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Things Not To Do After A Breakup

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A breakup is tough for everyone involved – but you’ve got to have some dignity afterwards! Here’s what you need to avoid when you’ve been through a breakup.

What She Said:

Regardless of who ended it, its over. If it was your choice to end it, you must have had a good reason, and I hope you are feeling pretty confident about your choice. But, if it was him who broke your heart, you might be a hot mess of a woman. So, here are some things you should not do after a breakup that will help you heal.

Basically the last thing you want to do is act like Bridget Jones for weeks on end. Yes, you should take a few days to mourn the lose of a lover, but then you need to get your shit and yourself together. In order to do that, do not pour yourself a bottle of wine, play Alanis Morissette and cry into his favorite t-shirt. If he dumped you, you need to dump anything and everything that reminds you of him. Do not spend hours looking at photos of the two of you! That will just lead to you asking yourself where you went wrong, or asking yourself what you could have done differently.

That is all a waste of time, energy and will make you feel more depressed. You should also stop all forms of communication or means of communicating with him. Do not call, text or email him. I don’t care how drunk you are, believe me, there is no really cute story that he wants to hear, no funny joke he wants to hear, and he does not need to know that you thought about him. He will not be amused. Along that same idea, DO NOT Facebook stalk him. Do not check his Facebook page, his new photos or read into his status updates. You might even just go ahead and de-friend him.

It’s not easy, but holding on to ideas of him, or of his things or even just holding on to hope is not going to help you get over this breakup. The best thing to do is get back out there in the world! Go out with your girlfriends, live it up and be single again. While you’re at it, call up that guy you have always had a crush on and have some rebound sex. Like the old saying goes, the best way to get over someone, is to get under someone else.

What He Said:

It’s always best to rip the band aid off as opposed to removing it slowly. Get it over with. Cut off all ties immediately. Who cares why it happened? You’ll never really know and if you do find out you will probably wish you didn’t. Cut all ties. I mean everything. Delete their number from your phone. Cut all social media ties.

If they gave you something, get rid of it. It should be like a military cover-up: the relationship should be as if it never happened. Of course it did, you’re not lying to yourself, but you want to get rid of the reminders. You will still have the memories, but you don’t want anything around that triggers them, if you can avoid it.

Keep your mouth shut. Sure, you may want to talk about it with a friend or whatever, but do not blog about it. Do not post about what a jerk this person was on your Facebook, don’t do standup based on your relationship. You will only look like the idiot. It may feel good to do, but that’s it. You’ll look like the ass, and guess what? You will be.

Keep your mouth shut and speak only in positive, philosophical terms, if someone brings it up (everything happens for a reason, we just weren’t a good match, I wish him/her the best, etc). Obviously if they stole your couch or something, yes, call the cops, but assuming there isn’t a criminal element to your relationship, just move on, quietly, confidently and as positive as possible.

This is not to say you sugar coat anything, but if they’re that much of a jerk, shouldn’t you be happy it’s over? Don’t go away mad, just go away. Cut your losses (or count your wins, as the case may be), and go forward. And by all means, have sex with someone new as soon as possible. You should do the first new partner you can, even if you’re against hooking up with random people. It’s very important for the healing process. Seriously.

Is Your Relationship The Real Deal?

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Relationship advice is crucial if you want to find out if your partnership is on the right track. Have you actually found the one this time? Here’s how to know!

So you’re a girl. Who met a boy. And you “know” he’s the one. This time you mean it! Seriously though, new relationships are highly intoxicating. Puppy love and love feel eerily similar. Sooner or later, we’re all bound to fall in love. But how do you tell which is which? Is he really Mr. Right, or is he just a practice relationship?

What She Said:

At one point or another all women have dreamed of their perfect wedding. We imagined the dress, the flowers and the perfect man. But how do you know if the guy you are dating is Mr. Right? Most importantly, do you want him to be? Just having to ask yourself if he is Mr. Right is a red flag. And is cause to be alarmed. If you felt like he was Mr. Right, no article that you read or advice column is going to tell you. You will know it. But, since love is different for everyone, it might be hard to really know so you need to ask your heart and your gut some questions.

Does he support you emotionally, physically and spiritually? Do you want nothing more than to make him happy? Does he make you feel supported and safe? Is there still a spark between the two of you? When he walks into a room, does your face light up? These things sound super cliché, but there is so much truth to them. Another gut question to ask yourself is, his annoyance factor. In other words, does your man now do some of the things that your ex used to do that annoyed you but these things do not annoy you with your new guy? You might just have yourself a Mr. Right.

