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How To Make Sex Over 40 GREAT! (Ladies Only)

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Sex tips specifically for women over forty can help older women have a super hot, satisfying orgasmic sex life! Sex tips for these women differ slightly than sex tips for younger women, because as the body ages, it is important to realize that sex can be different too. But that doesn’t mean you can’t have AWESOME sex! It could be better sex than you ever had!

Use Plenty Of Lubrication

A lot of couples assume that if they’re turned on, they don’t need additional lubrication during intercourse. Having plenty of lubrication, natural or otherwise, is essential for great sex for both younger couples and older ones, although, older women may find that they need a little more than they used to. This is not at all uncommon. In fact, every couple should have a bottle of good, water based lubricant in their nightstand drawer, because honestly, it just makes sex feel better!

When there’s less friction and more sensual gliding, things are going to feel better. This is especially true for older women, because as the body ages, the vagina can become drier and less supple. Using good quality lubricants like Pjur can help moisturize the tissues down there and make your genitals look and feel supple and young – not to mention, sex will feel better without the uncomfortable friction!

Have Lots Of Foreplay

When you’re younger, you can often jump right into sex without a lot of foreplay because sex is newer and more fun – it doesn’t take long for the body to get excited. But when you’ve been around the block a few times so to speak, just the idea of having sex isn’t enough to get a woman turned on. Women naturally require lots of foreplay before sex to get them aroused enough for sex to feel good, yet this is one of the sex tips that is most commonly ignored.

Don’t underestimate the power of foreplay and make sure that you engage in it as often as possible. Foreplay can start as soon as you wake up – lovingly caress your partner, tease them and whisper naughty things in their ear. You’ll both be thinking about sex all day and by the time you get home, it will be all you can do not to rip each other’s clothes off and get it on right then and there.

Invest In Good Quality Sex Toys

When you get older and more experienced with sex, you will naturally want to try new things and stretch your boundaries a little bit. Investing in some good quality sex toys can definitely spice up your sex life. Go shopping with your partner or alone and look for sex toys that you can use together as well as during masturbation. Let your partner get a masturbation sleeve to spice up his solo sessions, and get yourself a great little clitoral vibrator that you can use with him or on your own. When you’re over forty, you can afford to take some risks and experiment with new and fun sex toys!

Share Your Fantasies

If you’ve never shared your sexual fantasies with your lover, now may be the time. You’re getting older, so there’s really no point in keeping everything to yourself and never getting to live out your fantasies. This works well when you’ve been in a long term relationship with someone for quite awhile, because you tend to get more comfortable with someone as you age and continue to have a relationship with them.

So instead of being shy and keeping all of your sexual fantasies to yourself, take a little risk and start to tell your lover what really turns you on. Take turns sharing with each other what new things you’d like to try, or different ways you’d like to do things. If you’re comfortable and safe in your relationship, revealing your innermost desires can really be a lot of fun!

The Fantasy Box

Even if you’re older and wiser, sharing your deepest sexual fantasies with your partner can be a little nerve wracking. Try a Fantasy Box. The Fantasy Box concept is an excellent way to introduce new and different things in your sex life in a fun, new way. Each of you write a few different fantasies that you’d like to try and put them on slips of paper. Put them in a special box, a hat or whatever you can find and mix them up. Pull one out and have a blast acting out the fantasy! This way, you both get to try each other’s fantasies without judgement.

5 Tricks To Keep Married Sex Hot – REVEALED!

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Sex tips aren’t just for newbies – even couples who have been having sex together for years can use a handful of sex tips to keep the temperature in the bedroom from plummeting. Here are five suggestions that will keep sex with your spouse as great as it was in the beginning!

Lavish Your Partner With Oral Sex

When you and your lover first got together, oral sex was most likely on the menu more often than it wasn’t – this is probably due in part to the fact that you most likely engaged in oral sex before you actually did the dirty, and also because it was new. As you and your spouse have aged and have gotten more comfortable with each other, you likely don’t shave every day or make sure your nether regions are groomed and presentable for oral sex. Therefore, going down on each other has probably taken a bit of a backseat in your marriage.

