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Best Sex Toys & Vibrators Of 2011

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Sex toys and vibrators make getting it on so much more fun!

Using a vibrator or a g-spot stimulator can help a woman to discover new things about her body and have orgasms like she’s never had before, while masturbating with a soft jelly or silicone sleeve can feel way better than his hand.

Items specifically designed for sexual pleasure are becoming more and more popular, with less and less taboo surrounding them. Many people are choosing to take sexual pleasure into their own hands and investing in sex toys for the very first time. Also, more and more couples are venturing into the sex toy arena in an effort to spice up their sex life. Using sex toys as a couple, either on each other or as an addition to oral sex or fingering, can make sex with your partner hotter than it ever has been before!

Check out our favorite sex toys articles and reviews of the year here!

Also, don’t forget to check out the all-time best sex toy articles!

Here are some our favorite sex toys that we’ve tried this year – don’t forget to get yours!

Best Female Masturbation Secrets Of 2011

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Female masturbation is more common than you think – lots of girls are into it. However, not every girl knows how best to stimulate her clitoris or which sex toy is perfect for g-spot stimulation during a solo session. Guys can also gain a lot of knowledge about how to give a woman an orgasm by checking out these tips and how girls get themselves off when they’re alone. Some takeaways this year about women’s solo habits:

  • It’s completely normal! Masturbation is perfectly normal and even healthy for male and female teens going through puberty, adults, singles and even couples in a long term relationship or marriage!
  • Masturbation can help relieve headaches and other pain. An orgasm can make you feel lots better after a stressful day, or when you have a headache.
  • Sex toys are a must have! While doing it with your fingers is pretty darn convenient, very few things beat the kind of orgasms you can have when you bring a vibrator into the mix. You don’t have to have a whole slew of sex toys (although that’s pretty fun too), but one or two trusted toys that get the job done and done well definitely belong in your nightstand drawer. Our fave sex toys this year are the LELO Nea & The Wild G-Spot Vibrator (we love this one, so we got you a sweet 50% OFF deal). Don’t forget lube – our personal favorite is Pjur Lube!

Here are the most awesome women’s solo articles from this past year!

And our all time favorite, BEST article on female masturbation is:

If you’re a girl who doesn’t masturbate or masturbate regularly, make 2012 the year that you’re going to start exploring your own body and taking control of your own orgasms! Women who masturbate are almost always more sexually satisfied – especially if they’re in a relationship – than their non-masturbating sisters.

Hands Free Orgasm – Can Women Masturbate Without Touching Themselves?

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An orgasm usually happens when a woman stimulates her clitoris or g-spot – or her partner does. It’s assumed that a woman must be stimulated to reach orgasm, but everyone says that a girl’s brain is an instrumental part in getting to climax – so can a woman reach orgasm without ever touching herself at all?

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The Brain Plays A Huge Role In Arousal For Girls

You may have heard that a girl’s brain is important when it comes to sex, but you probably really have no idea just how important this organ is – even more so than any other part of her body! You might think that her clitoris is more important, or her breasts are, but that is far from the truth – her clitoris won’t even respond if her mind isn’t already engaged! Also, if a woman is thinking about other things during sex or masturbation, is stressed out or worried, it is going to be extremely difficult for her to have an orgasm. For a woman to respond really well to sex, she’s got to be mentally engaged before she ever becomes physically engaged. Which means you need to expand your definition of foreplay beyond just touching – you have to start by engaging her MIND.

It Is Possible For The Brain To Produce An Orgasm Alone

If a girl’s mind is focused on things other than sex, she’s not going to have an orgasm. That much we know. In theory, is it possible that if a girl’s mind is focused only on sex and reaching orgasm, that she will? Yes, in theory it is possible. The brain’s connection to arousal in a woman is a very, very powerful thing! There are a couple of different ways this can happen, including spontaneous orgasms (whether medicine induced or not) and actually willing yourself to have an orgasm by only stimulating your brain.

Spontaneous Orgasm

You might be wondering if this is a bit like spontaneous combustion and in a way, it is. A spontaneous orgasm happens just like that – spontaneously. It can happen out of nowhere all of a sudden, or it can also happen when a woman has been thinking about sex so much and is so turned on that the slightest brush of her clothing or pressure in the right spot will make her climax.

Anti-Depressants And Spontaneous Orgasms

Many medical professionals believe that there is a link between taking anti-depressant medication and having spontaneous orgasms, however, there is no real data out there to suggest this, simply because most women who experience spontaneous orgasms do so in public – at work, on the bus, at the soccer game – and try their best to hide it. Some of the medications that include this side effect are Paxil, Prozac, Celexa, and Wellbutrin. Discuss this possible side effect with your doctor before going on any kind of anti-depressant medication.

Can You Teach Yourself To Have An Orgasm Without Touching Yourself?

Yes! You can actually teach yourself just about anything if you really put your mind to it – and there again is proof of how much power the mind has over the body. Here’s how to do it:

  • Start with normal masturbation. Use your hand, sex toys, or whatever you normally do to masturbate and bring yourself to orgasm.
  • However, this is where you’ll want to start to bring your mind into it more.
  • As you experience each pleasurable sensation, focus on how it feels and how you feel when it happens.
  • Begin contracting your vaginal muscles.
  • Gradually back off from the toy, while focusing on what you’re thinking and how you’re feeling.

With practice, you’ll be surprised at what you can do! Your mind is incredibly powerful – with practice, you can actually will your body to reach climax with just your mind!

Hands Free Masturbation

While many women will experience a completely hands free orgasm, many won’t and having an orgasm without directly touching yourself can be as pleasurable. Try new masturbation techniques that don’t involve your hands. The Sybian is a popular women’s sex toy and it allows the woman to “ride” the dildo, with or without vibration.

