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Hot Foreplay Buttons You DIDN’T Know About!

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Foreplay is so critical to the female orgasm. Check out these sweet triggers that will get her dripping wet – and you probably never knew they existed!

There are 101 things that you can do tonight that can make your woman’s blood boil a little hotter. A lot of men think immediately that this involves new and difficult sex positions or even the use of sexual aids but really, just having an idea of which pleasure buttons to hit is all it takes. Read on!

The Neck

While making out, make sure your lips and tongue give attention to your lover’s neck. Ok, a lot of men do that already and you’ve probably applied that technique yourself… but what about that soft and tender patch of skin in front of her ears?!? While kissing or licking this soft area, whisper something sweet or something lewd! Now that will get your girl going.

Lick Her Lips Like You’ll Lick Her….

Break away from kissing her just a bit and then lick her lips. While licking her lips oh so gently, whisper that you can’t wait to lick her down there too!

Tease Her More

Just when she’s wet and panting, glide your hand down there and caress her through her undies. And then say something with the word ‘soaking’ in your sentence.

Touch Yourself

Make your way to the bed and as she’s lying there, deliberately get off the bed and put some distance between the two of you. Now undress, making sure she sees exactly how turned on you are. You don’t need to engage in full-on masturbation but touching yourself once or twice to show how long you are for her is a good idea.

Playing With A Scarf

As she lays down naked in bed, run a silk tie or silk scarf all over her. Now ask her to turn around and this time, as the silk tie or scarf runs over her spine, follow it up with your hot tongue.

A Bed Dance

Instead of a striptease, why not ask your lover for a ‘bed dance’ instead? This is when she dances completely naked all over you as you like completely naked on your back. Have her sashay all over your face, chest, and yes, down there.

Hotter Oral Sex

While giving oral sex, place a pillow under her to elevate her mound. This will give you more access, and her, more pleasure.

Going For A “Drive”

While out on a weekend drive, pull over somewhere semi-secluded and then ask her to pleasure you or bend down and suck on her breasts.

A Little Twist On The “69”

Instead of the standard 69 position, why not place your manhood between her breasts instead while you guys in this position. Or why not do the ‘inverted 69’. This is when she sits on you but instead of using your mouth on your manhood. She sits up and uses her hands on you instead.

Get A Peek

This time, while she’s on top, ask her NOT to remove her clothes. Instead, lift up her t-shirt or lingerie every now and then so you can get a “peek” at what you’re doing down there.

Doggy Style, Lying Down

Take her from behind doggy style but instead of being on your knees, do this lying down. The pleasure will be more intense!

If It’s Not Rough, It Isn’t Fun

Don’t be shy to ‘rough each other up’ once in a while! So tonight, don’t go to your bedroom; don’t even lie down. Do it against a wall with your clothes still on and just about 10 minutes before somebody is due to visit you! The roughness, the wildness, and the thrill of being caught with your pants down – literally! – will make this the hottest sex ever!

Twist It Up

While she’s on the ‘woman on top’ position, ask her to SLOWLY turn around (face your feet instead). As she does this, stay as unmoving as you can in bed. This will enable you to feel every inch of her on your manhood as she twists and turns.

Get It On In The A.M.

Morning sex is so underrated! Tomorrow morning, why not engage in slow sensual sex OR take her rough over the bathroom sink as she tries to brush her teeth!

There’s lots of ways you can increase the hotness meter in your bedroom (or elsewhere) without having to engage in anything you may consider “taboo.” Just let your imagination run a little wild and just go with it! You can never anticipate what reaction you’ll get from your partner until you try.

Sex Games: 12 Nights Of Passion

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Sex games can be as easy or as complicated as you want them to be. There are those where you just whip out a sex game board and be done with it in a few minutes – nothing wrong with that! – but there are also those that take some time in its execution.

Your sex life should never be a routine. That’s why it’s important to engage in BOTH simple and more complex sex games. One benefit of the latter is that the longer you delay actual lovemaking, the hotter you guys are by that time!

This sex game is designed for super extended foreplay. The goal is to reach the 12th night without having intercourse, making the 12th night one of intense lovemaking. Here’s a sample outline you can use.

