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Do THIS For Amazing Sexual Stamina!

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Premature ejaculation during sex is a huge issue for most guys. It is something that most of us are too embarrassed to even talk about. The fact of the matter is that a lot of guys that suffer from this and there is a way to overcome it naturally. If you want to learn a natural, simple technique to boost your ejaculatory control, then keep reading this article. I’ll share an effective PC exercise for men that will build up your stamina in bed so that you can last as long as you want during sex.

What Are The PC Muscles?

The PC muscle is used to control the flow of urine and semen. Strong PC muscles also  enable you to enjoy sensational, longer-lasting sex. When you are in complete control of your PC muscle, you will be able to control your orgasm better and enjoy a male multiple orgasm.

How Do I Find My PC Muscles?

This is very simple! When you are urinating, try stopping the flow. You will sense an area in between your anus and scrotum that contracts inwards. That is the area that you want to toughen up. If you do not feel your anus and scrotum tighten up then you are not doing it properly. You might find yourself breathing in involuntarily when you stop the flow of urine.

How Do I Strengthen Them?

Flex or squeeze the PC muscle 20 times. Hold it for 2 seconds each time before releasing. Repeat this 3 times a day. Breathe as you normally do when performing this exercise. Once you get the hang of this simple routine, perform a more advanced version: Squeeze the muscle slowly and hold it firmly for 5 seconds. Then gradually release the tension for another 5 seconds. Repeat this ten times.

When And Where Can I Do These Exercises?

These exercises are performed totally hands-free, so you can practice them practically anytime, anywhere! You can practice them while sitting, standing, in front of the TV, waiting in line at the supermarket, or even when commuting to and from work.

How Will I Knew When Things Are Improving?

You will FEEL it. The great thing about the PC muscle is that it responds very quickly when you exercise it. With consistent practice, you will be able to control your ejaculation better and have harder erections and amazing stamina within a few weeks. Along with better control, you will also feel more confident and enjoy sex a LOT better!

Can You Go The Distance? Last Longer TONIGHT!

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Sex tips can help with everything from technique to gauging her reaction on different touches. But none of this matters if you can’t go the distance. Notice how women hurl and laugh the hardest at premature ejaculation gags? You’ll be laughing with familiarity too if you deal with it on a nightly basis.

There’s a female comical recognition when a punch line tags the guy who explodes a mere 13  thrusts into the game. But for our purposes here, we’ll look at “Going the Distance” (GTD) beyond the superficial issue of premature ejaculation.

Get Fit NOW!

It’s not a far out question, is it? In case you didn’t know, sex is very physical. Intercourse is intense. It’s ugly. It’s fierce. Your pupils dilate, your heart pounds so hard and threatens explosion, breathing gets heavier and labored by the minute, body temperature rises to fever pitch and you sweat like you’re on fire. Muscles tense so hard they feel like concrete, your brain lights up like a thousand Christmas trees, and you thrash around, contending with another human being who’s exhibiting the same symptoms.

People die during sex, you know – and it’s not just the battle-tested elderly. Learning how to last longer in bed requires a consenting body. If you can’t even support your own weight, how far do you think will you go? How long will you last if after a few maneuvers, you’re already panting and teetering on an asthma attack?

If you want to go somewhere, you better be fit to go. Settling for less, because your body won’t allow the naughty things in your head, is indeed a sexual tragedy. Especially when you know you deserve to enjoy so much more.

Use Intense Workouts For More Stamina

So shape up! Run like hell. Bike. Get to a gym. Consult your doctor first if the need be. Get fit, eat right! You’re flooded everyday with health information and you actually already know what to do. You just have to get into doing them. (Don’t even try to make your age, schedule or lifestyle be an excuse.)

Good health gives you more sexual options. You don’t know the number of grossly obese people who settle for sex positions just because it’s the only one left that doesn’t pose serious health risks. You don’t know the number of men who fear that a heart attack might be around the corner every time they get their grooves on – living with the constant fear their corpses would be found at a nearby motel and blasted on the evening news. Being healthy simply makes sense, because if you’re dead, you can’t do it no more! No, the dead don’t score!

Visualize Sex Beforehand

Sex is not only very physical, it’s also very mental. How you VISUALIZE better sex will often find itself manifested in the real thing. How you think about it will ultimately be reflected in your style.

Check your imagination; you need a mind that sees beyond the obvious, a mind that can think in ways novel and exciting. GTD means constantly creating, improving and breaking routines. It’s being able to think about sex beyond the bed, the bedroom, penis & vagina and ejaculation. Mentally going the distance means applying your creative energies and discovering that sex is so much more than what you originally thought it to be.

When you see a made bed or a kitchen table, what do you really see? How open and ready are you to engage in the world of sexual positions, sex toys, fantasies and activities available for two horny consenting adults? The limits lie only in your head, in your imagination. Sex is mental, and you got to see it in your mind first before you see it manifested.