The last super major gut question to ask yourself is what would your life be without him? If a life without him makes you feel lost that’s a sure sign he is your Mr. Right. Again, these are just some questions to ask yourself, you know what you feel. Listen to your gut.

What He Said:

As the wise Chris Rock once said, “Love is like bread. You gotta love the crust. You can’t just love the white part of the bread. Everyone loves that part. It’s the crust. If you don’t love that, you don’t love him.”

Being a woman in love with a man means sooner or later he is going to do some stupid shit to piss you off. Is your love strong enough to put up with that? Your love can’t be based on his abs or sex or any one thing. All those things are important, of course, but they will ebb and flow over time.

For a man, relationships are about finding a level of insanity you can put up with. Don’t think you’re crazy? You have a vagina, don’t you? I’m not saying it’s wrong your crazy, but make sure Mr. Right knows how crazy you are and loves you anyway. If he’s seen you at your worst, and he still returns your calls, that’s pretty significant.

You can live without everything and anything except protein and water. So saying “I can’t live without him” is a lie. You can. But do you want to? That’s a better question. If you can and don’t want to, then you’re on to something.

Goosebumps are something he should always give you as well as effort. He shouldn’t stop doing the things he did to get you after he has gotten you. Women like that stuff. It’s important to you and he should know this and be willing to do this stuff for you, even if he doesn’t want to. Love is doing things you know you hate because he/she likes to do them. If he’s willing to do that for you, and he’s coachable on other stuff, like the love-making, then you’re really on to something.

If you’re asking yourself too many questions about him and where this is going, that’s probably not good. It’s good to be sure, and don’t go into anything blindly, but if you’re devoting tons and tons of energy to analyzing the relationship and wondering if he can pass a background check then, well, maybe it’s a “not so much” type answer to the “Is he Mr. Right?” question.

5 Signs Your Man Is NO Good

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Relationship advice is necessary if you want to find out if you’re really with Mr. Right or not. Check out these five red flags that your fella needs the boot.

Men are dogs, pigs, whatever you want to call them. If you think that you have met prince charming but there are things that you know aren’t right, you should always follow your gut. For the most part, having a feeling that you’re getting played or the guy is hiding something will come to light with your suspicions being true.

This is not always the case, but women have an uncanny ability to feel out situations. There are ways that you can easily tell whether or not a guy is right for you. Here are the top 5 signs that your man is NO good.

1. You Always Pay

There are only two reasons that you always pay when you go out. The first reason is that he doesn’t have any money. The second reason is that he doesn’t want his wife or girlfriend to see the credit card or banking statement. Now, if your guy is in financial straits and you know about it, this can be something that you have to overlook.

Knowing about your man’s financial situation is an honesty that is admirable on his part. However, if he has chiseled out an image of success, he should be paying. Leave your guard up if you are constantly paying for yourself or for the both of you on every date.

2. He Doesn’t Stay Over

Having a casual affair can be a lot of fun. However, there is nothing casual about a relationship. If your man leaves after every romp in the sheets, there’s probably something going on. Even if you’re not having sex and he refuses to stay the night, you have to start looking out for yourself.

Guys that don’t stay the night have a reason to leave. This could be that he has a wife or girlfriend waiting for him at home or that he is just afraid to get intimate with you. If you are having sex and he is leaving, he is probably afraid of commitment and needs to be confronted. Let him know that you’re not looking for something casual and see how he responds.

3. He Doesn’t Talk About The Future

Guys that don’t talk about a future with you aren’t planning on a future with you. This is very simple. If he’s not talking about the future then he’s probably no good. Guys are a lot like girls in relationships. They don’t want to keep things stagnant. They want to have something to look forward to other than watching TV on a Friday night.

If your guy isn’t talking about future trips, holiday plans or meeting your parents, get rid of him. You want a guy that can see himself with you for a while barring no immediate infidelity or hiccups in the relationship.

4. He Isn’t Considerate

Has a guy ever blown you off last minute to go hang out with his friends? If he has then you know how infuriating and hurtful it can be. A guy that is not considerate of your feelings or your time is not somebody that you want to be with. If you find yourself waiting by the phone on a Friday or Saturday night wondering if you’re going to have a date, you might as well break it off now or have a very stern talk with him.

You want a guy that is going to make plans with you ahead of time, stick with them and follow through. Never stay with a guy that takes you or your time for granted. Eventually you’re going to get tired of it and break the relationship off.

5. He Has No Ambition

A man without ambition is a man that you’re never going to respect. Traditionally, a guy is supposed to take care of the family. While there are different rules now that women have become liberated, a man should still want to be able to provide for his wife and children. If you find yourself with a guy that has no ambition, you can rest assured that he does not love you enough to provide the type of life he believes you deserve.

