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What Your Kiss Says About You

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Kissing is as unique as your fingerprint. What do your techniques reveal about YOUR personality?

Kissing is a part of every relationship. But what does your kiss really say about you? You can tell a lot about somebody by the way that they do it. What you do with your hands, if you keep your eyes open and how long you kiss your partner are all tells of your personality. When you are kissing your partner, you should be aware of how you come across. If you have no idea what it says about you, read on. Here is a guide on how kissing can reflect your personality.

Eyes

Do you kiss with your eyes open? Most people like to close their eyes when they are kissing. A simple peck on the lips with your boyfriend could be the exception. Pecks are often obligatory when leaving a situation or entering the home after a day of hard work. However, if you’re leaving your eyes open during sex or while you’re kissing for more than 5 seconds you could have trust issues. Kissing puts you into a vulnerable position. When you are kissing and you close your eyes, you are putting trust into your partner and the motions you are both making. If your boyfriend sees that your eyes are open during your kissing, they could think that you’re uncomfortable.

Hands

Your hands are an essential part of kissing. Although your lips do most of the work, your hands are a detail that cannot be ignored. If you keep your hands to yourself, you might come off as distant. If you put your hands on your boyfriend or husband’s waist, you probably come off as happy with the relationship. If you put your hands on his face, you display passion. Every guy wants their girlfriend or wife to be passionate about their relationship. When you don’t use your hands during kissing, you could come off as stale and uninterested. Use your hands the next time you are kissing your partner and you might find them to be more receptive.

Kissing Length

The length of your kiss is another aspect that can tell a lot about you. If you are just getting home or heading out for the day, a peck can be appropriate. If you’re lying in bed trying to get something going, a couple of seconds can show distance. When you are kissing your partner before intercourse, it should be longer than 10 seconds. Your boyfriend isn’t only interested in your lips, but kissing shows that you are passionate about a physical relationship with him. When you only do it for a couple of seconds before pulling away, he might think that he’s a bad kisser or that he has a rank mouth.

Distance

When you are kissing your boyfriend or husband, the distance between your two bodies can say a lot about you. This distance can actually show distance in the relationship. If you hug each other while you kiss, then you probably have great physical compatibility. You should be touching each others bodies when you do to show compliance. This means that you feel comfortable being close. If there is distance in the kiss, you might not be comfortable in the relationship. Your part will pick up on this wonder why your kissing feels like you’re just going through the motions.

Afterwards

The moments after a kiss can also say a lot about you. When you are done kissing, do you immediately turn away? Do you give him one more peck on the lips before you go about your business? Or do you look into his eyes as you pull away slowly? All of these are typical of kissing, but only one of them can show that you’re not comfortable with intimacy. Pulling away immediately after the kiss is a sign that you don’t feel comfortable enough with your partner to continue engaging in the act. He will definitely pick up on this wonder what the problem is. Be aware of this while you’re kissing and think about it after you have finished.

Kissing is a great way to show how much you love your guy. But when it shows your vulnerabilities or that you’re not happy with the relationship, your boyfriend or husband will start to wonder what needs improvement. If you really are happy with the relationship, be aware of the potential hazards that your kissing can impose. Make a conscious effort to avoid hazardous kissing movements before, during and after the kiss so you aren’t confusing your partner.

Teach Your Man To Give You An Orgasm – In 1 EASY Move!

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Oral sex is hard for a guy to learn – or so you thought. You’ve been with guys that don’t know how to go down on you, and you’ve tried to show him the way but to no avail. Are these men a lost cause? Not hardly! Here’s how to show a guy how to make you have an orgasm, with one simple trick!

Tell Him You Wish You Could Give Yourself Oral Sex

The idea of licking your own clitoris may give you the creeps, but he doesn’t have to know that. Chances are, he thinks the idea is hot – even if it’s impossible. Next time you’re in the mood for your guy to go down on you, tell him that you really wish you could do it yourself. He’ll be intrigued and ask you why – and then you’ll tell him it’s because you know exactly what feels good. This will prompt him to say something along the lines of you teaching him how to do it the way you like – which is precisely what you want him to ask.

If he doesn’t ask outright for you to show him what you like down there, bring it up yourself. After you tell him that you wish you could go down on yourself, ask him if it would be alright if you showed him what to do. “Showed” is the operative word here – he’s been “told” before, probably more than once.

