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What To Do When He Ejaculates During A Handjob

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A handjob will hopefully end in your lover ejaculating – but what do you do with his semen? Here’s how to handle it when your man has an orgasm during a handjob.

You’ve made it through the hard part – getting your partner up to the point where an orgasm is imminent. Here, you can do a couple things. You can relinquish your partner’s penis back to him and allow him to finish the job. Some couples will choose to let the man finish himself off while she concentrates on his testicles and perineum. If you are an oral sort of gal, men LOVE to have their balls licked and sucked as they masturbate.

Take Him Through The Orgasm

A more popular approach is to help your partner through his ejaculation by performing his favorite strokes and continuing to give him pleasure through his entire orgasm. Don’t make the mistake of stopping the handjob as soon as he begins to ejaculate. Continue your strokes until he begins to pull away. Most men “squirt” out close to ten times when they are having an orgasm. A few significant squirts followed by some very minor ones.

Think about it as an earthquake with a few aftershocks. The euphoric feelings that accompany the ejaculation might last a couple of seconds up to 30 seconds or more. The more you stroke, the longer he’ll come. Don’t cheat him out of any of those precious seconds.

Where Does The Semen Go?

Most of the time, women will let their partner’s ejaculate on their hands. You can keep one hand on the head of his penis while he has an orgasm (this is very pleasurable) and let his semen bubble over your fingers like a volcano, or you can keep your hands on the shaft of your partner’s penis and watch how high his eruptions will go!

If you are uncomfortable with having your partner’s semen on your hands, you can use gloves or you can hold a towel, washcloth or tissue over his urethra just as he is about to ejaculate to catch the semen. Any way you and your partner choose to handle the orgasm is fine – as long as you both are comfortable and enjoy it.

Men Love To Watch

Most men are highly turned on by you being excited (or at least fascinated) by his ejaculation. We like for you to see our eruptions as amazing or thrilling and not “gross”. We want to see wonder in your eyes as we shoot as high or far as far as we can (men are competitors by nature). Here is how one of my readers expressed it: “I want you to watch me and my manhood as I proudly throb and shoot jets of splooge for all to see! Don’t turn away, or block the squirts… sharing the full ejaculation experience with you is HOT!”

Another turn on for men is to ejaculate onto you. On your breasts, your stomach or even youth mouth if you are so willing. Again, we are very visual and marrying the erotic act of ejaculation with a visual image of your nakedness is something that fuels our sexual fires.

Letting Him Take The Reins

Depending where he wants to shoot his load, you may need to do a hand off to him in the final moments. He just might want you on your hands and knees so he can shoot all over your back and rump. Just find a way to communicate this before it is too late. But, if he comes before the plan is fulfilled, you can look forward to trying it next time.

Handing off to him to masturbate has other advantages to you and him. He can finish off really strong (he’s had a lot of practice), aim it where he wants it and you can enjoy seeing him fully enjoying himself.

There might be times where you are unable to bring him to climax with your hands. Even seasoned masturbators have times when they are unable to bring themselves to orgasm. So don’t sweat it. As you give him more and more handjobs you’ll learn the subtle nuances that tend to take him over the edge.

I’ll tell you what will almost certainly take him to his peak if you can’t seem to get him to erupt. Sit facing him, spread your legs wide, part your labia and finger yourself to orgasm. Mutual masturbation is near the top of most men’s fantasy lists. It is an explosive way to finish off a handjob session.

For clean up, you might want to have some baby wipes on hand or a very special touch is to bring in a warm, wet washcloth and wipe him clean. Or perhaps he or both of you were planning on showering afterwards.

How To Please A Man From Head To Toe

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Sex tips are a must have if you’re going to rock your man’s world. Sure, bringing a man to orgasm is easy and it doesn’t take much to make it happen – or so you may think. However, some women don’t know all that there is to know about the male orgasm and how ejaculation isn’t the telltale sign that your man just enjoyed what you did to him.

Yes, it is typically the sign that of a “job well done,” but did you know that there is way more behind the male orgasm? For example, sometimes a man can have two orgasms in one, meaning that he feels that release sensation at the beginning of climax and then feels a sudden burst of pleasure at the end. Sometimes, a man can have an orgasm and not ejaculate at all while other times, he can ejaculate and not feel a thing. Now that you are aware that you might not have all of the signals down pat, how do you know if you have given him amazing pleasure?