No guy should be held to the standard of becoming the next billionaire on Wall Street or a real estate tycoon, however, a life of never having to worry about bills being paid is something that everybody should strive for. If your guy is not trying to provide for you and an upcoming family, he’s not the kind of guy that will go the distance.

Secret Survey Reveals Why ALL Men Lie!

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Watch this Free Presentation to discover the REAL reason ALL Men Lie to women they love and learn how to discover how he really feels about you without him saying a word…

Relationship advice will rarely tell you WHY your man lies – and if you think he doesn’t, you’re dead wrong. The truth is, ALL men lie at some time or another and many of them do it on a regular basis! They especially do it to the women they love! This FREE video shows you the dirty secrets men have been keeping from you all these years!

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Warning: Watch the free video all the way through, but be prepared to learn things you never, ever thought could be true! You’ve never gotten relationship advice like this before. This video will reveal to you the awful things every man you’ve been with has been dishonest with you about. It’s scary, but you deserve to know! 

You’ve Been Lied To By Every Guy You’ve Ever Met

The sad truth is that no matter how chivalrous the guy may have seemed or how sweet and caring he might have been, he’s lied to you – and he’s done it more than once. 

Every man you’ve ever dated, fallen in love with or trusted with your heart has lied to you. Men you loved (or still love), men you adored and trusted with everything have looked right in your eyes, smiled at you and lied to you about EVERYTHING!

He’s lied about what he wants, how he feels about you, what he’s thinking and what he desires.

If you’re like most women, it’s driving you CRAZY! It’s kept you up at night and it’s pushed you to tears as you wonder WHY?

Why can’t he just tell you the truth?

Why can’t he just love you?

Why can’t he just be that man you’ve wanted for so long?

Why can’t he be the man you deserve?

You know what it feels like. The anger you get in the pit of your stomach. The nauseous feeling you get when you know you’ve been lied to by a man…again! The feeling you get when you have been manipulated and used.

How You Can Have An Amazing, Almost DANGEROUS Power Over Men

Our good friend Michael Fiore is a nationally known relationship advice expert who, through his extremely controversial free video, shows women how to REALLY understand men. When you watch this video, you’ll learn what really goes on in a man’s mind – what he lusts after, what he dreams about and WHY HE LIES!

Michael sent a secret questionnaire to the thousands and thousands of men and women on his email list, asking women what they truly need to know about men and asking men what they wish they could tell women but never have been able to.

Some of the questions that women asked are the same questions we KNOW you’ve asked at least once in your life:

“What does he think about me?”

“Why does he look at other women?”

“Why do men lie?”

“Is he cheating on me?”

“Why doesn’t he talk to me?”

“Why does he get so quiet?”

“Does he really love me?”

“How do I make him love me?”

Hundreds of women, just like you, felt angry, locked out and betrayed by men.

But what did the guys say?

The TRUTH That No Woman Has EVER Heard!

Michael’s survey seemed to unlock something in men, who started spilling the beans about things they had agreed to never tell women! These men broke the “man code” and put their deepest, darkest desires out there. They revealed what was really going on in their hearts and minds, and WHY they do the things they do.

They revealed how women hurt them and emotionally devastated them (and how women can do this without even knowing or trying) and why they lied to the women they loved – and why they felt they HAD to lie.

Everything that women have always wanted to know was finally poured out! And Michael took all that relationship advice and compiled an easy, 4 week training program.

Are You Brave Enough And Smart Enough To Accept This?

The hidden truth about men isn’t something just any woman can listen to and benefit from. Revealing this stuff is like giving a woman super powers! She’ll be able to see deep into the mind of any man she wants and know what he’s REALLY thinking – it’s like mind reading.

You’ll be able to:

  • Wash away decades of anger, backbiting and arguments
  • Stop stupid arguments in their tracks
  • Have the powerful, amazing relationship that you’ve always wanted (and that you DESERVE!)

The Secret Survey 4 week online training program will show you what men desperately want you to know but could never, ever tell you!

If You Can Log Into A Website (And Put Aside Your Pride) You Can Learn The Honest, Dirty Truth About What Goes On In The Minds Of Men And Transform Your Relationships With Guys Forever In Just 30 Short Days!