Premature Ejaculation: How To Increase Your Stamina

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Do you have problems with premature ejaculation? Barring medial issues, this is easier to correct than you think. A few tweaks in how you approach sex should help you last longer.

Harness Your Inner “Sting”

Outside of easy listening and pirate shirts, Sting is perhaps best known for his practice of Tantric sex. Tantra is a movement that was born in India several thousand years ago and incorporates meditation into sex. While this may not entirely appeal to the average man, you can at least borrow some techniques.

As in any physical activity, sexual stamina improves when you concentrate on your breath. Make sure you take slow, steady breaths that go all the way into your belly instead of your chest. This will aid in keeping you relaxed in an extremely excitable situation. It will also allow for you to clear your head so you can tune in to every sensation. Once you can enjoy the sexual experience as a whole, you’ll be rushing less for the goal. Sure, going through the Yankees roster in your head also works, but do you want to be thinking about Randy Johnson while you’re getting it on with a woman?

Take A Few Time Outs

Just because the penis is in, doesn’t mean it has to stay there until you blow. Yes, this is infinitely easier said than done, but if you’re getting your Zen on Sting-style, you should be able to do it. Take that time to kiss, eat her out, or tease her clitoris with the head of your penis.

While you’re out, incorporate the Squeeze Technique to stave off premature ejaculation. Before that inevitable Point of No Return, pull out and squeeze the head of the penis. This forces blood from the genitals, which will relieve a bit of the pressure. This technique can be repeated as needed.

Don’t Make It All About Your Penis

To you, sex is all about the part where you get to put your penis in her vagina. Get that out of your brain. Sex is about the entire experience. Spend some time really exploring her body, getting to know all the spots that drive her wild. Go down on her a couple of times. She can cum many times, so there’s nothing wrong with giving her a couple of orgasms before you even get in there.

If you do orgasm before she does, it’s not over. This may seem obvious to some, but it bears repeating. After your orgasm, you want to roll over and fade into the euphoria, but she is still frustrated. Your penis is not hard anymore, but you have your hands, your tongue, and your creativity to help finish her off. If you ever want to have sex with this woman again, you better make sure you’re both happy.

Relax And Have Fun With It

Learning how to last longer in bed doesn’t happen overnight. In fact, it can take quite a few tries as well as lots of patience to finally get to the point where you don’t blow your load as soon as you see a hot naked girl (okay, you probably last a little longer than that). So relax and have fun with it! Enjoy having sex with your lover, even if you do orgasm first. If you either make sure she has an orgasm before or after you do (as long as you’re making sure she has an orgasm), she’s not going to care “when” you have your orgasm.

There are very few girls out there who say, “Sure you satisfied me but you didn’t orgasm exactly when I did.” Blow her mind with oral sex and then worry about you. Even if you only last a couple minutes, she’s still going to be blissed out because you took care of her first!

Q&A: How To Get HER To Last Longer In Bed

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Sex and reaching orgasm usually take longer for girls, but what happens when SHE’S the one going too fast? Usually, it’s the guy that reaches climax before the girl, but it’s not unheard of for a girl to actually reach orgasm before the man. One reason could be that she’s faking it – or, she could just be super sensitive. If it only lasts a few minutes long, it’s time for her to learn how to last longer in bed!

Dear Dan and Jenn – I am a guy and my girlfriend and I are having sex. She can only have enjoyably have sex for about 5 to 10 minutes then have only one orgasm. She can tolerate sex for 20 minutes. I have lasted about 30 to 40 minutes in the past. What can I do to help be able to help her last longer during sex, or do I need to learn to last shorter?

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Are You Using Enough Lube?

Sex for long periods of time can be very uncomfortable or painful for a woman if she’s not lubed up enough. Even if she’s had an orgasm, she may still not be wet enough to continue having sex with you as long as you need to reach your own climax. There’s a simple solution – use more lube! If you’re not using any at all, it’s time to invest in a nice, big bottle of water based lube that is both sex toy and condom compatible. A lot of guys are afraid to use lube, or think that if they do it means they’re not good enough at it, but that couldn’t be farther from the truth. Enough lube makes intercourse better and helps it to last longer – period.

She Might Just Really Be Satisfied

There’s a lot of pressure on guys to be able to give women multiple orgasms, but the truth is, many girls can be satisfied with just one. This is especially true if the one orgasm she had was amazing and completely rocked her world. If it was that good, she may be too tired to continue having sex and much, much to sensitive to receive more stimulation and try to have another orgasm.

Is She Faking It?

Another possibility to look at if your girl just doesn’t go for the long haul during intercourse is she might be faking her orgasm. If you’re only able to have sex for ten or twenty minutes and she has an “orgasm” and is done, she may be trying to get it over with as fast as possible. Girls usually take longer to warm up during foreplay and longer to orgasm, so it’s really the exception rather than the norm if she’s truly had an orgasm and is truly satisfied after just a few minutes of sex.

