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10 Reasons You’re A Bad Kisser

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Kiss someone the right way, and it is one of the most erotic actions that you can take with someone. A kiss can be something as little as a peck or as big as a make out session. But how do you know if you’re a bad kisser? Being a bad kisser is something that a lot of girls are, but few know. If you’re a bad kisser, you can recover with a little practice. Knowing a generalization of what your partner will like can help you on your way back to the light. Bad kissing can be just as awful as bad sex, so keep on your toes and apply the following information to your regiment.

1. You’re A Robot

Guys want sex. I don’t think this a huge revelation, but some women tend to forgo kissing and go straight for the ”you know what.” When you take your time and let emotion out, the guy can anticipate what is coming next. Being a robot and just going through the motions is never good. Do your part and put a little effort into your kissing. Passion can be just as important as your technique.

2. You’re A Too Much Tongue Gal

Your tongue can be a huge turn on when kissing, but if you use it too much he might feel like you’re mining for coal. Use your tongue to play with his but don’t give him a root canal. If you feel him closing his mouth and using his lips more, you know that you’re using too much tongue. Lay off the tongue and use it about half as much.

3. You’re Too Handsy

Your hands can wander while you are kissing, but kissing should more of a symphony than a bomb. You want to build up to the main event, not give it away instantly. If you do not use your hands to escalate the situation, you could be seen as frigid or a prude.

4. You’re A Stabber

Have you ever seen those discovery channel movies where the cobra snaps at a rat? This is not the motion that you want to do with your tongue. If you are essentially stabbing your victim with your tongue, you need to cut it out. This can be annoying and most likely he’s closed his mouth while you are trying to invade him. Go slowly and you will see much better results.

5. You’re A St. Bernard

Remember in Beethoven when that dog shook his slobber all over the walls? If your guy is lying in bed with raingear and galoshes, you can be sure that you use too much spit when you kiss. Salivating is a natural occurrence when you are kissing, but too much of it can be disgusting. Hold back and take a half second to swallow before you move back in. You and your guy will happy that you did.

6. You’re Gross

Yes, you might be gross. Do you take the necessary steps to ensure that you have soft lips and good breath? If not, you’re mouth is probably the last thing on his mind. Carry mints and dental floss with you in your handbag to ensure that you have good breath and nothing in your teeth before you start kissing.

7. You’re A Windmill

When you kiss, you should always be aware of too much circular motion that you’re giving. Save this for oral sex. When you are kissing, you should never act like a windmill. In all honesty, there is no counter attack for this move. The guy will not know what to do and he could easily freeze up.

8. You’re A Woodpecker

A peck on the lips or the cheek is great if you’re kissing your uncle, but you shouldn’t be doing this with a significant other. Pecking during a make out session can easily turn the guy off. There is nothing passionate or sexual about continuously pecking at his face.

9. You’re A Sucker

Do you like to suck on the guy’s tongue or lips? Some guys are really into this, while others are not. If you are sucking on a guys tongue lips, ease into it. No guy wants to be completely mauled right off the bat even if they are into it. Gauge his interest by easing into and see how it goes.

10. You’re A Biter

Biting a the lip is a great way to spice things up, but if you do it too hard you might draw a little blood. Biting a little can be really hot, but you should do it intermittently. Don’t make biting a something that you do all the time. Do it every 10-15 seconds to keep him wanting more.

Your Man’s Top 3 Secret Erogenous Zones REVEALED!

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Foreplay is just as important for a guy as it is a girl. Here are your guy’s three most hidden – yet powerful – hot spots! Don’t miss THESE during foreplay!

The Usual Erogenous Zones

We are all familiar with the usual erogenous zones that men have: lips, nipples, and penis. When you give your man a juicy kiss, you start to get his heart racing and his blood pumping. When you lick his nipples and suck on them, you start to get him hard and he begins wanting you more and more. When you stroke and rub his penis, that’s how you get him to climax and how you put a cherry on top of the evening. Even though these 3 spots on his body feel good when you touch them, they aren’t the only spots on his body that he wants stimulated.

Men are more in depth than we give them credit for and there are three top secret erogenous zones on his body that you probably have never explored before. You are missing out on giving your man some amazing foreplay, anticipation, and pleasure. If you don’t want to miss out on this for another moment, it’s time you learned just where to touch him and when to touch him.