What you’ll discover:

  • Why men are like dogs and you’re a bad owner
  • How to use “Projective Empathy” to instantly know what is going on in any man’s head
  • Why men lie to women they love
  • The 3 reasons men lie to women
  • Simple conversation tricks to get any man to open up to you in 5 minutes flat! 
  • What men say about you when you’re not around
  • How he REALLY feels about you
  • Why he looks at other women (and how he feels about YOU when he looks at other women)
  • The truth about why men cheat
  • How to CHEAT PROOF your relationship
  • What men REALLY want in bed

And those are just the main relationship advice topics the course covers! Some other valuable things you’ll learn are:

  • How to use “Emotional Judo” to MASSIVELY multiply his desire for you!
  • Why trying to make your man happy will kill your relationship
  • How to banish insecurity from your relationship forever
  • How to seduce a man in shockingly little time!
  • How to get a man to chase you, even if you’ve been together for YEARS

Just Imagine What It Can Be Like!

No more arguments and fighting. No more backbiting. No more anger or anxiety. No more begging and pleading for him to open up to you, or asking him why he’s closed you off.

No more wondering if he really wants you or if he really loves you.

With Secret Survey, you can make ANY man happy. You can be adored by any man you want. You can have loving, satisfying relationships where you feel cherished and happy. You can be fulfilled in your love life, even if you never have felt that way before!

If you’re not ready to hear the REAL truth, then the Secret Survey program isn’t for you.

But if you’re sick and tired of being lied to, being manipulated and being shut out, it’s time to make a change!

The Secret Survey could be your only chance to really understand men, or your last chance to get the guy you love to really open up to you. This may be your last chance to create true, unconditional love!

Get in the program now, while you still can!

How To Be An Alpha Male

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Dating tips are essential for scoring women – and you have to be in control if you want to do that. Step up and be an alpha male with these helpful dating tips!

An alpha male is something that a lot of guys strive to be, but ultimately fail at. Being this kind of guy can lead to a lot of dates and respect from co-workers. It’s important to remember that being an alpha male can easily bleed from your dating life into your work life. Standing up for yourself and not avoiding conflict can liberate you from the pack while helping you gain confidence.

The metamorphoses into an alpha male cannot happen overnight. You have to condition yourself for it. Once you have mastered this persona, you should see a lot more dates and have a better perception of yourself throughout your career. Here are some ways that you can develop your inner alpha male.

Thinking Is Being

An alpha male is more confident than the rest of the guys around him. While you don’t have to be a complete dick, offering an opinion that goes against the grain and not being afraid to be yourself is a trait that you should be striving for. Have a good attitude and think highly of yourself.

These kinds of guys have minimal insecurities when it comes to women. They don’t let women push them around and they don’t play games. Think of yourself in this light and you will start to see yourself as the kind of guy that you want to be.

Keep Your Fitness In Check

Alpha males are physically fit. You don’t have to be a gym rat, but you should start thinking about getting into shape if you want to adopt this persona. Running 2-3 times per week is enough to help shed some of your winter weight. Think about investing in some small weights to keep around your house. Having decent biceps and a good chest can change your confidence level immensely.

Join a gym if you have to, but make sure that you are getting into shape. It’s going to be hard to implement your new alpha persona if you are self-conscious about your body.

Don’t Try Too Hard To Qualify Yourself!

In most dating situations, the guy will try to qualify himself to the girl. This is seen through bragging about his education, job or income status. You never want to qualify yourself to the girl. You want to be the guy that has women qualifying themselves to you. Have you ever been in a bar and seen a guy trying way too hard to get a girl’s attention?

Maybe they’re being too loud and telling stories about the big deal they just closed. These guys are paper-thin and women see right through it. You don’t want to be that guy. Being an alpha male is about conveying confidence without looking like you’re trying.

Ban Jealousy From Your Life

Alpha males do not get jealous. One of the most common characteristics of men is that they get jealous when their girlfriends or potential dates are hanging all over another guy. Because this is a common characteristic of men, women know how to use it to their advantage. If they are not getting the attention they want or they are simply trying to make you jealous, it is in your best interest to not respond. Your goal is to go against the grain.

When a girl is trying to make you jealous and you show that it doesn’t bother you, she will take notice. She will start thinking, “Why isn’t he getting upset?” Even if it does make you angry, don’t let it show.

Ban Neediness From Your Life

There is nothing more pathetic than a guy that is needy or clingy. If you have ever been accused of being needy or clingy, it’s time to make a change that will stick. Calling or texting all the time, having to see her every day or inviting yourself along to different events displays clinginess and neediness. If you feel the need to call all the time, set up a schedule. Make sure that you’re not calling her every day. Call her every 2-3 days so that she knows that you’re interested, but that you’re not needy.

Women can’t stand a needy guy and alpha males do not need to have women around them. Jealousy shows insecurity. You should have enough confidence in yourself to know that she is not going to be interested in other guys after she meets you. Resist the temptation of calling and texting, especially the day after a date, and you should start to see more positive results. When you do call or text, she will be a lot more open to seeing you again.