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10 Advanced Tools For Incredible Handjobs

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A handjob doesn’t have to be any old handjob. These simple but effective accessories can turn something “ho hum” into something absolutely orgasmic!

While your hands (and some lube) are really all that is needed for a great hand job, some variety makes it more fun for you and him. Here are some ideas on elements that can be used to add some zest and excitement to your repertoire.

1. Candle Wax

You can buy candles that are specifically designed for body massages. As the candle burns and the wax is melted, you can pour the melted wax on your lovers body. It should be safe to pour on his shaft and testicles. His glans (head) might be too sensitive to the heat. Do a test drop first. I loved it when my wife did this for me but not something I’d want every time. I personally think warm oil/lube is better for a handjob overall but for a man, the smell, sight and feeling of the candle wax being lovingly poured on your penis is special indeed and worth doing now and again.

2. Scarf Or Tie

Take some of your silk scarves or his old ties and put them to good use. Drape the over his body, wrap them around his rod and pass them between his legs. He’ll go crazy from the soft, silky, breezy fabrics touching his sensitive spots. Do this BEFORE you get out the lube to keep them from getting soiled. If you want to get real kinky, use them to “tie him up” while you give him an exciting handjob experience. And while you are at it you can also use them to blindfold him. That adds another very interesting dimension to a handjob. It puts all his energy on assessing the pleasure of your touch.

3. Silk Or Satin Lingerie

Taking off your lingerie will certainly get his blood pumping and you can do one better. Rub your silky nightie or underwear around his shaft and balls. He’ll go nuts. This is what it did for one of my subscribers: “My favorite hand-job spin is this: my girl will take her satin Nighty, turn it inside out, and rub my hard-on with the silky material…WOW I throb big-time! She may add a vibe to tingle my balls with her other hand. Sometimes I can’t hold back and I’ll jizz now.”

4. A Vibrator

As you just read, battery operated toys are not just for women. They work exceptionally well on men’s sensitive areas. Buzz his nipples, his sack, his rod. He’ll even like it if you touch his anus with it (you can put a condom over it if you want to keep it sanitary). If you don’t have a “dildo” on hand, simply use an old battery powered toothbrush. Just keep the bristles away from him.

5. Beads

No, not anal beads (although some men would really go for that too). I am talking about pearl necklaces. If you have a bead necklace that is smooth, wrap it around his shaft and pull it back and forth to massage his manhood. Just be aware that some lubes and oils might eventually break down the string so don’t use an expensive necklace.

6. Fruit

This is for the adventurous. Take a melon and cut a hole in it the size of his erect shaft (make it a little on the tight size. Slide it on his hard-on, then move the melon up and down to push his cock in and out. He’ll smell and taste wonderful. If the suction is too strong, cut a small hole in the opposite side of the melon. You can also use a banana. Cut the end off the banana and gently scoop out enough flesh so that his penis will fit in tight. You can also put the banana in the microwave for a few seconds to warm it up but be VERY CAREFUL to test it with your finger to make sure it is not too hot. If you like the taste of kiwi then cut the top and bottom off a kiwi fruit and take a little flesh out of the center and use the “sleeve” to masturbate your guy.

7. Vegetables

Same idea as above but use a zucchini, eggplant or cucumber. Instead of scooping out the flesh you can often press in a broom handle to create a hole deep and wide enough.

8. Condoms

Put lube on his member and them roll down a condom and use it as a sleeve to jerk off your guy. A nice side benefit is that clean up is a cinch. Also, try a “ribbed” condom and turn it inside out before putting it over his manhood. The ribs will give him lots of wonderful sensations all over. Here’s something else to try with a condom. Blow it up into a balloon, a little smaller than a bowling ball. Quickly insert his penis into the hole to seal it up. If air starts to leak hold it tight around his shaft (or ask him to hold it). You will both be able to see his penis inside the “balloon.” If you can manage it, get him to come and see him squirt all over the inside. Guys will really like this visual.

9. Plastic Baggies

Fill one zippered baggie with warm water and one with ice water. Use them at different intervals touching various parts of his body to bring your man different sensations.

