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The REAL Secret To Longer Lasting Sex

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Premature ejaculation is a problem for millions of men all over the world. Sexual endurance and self-confidence go hand in hand in the bedroom. Knowing how to properly control yourself when you are with a woman will give you confidence in all aspects of your life. If you are not lasting long enough, your sense of self worth and confidence are likely to plummet.

Exactly How Long Is Long Enough?

There is something about porn that gives men the misconception that sex should last for an hour or more. But the simple truth is, you only need to last as long as a YouTube clip!

While the debate about ideal sexual stamina has been ongoing for as long as mankind, sexual therapists have in recent years suggest that intercourse that lasts from 3 to 7 minutes is satisfactory. Anything from 7 to 13 minutes is considered desirable – not including the time reserved for foreplay.

Sounds surprising? Well it shouldn’t be. Considering that most women need about 7 to 15 minutes of sexual stimulation to reach an orgasm, the suggested duration for “desirable” sex sounds logical.

Great Sex Does NOT Involve A Stopwatch

Many men are so preoccupied about not wanting to climax too soon, that they ended up doing exactly what they fear most! Sexual anxiety will almost always impair your performance in bed!

For a woman, great sex involves a slow, titillating build-up that envelopes both her mind and body. Use this to your advantage. Don’t view sex in terms of duration. View it in terms of quality. Such a mindset will do a whole lot of good to your confidence in bed.
You see, of all the “instruments” you can use to stimulate and arouse a woman sexually – your fingers, tongue and penis – the last one is ironically the one you have the least amount of control over.

Accelerate Her Sexual Anticipation

So, use your fingers and tongue to heighten her anticipation and arousal FIRST. Give her sensual hot spots some tender, loving attention. And I don’t just mean the obvious places. A woman is incredibly blessed with many erogenous areas on her body. The nape of her neck, her ear lobes, the underside of her arms are all great places to start with.

When a woman is sufficiently aroused before penetration, it actually lowers her threshold for orgasm, reducing the turnaround time for her to reach a climax during intercourse. And when that happens, your confidence will soar, performance anxiety will take a backseat, and you will naturally last longer too!

Best Orgasm Tips Of 2011

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An orgasm is the icing on the cake with sex, so make sure that’s where you and your partner are headed. Many women fail to have an climax with their partner during sex, sometimes not for lack of trying. “Getting there” can be frustrating for both parties, especially if he’s too fast or she can’t seem to get over the top. So we’ve put together our best climax articles of the year for you to use to have better sex in 2012!

Don’t forget to take a good look at some of our all time favorite orgasm articles! These have some of the best orgasm tips we’ve ever seen!

We’ve also spent a lot of time this year finding and reviewing the best orgasm tips products out there, so you know which ones are a good buy – and which ones aren’t. Check out the best orgasm resources we found this year:

  • Female Orgasm Secrets Revealed (a great book for guys who want to learn how to give women great orgasms)
  • The Female Orgasm Blueprint (teaches men how a woman’s climax works from beginning to end)
  • Faster Female Orgasm (this guide is directed towards women, so they can learn to take control of their own climax and learn to reach their peak faster and stronger than they ever have before!)

Best Male Masturbation Secrets Of 2011

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Male masturbation has taken on a life of its own as men get more comfortable with masturbating and using sex toys. As society evolves, male masturbation becomes less and less taboo, simply because people are starting to realize that every guy does it! It is becoming widely accepted for men to purchase masturbation aids such as pornography or sleeves and lube. Women are being educated about how it is a normal, natural thing for men to do and even a healthy part of every relationship, so they are no longer getting jealous over their partner’s masturbation habits or asking their partners to refrain from it.

Embrace male masturbation as a great way to relieve sexual frustration, help prevent prostate cancer, relieve painful headaches, give yourself a good mood boost or even help you sleep. There are a number of awesome benefits that you can reap. Encourage your partner to masturbate as well. Check out our best tips this year – and take a look at the best female sex tips of 2011 – and make next year even better when it comes to learning new and different ways to satisfy yourself!

Don’t forget to check out some of our all time favorite male masturbation articles!

Male Sex Toys – 5 Things That AREN’T For Her!

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Male sex toys are becoming more and more popular as guys realize that they’re not only for women. Men can have just as much fun during masturbation as a woman can! Here are some must have male sex toys!

A Masturbation Sleeve

Every guy needs one of these! Forget masturbating with your hand – these soft jelly or skin-like sleeves are specifically designed to maximize a man’s pleasure during masturbation. Male sex toys just don’t get any better than this – there are hundreds of different materials, sizes and looks to choose from, so it’s not at all difficult to find one that you really enjoy. Men who use masturbation sleeves report better, deeper orgasms and more overall satisfaction.

Also, keep in mind that to use a masturbation sleeve, you need a bottle of lube hanging around. Most lube will work, but pay attention and don’t use silicone lubes with silicone sleeves, or oil based lubes with latex sleeves. A good, water based lubricant will work with any material.

A Cock Ring

Most guys don’t think about using a cock ring during masturbation, but it can make a world of difference! Cock rings aren’t just for guys who have erectile dysfunction and can’t keep it up, nor are they just for couples who like a vibrating bullet in between them. A soft jelly cock ring can just feel great during masturbation, while a stiffer one can prolong a man’s erection and make his orgasm absolutely incredible.

A Prostate Stimulator

You may have heard that the best male orgasm comes from massaging the prostate gland – however, many guys are still too shy to try anal stimulation. If you can get past the “ick” factor that many men have when thinking about playing with the anus during masturbation, you can have a lot of fun and even more pleasure.

