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Ladies: How To Reach Orgasm During Intercourse In Just 5 Minutes (Or Less)

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Could it really be THIS easy to reach orgasm during intercourse in just 5 minutes or less with the man you’ve been with for years.

The answer is “Yes”, and if you want to eliminate all the frustration, exhaustion, and heartache that can come from failing to reach the orgasm you really want and start experiencing fast, easy, and consistent orgasms every time you make love… regardless of your past attempts… AND… regardless of his “lovemaking skills”, then you’ll want to read the rest of this article.

Surprising Facts About Female Orgasms

  • It takes most women less than 4 minutes to reach orgasm when masturbating
  • A huge number of women fake their orgasms, because they know they just can’t keep up with their man
  • Faking orgasms can be utterly detrimental to the health of your relationship
  • Stressing out over sex and orgasms can actually make you lose vaginal lubrication, making an orgasm even more elusive
  • It IS possible to have an orgasm during sex in less than 5 minutes, even if you never have before
  • It IS possible to have an orgasm every time you have sex with your partner.

Click here to take a very short quiz to see if this is possible for you!

You’re Not Alone – Most Women Have Difficulty Reaching Orgasm Through Sex….

Nearly all women have had the experience of trying to reach orgasm through intercourse… trying out many tips and techniques with their partners… failing time and time again… with no orgasm in sight… only to feel like giving up and accepting that “that’s how women are”.

And what’s worse… because sex is not exciting or pleasurable to you, and your orgasms takes too much work… sex becomes a chore and you don’t feel like “doing it” anymore… however, your partner still feels like having sex… and sometimes – out of sexual frustration – he has to resort to pressure you to give him release… and maybe make you feel guilty for not wanting sex as much as he does… and you can feel its STRAINING YOUR RELATIONSHIP.

You may or may not know this already, but your inability to achieving orgasm during can ruin your relationship and your self-esteem.

This type of situation makes it easy to feel pessimistic towards having a sex life in general… and can definitely lead you to believe that ALL MEN are sexually selfish… and there’s some problem with you because you can’t reach orgasm consistently during sex… if at all.

The 3 Deadly Mistakes Women and Men Make During Sex That Kill Their Chances of Ever Reaching An Orgasm

Mistake #1: Focusing on Long Penetrative Sex To Achieve An Orgasm

Long, drawn out lovemaking sessions can be great in any relationship, but more often than not, it’s impractical, takes too much time and too much damn work. He has to try to “last” all night and hold himself back from ejaculating during sex. He’ll try to distract himself until you’re at the point where you’re ready to orgasm. After all the preparation and hours of pumping – you finally climax.

Mistake #2 : Relying On A Man To Give YOU An Orgasm

Society has the common view that a man should GIVE a woman an orgasm. It’s no surprise that this is a standard belief. Men are supposed be the “gentleman” and pay for dinners, open doors, “take care” of their woman while a woman is…well, left in a more passive role. Even our anatomy hints that men should be “giving” it to women. The man is the “giver” because he has a penis, and the woman is the “receiver” because she has a vagina. And to top it off, there are many books (good and bad), magazine articles, and other forms of media instructing men on how to become better lovers, and GIVE their woman an orgasm. While there is nothing wrong with being a man who is “great” at sex, it takes a man who is dedicated to improving his skills in bed and become a better lover for you. However, this is simply not the case with most couples.

Mistake #3 : Thinking That Something MIGHT Be Wrong With You If You Can’t Orgasm

This is the big mistake a lot of women make. Listen, I know it’s easy to think this way. It’s easy to feel down and depressed if you try something and it doesn’t work, like orgasming through sex. And it’s not your fault. We as women aren’t taught how to climax during sex, but in reality, we SHOULD be able to reach climax just as fast, if not, FASTER than men!

The good news is that reaching orgasm quickly and consistently is easy if you know how to do it.

Experience Faster, Quicker & More Consistent Female Orgasms Each & Every Time You Make Love!

Our good friend Jessica Perez has an amazing guide that will help you reach orgasm during intercourse quickly and easily every time!