10. Fan

You can use a hand fan or an electric fan to blow air over your man to create a slight breeze. It feels quite refreshing on the testicles which aren’t used to a lot of fresh air.

3 Simple Steps To Orgasmic Anal Sex

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Anal sex can be fun, naughty and super hot if you do it right. Here are three easy ways to make sure your anal sex experience is completely incredible!

1. Start With Just The Tip Of Your Penis

Once she’s lubed up and ready to go, start by inserting just the tip of the penis. First, press your penis against the anus, applying pressure. Slowly slide the tip up to the first joint. Stay still. You’ll feel the ring of muscles around the anus tighten and relax. Don’t move your penis, just let the muscles work.

When they relax again, remove it slowly and then insert it again. Tell her to try and open her anus by pushing her anal muscles outward while you penetrate. She should also make sure she’s breathing deeply during the insertion.

Using just the tip is a way to tease and build arousal before further penetration or engulfment. You can explore this with slow or quick movements, and everything in between. Try different angles and sex positions to find out how this feels best for both of you.

2. Move Gradually And Slowly

Gradually working your way to full penetration is a much more skilful and exciting way to approach this. Thus you increase sexual tension, get your energies and emotions more in touch with each other, and delight in the subtleties of the bouquet of sensations. Going slow and gradual also creates a sense of safety, which helps immensely with arousal and lubrication for women, providing a much more luscious experience for you both.

Advance centimeter by centimeter, slowly pulling out and pulling in after each move forward. Don’t go all the way in at first, in fact, many people don’t ever go all the way in. It all depends on her response, naturally.

3. Begin To Go Faster (When She’s Ready!)

If she’s not tired or resistant and she wants you in completely, grab the chance. Once you’re all in, stand motionless for a few seconds, giving the muscles time to relax and become accustomed with their foreign guest. After they do, it’s time you surrender yourself to the dance of thrusting motions.

However, keep in mind that the anus is not the vagina’s twin sibling, and go at it with careful consideration, paying attention to how her body responds. Hard action isn’t for everybody; she must be emotionally and physically ready for that kind of sex play.

Hot Tip: Experiment with the penis in the anus and a thumb or a sex toy in the vagina. Double orgasm is on the menu!

How To Choose The Right Lube

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Lube is essential for almost all sexual activities – especially manual stimulation – but selecting the right kind can be a little overwhelming.

Perhaps you have already taken a look at your local sex shop, or at online stores to see what the selection is like. I bet you were taken aback! Heck, my sex toy store has over a thousand different products in the lubrication category!

That is a whole lot of choice, so let’s take a minute and talk about your options. Lubricants can easily be broken down into a few categories based on ingredients.

First, the “base” of the lubricant determines how they can be used – silicone lube, for example, can’t be used with silicone toys; oil-based lubricant is not safe for use with condoms; some women are incredibly sensitive and will only be able to use lubes that are based on natural, organic ingredients.

Next, there are lubes that are best for anal sex, others that heat up or cool down, and even some with special flavors just for oral. Be sure you know what you’re getting into before going on a shopping spree.

Oil & Water

Oil based lubricants are great, especially natural ones, because the body just soaks them up and gets silky smooth. Most oil-based lubricants, unless otherwise labeled, are not condom safe. If this is your choice of birth control, move on to another selection.

Water based lubricants are the best all-around choice. Not only are they safe for condoms, but with silicone and other toys as well. They are also easy to wash out of sheets and clothing. They do tend to evaporate quickly, but a bit of saliva or a light mist of cool water will slick them back up in no time.

Silicone

Silicone-based lubricants are smooth like silk and great for long lasting play, but are no good when using silicone toys and not great for oral sex. Silicone may not taste very good, but you only need a touch and it will last for hours. It is safe to use with condoms, so if you do have silicone toys, you can protect them with a latex condom or nitrile glove. If you are planning to try a bit of back door play, pick one that is nice and thick.

Au Natural

If your wife or girlfriend is particularly concerned about what kind of liquid love gets inside her body, or if she happens to be sensitive to parabens or other irritating ingredients in most popular lubes, you should take advantage of the growing array of natural and organic products for the conscientious buyer. If plain coconut oil won’t do, or you want something a bit slicker for longer play, these are right up your alley.