Bring that back by lavishing your partner with oral sex. Take a shower with your partner first, and make shaving or washing part of foreplay. Getting your spouse fresh, clean and smelling good for cunnilingus or fellatio is a turn on for both you and your lover! Once they’re ready, sit them down and pitch your tent between their legs – yeah, you’re going to be camping out there for awhile. This is what is meant by lavish – lick every single nook and cranny, slowly as though you never want it to end. Be enthusiastic and never give your partner the idea that you’d rather be doing something else. It’s likely they’ll return the favor – and it will be mind blowing!

Go Super Slow (Make Sure The Kids Are In Bed)

Make sure the kids are in bed – or call a babysitter and head to a hotel for a night of long, drawn out sex. Married couples are often overwhelmed with daily life such as work, kids, bills and other day to day stresses that they’re lucky if they get to squeeze in a quickie here and there. If you want to heat your sex life back up though, you’re going to need to make time to enjoy your partner sexually.

On your night “off” so to speak, plan for a romantic evening with dinner, dessert, candles, romance – the whole nine yards. Once you get to foreplay and sex, don’t speed it up – keep going slow and don’t be in a rush to get to the finish line. Enjoy each and every moment like it was “new” – just like when you and your spouse were first together. So what if you’re not checking your phone for a few hours? It’s totally worth it.

Try New Sex Toys

This doesn’t necessarily mean introduce more vibrators or dildos into your sex life – because you probably have already had your fair share of those. You’ve done vaginal penetration, you’ve vibrated the clitoris – it’s time to find something really, really new to do! If you’ve never tried anal sex, buy a teeny-tiny butt plug or anal vibrator that allows you to experiment with anal sensations without committing to full on anal sex. Never tried bondage before? Grab an Under The Bed Restraint that slips under your bed (and is easily hidden when not in use). Let go of your inhibitions and explore things that turn you on that you’ve never tried before.

Try All Natural Sexual Enhancers

There are plenty of libido enhancers on the market and a lot of them don’t work worth a damn. However, there are some great products out there that will definitely heighten the sensations experienced during sex – and we’re not talking Viagra here. Sensitivity gels and creams work well, as do tingling and sensation intensifying lubes. One of the better sexual enhancers on the market these days are Penthouse Performance & Pleasure Shots – one for guys and one for gals. Like a little energy drink, you chug it and in about thirty minutes, everything feels amazing!

Find A New Sex Position Or Two

One mistake that married couples often make when trying to spice up their sex life is bringing in tons of new sex positions – and it’s difficult to get really good at one or two if you’re just trying as many as you can. Instead, pick one or two new sex positions that give you and your partner new sensations and work on mastering them. After a few tries, the sex position will still be “new” enough to bring the heat, but you’ll have practiced it enough to know exactly what to do to make it feel incredible.

21 Short & Sweet Sex Tips You CAN’T Miss!

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Sex tips come in all forms – lengthy, detailed and more. But THESE sex tips are easily digestible, so you don’t want to miss out on these sexy little jewels!

If You Have Trouble Reaching Orgasm

Masturbate before sex first, but don’t let yourself reach climax. Then, when you and your partner start getting it on, you’ll zoom to the peak in no time.

If You’ve Never Had An Orgasm

Masturbate. Enough said.

Use Your PC Muscles During Sex

Girls, squeeze his penis with your vaginal muscles as he’s thrusting. Do this one the “out” stroke and it will be easier on you, do this on the “in” stroke and you’ll feel super tight to him.

Don’t Neglect Your Nipples

Either have your partner pinch, lick and suck on them or do it yourself. This works especially well if you’re on the edge but just can’t seem to tip over.

Act Out Your Fantasies

There are lots of ways to act out your fantasies, even if you can’t go all out. Get a few inexpensive props and let your imagination run WILD!

