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How To Recover After Having Sex On The First Date

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Having sex on the first meeting can really screw things up for you. But is it possible to put having sex behind you and start over?

You messed up. You had too much wine, the lighting was just right or you gave into primal urges that you know you shouldn’t have. Now you’re looking for you panties as he’s making coffee in the other room. You really like this guy, but having sex with him on the first meeting was never supposed to be in the cards. The worst part is that you think you might have a future with him and you don’t want him to think that you’re the kind of girl that gives it up willy-nilly. Even though the relationship has gotten off to a sexualized start, you can recover. Here is a guide on how to recover after having sex with him on the first date.

Understand The Situation

You slept with him but that doesn’t mean that he’s your boyfriend. This also doesn’t mean that you’re his girlfriend. Understanding the relationship took a turn gives you perspective. Yes, most of the mystery was lost when you slept with him, but this doesn’t mean that you can’t have a meaningful relationship. Knowing that having sex with him on the first date doesn’t define the relationship is the first step in recovering from this misstep.

Don’t Return Texts

More than likely, the guy is going to feel guilty about having sex with you on first date. If the guy is truly interested in pursuing a relationship, wait for him to call. If he sends a text, shoot him one back that says “Give me a call when you get a second. Thanks!” or something similar. Guys that were only interested in having sex will text you with expectations. Guys that want to move past the mistake of getting physical too early will want to take you out on a proper date. Proper dates require real communication. Phone calls are real communication. The only exception is if he is truly busy and he sends you a text from work asking you to have dinner with him.

Second Time Around

So, you went on the first date and we know how that turned out. What about the second date? The second date is going to be the real date. This is a test of how you can handle the fact that you have already been together but don’t really know each other. One of the best things to do is talk about the fact that you did sleep together. Don’t make excuses or you could make him feel inadequate or unworthy. For instance, if you say “ Listen, I had a lot to drink the other night” or something similar, he might think that you used him for sex. You might even get him thinking that you think he used you for sex. Just say, “I don’t want what happened the other night to ruin what we might have.” This tells him that you are open to the idea of a relationship, but it’s business as usual from here on out.

Make Him Wait

You had sex on the first date, but that doesn’t mean that you’re going to give it up again. Make him wait and earn sex again. Having sex with him again on the second date could lead to expectation. If he asks you to come over to his house after the date, politely tell him that you don’t think that’s a good idea. He should agree. If he presses the issue, he might only be in it for the sex and you should tread lightly. Once a guy has had sex with you, he might lose interest. This is common, which is the reason that you should never have sex on the first date. If the guy does press the issue, he sees you as a way to get laid and his interest in a serious relationship has faded. Move on. Once a guy sees you in this light it’s going to be very difficult to bring him back. Decline the request and make him wait for at least 2 more dates before you sleep with him again.

Having sex with a guy on the first date is a horrible idea that usually ends badly. If you do slip up and give into the temptations of the flesh, there are a few ways that you can steer the relationship back to where it needs to be. By knowing how to handle the situation, you might be able to understand the situation and get your guy to accept the fact that you both faltered. Always remember that you are in control of the situation and if the guy isn’t up for a real relationship, you will move on.

Why He Doesn’t Want To Have Sex With You

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You want to have sex and he doesn’t. You’re all over him, and he obviously looks like he would rather be doing something else – or at the very least, just not into what you’re doing. Why? You’re butt naked (or even wearing lingerie) and totally smokin’ hot – but he doesn’t seem to desire to have sex at all. How frustrating! What does it mean when he won’t have sex with you? Is there something wrong with you?

Not exactly. Yes, you could be contributing to his not wanting to do it right at that point in time, but there are also some other reasons that he might not want to have sex that are totally beyond your control. Here’s why he might not want to do it when you initiate it:

Lack Of Foreplay

While men often get the reputation of being able to get hard and ready for sex in seconds, this is not always the case. Men actually require foreplay too before they have sex (that is, if they want to get into it at all), although usually not as much as women do.