Hot, Cold And Delicious

Whether you want something that is going to warm up with some vigorous thrusting, or a bit of icy gel to get her clitoris tingling under your touch and tongue, there are options available for your delight! Tingling lubricants and gels are also great for nipple play, especially if they are edible. They will help to harden her nipples right up, making them extra sensitive to your mouth and fingers, and also give them a bit of a slippery surface for extra sensation.

Flavored lubes are obviously best for a bit of oral play, but be very careful. Many of these lubes contain irritants or sugars that can cause a yeast infection if they get inside her vagina, so if you use them on her genitals, be sure to only put a drop on her clitoris and keep your fingers clean for insertion when your tongue techniques have made her wet.

10 Anal Sex Rules You NEVER Want To Overlook!

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Anal sex can be a lot of fun for both a man and a woman. However, there are things that should not be overlooked. Here are 10 rules to live by when deciding on this particular sex act.

1. Never Do It While She’s Pregnant

Dr. Ruth Westheimer, sex therapist, media personality and author, points out that some men think that having vaginal intercourse during pregnancy will somehow hurt the baby, so they suggest anal intercourse instead, which is not true. Anal sex can be very dangerous during pregnancy, especially because of the risk of spreading bacteria from the anus and rectum to the vagina.

Vaginal infections during pregnancy can be both harder to treat and more serious. Moreover, it is more difficult to get in a comfortable position for anal stimulation while pregnant, which makes it least desired by women. Also, hemorrhoids are a common side effect of pregnancy and could make anal sex excruciatingly painful for her.

2. Don’t Do Her By Surprise

Word of advice: girls are not amused when boys slip their penises in the wrong hole “by mistake”. It doesn’t matter how turned on she is, she will feel the difference, and she won’t be very happy about it. The only way you’re getting in there is if she’s ready for it. And you’ve talked about it beforehand. And she’s agreed to give it a try. There are no other options. Everything else is a forced-sexual encounter, and you don’t want her to think that about you, do you?

3. Never Skip Foreplay

Even if she’s the type that likes it rough, it’s different when it comes to anal intercourse. Foreplay is critical. She might like when you surprise her with sudden trysts, without any clitoral stimulation beforehand, but she might not like it when you do the same, but in her derriere.

4. Start Slow And Move Step By Step

The anal tightness takes time to ‘break’ into a state of relaxation, and until that happens, any attempt at thrusting is meant to cause pain of the worst kind. This pain is the worst for first time anal sex, so avoid it all costs.

5. Don’t Push It Too Soon

One of Murphy’s famous laws on sex goes something like this: “Anal sex is like snow. You never know how many inches you are going to get or how long it is going to last.” Always keep in mind that there is no sure thing when it comes to anal sex. She might not want to go through with it tonight, and that means you should always be prepared to back off whenever she asks you to. If you’re too insistent too soon, you might scare her for good.

6. Don’t Go Too Hard

Camille Paglia, feminist author, teacher and social critic said at one point: “You have to accept the fact that part of the sizzle of anal sex comes from the danger of it. You can be overpowered.” Though you can get over excited while you’re doing it, keep a lucid mind and think about the consequences that your roughness can produce. Keep your enthusiasm in your heart, not in your moves, otherwise you can end up hurting her.

7. Don’t Forget About Breathing

Deep inhaling and exhaling is very important during anal sex. Ask your partner to take relaxing breaths so that the anus doesn’t tighten up too soon. After you have inserted your finger or penis inside the anus, get her to exhale deeply so that the muscles relax. Yoga lessons can help her control her breathing, so it wouldn’t hurt if she took some.

There is no such thing as too much lube. People who like anal sex use to say that “too much lube is almost enough.” This is true. Don’t worry about the mess. As long as you’re using the right type (condom compatible), you have nothing to fear about. Lube her whole body if you want, from head to toe, whatever makes you two feel comfortable enough so that the experience is pleasurable.

8. Don’t Use Numbing Cream

Never use lubricants that contain numbing ingredients under the mistaken impression that it’s a good thing not to feel sore. Pain is a sign that your body should desist from what it is doing and this is not something you should ever overlook. She could get hurt really bad without either of you realizing it.