Do The Opposite Of What You Usually Do

Most people start having sex slowly, and work up to a faster and faster pace. Mix things up by turning it around so you’re starting out super fast and slowing down as you get closer and closer to orgasm. This will drive you both absolutely crazy!

Talk Dirty

If you don’t already do this, start. It makes a huge difference in how hot and naughty your sex life feels.

Use Pillows

Invest in some really good, fluffy yet sturdy pillows. Use them to help you reach different angles during sex by propping various body parts up with pillows. Get creative with this!

Bring The Edibles To The Bedroom

You know, the sexy ones. Cherries, whipped cream, caramel, chocolate sauce…you get the idea! Have your lover for dessert!

Try Sixty-Nine

If you’ve never had simultaneous oral sex before, now is the time to try. Once you get going and get lost in the moment, it will be hard to tell who stops and starts where and who is doing what!

Show Your Partner What You Like

Are you shy? Get over it! Display your masturbatory habits to your partner so they can see what you like and re-enact it.

Forget Missionary

Sure, it’s great and all but work some other sex positions in there too. Girl on top helps a woman reach orgasm faster, while doggy style feels absolutely naughty.

Never Underestimate The Power Of The Wet T-Shirt

Don a white t-shirt and undies, and step in the shower. If you’d rather not get the house soaked, make sure he’s in the shower when you get in.

Engage In PDA

Not the romantic kind, unless it’s that kind of event. We’re talking about the nasty, naughty, get-a-room kind of PDA here.

Try On Lingerie Together

Visit a lingerie store and try on your favorites together. This is especially fun if you don’t have the money to buy anything but still want the experience of seeing each other in your sexiest skivvies. Bonus points if you actually end up getting it on in the dressing room.

Give Your Partner Only Oral Sex, All Night Long

Forget about yourself for a night, and give your lover hours and hours of oral sex. Make the night all about THEM. Can’t stand the torture? Masturbate yourself while you go down on them. They’ll love it!

Be A Show Off

Walk around the house naked. Do the dishes naked. Better yet, next time you lie down for your partner, spread your legs wide and let them get the best view imaginable. They will love the fact that you’re not even a tiny bit shy in front of them (but only them).

Look Mom, No Hands!

Give your partner oral sex with your hands held (or tied) behind your back. The feeling of only your mouth will drive them absolutely insane!

Sex Games

Sex games are severely underrated. Find a brand new sex game that you’ve never tried and do it TONIGHT!

Go Deep

The best sex positions for the deepest penetration vary from couple to couple based on both individuals’ body types. Experiment with different sex positions until you find the one that allows you to have the deepest possible penetration!

Don’t Be Afraid To Scream!

Unless you’re going to get kicked out of your place, don’t be afraid to let a guttural moan or scream out every now and then. The animalistic sound is incredible!

Why Flowers And Jewelry Are Murdering Your Sex Life

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Have you ever sprung for a fancy night out on the town, a lavish bouquet of flowers or a piece of sparkly jewelry that makes your paycheck want to shrivel up and commit ritual suicide, thinking it was going to light a MAJOR fire in your sex life?

Only to find yourself hours later, feeling frustrated, horny and ripped off, staring at the ceiling, cursing your hard on and wondering why the night of head-board-cracking passion you were desperately dreaming of failed to materialize?

If you have, you sure as heck ain’t alone!

“I ain’t saying’ she’s a gold digger , but she ain’t messing with no broke bloke” – Kanye West

“Are those space pants? Because they make your ass look out of this WORLD” – Unknown.

Fact is a the world is chock full guys who have been brainwashed into thinking that the way to turn a woman on (whether she’s your wife, your girlfriend or even just that hot and sultry check out girl who always mangles your bread with such erotic passion) is by “being romantic” and “buying her stuff.”

Why Buying Romantic Stuff Won’t Get You Laid

  • It’s totally insulting to women and paints them as “gold diggers” who’s motors go into overdrive thanks to physical things (I think you can agree with me if you’re on this site that women are sexy, wonderful, awesome and smell great.)
  • It’s complete and utter BULLSHIT.