If you try to get it on with a guy before he’s had enough time during foreplay to get really aroused, you’re going to end up with one of two things – a guy with a semi hard on, or a guy who wants his and wants to get back to what he was doing before. This isn’t really a win-win for either of you. So make sure to include plenty of foreplay in your sex routine, before you ever get started. Oral sex is a great way to do this – often, just a ten minute blowjob will get him warmed up and aroused enough to really want to have sex.

Lack Of Interest On Your Part

A man doesn’t want to have sex with a blow up doll. Or a robot. If he wanted that, he could just go buy a blow up doll. If he’s even remotely interested in sex and makes a move – and you’re not interested or enthusiastic at all – he’ll lose his desire pretty quick. That may leave you wondering what’s going on, especially if you’ve been faking orgasm. A lot of guys can smell a fake from a mile away and that will turn him off faster than if you were dressed like his mother.

Whether he makes the first move or you do, make sure you show lots of interest in him and what is going on. Don’t be distracted by the television, the computer or your phone. In fact, shut all those things off and show your man that you want to pay attention to him and only him. This will get him perked up pretty much right away and as he sees you continue to be really interested in getting it on with him (especially if you’re one of those women who really enjoys giving your man pleasure), he’ll get more and more into it himself.

He’s Not Turned On

It happens to women all the time – even really hot women. For example, he’s watching the game and you bring him a beer. You notice that he has an erection. Your ass looks particularly fine in your jeans today, so it must be that. Or maybe it’s the seductive look you gave him when you sauntered in to where he is sitting. You hone in on him to get things started and he looks at you like you’ve lost your marbles. What? He’s got an erection! Doesn’t that mean he wants to have sex? Not always.

Just because he’s hard doesn’t mean that he’s actually turned on or that he wants sex right at that moment. Sometimes, his penis gets hard on its own, really for no reason at all. This happens throughout the day, but especially at night while he’s sleeping. So you may misread his erection as being turned on, when really, it’s just his body going on about it’s natural business.

So instead of feeling rejected next time you spring on him and he’s just not into it (despite the physical clues that he does), chalk it up to one of those random hard-ons and find something else to do. Try again when he’s relaxed and bring on the foreplay. Take your time, show him you really want him and let things take their natural course. With some effort on your part, it won’t be long before he changes his tune.

How To Get Her Into Your Bedroom – Tonight

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Seduction is a game that you have to get good at if you want to get a woman in bed with you. Try these seduction tactics if you want to get laid tonight!

So, we’ve all been there. You meet a woman that is really cool and you’ve been out with her a couple of times. Since you have taken her out for dinner over the last couple of dates, you want to move things into a more personal setting. You invite her over to your house for dinner and to hang out. Inviting a woman over to your house for dinner is one of the best ways to escalate the relationship to a physical and more personal level. This works the best because she gets to see your personal style and gains access to “your world.”

You cook the dinner and everything is going great. But then the nervousness comes in. How do you get her from the living room to your bedroom? This is where a lot of guys fumble. Getting her from your living room to your bedroom is not a very hard task, but many guys fail because they have not prepared for the situation. Here is a very simple guide on how to get her from the living room to the bedroom.

Getting Prepared

Preparing your home for an impending visit is imperative to success. Make sure that your bathroom has been cleaned prior to the girl coming over. If the girl walks into your bathroom and it’s messy or undesirables are left inside the you know where, you can be sure that she’s not going to see you in the most positive light. Vacuum, dust, and mop your floors. When it comes to your bedroom, make sure that your bed is made and that you have condoms in the nightstand. This is the only place in the house that you should keep them (more on that in a second). Dirty laundry should be in a clothes hamper in a closet and the blinds should be down. The last thing you want to do is be messing with blinds when you should be starting the seduction game.

NOTE: If at all possible, move the best TV in the house to your bedroom.