There is one way to guarantee that you are giving your man satisfaction and showing him that you know your way around the male body and that is to give him total body sex. This means that you just aren’t going to go for the gold and head straight to his penis to make him orgasm. No, you are better than that. Instead, you are going to learn how to please a man from head to toe and to really give him an all over amazing sensation that he won’t soon forget.

Above The Neck

There are many spot on a man’s head that can really get him going in the bedroom. Obviously you have his eyes to attract by wearing something sexy, his nose by wearing some delicious scent and his lips to give him passionate kisses to send chills all throughout his body but there is so much more. For example, kissing on his ears, his neck, scratching his scalp, digging your nails into the back of his neck and so on are all things that contribute to pleasure.

Even using your fingers on his lips will get him going. Try biting on his lips or even grazing them with your fingertips. Anything that you can do that will tease and tantalize him is definitely the way to go.

Torso And Arms

The obvious hot spots on a man’s torso are his nipples but stay away from that. Those are the typical spots that he is used to having stimulated by you and are you a typical lover? Of course not! You want to kick this up a notch and truly show him that you know how to give him total body sex all the way from his head and down to his itty bitty toes.

Instead of going for the nipples, try stimulating his back and stomach. Kissing on his back or stomach and even using your nails to scratch all the way down will give him some amazing satisfaction. Remember that men love that rough stimulation so the rougher it is, the better. Also, don’t forget about his arms. Using your fingers and nails to trace along his forearms will give him a sensation he probably never knew he had. The skin is extra thin on his forearms so feeling your nails digging deep will definitely drive him wild.

Don’t forget about his fingers either. A super sexy tip to try is to suck on his fingers to mimic oral sex. Feeling those warm and wet lips of yours tracing along his fingers will make him desperately want to feel that warm mouth on another part of his body.

Thighs And Legs

We all know how amazing it feels to have a man kiss our inner thighs and before oral sex. This move may be a bit too sensitive for your man to handle but that doesn’t mean that you can’t give him stimulation there in a different way. Again, your fingers and nails are capable of so much pleasure it is insane. Digging your nails deep into his thighs will drive him wild because not only is the skin sensitive there but it is also so close to his penis and the closer you are without touching it, the more you are going to drive him absolutely wild.

The best part about giving your man total body sex is that there are no rules. You don’t necessarily have to start from head to toe. You can always mix and match these tips to suit whatever your man’s needs might be in that moment. You can do a lot to him or a little; it is up to you. You are in the driver’s seat when you are pleasing him and it is all up to you how close to the edge you want to take him tonight.

Last Longer In Bed And Be Embarrassed No More!

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Sex tips can help you surpass your lack of stamina in bed that makes it difficult for you to give your woman the sexual pleasure she deserves. Indeed, for many guys, premature ejaculation is a major problem in the bedroom, affecting their sense of self worth, their confidence levels and most importantly, their relationships. But the simple truth is also that, with the right treatment, PE can be completely reversed and eradicated.

What most men fail to do is to admit that they have a problem. They are unwilling to seek help or bring this up with their sexual partners, hoping that the problem will go away with time. This is completely understandable, as there is a lot of stigma associated with not being able to last in bed. It is embarrassing, to say the least. It makes you feel less of a man.

Beat Premature Ejaculation

Bringing this issue out in the open is the first important step to beating premature ejaculation. Your wife, lover or girlfriend has a stake in the relationship, and you would love to give her the best in bed, don’t you? So it makes perfect sense to involve her in every way possible.

In fact, your woman would be more than willing to help you regain your confidence and ability in the sack. After all, her own sexual happiness is at stake. If you can last longer, her sexual fulfillment will potentially go UP too!

Most cases of PE arise from a lack of understanding of one’s bodily reactions to sexual stimulation. As a result, most men do not know how to control their orgasm reflexes until it is too late. Just like how you can improve various aspects of your body, beating early ejaculation is a “learned trait”. It is a skill that some men hone and perfect after consistent PRACTICE. But sadly, most men never get down to it, thinking there is nothing they can do about it.

Train For Endurance

Certain targeted techniques such as synchronized breathing, mental manipulation, and ejaculatory muscle exercises are great sex techniques to improve your stamina in the sack. While some sexual therapists charge exorbitant fees to teach you these methods, you can easily learn them on your own from home (there are plenty of good quality, informative guides online).

These methods basically condition both your mind and body to improve your ability to withstand intense stimulation and forever banish the pain and frustration of finishing too soon!