Hands free clitoral vibrators are also a good choice to help teach your body to have an orgasm without direct stimulation from your hands. They are simply placed over the clitoris and held in place with straps, and are usually operated by remote control. These can be a great way to train yourself to experience “hands free orgasms” and can help you bridge to stimulation free orgasms.

Dirty Talk: Practice Makes Perfect!

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Dirty talk can be intimidating if you’ve never done it before. But if you do it over and over, you’ll get better at it – and you can make your sex life HOT! If you are new to dirty talk, you will most likely need some practice so that you are comfortable with the act when it’s time to begin.

How To Get Used To It

You can practice just like you would for a speech and even do it in front of the mirror. Try doing it out loud while you masturbate. You can practice with sexting, writing short notes or via email (but be very careful when sending to a work email address!)

Allow yourself some fantasy time and as your mind wanders as to what it is you’d like to be doing, jot it down. Once you give yourself room for self expression and the permission to write down these sexual thoughts that are floating around inside your head, you will find out just what kind of phrases turn you on. Choose a few at a time to spring on your spouse the next time you’re in bed together. Some people find it much easier to put the words down and use letters as a way of beginning their exploration into dirty talk. The more you use stimulating conversation the easier it gets and it will become like second nature.

It Takes Two To Tango

Dirty talk works best when it is used as a dialogue. No one wants to be doing all of the talking in any conversation. Encourage your partner after they’ve joined in by telling them the next day how hot you thought it was when they said something that sticks out in your mind. If you do this, they won’t be left wondering if anything they uttered was embarrassing or whether you found any of it odd or inappropriate. A little encouragement can go a long, long way.

If your partner is a novice or not very vocal, here are some ways to help get them in the game:

  • Watch an adult movie together that has dirty talk in it – either in the bedroom or out. This can help set the pace.
  • Read a book passage that has some very erotic text – these are very easy to find in most bookstores and are chocked full of plenty of sex scenes. Take turns reading them to each other or hi-lite passages that turn you on when you’re alone so that you can read them during playtime in bed.
  • Pick up a book on erotic poetry. Read portions to each other while rubbing on your partner. Ask them which ones they found the most stimulating while you were reading to them.
  • Write sexy emails back and forth and try to get the dialogue going. (Again, you probably do not need to use work email addresses for this).

Questions To Ask In The Bedroom

  • Do you want me to do it fast or slow tonight?
  • Do you like the feel of my wet ___?
  • Are you ready to shoot your load in me?
  • Where do you want me to ejaculate?

Let your partner start out with “yes” or “no” responses back to these open ended questions. Then encourage them by saying, “please, tell me more,” as they get more comfortable about talking back to you.

How To Become The Sensual Seductress Your Man Fantasizes About!

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Most sex tips are going to be lost on you if you’re hiding your erotic side. However, these sex tips will teach you how to become the naughty girl your guy wants!

If racy undergarments, racks of sex toys, and adult videos make you want to hide beneath the sheets, you sure are oblivious of what real moments of ecstasy and fun feels like. It is indeed a curious exhilaration to discover your sensual side and embrace a whole new world of sexual fun.

Before we get to the point, the first of these sex tips would be – relax! Put your guards down and you, the uptight lot – think less, and feel more. Now that you are ready to experience the best of your body and carnal desires, here is a list of suggestions that would transform you into a seductive tigress:

Wear Sexy Lingerie That Reveals Your Curves Just Right

When you feel sexy, you look sexy. If thongs are what caters to your fancy, try going in for a nice lace thong that has a wider back to ensure better comfort, like the popular 4811 thong from Hanky Panky, or the Never Say Never by Cosabella. Another secret is hidden in boy shorts. Guys love them – really! So get yourself one that fits you, and gives a small glimpse of your cheeks. Sometimes the idea of sex is itself so erotic. Lace boy shorts are a good pick.

Also, you cannot deny how hot garter belts are! You can either keep them hanging loose on your bare legs, or simply clip them to some thigh-highs. Both ways, it’s gonna be irresistible!

Dive In With Sex Toys

Do not complicate. Since you would be a beginner with sex toys, start on with anything that is small and easy to use. A LELO Mia or Nea are discreet choice for masturbation. For some adventurous fun, the We-Vibe and Pleasure Commander are some of the best selling sex toys for couples. One thing that you must not forget is that these are mere toys and not a replacement of your lover – they simply make lovemaking more fun and brings in versatility to your bedroom.

Try Lube

Silicone-based lubes, such as Pjur or Swiss Navy are great choices as they do not contain any biocides or parabens, and often remain slippery for a longer duration, in comparison to their water-based counterparts.

Be sure to stick to glycerin-free lubes, as anything that contains glycerin is bound to have sugar that can instigate yeast infection. Lubes that have warming ingredients have also been known to have caused some allergic reactions, so they are also a big NO! But you can always take lube in your hand and rub them for a few minutes, it will warm up on its own.

Watch Some Good Porn

Yes, there are adult videos that both men and women can enjoy together. Anything that will have some stimulating foreplay and a bit of storyline will get you started well. Couples videos usually make for a good watch as they normally focus shots, face shots, have attractive performers, as well as more sensuality that will get you going between the sheets right away. The Masseuse starring Jenna Jameson or the Chemistry Series starring Tristen Taormino are a big hit among the couples. Eyes of Desire or The Bridal Shower are some good bets if you want some story to go along with it.

Grab Some Erotic Books

Instinctively you may be thinking of picking up some how-to books to explore new ideas. There are many books out there that can inspire you immensely. A game of truth or dare, or reading aloud an erotic fiction to your lover can also ignite that fizzle and make the passion burn forever.

Creativity in bedroom keeps boredom out of your relationship and entwines you with him for love, lust and more, that is bound to last until eternity.