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3 Blowjob Moves You’ve NEVER Heard Of!

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A blowjob can be simple – or it can be incredible. Good fellatio is any kind of fellatio – even if the girl doesn’t know what she’s doing, it still feels pretty good. On the other hand, amazing oral sex comes when a woman really has the skills to make a man turn weak at the knees and knows when to throw the old tricks away and bring in some new maneuvers. Quit doing the same old things and try something fresh that you and your partner have never done before!

The Bounce Technique

Have your partner lay flat on the bed with you in between his legs. Give him head like you normally would, getting his penis really hard. When you sense that he’s super turned on, raise your head, shoulders and tummy off of him. Place your hands on either side of your partner’s hips, like you’re getting ready to do a push up. At this point, the only thing that should be touching him is your mouth. You also want to make sure there’s lots of saliva or you’re using flavored lube – this move is much better when it’s wetter.

Use your arms to push the bed down, moving his body away from you. When you let up a little, his penis is going to slide further into your mouth. You can start slowly to get control over what you’re doing (because you definitely want to have complete control over the movement here), but you want to start pushing the bed up and down faster and faster. What you’re doing is using the bed springs to bounce his pelvis back and forth into your mouth.

Why This Is So Amazing

You can only move your head and neck so fast when you’re giving a blowjob without any help. However, when you’re using the bed springs to bounce his penis in and out of your mouth, you can actually get going pretty fast – almost guaranteed faster than he’s ever experienced before. It does take a fair amount of upper arm strength to keep this going, but it’s well worth it.

An important note: never let his penis come all the way out of your mouth. You want to let up just as your lips are around the head of the penis. If you pull out completely, his penis may miss your mouth on the next time in, which can be pretty painful when giving fellatio at that speed!

The Cock Ring Technique

You may have used a cock ring during a blowjob before, but it isn’t required for this maneuver. Instead, you’re actually going to be using your thumb and your forefinger as a cock ring. It actually is very common for women to do this, but the trouble is, they aren’t timing their sucking with the pressure of their fingers – so it doesn’t do a whole lot of good.

Start by getting your partner’s penis erect, and then place your thumb and your forefinger around his shaft like a cock ring. Don’t tighten your fingers just yet! When your man is super turned on, start by sucking on the head and upper shaft of his penis pretty firmly. This isn’t just a light suck or a lick – you actually want to move the blood farther into the head of the penis. Before you stop sucking firmly, tighten your grip on the base of his penis.

Why This Is So Amazing

What you’re actually doing here is acting like a penis pump – you’re moving the blood into the head of the penis and creating a rock hard erection. By tightening your fingers at just the right time, you keep the blood in the head of the penis instead of allowing it to drain right back down the shaft. When this is done correctly, you should feel his penis becoming harder and more engorged, especially at the head. When the head is swollen, stop sucking so firmly and flick the head with your tongue. It will feel ten times more powerful than if you did it without getting him that hard first!

The Deep Throat Technique

Almost all men love it when a woman deep throats. However, not every woman can. If you can, here’s a great technique to try to mix it up a little bit. When your man is good and ready, take him all in. When your mouth reaches the base of his penis, move your head back and forth quickly, like you’re shaking your head “no.” You may only be able to do this for a few seconds at a time, but that’s all it takes for this move to drive your man utterly insane with pleasure!

Why This Is So Amazing

You typically see “head shaking” in porn when oral sex is being performed on a woman. Once the giver’s mouth is completely covering the vulva, the giver will shake their head back and forth quickly. This feels intense for a woman for two reasons – the back and forth motion stimulates the clitoris and it makes the giver look like they’re really enjoying it. Why does a man have to miss out?

When you have him deep in your throat and you shake your head back and forth, it sends the signal to your partner that you’re really into it and you just can’t get enough. It’s like a pie eating contest – it’s so good, you just want to shove your face in it and eat it all up! He also gets to feel every inch of him in your warm, wet mouth and when you shake your head back and forth, the head of his penis will bounce against the sides of your throat, giving him even more stimulation.

Q&A: Her Vagina Smells Bad – What Do I Do?

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A vagina has a natural scent which some men enjoy and others don’t. Just like male genitals have a scent, so do female genitals. There are many things that could change the natural smell of the vagina and make the odor much stronger or even foul, so what do you do when the smell of her downstairs area becomes too much to handle?

Question: What do I do when her vagina smells really bad? I noticed, but I did not want to say anything. How do I kill that smell in my room, on my bed and on me?

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Take A Shower Together Before Sex

As part of your foreplay routine, take a shower before sex. Sex in the shower can be super hot, and you can make washing your lover’s vagina part of turning her on. She’ll love the feel of your hands on her clitoris and labia as you soap her up, and she very well may want to do the same to you!