A good drawer full of male sex toys isn’t complete without a prostate stimulator. If you’re new to it, or are still a little creeped out by it but want to achieve that amazing orgasm that everyone is always talking about, try starting with a smaller prostate stimulator. A tiny butt plug will get you used to anal play during masturbation, and as you get more and more into it, you can replace your beginner’s sex toys with more advanced ones.

A Penis Pump

Penis pumps are also not male sex toys that are confined to men that struggle with erectile dysfunction. Any man can enjoy a penis pump, especially if he wants to mimic the sucking feeling produced during oral sex or if he just wants a bigger, harder erection. Penis pumps are often inexpensive, and you can even get pumping models that have a soft jelly or skin-like “masturbation sleeve” attachment.

Be careful when using a penis pump, and never, ever use a vacuum cleaner instead of a pump made specifically for sex. If you pump too hard, you can cause bruising or pain and discomfort. Not worth it! But when used correctly before or during your masturbation session, you can experience more pleasure with a bigger, longer and harder penis.

A Masturbator Mount

If you really want masturbation to feel like a vagina, try purchasing a masturbator mount. Some mounts may only be compatible with some brands of masturbation sleeves, while other types of sleeves cannot be mounted at all. If you’re looking into a mount, make sure you choose one that is compatible with the masturbation sleeve that you already have or are willing to purchase a new one.

A masturbator mount will hold the masturbation sleeve for you, so you can enjoy it absolutely hands free. There are different styles of mounts depending on which sex position you enjoy most – and you can pick the one you like instead of trying to find one that you and someone else will enjoy!

You will love the hands free action that a mount can provide, because it makes it feel even more like sex. Even with a masturbation sleeve, there’s something about doing it with your hands that makes it feel not as good as the real thing (probably because it isn’t the real thing). However, with a mount, you can trick your brain into thinking you’re actually doing the dirty, especially if you close your eyes or have your favorite porn playing on the television in front of you. Just don’t forget to lock the doors!

3 Blowjob Moves You’ve NEVER Heard Of!

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A blowjob can be simple – or it can be incredible. Good fellatio is any kind of fellatio – even if the girl doesn’t know what she’s doing, it still feels pretty good. On the other hand, amazing oral sex comes when a woman really has the skills to make a man turn weak at the knees and knows when to throw the old tricks away and bring in some new maneuvers. Quit doing the same old things and try something fresh that you and your partner have never done before!

The Bounce Technique

Have your partner lay flat on the bed with you in between his legs. Give him head like you normally would, getting his penis really hard. When you sense that he’s super turned on, raise your head, shoulders and tummy off of him. Place your hands on either side of your partner’s hips, like you’re getting ready to do a push up. At this point, the only thing that should be touching him is your mouth. You also want to make sure there’s lots of saliva or you’re using flavored lube – this move is much better when it’s wetter.

Use your arms to push the bed down, moving his body away from you. When you let up a little, his penis is going to slide further into your mouth. You can start slowly to get control over what you’re doing (because you definitely want to have complete control over the movement here), but you want to start pushing the bed up and down faster and faster. What you’re doing is using the bed springs to bounce his pelvis back and forth into your mouth.

Why This Is So Amazing

You can only move your head and neck so fast when you’re giving a blowjob without any help. However, when you’re using the bed springs to bounce his penis in and out of your mouth, you can actually get going pretty fast – almost guaranteed faster than he’s ever experienced before. It does take a fair amount of upper arm strength to keep this going, but it’s well worth it.

An important note: never let his penis come all the way out of your mouth. You want to let up just as your lips are around the head of the penis. If you pull out completely, his penis may miss your mouth on the next time in, which can be pretty painful when giving fellatio at that speed!

The Cock Ring Technique

You may have used a cock ring during a blowjob before, but it isn’t required for this maneuver. Instead, you’re actually going to be using your thumb and your forefinger as a cock ring. It actually is very common for women to do this, but the trouble is, they aren’t timing their sucking with the pressure of their fingers – so it doesn’t do a whole lot of good.

Start by getting your partner’s penis erect, and then place your thumb and your forefinger around his shaft like a cock ring. Don’t tighten your fingers just yet! When your man is super turned on, start by sucking on the head and upper shaft of his penis pretty firmly. This isn’t just a light suck or a lick – you actually want to move the blood farther into the head of the penis. Before you stop sucking firmly, tighten your grip on the base of his penis.

Why This Is So Amazing

What you’re actually doing here is acting like a penis pump – you’re moving the blood into the head of the penis and creating a rock hard erection. By tightening your fingers at just the right time, you keep the blood in the head of the penis instead of allowing it to drain right back down the shaft. When this is done correctly, you should feel his penis becoming harder and more engorged, especially at the head. When the head is swollen, stop sucking so firmly and flick the head with your tongue. It will feel ten times more powerful than if you did it without getting him that hard first!

The Deep Throat Technique

Almost all men love it when a woman deep throats. However, not every woman can. If you can, here’s a great technique to try to mix it up a little bit. When your man is good and ready, take him all in. When your mouth reaches the base of his penis, move your head back and forth quickly, like you’re shaking your head “no.” You may only be able to do this for a few seconds at a time, but that’s all it takes for this move to drive your man utterly insane with pleasure!

Why This Is So Amazing

You typically see “head shaking” in porn when oral sex is being performed on a woman. Once the giver’s mouth is completely covering the vulva, the giver will shake their head back and forth quickly. This feels intense for a woman for two reasons – the back and forth motion stimulates the clitoris and it makes the giver look like they’re really enjoying it. Why does a man have to miss out?

When you have him deep in your throat and you shake your head back and forth, it sends the signal to your partner that you’re really into it and you just can’t get enough. It’s like a pie eating contest – it’s so good, you just want to shove your face in it and eat it all up! He also gets to feel every inch of him in your warm, wet mouth and when you shake your head back and forth, the head of his penis will bounce against the sides of your throat, giving him even more stimulation.