If she is faking it, think about why. Are you failing to really please her? Are your efforts at giving her an orgasm falling short and she just wants fake it and get it over with, since she’s not getting anything out of it? This is the most common reason that girls fake their orgasms – their guys just aren’t doing it for them and they either don’t have the heart to tell them they’re not getting it right or their guys are too stubborn to listen. If you suspect that she’s faking it, communicate with her. Ask your partner what you’re doing wrong or what you could be doing better. Work with her on getting her to a place where she doesn’t feel like she has to fake it.

Teaching Her To Have Multiple Orgasms

If you sense that her orgasm is genuine and that she really is satisfied with just one, teach her that she doesn’t have to be. Extend your foreplay sessions and get her really, really warmed up. Take the time to focus on her pleasure, even before you start getting it on. Give your partner an orgasm through oral sex first, before you even penetrate with your penis.

Women are actually designed to have more than one orgasm, because they simply don’t go back down to square one after climax like a man does. They hang out in the mid-arousal stage, so they don’t have as far to go to reach climax again. Take advantage of this by focusing on your partner and her pleasure, without thinking of yourself. Give your partner a night where it’s all about her and see just how many orgasms she has!

5 Tricks To Lasting All Night Long

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Premature ejaculation affects a lot of guys. Tell me if this scenario sounds familiar: you’re in bed with a girl, you’re both enjoying yourselves, and you’re about to wow her with your next move when wham! You finish early. Your girl smiles and mumbles something, and you feel like a sexual failure.

This scene is all too common, but it thankfully can be avoided next time with just a few tweaks. Use the following tips next time you feel the need to push off that inevitable moment, and last all night.

Distract Yourself

Forget the usual advice to “think about baseball.” Or Margaret Thatcher naked. You don’t want to be scared off sex forever! It may seem counter-intuitive, but the best thing to distract yourself with is how sex feels, looks, even smells and tastes.

Instead of mindlessly pumping away toward the Big O, pay attention to other things, like how soft your partner’s skin is, the curve of her neck, or the pain of her nails dragging down your back. Notice the smell of her skin and the wetness between her thighs. When you become mindful, you can last longer and enjoy the sexual experience more. What could be better than that?

Concentrate On Her Pleasure

Instead of focusing on yourself, make it all about her. Choose positions that feel best for her (trust me, she’ll let you know when you’ve hit the right spot). Pay attention to her body’s cues, and you won’t be so hung up on your own.

Women are all about foreplay, so if you can make the foreplay last a long time it won’t matter if you finish shortly after the actual sex starts because in her head it started long before the actual penetration. Once she’s had a few orgasms, keep going, and try to get a new personal “high score.” Remember, a high percentage of women are multi-orgasmic, so challenge yourself to give her more than last time! Making the experience better for her is going to not only improve your stamina but will also improve your sexual reputation.

Change Sex Positions

This is the single easiest thing you can do to avoid premature ejaculation. If you feel yourself getting a bit too heated in one position, move to a completely different one. If you are in doggy style, move to missionary. The trick is to really change it up-moving from one variation of doggie to another isn’t going to cut it. Be careful not to change sex positions too frequently, as it is going to take her out of the mood and feel more like a distraction than anything else.

Wear A Condom

First of all, you should be practicing safe sex anyway, and for most of you, that means wearing a condom. However, if you are in a long term relationship, or you’ve both been tested and she’s on the pill, condoms might not seem like a necessity. If you’re having trouble lasting, though, that little prophylactic can be a lifesaver. We all know that condoms can dull sensation? In this case, a little dulling is exactly what you need. There are plenty of good brands out there now that feel almost like you’re not wearing anything, except that little extra something can keep you lasting much longer.

Change Your Masturbation Habits

If I were to tell you to stop masturbating altogether, and you were to actually listen, your next sexual encounter would probably be record for shortest time between start and finish. I won’t tell you to stop the self-love! I will, however, let you in on a secret. When you are young and just discovering masturbation, you tend to do it fast and furiously, which made sense back then because you were trying not to get caught. Nowadays you hopefully have more leisure but probably still use the vice-grip, carpal-tunnel inducing, furious shake technique you used at 14. Stop it!

Use your self-love time to retrain your body to sustain an erection. Use the start-stop technique of backing off when you feel an orgasm coming on. Doing that a few times will not only train your penis to stay hard without cumming, it will also make the inevitable payoff mind-blowingly better than your normal orgasm.

This technique also translates well to the bedroom. Slow down every time you’re on the verge and by the time you do climax the release will be incredible.

Being an amazing lover isn’t all about lasting longer in bed, but using these tricks to make yourself last longer can have the effect of making you a better lover. With just a few simple tweaks to your technique, you can improve your stamina, keep going all night long, and make yourself seem like a sex god in her eyes. It’s a win-win for both of you.