minutes out during production.

Did it ever cross your mind that stuff like this could actually happen?

There are a ton of other things that are totally misleading about porn that I won’t go into here, but you get the idea. Don’t use porn as a sex guide for lasting longer, because the men involved can take a break whenever they want and they won’t show you if they’re using any special techniques for lasting longer.

Problem #2 – Not Giving Her A Great Orgasm (Or Two Or Three) First

One way to prevent premature ejaculation is to reduce the pressure to perform.

Sometimes when it comes to sex we feel so much pressure to satisfy the woman we’re with that we get incredibly nervous and anxious about sex. Unfortunately, this angst and nervousness only ENCOURAGES premature ejaculation and makes it MORE likely to happen.

So how can you take this pressure off and reduce nerves? A really simple way to help reduce your nervousness is to take the time during foreplay to really satisfy your woman and get her to orgasm.

After you know you’ve already deeply satisfied her a LOT of the pressure is taken off of you to perform, because if you do orgasm early it won’t matter half as much if she’s already had an orgasm. And with this pressure off you’ll find it’s actually a lot easier to last longer, because the anxiety to perform won’t be there.

Just avoiding a few simple mistakes like these when it comes to sex is critical to prevent premature ejaculation, because no matter what you do to try and last longer, if you keep making a few critical mistakes you’ll never be able to last longer in bed.