A shower before sex accomplishes two things – you get to wash your partner’s vagina without her really knowing that you’re washing it to get rid of odor (as long as you act like you’re trying to turn her on rather than scrub her clean) and you’re getting her aroused in the process. It’s a win-win situation!

Both Male And Female Genitals Have An Odor

Men may act like going down on a woman that has vaginal odor is the worst thing in the world, but many men forget that their genitals also have an odor. A man’s genitals smell a certain way, even when he is clean. His scent, however, will get stronger and more pungent in between showers and especially if he’s worked outside or engaged in physical activity such as jogging or aerobics.

A woman’s vagina is the same way – her natural smell is going to be less noticeable right after a shower, but it’s still there. It will get stronger as the day goes on, but this doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with her. Women who have more pubic hair will also have a stronger odor, simply because body fluids stick to the hair. Some people find that the scent of their partner’s genitals is arousing, while other people don’t like it at all.

Also, be aware that if you and your partner have sex often without a condom, your seminal fluid is going to be hanging out in her vagina. It’s not going to hurt anything to leave it in there and your partner’s vagina will eventually clean itself out, however, many people find it easier to simply rinse the semen out by douching.

It Could Be An Infection

Women are prone to vaginal infections such as bacterial or yeast infections. A bacterial or yeast infection can cause a woman’s odor to change and become stronger, even with proper genital hygiene. If she washes regularly, or you take a shower before sex and you still notice that your partner’s vagina has a strong odor, she may have an infection.

In this case, you may want to suggest going to the doctor. This can be an awkward conversation, but if you’re genuinely concerned about her and her health and offer to go with her without criticism, she’s not going to be as offended. Do NOT make it about you and how you can’t stand your partner’s vaginal odor. She will likely never have sex with you again!

Not A Chemistry Match

Both men and women release pheromones through their genitals, and different people are attracted to different pheromones. It all has to do with body chemistry – if you find that your partner almost always smells really good down there to you, her body chemistry is likely a great match for you. Alternatively, if you find that she almost always smells really bad to you – even if she has impeccable genital hygiene – she may not be a good chemistry match for you.

Foods That She Eats

You may have heard that eating certain foods will affect the taste of your semen, and the same applies to women. The food she eats will have an impact on her vaginal odor. If she eats a lot of cabbage, garlic, broccoli and onions, her vaginal odor is going to be very pungent. On the other hand, if she’s eating a lot of sweet foods like pineapple and strawberries, her vagina is going to smell sweeter as well.

When To See A Doctor

If you’ve gone through every possible cause of her vaginal odor and you still aren’t able to eliminate it, it may be time to get checked out by the doctor. Other reasons to bring a doctor on board are:

  • Pain while urinating (you or her)
  • Discharge coming from your penis
  • If odor doesn’t go away with hygiene or gets worse
  • Sexual intercourse is painful for her

There’s nothing embarrassing about going to see the doctor – if you’re not comfortable talking with the doctor you currently have about sex or the health of your genitals, find a new one. If your partner isn’t comfortable enough with her doctor to do so, encourage her to find a doctor she is comfortable with.

How To Talk To Her About It

Having to talk to her about her vaginal odor might seem impossible, but if you do it very carefully, it will end well. Some things to keep in mind are:

Don’t Joke About It

Never make jokes about her vaginal odor or make fun of her in any way. Never allow her to overhear you joking about it with your friends, never put it in a text, etc. etc. Guys can often be insensitive, but make sure you’re aware of her feelings the entire time.

Come Off As Concerned

Don’t approach her in a critical way – she’ll instantly get defensive. Instead, make sure she knows you’re concerned about her and her health, not about yourself. If she truly feels as though you care, she’ll be more willing to investigate the problem with you. Offer to go to the doctor with her and be supportive of her as you both try to figure out the root of the problem.

Be Honest With Her

Honesty is important here. While you want to be careful about what you’re saying, lying to her or trying to “sugar coat” the issue isn’t going to get you anywhere. Just be truthful with her in a courteous way.

Why Foreplay Is Critical!

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Foreplay is a critical first step for women, and men often overlook it. Men tend to approach sex in the wrong way. They think that the harder they penetrate, the harder she’ll orgasm. Unfortunately for women, this doesn’t work. Did you know the best way to make a woman orgasm is to not even put your penis inside her?

That’s right, good old third base is a home run for the ladies. The vagina has very few nerve endings past the opening, and hitting the g-spot through penetration is more about lucking out than mastering technique.

Fingering Her To A Frenzy

The male species often thinks that third base is a means to prepare her for his throbbing member, which is why the women they’re with tend not to respond with the screaming orgasm of which they are capable. If you re-program yourself to thinking about fingering as part of “having sex,” then you’ll be able to satisfy her on new levels. She will certainly thank you for it!