1. Romantic Dinner

Have a romantic dinner either at home or at a fancy restaurant. While dining, play footsie and/or indulge in a little bit of groping underneath the table.

2. Cuddling

Sprinkle red roses in bed, light some candles and play some soft music, and then just cuddle each other till you sleep.

3. Play Strip Poker

Play strip poker and once all your or your partner’s clothes are off, engage in a little dry rubbing, but that’s it! Don’t engage in having sex.

4. “Silent Dirty Words”

Play “silent dirty words.” Get a pen and blank sheet of paper each. Write a dirty word or phrase on the piece of paper, tear it off and hand it to your lover. Your lover reads it and then drops it in a bowl. Now it’s her turn to write another dirty word or phrase and hand it off to you. Do not talk in between this exercise.

Just write, show the words and that’s it. The ‘loser’ is the one who runs out of dirty words first. (You will notice that at the end of this exercise, you guys have just collected a bowl of dirty phrases you can use for a future game!) After the game has ended, laugh it off, have a bowl of ice cream or something and go to bed.

5. Play Naked Twister

Play sexy twister. Take out the twister mat or board and play a traditional game of Twister – naked.

6. Oral Sex

It’s the sixth day, give yourselves a little bit of reprieve by engaging in some hot oral sex. You can bring each other to a climax but do NOT engage in intercourse.

7. Leave Your Porn Out

“Accidentally” leave out some adult-rated reading material for your lover to see and glance over. Make sure the erotica is hot enough to really bring about lust in your partner. When she asks you about it, feign innocence!

8. Sexual Massage

Give each other a sexual massage. Be naughty and daring but do not engage in lovemaking. You can engage in oral pleasure but not to the point of bringing on a climax.

9. Have Phone Sex

Give your partner a call at an odd hour of the day, say 2 PM or whenever she least expects it, and engage in some phone sex. Don’t go too far; just get each other excited. After that, say you probably dialed the wrong number and hang up, or change your voice to ‘normal’ and simply say “love you honey, see you tonight for dinner” and then hang up.

10. Read Online Erotica Together

Go online together tonight and preview a few adult-rated literotica.

11. Sexting

Send naughty messages to your lover all throughout the day! Send a sex joke via SMS, email a long and dirty joke, and others. By the time you see each other tonight, pretend like nothing happened!

12. Make Amateur Porn

Shoot a short erotic video of yourself. Don’t go all the way. Instead, at the end of the video, look into the camera and tell your lover where you should meet tonight. It can be a hotel room, motel room or your own bedroom but fancily dressed up. The minute your lover enters the location you indicated on the video, do not engage in foreplay whatsoever! After all these days, your pent up feelings will be enough for one of the hottest moments of your life!

This sex game is designed to bring about so many things in your relationship. It’s a sex game of creativity and control. But its real goal is to make each day one of heightened sexual pleasure and longing for each other. Can you imagine how you guys will come together by the 12th night after all that waiting and sexual highs and lows?!? Give this extended sex game a try and be sure to do it more than once a year!

Oral Sex: How To Push All Her Hot Buttons!

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There’s no denying that couples of all ages love to engage in oral sex practices. In fact, married couples are likely to have more sex, and more varied sex, than single people and, according to stats, even oral sex is more common in married couples rather than single couples.

So here’s some advice to help you hone your oral dexterity.

Oral Sex Prepwork

One of the biggest turn-offs when performing oral sex on someone is not being clean, trimmed and proper. And assume that if you’re giving oral sex to her, she’s going to give it to you.

The clean side: Wash. Everywhere. For longer than three seconds. There are a lot of tiny hidden crevices in and around a man’s penis, and after a long day tucked into underwear and pants, naturally you’re going to sweat (and start to possibly smell – I’m not going to sugar-coat it). Proper regular hygiene creates a much more inviting environment for her face (and all of her senses). Even a quick washcloth wipe-down will be an improvement.

The trimmed side: Maybe you just missed the manscaping train, but it’s time to hop on because, well, hair is icky. Not all hair – just long, thick hair. It’s a trap for bacteria, it’s not the most attractive accessory, and it’s another deterrent when it comes to creating an appealing atmosphere.