Kiss Him – And Mimic Giving Yourself Oral Sex

If he’s ready for you to show him how you want him to give you cunnilingus, kiss him deeply. When you kiss him, pretend that his mouth is your vagina. Think of his top lip as your clitoris and his bottom lip as your labia. Instead of kissing your partner the way you normally do, think about how you really might give yourself head. Mimic these maneuvers on his mouth. After a few minutes, he’ll get the hint and realize what you’re trying to do – and then start paying attention to exactly what you’re doing so he can do the moves himself.

If he’s not picking up on what you’re putting down, don’t be afraid to tell him. Some guys won’t get it unless you spell it out. So just say, “I’m going to kiss you the way I want you to kiss me – down there.” He’ll definitely be intrigued – he’ll want to see what it is exactly that you want. Plus, this kind of kissing is super hot on its own!

Think Of What Will Turn You On

As you’re kissing your partner, it’s time to think of all the different moves that you do while you’re masturbating as well as the moves other men have used to drive you wild. Think of exactly what you might want, and then use your tongue to do it to your partner’s mouth. For example, if you love to have your clitoris flicked with the tip of a tongue, do so to his top lip. If you’d rather he insert his tongue into your vagina, lightly probe your tongue into his mouth.

Keep in mind the order in which you do things. Try to do different techniques in the order you would like them done to you. He may or may not pick up on this – but if he’s really paying attention, he will.

Don’t Make It Too Complicated

Your guy isn’t going to remember a string of sixteen different things you did with your tongue. Make it easy on him by picking a few of your favorite moves and repeating them in order when kissing him. For example, start with super soft licking and sucking and then progress to flicking his top lip with your tongue to mimic him licking your clitoris. Suck on his top lip for a few seconds, then flatten your tongue out and broadly lick his lips from bottom to top. Then repeat this same set of techniques a few times.

Having only a few techniques to remember as well as the repetition is what will really drive it home and truly teach him what it is you like when he’s giving you oral sex.

Let Him Know When He’s Got It Right

When he starts going down on you, don’t just sit there quietly – if he’s rocking your world, let him know! If you say nothing, he’ll think he’s doing it completely wrong. When he does something right, gasp or moan loudly and shout his name. Make sure that it’s impossible for him to distinguish the difference from a really great technique and one that’s lukewarm.

Advanced Kissing Tips

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Kissing is something you may think is basic, but you can create amazing sexual tension just by putting your mouth on hers – the right way. If you think you’ve mastered kissing tips and know everything there is to know about it, think again! Here’s how you can blow your lover’s mind and take it to the next level.

Take The Next Step In Kissing

Learn how to be both gentle and firm at the same time. Many guys think that they have to be either super soft or really wild, when the best kisses come from guys who know how to be both at the same time. Kiss your lover with a little bit of an urgency, like you have to do it right now. Start off a little firm to show your passion, then relax into softer, sweeter moves to convey how much you’re enjoying it.

Start integrating eye contact when kissing. Eye contact is one of the most powerful forms of body language, and it’s incredibly effective when used with a woman. Pull away for a few seconds while making out with your partner and gaze deeply into her eyes. Hold the eye contact for just a few seconds longer than is comfortable, and then go back to kissing.

Enjoy each step of kissing your partner. Don’t rush through it so you can have sex sooner, and don’t just kiss her for the sake of having sex with her. Make the an incredible activity all by itself, and if you don’t end up having sex afterwards, so be it. The kiss was great, after all!

Girls Like Variety

Learn a variety of kissing tips and techniques. Girls don’t necessarily like to do the same thing with a guy over and over – it gets old after awhile. Take some time to learn a variety of techniques, so you have something new to offer your partner every now and then. Experiment with new things and find out what works for you and your lover and what doesn’t!

Move around while kissing. Don’t just stay on her mouth the whole time – slide your lips down her neck and kiss her gently there, or gently nibble on her ear. Staying in one spot will not only make her mouth tired quickly, it’s also going to get boring pretty fast.

Make it a kiss to remember. Make it slow, soft, sensual and special. If you don’t end up having sex that night, make it so that she thinks about the kiss all night long and that’s all she has running through her mind.

Tease her. Remember that kissing is part of foreplay and you will create a ton of sexual tension if you tease your lover and make her want more. You don’t want to be the guy that overwhelms her and leaves her pulling away, gasping for breath. Always pull away first and make her want to come back for more.

The Importance Of Touch While Kissing

Touch her hair when you kiss. Start with a gentle caress and as you get more and more passionate, it can even progress into a light tug. The nerves in the scalp are extremely sensitive, and playing with her hair while you kiss or tugging it gently can send shivers down her spine.