His Back

Probably the biggest hot spot on his body that gets left untouched, a man’s back is jam packed with so many nerve endings that it is just begging to be touched. The beauty of this hot spot is that it is so versatile. You can both be rough with him and scratch his back or you can get a little gentler and give him soft kisses. His back can be stimulated via a massage and used as a tool in foreplay to get him aroused or you can dig your claws into his back when he is on top of you during sex.

No matter what form of stimulation you choose to use on him, just make sure that you are doing something to his back and touching it all over. Don’t just focus on his shoulders too. Make sure that you rub him all over and that you especially hit the most sensitive spot, that being the small of his back. You know how good it feels when your man’s lips trace along the small of your back so why not give him the same satisfaction as well? Of course it may feel a little less intense for him but it will be a touch and a feeling that lingers for a while to come.

His Thighs

This is one hot spot on his body that you do not want to miss but chances are you are always overlooking it. When we think about pleasing a man, we think about giving him rough stimulation and manhandling him. Naturally, men are built tough so when we do give them stimulation, it is usually a little rougher than usual. However, this mindset shouldn’t always be the case. There are spots on his body that he wants to be touched just like how you want to be touched there. His thighs are one of those spots that regularly gets ignored and that is because thighs have a feminine association. When we think of thighs being stimulated, we think of how men lick and bite a woman’s thighs before he goes down on her. Thighs are often thought of being only pleasurable when stimulated for women but you’d be surprised.

The next time you and your man are getting down and dirty, trace your nails down his thighs or better yet, dig your claws right into them. Since his thighs are very sensitive, you have to be a little rough with them or else you are going to make him laugh rather than get him hard. This may be a ticklish spot on his body but with your hands so close to his penis but yet so far away, he is going to love the anticipation that comes with you rubbing his thighs and teasing him.

His Buttocks

Now, let’s not get ahead of ourselves here. There is a big difference between his buttocks and his anus. We are not talking about rimming or fingering him or anything invasive. That is a whole different realm of stimulation and one that takes some serious conversation. Rather, when talking about his buttocks as being an erogenous zone, we are only focusing on the cheeks. Spanking a man, scratching his cheeks or even rubbing them are all forms of stimulation that really get him hot.

Most men don’t like it when women get too close to their behinds but if you do it in the right way, it is a massive erogenous zone that he probably never even knew he had. The best way to touch his buttocks to get him hot and heavy is to spank him during sex. While he is on top of you, this is a prime opportunity for you to really give it to him. You can even place your hands on his buttocks and drive him into you even more. This will really turn his crank. You can scratch at his buttocks and spank him to really up the ante.

There are plenty of other erogenous zones on your man’s body that are craving some stimulation so open your mind and your eyes and really get down to exploring all of the possibilities you never even knew existed.

How To Be AMAZING In Bed!

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Sex tips are definitely a must have if you want to be an excellent lover. Arm yourself with these incredible sex tips and be the best your partner ever had!

Everyone loves to have great sex. And contrary to conventional wisdom, women love sex as much as guys do, if not more! But what if you feel that your sex life has turned somewhat dull and dreary and needs a little “oomph”? Don’t sweat it! There is plenty you can do to make ordinary sexual experiences into toe-curling erotic adventures in between the sheets. These three sensuous tips, for example, are a great start to give her the best sex of her life!

Set The Scene Right

One of the best sex tips is to make sure you have the right mood set in the area you’re going to be in. Ambience plays a great deal in making sex awesome. Pay attention to the sights and sounds. Try giving your bedroom a sultry, sexy backdrop by introducing colored light bulbs. Did you know that purple color can intensify a woman’s orgasm? It is a surefire way to amplify her erotic energy really fast. Why not spin some romantic, sensual music to get her in the mood too? Women love some moments of intimacy before getting into sex. Sip on a glass of wine and introduce some CD that is hot and delectable to turn up her passion. If you have a fireplace, cuddle up together and seek out her pleasure spots.