Best Oral Sex Positions

Just as there are a countless number of techniques to satisfy your mate there are just as many varying positions you can use when engaging in oral sex, each with its own perks.

Need a few? OK, here goes:

She stands and you kneel in front of her. This is perfect for urgent sex plus it appeals to alpha females who like seeing you shamelessly submissive in front of him. And besides, if you want to see her in that position next, then you’d better get on your knees (put a pillow underneath your knees so she can see you’re not in any rush).

If you want to impress, lie on your back on the bed with your head hanging over the edge and get her to straddle your mouth. You may not be able to stay in this position for long, but she’ll definitely appreciate the effort.

Techniques That Will Drive Her Wild

All of the positions mentioned above can be effective but only if you use the right techniques. That means – you use all those tools, from your fingers and hands to your mouth and tongue, to manoeuvre your way around and get her off.

While a repetitive motion can be the perfect way to finish things off and help your wife to climax, a slow melange of kissing, licking, sucking, and even gentle blowing is the best technique to get her to the sheet-clenching stage. Mix long broad strokes with more delicate ones. Breathe lightly on her clitoris (never into her vagina) between licks.

10 Foreplay Faux Pas To Avoid

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Foreplay can make or break sex – if you do it wrong, you might not be getting any at all. Here are some “don’ts” to keep in mind when getting hot and heavy.

Sometimes, in our quest for better foreplay and better sex, we tend to get a bit carried away – to the point that we do things that TURN OFF our partners. Some of these mistakes are not just overzealousness but due to myths propagated in adult films and magazines.

Cleanliness Is Next To Godliness

Take a shower and be properly groomed. I’m not talking about going to a salon here. Just ensure that your breath and body are clean. Also, if you’re planning to do some ‘poking’, ensure that you cut your nails down. Nothing hurts more than long nails, or can be more disgusting (in case you poke into something and er… take out something with your nails! Yuck!)

The Sound Of Music

Put on some music. Foreplay can be a very embarrassingly noisy event (wet slapping noises, an escaped fart or two, etc.). To hide these sounds, drown them out with a bit of sexy music.

Don’t Overdo It

Don’t OVER-tongue him/her. Don’t ram your tongue into your partner’s eardrums or throat when kissing. It can be a complete turn off if he/she feels the need to tilt his/her head (from having clogged ears) or feels the need to gag.

Don’t Embarrass Your Lover

Don’t embarrass him/her. I once advised a client to ‘start foreplay early during the day’ and mentioned some of my ‘foreplay techniques’ like rubbing against each other, dry humping, footsie playing, etc. Well, I guess my client got carried away as she tried footsie playing with him during a business dinner. She thought she was being ‘naughty’, he thought it was annoying. Moral lesson? Know WHEN to make your moves.

Nipple Play

Don’t twirl, tweak and twist her nipples hard. No. Despite what you often see in porn films, she really doesn’t like it if you play too roughly with her nipples. They need to be caressed, not manhandled.

Be Aware Of Body Image Issues

Don’t be the one to request to turn the lights off. Almost all women have body image issues. So don’t do her a favor by asking to have the lights off. In contrast, she’ll immediately think you find her body offensive in some way. If she’s not exactly the ‘cover girl’ type, don’t over compliment her either because she’ll know you’re lying. Instead, just tell her you prefer women with ‘curves.’

When To Stimulate The G-Spot

Don’t go for g-spot stimulation if you don’t know what the hell you’re doing! Sure, g-spot stimulation can bring her almost sexual nirvana but it can be painful for her if you don’t know what you’re doing. I’m not saying don’t attempt it. Rather, be very attuned to how she responds to your fingers.

Don’t Ask A Man To Wear A Thong!

Don’t ask him to wear a thong. Ladies, despite what you hear about the ‘metrosexual man,’ don’t ask him to put on a thong. It really does turn most men OFF.

Don’t Smother Him

He’s given you oral sex and boy do you love it! You’re delirious with pleasure and because of this you… try to squeeze your thighs shut and/or start to grab his hair and knead his face against your crotch. Well, let’s see what you’re REALLY doing to him hear. With the first one, you’re like a praying mantis trying to squeeze and rip his head off. With the second one, you’re making it hard for him to breathe! Ease up girls. Show your appreciation the RIGHT way and he’s bound to lick you to the ends of the earth again.