When it feels right, run your hands over her body. Don’t assume that touching her body means going straight for her breasts or vagina! Run your hands over her arms, touch her cheek softly and gently caress her neck. Put your hand on her hip and draw her closer to you. Touch her in places that she wouldn’t expect a guy to touch – because let’s face it, she’s probably expecting you to head for her nether regions anyways.

Being Kissable

Make sure your lips and mouth aren’t too dry. Your lips should be soft and kissable, but also make sure that your lips and mouth aren’t too wet either. You definitely don’t want to go into a kiss with slippery, slimy lips and tongue.

Practice good oral hygiene – you may think this falls into the category of basic kissing tips, but you wouldn’t believe how many guys expect to kiss a girl right after they’ve had a plate of hot wings and a beer. Don’t do this! Freshen up before you move in. If you have to excuse yourself to the bathroom to get fresh, go for it. Brush your teeth, use lip balm and carry mints. Make sure that you’re fresh and ready to be kissed. She’ll not only appreciate it, but the kiss will be a lot better.

10 Ways To TEASE A Woman

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Foreplay is crucial for a woman to reach orgasm. Here are ten incredible ways to tease and please your girl, so you can give her the best climax of her life!

The LONGER you take to get a woman’s clothes off, and the LONGER you wait to go down on her, and the LONGER you wait to have sex with her – the MORE likely she is to have an orgasm!

Why & How Women Need Foreplay

We’ve all heard the phrase “women are like an oven, they need to be warmed up” – but what most guys don’t know is WHY and HOW.

“Why” Foreplay Is Important

Guess what fellas – your most powerful weapon in the bedroom is not your penis, but the force of ANTICIPATION!

Girls LOVE to be teased way more than men! And the longer you take to do EVERYTHING, the more turned on your girl is gonna get!

“How” To Use Foreplay To Give Orgasms

Here is a step-by-step guide to undressing your girl in way that builds incredible anticipation that will drive her absolutely CRAZY!

By following these simple steps, you’ll have her so turned on by the time she is naked that she will be BEGGING to have you inside of her!

Warning: Some of these foreplay steps may sound basic, but I’ve thrown in some fun tricks to SPICE UP the simple stuff – so make sure you read this guide all the way through!

Kissing All Over

As you are kissing her, rub your hands firmly up and down her back. Once you’ve been kissing for several minutes, work your fingers under the bottom of her shirt, and circle back to her stomach (still kissing, but alternating between her lips, neck, and ear lobes).

Squeeze The Nape Of Her Neck

Gently scratch her back as you are kissing her, and softly but firmly slide your hand up under hair at the nape of her neck and give a nice squeeze.

Getting Her Shirt Off

Lift up her shirt and take it off in the smoothest way possible, being careful not to pull her hair!

Moving On

Now that her shirt is off, slowly progress your kissing downward towards her breasts, kissing the upper area, and still rubbing her lower body with your hands.

BONUS TIP! Gently but firmly, pin her arms above her head and hold them there with one hand while you caress her body with your other, still kissing all over. Girls LOVE this!

Unhooking Her Bra

As you are kissing her neck, reach behind and unhook her bra. If you get stuck, don’t worry! Just smile at her and say, “assistance please” and she’ll unhook it for you.

DO NOT GO STRAIGHT FOR THE BOOBS! Go back to kissing her on the lips and neck! (In fact, until you are fully going down on her, you should always return to her mouth every so often to kiss her passionately). Then, taking your time, make your way down to her breasts, but DO NOT GO FOR HER NIPPLES! Kiss them in slow circles, leaving the nipples for LAST!

Licking Her Nipples

When you get to her nipples, lick them gently, alternating between the two. When your mouth isn’t on one, your finger should be on the other (but lick it first for lubrication).

BONUS TIP! Some girls LOVE to have their nipple pinched! I would say at least 50% of all women! Start gently of course, and increase the pressure and watch her reaction. If she seems to be getting turned on, squeeze a little harder and ask her if she likes it. She’ll let you know =)

Moving Downwards

Move down to her stomach, and use the same slow, anticipation-building style. Try to kiss every inch of it! Slip your tongue under her waistband to tease her once in a while, and “accidentally” graze your chin over her “area,” breathing heavily.

Leave The Panties On

Kiss her on the mouth again while you go to take off her pants. But NOT her panties! It’s time for the fun part!