Mental Foreplay First

Before you make the journey into the bush, you have to start with foreplay first. Women don’t have the ability to dive right into sex the way men do. She needs a bit of a build up. This starts from the moment you hope to have sex with her later. Every small touch, glance, and kiss throughout the night draws her closer to you. It will be very difficult to get her started if you’ve been acting like she’s a stranger for the past several hours. She doesn’t have to feel completely in love with you, but she does need to feel some sort of connection.

Making Out

When you’re finally alone, never underestimate the power of a good make out session. Remember when you were a teenager and making out was so much fun? It’s because you didn’t really know what was going to come next. You hadn’t gotten to home base yet, or even third base, so the excitement of possibly getting to see her breasts or touch her vagina was almost too much to bear. Re-create that feeling all over again by not rushing a great make out session. Take your time and make her feel like you’ve got nothing else better to do than kiss her all night long.

Eventually, the make out session will lead to more than just kissing – but don’t try to force it.  Start with gentle kisses that escalate into tongue tangling passion, and her nether regions will be begging for some attention once you get there. Do to her mouth what you plan on doing to her clitoris during oral sex – she’ll get the hint and it will turn her on even more to get a “preview” of what your tongue can do for her.

Fondling Her

In the midst of your good old fashioned make-out, put your hands other places, and I don’t mean breasts alone. You should stroke her back, her sides, her hair, and her breasts. Touch her softly and don’t rush it. Don’t manhandle her or grab her! You should be using your fingers to stroke her in sensitive places like her neck or the crease of her elbow, and you shouldn’t be touching any harder than you would touch the track pad on your laptop.

Once you’ve gotten her turned on enough, play with her nipples for a while, and then move elsewhere. Go back, move away, and repeat. Once you feel her breath quicken and her grip tighten, and you’re sure that she’s ready for you to make the next move, don’t leave her hanging! Get down there and touch away.

Don’t Assault Her

It is best to not go into full on assault mode. If you start fingering her right away before she’s really good and wet, it will hurt. Some women may get wet just from the kissing and touching, but some won’t. Don’t be afraid to have a good lube on hand. A dab of lube or more can make all the difference between pleasure and pain!

Start by massaging the outer parts of her vulva, and her inner thighs. If you just graze the clitoris now and again, it will send shock waves through her body. When it’s time, zero in on the sweet spot, and don’t move until she has had at least one mind-blowing climax. You can also give her oral sex – it’s probably a woman’s favorite way to get off and makes her more prone to having multiple orgasms!

How To Give A Signature Blowjob

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A blowjob can be run of the mill, or it can be amazing. Here’s how to make the blowjob you give one to remember by developing your own signature style.

I love to give head: but it’s amazing when you can drop to your knees to perform a blowjob on a guy and truly rock his world. And I don’t mean in the ‘hooray my girlfriend is giving me head’ way; I mean in a way that will have him screaming, “Wow! That was AMAZING!” Well good news, this is what we’re going for!

Now whilst giving head to girls is often seen as a bit more of an art form; sometimes we can be a bit lazy when going down on guys. You may think that they’re happy with the same old in-out motion: but try these tricks and you’ll have them begging for more.

So listen up ladies (or men), and I’ll tell you how you can make your guy squirm with some advanced added extras to a basic oral sex position.

Choosing The Right Oral Sex Position

Get your guy to lie on his back (preferably erect) and kneel between his legs. Kneeling is better than lying, as if you spread your knees wide apart on the bed, and lean down to give him head, he’ll get a great view of your back and pert ass. Perfect for giving him a taster of what’s coming later.

Tips For Developing Your Own Blowjob Style

  1. Make sure your hands are sufficiently lubricated with saliva (a lot of guys will like the sound of you spitting) or a good dose of lubricant. Silicone based lube is a particular favorite of mine, as it is deliciously viscous, and will make you sliding your hands up and down his shaft even easier.
  2. Begin to massage, using your lead hand, up and down his shaft using a firm grip (the more lubricated he is the harder you can hold) and then lean over to take his penis in your mouth.
  3. As you move up and down keep your mouth and lead hand at a rhythm. Try varying the pace: faster when you want to get him worked up to orgasm, mixed with slowing things down to help him keep going for longer.
  4. As you get warmed up you’ll be able to take him deeper and deeper. Make sure to keep your mouth open wide: lots of guys will like you to be able to take them to the entrance to your throat. With a little practice this maneuver will help you to practice deep throat.
  5. Now this is where most people would stop; instead go beyond the vanilla blow job and get bonus points for incorporating your other hand. As a first step you can use it to add extra pressure to the penis by holding one hand over the other.
  6. Once you’ve got your balance, begin to move your hands independently. One hand can continue the up-down motion, whilst the other holds the base of his penis in a tight grip. Alternatively, you can use it to pleasure yourself, and give him a seductive side show. There are few things sexier than him watching you getting off whilst giving him head.
  7. Feeling adventurous? Then insert the palm of your hand underneath his ball sack on the sensitive perineum (lots of lovely nerve endings there) and apply gently pressure by cupping the area of skin at the base of the penis. From here you can gently massage his balls with your hand… Yes at the same time as the other hand/ mouth perform fellatio!
  8. Feeling really naughty (as I usually am)? Then swap to giving him a double handed jerk-off whilst you lick his balls. Start at his anus (I told you this was rude) and work up to his balls; sliding your tongue up the shaft of his penis, eventually returning to your original position.
  9. Work out what really turns your guy on. Men have different preferences just like women. Get to know whether he enjoys saliva, sounds, licking (or even sniffing!) his balls and then combine his favorite moves to make him go wild.