The Preview

Even though the girl has been out with you a few times, she could be just as nervous going to your house as you are having her over. When a woman comes to your home, they are in one way submitting trust. Even though this is fairly minimal, it’s still apparent. When she comes into your house, offer her a tour. This is essential to creating comfort. Women and men both feel uncomfortable with the unknown. When you give her a tour, she knows where everything is in the house and has a cognitive view of the entire structure. Think about this. Have you ever felt nervous when going to a new bar or club? That’s how she feels. This simple measure puts her at ease and starts the seduction process.

Entertainment

When you are finished with dinner, you can’t just start initiating foreplay. Come up with a way to display physicality between the two of you. A movie works best because you can put your arm around her or cuddle on the couch. Watching TV is not recommended because changing channels, awkward commercial breaks or indecisiveness on what to watch can interrupt the impending moment. You want a streamlined activity such as a movie to put the activity on autopilot. If you have a roommate, you can easily get her from the living room to the bedroom by saying something like “We should watch this in my room so we don’t bother my roommate.

Another way to get her from your living room to your bedroom is to say something like “The TV in my bedroom is better than the one down here” or “this couch isn’t very comfortable for watching a movie. We should go upstairs.” Since you have moved the best TV into your bedroom, this will work. Because she has already been in your room, she will be more compliant.

When To Throw In the Towel

Women are not stupid. If there is interest and trust, they will not have a problem with going into your bedroom. If she is repeatedly refusing to go into your bedroom, there is a problem. Half of seduction is knowing how to not push here too far. When she is uncomfortable she will have her guard up. When she is comfortable, she will comply with what you’re asking with little defiance. This is the easiest way to get her from your living room to your bedroom. When implemented properly, you will see a huge spike in your results.

9 Ways To Get Laid On Vacation

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The sex tips for your vacation is as follows: Get some! It’s really not a very good get away if you can’t get some action while you’re away. Here’s how you can get laid on your next trip!

What She Said:

Set the intention of finding a casual fling for your vacay – odds are you’ll meet someone with the same goal!

Go Tropical

Nothing says “vacation” like getting lit on rum and trying to limbo. It’s a great way to show that you’re fun loving, you’re loosing up and you’re willing to shed your inhibitions! It’s also a great way to get a preview of who’s the most flexible amongst your potential flings. Bonus – the warmer the climate, the fewer the clothes.

Go On A Singles’ Cruise

Yep, it sounds cheesy – and yes, they do still exist! However, if you’re willing to set aside you’re skepticism, odds are you’ll be knee-deep in fun. What else are you going to do, stranded together in the middle of the ocean?

Hit The Bars

No matter where your getaway takes you, bars and alcohol are the universal combination for folks who want to socialize and let their guard down. This is doubly true when you’re at a tourist destination. Make eye contact, start up a friendly conversation and see where it leads.

Flirt!

Be it the restaurant, the bar or in line for the next parasailing spot. If you see someone you’re interested in, give him or her a smile. You’ve got nothing to lose!

Ask

Vacations aren’t reality – they’re an escape from the daily grind. Therefore the normal rules don’t apply. Approaching someone with a bold proposition that might get you slapped back home could be just the ticket for a freewheelin’ traveler. Especially during Spring Break or Burning Man. Just saying!

What He Said:

Be Direct

You don’t have forever to make this happen. You are on vacation for a short, specified time. Make the most of it. Go big or go home. Being shy just isn’t get this done. You need to have some confidence, liquid or otherwise.

Forget Who You Are

You are not your job or your home life or your obligations. All the stresses and duties you have at home are at home. Not on vacation. So if you’re not the type of person to have a threesome or have a one night stand or pick up someone at a bar, who cares? You aren’t that person on vacation. Be that guy or girl you’ve always wanted to be.

Be Fearless

What do you care if someone slaps you for being too bold? What do you care if you get shot down? You’re on vacation? You’ll never see these people again! It’s not like you vacation in the place you live and work! That’s not much of a vacation. So you go somewhere new and exciting, and you go there for a reason. So go for it! Say and do things that you wouldn’t normally. That’s what a vacation is. An escape from reality. Own it. Embrace it.