He’s Not A Mind Reader!

Don’t expect him to read your mind. One of the worse things you can do during foreplay is to expect him to know exactly what you want to happen. With this attitude, you’re really setting yourself (and him) for a disaster. Let him know that you like what he’s doing to you, or better yet, TELL him EXACTLY what you want done. He’ll appreciate it and you get what you want. Win-win!

Increasing Sexual Tension

Foreplay is all about increasing sexual tension in a way that is pleasurable for you and your partner in more than just the sexual sense. It should be in an atmosphere of comfort and trust, and maybe even with a hint of sexual danger, and not be forced or selfish in any way.

Think about this the next time you engage in foreplay with your partner and you’re bound to have a great and sexually thrilling time!

Make Him BEG For You – With Only 1 Easy Technique!

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Sex is pretty simple for a fella – he puts it in and off he goes. Sure, men like foreplay too, but intercourse is where it’s at for the guys. Once he’s inside, he’s home free. But what if you could tease him SO bad that he begs you to wrap your legs around him? What if you could make him want you so much, that he feels like he’s going to explode? Here’s how!

Start By Giving Him A Great Blowjob

Men like foreplay. It’s not necessarily a requirement – because let’s face it, he will get off if you just skip straight to sex – but you can really turbo charge his desires by beginning with a blowjob. No, this isn’t a “finishing” blowjob. You don’t want to suck him off to the point of orgasm, because that will defeat the purpose. You’re going to use this as your warm up.

The pace you want to go at throughout this entire scenario is slow. Not painfully slow, but deliciously slow. You want to accentuate every single move you’re making, so you want to go slow, slow, slow. When giving him oral sex, start out by gently licking up and down his penis like a lollipop. This isn’t going to do much for him physically, but he’ll definitely enjoy the show, so make sure you make some eye contact here and make sure he’s in a position where he can watch.

As you get farther into the blowjob, you still don’t want to speed things up too much. Move your mouth up and down his penis, but do it very slowly. Let him feel your lips dragging up and down his penis, and over the veins and ridges of his erection. He will love it, and it will get him ready for what you’re going to do next!

Choose Your Sex Position

This maneuver is really going to work only in the missionary or woman on top sex positions. You may think this is a drawback, but it’s not – it’s about time you learned how to make boring old missionary or woman on top hotter than it ever has been before!

When your guy is nice and warmed up (and you should be too, if you enjoy giving oral sex at all – and if he’s made plenty of noises and gestures to let you know that he’s really into it) you’re going to slip into the sex position that you plan on using. If you want more control over your own orgasm, woman on top is an excellent choice. If you’ve already gotten yours, say if you fingered yourself or used a vibrator while you were going down on him, or if missionary really is your thing, then let him take his place on top of you.

The 1 Easy Trick To Get Him To BEG For Release!

Put the head of his penis into your vagina – but no further! Have sex with just the head of his penis. If you’re on top, this is easy to do. If he’s on top, you’re going to have to position your legs around his hips so you can use your leg muscles to stop him when he starts going in too far. What makes this so sexy is that you’re not “letting” him enter you fully!

Again, remember that your pace is slow. You want him to feel the warmth and the wetness with the head of his penis (which is the most sensitive part, mind you) but if you go too fast, some of the sensations may be lost since you’re not giving him sensation on the entire length of his penis. By going slow, you accentuate each movement, so letting only his head enter you is going feel amazing for him.

After just a few minutes of doing this, you want to either thrust yourself down onto his penis, or use your legs to pull him deeply into you, depending on what sex position you’re in. This is the ONLY part that isn’t slow – you want to get his shaft into your vagina fully in one quick movement. You should hear an audible “gasp” at this point, because he will be overwhelmed by the sensations!

Only allow a stroke or two before you pull him out and only let him use the head of his penis. Remember to go slow enough for him to feel everything! After a few times of allowing him to feel his entirety inside of you, he’s going to be begging for release! In fact, he may very well turn the “alpha male” on and just take you!