Practice Makes Perfect

I’m not going to lie: putting these sexy twists on the classic blow job does require practice, determination and a good dose of enthusiasm for the job.

If you find giving a blowjob anything but thrilling, then getting him to thoroughly wash, shave and using flavoured lubricant will help to make your task more pleasurable. Personally, though I think there’s a lot of pleasure you can have knowing how much you can turn someone else on. Do this right and he’ll be so in awe of your multi-tasking womanly powers that he’ll claim it will feel like there are two women giving him oral sex at once, and not just one.

The result? A very happy man, and a whole lot of ‘I owe you’s!

Auto Fellatio – Can Men Give Themselves A Blowjob?

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Auto fellatio may be something you’ve heard of – but then again, it’s fairly rare. Most often, auto fellatio crops up in fetish porn, but the term refers to the act of a man giving himself oral sex. Guys who are able to do this may enjoy giving themselves oral sex during masturbation. It seems impossible that a man can lick his own penis – but can guys really give a blowjob to THEMSELVES?

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What Is Auto Fellatio?

Auto fellatio is defined as the act of a man giving himself oral sex and licking his own penis as a form of masturbation. This may include manual masturbation or may just involve the mouth only. It may sound impossible for a man to do this, and the truth is, most guys can’t. However, if a man has a particularly large penis size or is very flexible, it is possible that it can be done.

Similarly, auto cunnilingus is where a woman bends forward and gives herself oral sex. However, it is much more difficult for a woman to give herself oral sex than it is for a man to give himself a blowjob. This is because women have a little farther to go to get their mouths in contact with their genitals. Although it is very rare to see either gender give themselves oral sex, it is far less common among women simply because it’s physically more difficult to do so.

Can Guys Really Stretch That Much?

The far majority of guys cannot stretch far enough down to actually get their mouth on the head of their penis. You have to be extremely flexible and fit to be able to do it! It is very difficult to actually stretch that much, and it is often painful or uncomfortable. It can cause muscles to pull and tear, because the body has to be in such an extreme position for auto fellatio to take place. Usually, guys who are able to perform auto fellatio have experience in gymnastics or have some type of gymnastics training. Another way this can be achieved is by having someone help push the body and head forward towards the penis.

The truth is, however, that even guys who are able to perform auto fellatio cannot go all the way down on their penises. Most of the time, the mouth can only reach the head of the penis or the top of the shaft. It is very rare for a man to be able to stretch enough to get his entire penis in his mouth. For this reason, it is common for men to masturbate  with their hand and stroke the shaft of their penis while performing auto fellatio. This is because they can only lick and suck the head of their penis, so they complement it with the movement of their hand on the shaft.

Can Auto Fellatio Be Learned?

While having a background in gymnastics or having exceptional flexibility is helpful when it comes to being able to perform oral sex on yourself, this activity can be learned. Even if you’ve never been very flexible before, you can learn to stretch your body into a position that makes it possible for you to connect your mouth with your genitals. It will definitely take time and patience to learn, and it’s not something that you’re going to be able to do overnight. You will need to practice stretching daily, going a little further each time.

You can also do this up against the wall for better stability. The wall allows you to lean your lower back against it and angle your penis closer to your mouth. Be aware that auto fellatio is not something that the body was naturally built to do – go slow and if you experience any pain, stop immediately! It’s easy to pull or tear muscles when stretching your body to such an extreme.

Is Ingesting Semen Harmful?

Many guys wonder what their own semen tastes like – and if ingesting it is harmful in any way. It’s not – in fact, women do it all the time! However, if the idea of tasting your own semen (or ejaculating in your own face) turns you off, auto fellatio is probably not something you want to try. It’s unlikely you’d be able to get out of the awkward position you put yourself in quickly enough to avoid ejaculating in your mouth or on your face. While the ability to “suck yourself off” sounds neat, it’s more of a novelty than anything else. You’re going to get much more pleasure from masturbation or a blowjob from your partner.