Take Accountability

It’s your vacation. Ownership of it is on your shoulders. If you have fun or you don’t, if you have sex or you don’t, it is on you. You can’t control other people so having goals based on other people may not be so great but make sure you control things on your end and you can’t go wrong.

Top 10 Best Redneck Places To Have Sex

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Sex can be classy, or it can be downright dirty. Getting it on in the country, or just the way a “country gal” might, can be a lot of fun and may end up being really memorable! Want to know some truly “redneck” places to have sex? Here are ten you and your partner can have fun trying!

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In A Barn Loft Full Of Hay

While the hay might be coarse and itchy (heads up, bring a blanket), this can definitely be a romantic and sexy way to connect with your inner “redneck.” The smell of the hay will help you get in touch with your country side, and you and your lover can have fun bringing the term “rolling around in the hay” to life.

On The Fence In The Middle Of A Farm

One of the best things about being on a farm is that you’re really out in the middle of nowhere. There’s almost never anyone around, so you can have nearly complete privacy while still being out in the open and experiencing the thrill of “public sex.” Hop up on a picket fence and get busy! Make sure to avoid having sex on electric cattle fences – they’re pretty easy to spot, but if you do mistake an electric fence for a regular fence, your bum is going to be sorry!

Grab A Quickie At The County Fair

The county fair is a great place to grab a quickie. There are plenty of places to do it, and almost no one is paying attention – they’re too busy playing carnival games or people watching. Next time the fair is in town, find a secluded nook and get it on with your lover. Standing sex positions are probably your best bet here, there’s no telling what is on the ground – it could be anything from petting zoo waste to sticky popcorn and cotton candy.

On A Hunting Platform In A Tree

Find a much better use for a hunting platform and use it for sex instead of shooting wild animals. This can be super fun if you’re not afraid of heights – just be careful and make sure that the platform you’ve chosen is sturdy enough to support both yours and your partner’s weight combined. Don’t go at it too vigorously though – shaking the entire tree might not be in your best interest.

At A Public Laundromat

There are few things more raunchy than having sex in a public laundromat. If you happen to go when it’s either really early or really late (never on the weekends, laundromats are always super busy on Saturdays and Sundays), you will often find yourselves alone for quite some time. Take advantage of the privacy and bend over a commercial washer doggy style!

In A Car Lift At The Auto Shop

When your car is being worked on, sneak into the backseat and have sex while your car is lifted up in the air. The bonus? No one will be able to hear you and your lover getting it on over the noise of the machinery in the shop. The caveat? It’s going to be pretty tough sneaking in the backseat without anyone from the shop noticing you. Even if you manage to get up there without anyone being the wiser, you’re probably not going to be able to get out without someone seeing you.

On A Blanket In The Middle Of A Pasture

This one is actually very easy to do and you probably won’t get caught doing it. Find an empty pasture and bring a blanket – and a picnic if you like – and relax under the open air. Do this at sunrise, sunset or at night under the stars. It’s simple, fun and super romantic! Just be sure to avoid the cow paddies.

Under The Bleachers At A Monster Truck Rally

If the idea of monster trucks crushing each other and the sound of twisting metal turns you on (what redneck doesn’t like monster trucks?), grab two tickets to a monster truck rally and get busy under the bleachers. No one will be able to hear you over all the noise, so be as loud as you like!

In The Back Corner Of The Dollar Store

This may be difficult to do without getting caught, but it is possible. Next time you’re bargain hunting at the dollar store, sneak to a back corner or aisle that isn’t frequented by customers or staff. If you can’t manage to have sex, start a little foreplay like a handjob or deep kissing that can be continued at home.

On The Sofa At A Truck Stop Lounge

This is probably the raunchiest, most redneck spot of them all. If it’s late at night, it’s unlikely that anyone will notice or be bothered by you and your lover getting busy on the couch – just make sure to bring a blanket. You don’t know what – or who – else has been on that couch!