No Woman Can Really Be Seduced By Flowers

Despite what the romance industry and “Sex In The City” would tell you, NO WOMAN actually gets turned on by flowers (or by jewelry, or by super-price tickets to Cats. Actually, tickets to Cats might be grounds for divorce in some states.)

Now, I’m not saying your wife (or girlfriend or the mail carrier with the delectable thighs) won’t sleep with you if you shell out a lot of cash for on her.

A lot of women, when faced with a big bouquet, a bottle (or three) of good wine or a rock that makes your monthly mortgage look like pocket change will lay back and LET you make sweet (boring) love them out of a sense of duty or gratitude.

But There’s a Huge Difference Between Gratitude and LUST

Out of a sense of GRATITUDE, your wife (or girlfriend or that one waitress with the sexy limp) might LET you have your way with her .

But she probably won’t ENJOY it. She won’t BRAG to her friends about what an amazing lover you are and she won’t count down the moments until the next time she can pounce on you like a lioness digging into a porterhouse steak.

Bringing back my high school algebra, the equation is:

“Materialistic Romance” = “Sense of Gratitude and Duty” = Boring “by the numbers” sex where you think about porn stars and she thinks about knitting, or no sex at all because you’re both “too tired” and “married people don’t have that much sex anyway.”

Getting into her lizard brain and TURNING HER ON = Overwhelming, logic-killing lust = Silly grins, swishing hips, orgasms that make you pass out and the kind of cheat-proof marriage that builds nations and rolls back unfair taxation.

Pretty big difference, huh?

So how do you actually TURN YOUR WOMAN ON?

You don’t do it by “buying her stuff.”

How To REALLY Turn Her On

You’ve probably heard this before, but a woman’s biggest erogenous zone is her MIND (while a man’s biggest erogenous zone is his stomach. Wait, that’s probably not quite right.)

And the biggest way to “tickle” that erogenous zone – blowing past all her defenses, making her feel like you’re the ONE MAN who understands how to turn her on and get her so hot and ready she eye-f*cks the check out boy at the supermarket – is with stories and WORDS .

The simple fact is if you can TALK to your woman, draw her attention to the fires burning in her body and engage her imagination, you’ll have the “bed-destroying” sex you’ve been craving since your honeymoon, and that no amount of flowers, overpriced entrees or blood diamonds can ever replicate.

I’ll be teaching you some specifics about how to use language to turn any woman on in my next few articles.

In the meantime…

How To Give ANY Woman Multiple Orgasms And Have Her Sexually Addicted To You!

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This FREE VIDEO will show you how to give your girl the most incredible, heart-pounding sexual experiences of her entire life!

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When you watch this free video, you’ll learn secrets to get ANY woman off at ANY time, regardless of your penis size or sexual stamina, and even if you’ve been with your partner for YEARS and the “spark” seems gone.

The truth is, most men don’t have a clue how to touch a woman, make her feel good and get her off during sex – let alone give her incredible, body shaking orgasms. A lot of women cheat on their partners for one reason and one reason only:

Because she is bored with you in bed!

Women love and NEED sex just as much as a man, if not more! They crave orgasms given from their partner and not just any kind of orgasm – they want their lover to make them feel incredible! Girls want wet, wild, SQUIRTING orgasms just as much as YOU want to give them to her!

If you can give a woman INTENSE orgasms, she will do whatever you want, when ever you want! If you can please your girl, she’ll let out her inner freak and become totally, completely addicted to you! (Trust us when we say that her inner “bad girl” is way naughtier than you EVER thought possible)

You Probably Didn’t Know This But….

Girls HATE to tell you what to do in bed!

It’s completely embarrassing for a girl to have to show you what to do during sex – so much so that she’ll either go without and wait for you to get it over with, or find someone else who already knows how to please a woman. Even if she does show you what to do, she’ll be so turned off by the time you actually do it that she probably STILL won’t be able to get off.

You NEED to know what to do to get her off, WITHOUT her having to tell you!