Unleash The Art Of Erotic Kissing

Women can’t seem to get enough of kissing from their loved ones. Kissing is super important in an intimate relationship and it surprises me why so many guys gloss over this crucial moment of intimacy. If you want to sizzle up your sex life, try some sexy kissing tricks to get her temperatures moving fast. For instance, suck on an ice cube or sip on a cold drink just before you kiss her. She will get hot really fast! Or consume some foods such as strawberries or honey to introduce some tantalizing sweetness in your mouth when you kiss. And don’t forget to kiss her even when you are making love!

Bring On The Sex Furniture!

Beds are dull and boring. Sex furniture is a great way to spice up the whole sexual experience. These are usually very discreet and blend in really well with the rest of your home decor. Unlike sex toys, both you and your partner can enjoy using sex furniture together. These allow you to experiment with intercourse positions that you don’t usually get with flat surfaces such as like beds or mattresses. With these, you can fit your bodies perfectly together and ensure that her clitoris and G-spot are properly stimulated during sex.

Oral Sex: Female Erogenous Zones 101

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Oral sex is definitely something you want to include in your sex routine if you want your girl to have an orgasm. Don’t skip these hot spots though!

Don’t Speed Through The Kissing!

Remember making out as a teenager or college student? Remember how you’d spend so much time kissing your partner, kissing her neck and (possibly) touching her breasts through her shirt? You spent so much time on the non-sexual parts because, well, you weren’t allowed to touch down there yet. Now that we’re older and we are allowed to touch “down there,” we always cut to the chase.

If you want to gear your partner up for an extra-special and pleasurable session of oral sex, start by kissing her like you were both teenagers again. You can only touch “down there” if she lets you! Like we said before, depending on the occasion, you can speed this up a bit if you or your partner are not inclined to spend an hour making out, but at least give her a little bit to get her warmed up.

How To Kiss The Right Way

Kiss her, but don’t kiss her while thinking about what body part you’re going to lick next in four seconds. Kiss her while thinking about kissing her. Kiss her as though you were kissing her vulva and give her a preview of what she will feel tonight. Let her imagine those lips on her vulva – deep kissing like this will help you both get into the right frame of mind. Remember not to be too sloppy or too uptight. A little tongue will be nice, but let your lips do all the work.

Kiss Your Girl’s Neck

Not surprisingly, the neck is a very erogenous zone. Be careful not to kiss her too lightly or she will get tickled, but perhaps on this night, a little tickling might be nice. Also remember not to get too rough with her. Find a nice balance in between and stay for a few minutes. While in the neck area, you can also drift up to the earlobe and whisper to her how excited you are about what’s to come, or how tonight is just for her.

Put Your Hands And Mouth On Your Lover’s Breasts

This is most men’s favorite part, but be careful not to dive right onto the nipples – it can be almost as detrimental as going straight for the clitoris. If she is wearing her shirt still, make an effort to caress her lightly with both your hands and mouth through her blouse. She will feel the light touch and become aroused, but she will not be shocked with the more intense touch that will come when her blouse has been taken off. Speaking of, make a big deal about taking off her blouse. Do it slowly and deliberately. Take off her bra in the same manner, and give her the attention you would give her if you were seeing her naked breasts for the first time.

When caressing her with your hands, make sure not to pinch her nipples too hard – you can roll them between your thumb and forefinger like you would roll a cigarette, but don’t press down or pinch. When beginning to lick the breasts, again, don’t go directly for the nipple. Lick all around her breasts for several minutes, working your way down. Once your mouth is on the nipple, you can swirl your tongue around it like you were licking an ice cream cone. This feels divine!

Another technique is to flick the nipple with your tongue. Spend lots of time (unless your partner is nudging you downwards!) caressing and licking her breasts and nipples – studies show that there is a direct link between the breasts and the clitoris. Also, once you do begin cunnilingus, don’t forget about her breasts! Many women enjoy their nipples being caressed while their vulva is being licked.

Don’t Miss The Stomach/Belly Button

This can be a very erogenous zone, but it usually is not. Light kisses work best here, because there needs to be a transition between the top half of the body and the lower half. Extreme licking in this area may turn a woman off, but feel free to use your tongue a little bit – but again, light kisses work best in the stomach area. Don’t stay too long in this zone because it is not directly giving her pleasure. Waiting too long in between the pleasurable zone of her breasts and the actual cunnilingus may cause her to become frustrated.