AMAZING Premature Ejaculation Treatments To Improve Sexual Stamina!

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Premature ejaculation is a common problem with a lot of solutions. But before we move on to examine the various alternatives and what makes a good cure, it is important to properly understand what premature ejaculation really is – and if you are really suffering from it.

You Could Be A Premature Ejaculator If:

1. You come to an orgasm within 2 minutes of intercourse

2. You are unable to sexually fulfill your female partner on more than 50% of the occasion

3. Your inability to last long enough is causing distress to you or your partner

But really, you do not need to feel embarrassed or humiliated if you are suffering from premature ejaculation. This is not a form of illness or disease, and the fact that you are among 20 to 40 percent of all men who have to deal with this issue means that you are not alone in this.

And the sooner you recognize that you need help, the faster you will resolve this problem and enjoy the kind of long lasting sex that you know you deserve.

So What Is Considered A Good PE Treatment?

When evaluating the treatment options best suited for you, I suggest you take these 2 criteria into consideration:

1. The treatment provides a PERMANENT cure instead of just a short-term solution

2. The treatment should be natural and relies on your body’s natural responses to improve your sexual stamina.

Common Premature Ejaculation Treatments

These are some of the common “cures” for PE. Let us examine if they are really effective and provide a long-term solution to your early ejaculation.

1. Anti-depressants – There are plenty on the market, with notable ones such as Prozac and Paxil. Are they worth your time? Well, these drugs do work, but they come with unintended consequences – such as the loss of libido or even difficulty in ejaculating.

You have to consume these pills or drugs on a daily basis. Plus they don’t work if you take them just before having sex. Before taking on these drugs, it is best that you consult a doctor about the potential side effects and if they are the best option for you.

2. Numbing Applicators Creams, Lotions and Sprays – These are popular solutions among men suffering from PE. They do work, but these are more of temporary quick fixes that do not permanently cure your early ejaculation problem.

They can be useful if you need extra endurance at a moment’s notice, but solutions such as desensitizing creams have the potential to dull or lower the sensations you and your partner will experience during sex.

3. Naturally “Re-Wire” Your Ejaculatory Response – This is a permanent treatment and addresses the root causes of your premature ejaculation. It encompasses a natural, time-tested training routine that conditions your body to withstand sexual stimulation and prolong your ejaculation.

You will not see immediate results, but you will definitely experience permanent effects of lasting longer in bed, every single time.

How To Stop Premature Ejaculation & Enjoy Amazing Sex!

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Premature ejaculation really isn’t all that uncommon. The simple truth is that 7 out of 10 men reading this article are likely to be facing a problem with premature ejaculation, or at least are not lasting as long as they want. There are many guys who are avoiding sex just because of the embarrassment of not being able to last long enough during sex.

There is no magic pill to curing premature ejaculation. But if you are willing to commit yourself to learning techniques that can improve your sexual endurance, you will find your confidence rising and sex more enjoyable! This article will share a proven technique to help you go longer in bed.

A Supercharged Sexual Arousal Is Detrimental To Your Sex Life

Many “premature ejaculators” can go from erection to ejaculation within one or two minutes. That is simply not enough time for a woman to be properly aroused. In fact, most women require at least 10 to 15 minutes of sexual stimulation to be able to achieve an orgasm! The problem with most men suffering from PE is over-stimulation. They simply allow the stimulation to go out of control until it is too late.

A Simple Routine To Improve Your Stamina

Exercise is one proven method to boost your staying power. Masturbation can have a tremendous impact on how long you last. Since their adolescence or teenage years, most men routinely bring themselves to a climax quickly when they masturbate – mostly out of fear of getting caught. Unfortunately this tends to trigger an unintended quick orgasm during real sex.

So the next time you get to pleasure yourself in the bathroom, try this: Apply a strong grip to your penis as you stimulate yourself. This will help reduce the sexual arousal, or at least, increase the amount of time it takes to get you aroused to the same level.

Try to make those self-stimulation sessions last as long as possible using a technique called edging. When you sense you are close to ejaculating, stop the stimulation until the arousal subsides. Then resume stimulation and pull away again when you get close to the “point of no return”. Repeat this process at least 5 times and then let yourself ejaculate.

The next few times you masturbate, incrementally increase the number of times you “stop and start”. This technique works very well in prolonging your orgasm during actual sex. It takes time to practice, but is well worth the effort!