This is the only way to have truly great sex and get her having multiple orgasms.

If you’re like most guys, you want to learn how to make your sex life SIZZLING HOT!

You might have struggled to give your female partner an orgasm, or you may never have been able to before. Rest assured, if you have problems getting your girl to reach climax, you’re not alone.

The Truth Is, MOST Guys Can’t Give Their Girl An Orgasm!

Most guys don’t know the first thing about how to put their hands on a woman, so forget trying to actually get her off. If you’ve been in that position before where you try and try and try to get your lover to reach climax only to fail miserably, then you KNOW how frustrating it is.

You KNOW how frustrating it is to go down on her for the better part of an hour, without her EVER having an orgasm!

You KNOW how it makes you feel like less of a man when you can’t give her the pleasure that other guys have before! 

There have been many nights where no matter how hard you try and no matter what you do, you just can’t get her OFF!

But does that mean you should assume that it’s impossible and stop trying?

NO!

You CAN have incredible sex with your lover – sex so good, she’s having 2, 3 or 4 orgasms and she’s so wild, she’s literally soaking the sheets as you thrust into her again and again! You CAN make your partner so satisfied in the bedroom that not only will she never even THINK of having sex with another guy, she’ll be begging and pleading for YOU to do her every single night!

Even if you have a small penis, average sexual skills or low stamina, you CAN become so good at giving your lover orgasms and pleasing her sexually, that she’ll think you’re a SEX GOD?

So, are you ready to say GOODBYE to a mediocre, boring sex life?

Do you finally want to be DONE with wondering if you pleased your lover in bed, or worrying whether she will find someone else that will give her the orgasms that you can’t?

Are you READY to make your sex life as hot as the porn stars?

She WANTS You!

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Who Wants To Learn About Sex From A Book?

shawna_4_resizeThere are tons of sex guides out there that claim to teach you how to give your lover an orgasm. While some of these sex tips may be useful, most guys can’t sit there and read a book for hours, trying to visualize different sex positions and techniques and how they would work. Guys need to SEE something to actually learn it!

This is why 2 Girls Teach Sex is DIFFERENT than any other sex instruction product out there!

And that’s why it will WORK for you!

2 Girls Teach Sex features gorgeous professionals acting out the fingering, oral sex techniques and sex positions that make their legs shake!

Wait, back up for a second.

You mean to say that this product has hot naked women that SHOW YOU exactly what to do on camera?

YES!

2 Girls Teach Sex is an instruction video, but you’re not going to have to sit there and watch someone sit in front of their webcam and read from a script about sex. How would you learn anything that way? With THIS product, you can get STEP-BY-STEP, visual instruction on how to make your lover orgasm over and over again!

What You’ll Learn In 2 Girls Teach Sex

  •  A simple twist on the missionary position that will make your penis feel 2 INCHES BIGGER to her! And she’ll feel even tighter to you!
  • 3 spots you only have to TOUCH before sex to get her squirming with anticipation and BEGGING you to be inside her!
  • How to tell if your girl is faking her orgasm (THIS is a dead giveaway! You’ll be able to tell every single time!)
  • What lesbians know about oral sex that YOU don’t
  • 6 easy tricks to give her a powerful clitoral orgasm
  • A technique that will give her an orgasm through penetration alone (she CANNOT do this by herself! She will be ADDICTED to you after this!)

When you discover the powerful sex secrets that thousands of men DON’T know, you will see five incredible changes in your sex life, LITERALLY OVERNIGHT!

Sex Will Never Be Boring Again!

2 Girls Teach Sex isn’t about sex tips that you use once or twice and get bored of them quickly, like so many other tips out there. These are techniques that produce an orgasm every single time, and no woman ever gets tired of climaxing!

Even if you end up sticking with your lover for months, years or for the rest of your lives, you will still be able to use the techniques you learned to keep your sex life stellar.

That’s right, it won’t matter how long you’ve been together! The sex will always be hot!

Don’t wait. Take control of your sex life now!

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