Also, you could get hurt just as well. Accept the fact that it is possible that it hurts in the beginning and move through to the pleasurable phase. That is the natural way of doing it and it saves you both from unneeded complications.

9. Use Protection

Even if you’re a solid couple and you trust each other, you should never do it without a condom. There a number of diseases that you can get and it’s not worth the trouble. However, if you’re dead set on not using, for whatever reason you may invoke, The American Medical Women’s Associations recommends that before safer sex protections are discontinued, both you and your partner be tested for HIV.

10. Don’t Switch Holes Without Switching Hats

There’s a reason women swipe their lady parts from You have to accept the fact that part of the sizzle of anal sex comes from the danger of it. You can be overpowered. The germs that exist in the fecal remains cause serious infections both to the
vagina and to the urinary tract. Either you switch condoms or you put on double hats and when the backdoor job is complete, you can take one off and continue to vaginal intercourse.

4 Male Masturbation Techniques For Better Orgasms

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Male masturbation is something that every guy learns to do by the age of about 14. While there isn’t a guy in the world that would rather masturbate then have sex with a woman, sometimes a do-it-yourself job is all that is available. If you’re tired of using the same techniques, there are few ways that you can spice up your solo masturbation regiment.

Doing the same old same old can easily get tiring and become humdrum when you’re by yourself. Spicing things up can give you different sensations and easily take your mind off of being single. Here are some solo masturbation techniques that can get you through any dry spell or spice up how your girlfriend gives you a handjob.

1. The Standard Single Fist Technique

The standard single fist is probably the most commonly used masturbation technique used by men today. The technique is fairly simple. You wrap your fingers around the shaft of your erect penis and then slide your hand up and down from the head to the bottom.

This technique gives you the most contact between your penis in your hand. While hand lotion and lubrication is not always around, the standard single fist technique can easily be used without these items. Lube or lotion can take this technique to a newer level, but if you are going to use such items it’s better to use a more advanced technique.

2. The Churning Butter Technique

Male masturbation can be boring if you’re not using different techniques. The churning butter technique involves both hands and plenty of lube or lotion. The technique is fairly simple. Simply apply lube or lotion to both of your hands and then put one hand on top of the other and go up and down on your penis.

For a better sensation you can twist both of the hands around the shaft and head to make it seem more like a vagina. Make sure that you’re not holding your hands too tight as you could cut off the circulation to your penis. When you are about to have an orgasm, you can either stay with the motion or you can use the standard single fist to finish it off.

This method gets its name because it will actually look like you are trying to churn butter. This can make for an excellent alternative to your standard masturbation technique.

3. The Jelquing Technique

Jelquing is another male masturbation technique that you can employ in your arsenal. While this technique is typically used to increase penis size, it can also be used for masturbation. The idea is to push the blood from the shaft of your penis to the tip to increase the erection state.

Jelqing is a whole new aspect to masturbation and gives a completely different sensation. You basically want to use your index finger and your thumb to make an “O” shape. Tighten your index finger and your thumb around the bottom of your penis and then slowly work it up to the head.

Make sure that your index finger and your thumb are not too tight or you could hurt yourself. This method requires either lube or lotion. Never do this with a dry hand.

4. Using Sex Toys

Sex toys are one of the best ways that you can increase the amount of pleasure with your male masturbation. While toys are typically used with women, there are toys out there for men also. Male masturbators are commonly used for male masturbation with single guys, however, they can also be used with couples. This gives the man the feeling of a vagina or a mouth in order to get them off. These toys can be found at local sex shops or online.

They typically cost anywhere between nine dollars and $80 depending on the model and the store that you are buying them from. If you are going to buy a male masturbator be sure to get one that is going to encompass your entire penis. There are a lot of male masturbators out there that are very short and will not take your entire penis.

There are also different variations on how tight the masturbator will be. Make sure that you are buying one that is not going to go loose within a couple of uses. The best thing about these toys is that it can train you for having sex with a woman. They are typically used to increase stamina while also providing a little spice to your normal male masturbation regiment. All toys will require lube as well has a thorough cleaning after use.