Kiss Her Inner Thighs

This is a good place to go before jumping right into the vulva. If your partner is self conscious about her inner thighs, don’t spend long here, but you want her to feel the warm wetness of your mouth and your heated breath before putting your lips on her vulva. This will get her anticipating your tongue even more! Be careful of ticklish thighs, however, and avoid nibbling if your partner is ticklish. If she likes it, however, nibble away!

If you want to tease her even more, alternate between licking her vulva a little bit and staying in between her inner thighs. Again, be aware that too long in between pleasurable activities (or in this case, too long before finally giving her vulva pleasure) may frustrate her and turn her off. If you pay attention to her body language, you will know when she is ready for you to begin cunnilingus.

7 Foreplay Tips That Will Bring Your Lover To The Edge

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Foreplay can often be more satisfying than the sex itself, because it’s the anticipation that is sweeter than relief. These tricks will drive your partner wild!

Slow, Deep Kissing

No, not the slobbery kind. Making out is a heavily underrated foreplay technique, because it is usually seen as what people do when they’re not sexually active. The truth is, deep and slow kissing is a huge turn on even when you know you’re going to have sex later! Keep your saliva in check, but don’t be afraid to slowly explore your partner’s entire mouth. Nibble their lips and kiss them softly on the mouth before engaging in tongue again. Enjoy it and convey to your partner that you are enjoying it and aren’t in any rush at all.

Rubbing Your Hands All Over Their Body

This may seem cliche, but most people don’t do this correctly during foreplay. Having your partner rub their hands all over your body can be extremely thrilling – but most of the time, the touch isn’t soft enough to really send chills down your spine. When you go to rub your hands all over their body, don’t use your entire palm. Instead, use only your fingertips and touch your partner only as hard as you might touch a laptop track pad. This soft touch is what will ignite the nerves in your partner’s skin!

Kissing Their Body

You’ll want to take your mouth along the trails that you made with your hands, but again, remember to do this softly. A nibble and a lick here and there is nice during foreplay, but try to use only your lips when you do this. The softness and warmth of your lips without wetness is extremely enticing. Don’t leave any part of their body uncovered by your mouth – go all the way down their legs and back up again, over their tummy and chest, and back up to their neck, chin and arms. You can even use this as a “body mapping” technique by paying attention to which spots they seems to enjoy the most.

Breath Play

When you’re kissing your partner’s entire body is a great time to engage in breath play. Breathe hot air against the area you just kissed, or lick the area and breathe cool air on it to send an icy shiver down your partner’s spine. Breath play is especially effective around the neck area and ear area, and when you’re kissing.

Oral Sex

Oral sex is an essential part of foreplay because it not only conveys a lot of emotion (which is necessary for women), it also creates immense pleasure for both girls and guys. Make sure that your foreplay routine never, ever skips over oral sex. Depending on what you and your partner want to do, you can use oral sex as a tease (don’t bring your partner to orgasm) or you can use it to give your partner an orgasm to prep them for multiples later (this is usually done with women and can make sex absolutely explosive!)

Teasing Penetration

Teasing penetration is an intense form of foreplay that is just as hot for the guy as it is the girl. After you’ve done oral sex, kissing and touching and you’re ready for sex – but not quite ready to give in to the anticipation yet – teasing penetration will keep the fires burning but satisfy your need to be closer to each other. During teasing penetration, the male partner will enter the female’s vagina, but only a little at a time. Short, light thrusts that only put the head in are incredible for both him and her, and either partner can control this. If she wants to tease him, she can hold his hips to prevent him from going in further and if he wants to tease her, he can simply pull out. This form of teasing will almost always end in sex because at some point, the need and desire overwhelms both the man and woman!

Backing Off From Orgasm

If you haven’t completely lost all your senses yet in a cloud of bliss and passion from all the foreplay, you may still want to prolong the actual finale. Tease your partner by reducing the amount of stimulation (whatever it is at this point) when you feel they are close to orgasm – you will also want to do this when you feel like you’re getting close to orgasm. Resume kissing or teasing, until you’re both cooled off enough to continue without reaching orgasm immediately. This time frame will get more narrow as you continue – eventually when you resume sexual activity you’ll blow immediately, or you’ll just get to the point where you’re completely powerless to stop it.