BONUS TIP: Take her right leg, and starting at her foot, kiss every inch of it, working your way down in slow circles! This should take A WHILE, and she will be loving every second of it! Then, when you get to her clitoris, breathe heavily OVER her panties, letting her feel the heat! Then go back to her left leg (start in the middle this time) and do it all over again!

By the time you get back down to her “area,” she’ll be BEGGING you to rip her panties off and give her more!

The Last Step – Give Her An Incredible Orgasm!

By this time, you should have her so close to climax that you can finish her off in just a few minutes. So just give her what she wants already!

So there you have it! This entire process should take around 30 minutes, and will get her more turned on then she’s EVER been before!

Building anticipation like this paves the way for her to have an intense orgasm, and lots of them at that. Oh, and if you’re with a woman for the very first time, this is a pretty good way to make HER be the one begging YOU to be inside of her, not the other way around.

This stuff will DEFINITELY give you an edge over the other men she’s been with. And if you’d like to get an even BIGGER edge and join the 1% of men who women call the best lovers in the WORLD – I have some great news for you!

3 Kissing Tips That Will Drive Her Wild!

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Kissing is one of the best ways to turn a girl on – women love to kiss and it ignites their senses immediately. The same isn’t true for guys – they respond better to visual stimulation, such as porn. However, with a kiss, you allow a woman’s imagination to go wild, which will have her all over you in no time. Here’s how to kiss a girl and make her melt.

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Wait Until You Know That She Wants To Be Kissed

You don’t want to surprise a woman with a kiss when she’s not ready, because it can totally backfire and depending on the woman’s mood, it could ruin the whole evening. You want to feel the situation out first and make sure you’re fairly confident that she wants to be kissed before you actually head in for the smooch.

To find out if she’s really ready for you to make the next move, get in your girl’s space while flirting. Move in closer to your girl and touch your lady’s hand or arm softly. How does she respond? If she seems to like it, that’s your cue to continue. Move in closer and closer, touching your girl’s arm and then moving to brush the hair out of her face and touch her cheek softly. If you get a good response to all of these maneuvers, you can be pretty confident that she’s ready for a kiss.

Knowing When She Doesn’t Want To Be Kissed

Making a kiss absolutely perfect is all about having the right timing. Timing is everything when it comes to seducing a woman. You don’t want to do it when she’s not responding well to your advances, because that usually means that  she’s just not in the mood. That’s the whole purpose of feeling your woman out to begin with – because if she’s not into what you’re doing, it’s better if you stop and simply try again another time.

If she doesn’t seem into it, it doesn’t mean that she’s not into YOU – in fact, quite the opposite may be true. If she doesn’t want you to make a move now, she may still be into it later. Pay attention to your girl’s body language and cues. She’ll let you know when she’s ready.

Start Slowly And Gently

If she seems ready for kissing, it’s important that you start slowly and gently, and work your way into building it up into something more passionate. You don’t want to start off with tongue right away – even if she’s ready for a kiss, if you plow into your woman with your mouth right off the bat, you’re going to turn her off immediately and probably cause her to shut down for the rest of the night.

Pay attention to the kissing tips you’ve heard before and be aware of introducing tongue too early or using too much tongue. Some girls don’t even like tongue during kissing, so make sure you’re paying attention to your girl’s responses to each move that you make. If she backs off a little or seems uninterested in what you’re doing, switch it up and do something a little different. Backtrack a little and start kissing more softly if you were escalating too fast.

Slowly Escalate To More Passionate Kissing

If she seems into what you’re doing, that’s your cue to take it to the next level. Just like how foreplay is important for sex, slowly building up the kiss is important when you’re making out with a woman. If she keeps responding to your advances though, you know that you’re okay to kick it up a notch.

Start slowly bringing your hands up to cradle your lady’s face or place them on her hips to draw her body close to you. Gently move your lips down to the chin and lightly kiss your girl’s neck. You can also gently nibble the ear before moving up to put your lips on hers again. If you’re moving at the right pace, you might end up seducing your girl into having sex with you! However, if you go too fast, you’re bound to turn your woman off before you can even understand what happened.

Always Start From Scratch

Each time you go to kiss a woman – even if you’ve done it hundreds of times before – you want to start from scratch. Don’t assume that because you guys had an intense make out session last week that you can jump right back in where you left off. Even in long term relationships, you want to approach a girl like you’ve never kissed her before and take steps to make sure that she is ready.