It’s called “Faster Female Orgasm – How To Orgasm During Sex Quickly, Easily And Guaranteed“.

Here are some great things you’ll find out in Faster Female Orgasm – How To Orgasm During Sex Quickly, Easily And Guaranteed:

  • Detailed descriptions of female anatomy so a woman can understand how her body really works
  • Directions for direct and indirect clitoral stimulation, as well as what NOT to do when touching your clitoris
  • Directions for G-Spot stimulation during sex
  • How masturbation can treat sexual dysfunction
  • How to masturbate properly so you can begin to climax during sex
  • Exactly which techniques to apply during sex so you can orgasm harder and faster
  • Why you need to TURN OFF YOUR VIBRATOR
  • How to have blended orgasms, simultaneous orgasms and multiple orgasms
  • Detailed descriptions of sexual positions to use to set yourself up for orgasm success from the start
  • How fantasizing and involving your brain during sex can help you climax
  • How to train your man to do what you like during sex, not what he thinks you like
  • How to love yourself and become a sexual woman

The information in this eBook will save you years of time, heartaches and wasted energy. Most women go through their entire lives never learning how to reach orgasm during sex… and… getting what they truly want from their relationships. But it doesn’t have to be this way.

You at least owe it to yourself to check it out… Get more info here: Faster Female Orgasm

Will it work for everybody? Of course not.

But let me ask you this… What if this knowledge helps you reach just ONE orgasm during sex with your boyfriend or husband? Just ONE.

Or what if it helped you turn around a boring, painful or non-existent sex life with the man you’ve been with for years?

What would that be worth to you?

Now ask yourself… What if there’s even a chance that this book can actually teach you how to orgasm during sex, make you want sex more often… and… make him want to be with you forever? What if you really can learn how to orgasm at the same time as your lover… achieve a mutual orgasm you’ve always wanted and finally experience that loving, passionate relationship you deserve?

How much would that be worth to you? A thousand dollars? Ten thousand? More? For most people I know, it would be priceless.

Just the POSSIBILITY of having this kind of special once-in-a-lifetime sex would be worth at least checking out the material.

I know that when that time comes for you, you’ll look back on this moment and be glad you made this investment in yourself.

This much is for sure… Sometime in your life you’ll feel like you’re just about to climax while making love to your man. Maybe you’ve already felt this and he already can tell you’re just about to scream.

The question is, do you know exactly what to do to push your feelings and emotions over the top and finally orgasm? Or are you going to ride this pleasure-plateau never hitting the climax and never know how you will feel and how he will feel.

Do you want to even consider the chance that you’ll be sexually frustrated and heartbroken again and again and never get the help and answers you need. Or do you want to get this area of your life IN CONTROL and learn what works – so you can make the most of your time, energy, and your heart

Get your copy of Faster Female Orgasm and get ready to start loving sex again!?

Still not sure, Read our Review of Faster Female Orgasm.

8 Handjob Techniques That Will Turn His Knees To Jelly

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A handjob can be even more satisfying than a blowjob for a guy if you do it the right way. Check out these handjob moves that will leave your lover breathless!

1. Involve His Balls

Use any stroke that involves just one hand in combination with strokes that involve pulling, tugging, holding, cupping and lightly massaging your partner’s scrotum.

2. Start The Fire

Start at the base and pull gently upward while twisting (but not too hard) as if you were trying to start a fire with a stick of wood.

3. Thumb Massage

Hold your partner’s penis firmly in both hands and use your thumbs only to massage your partner’s shaft and head. You can do this in strokes or circles, depending on what your partner likes best.

4. Stimulate The P-Spot

Utilize the above technique (one-handed stroke combined with the other hand massaging another area) on the perineum. This will create delightful sensations between his “G-spot” and his penis. This move will bring your partner to orgasm quickly and it is a great move to use while he finishes off. If your partner enjoys this move, you can use it as the core of your genital massage.

5. Squeeze The Lemon

With a well lubed hand, cup your hand on top of his penis head and twist like you were squeezing a lemon on an old fashioned juicer.

6. Play With His Foreskin If He’s Uncircumcised

If your partner is uncircumcised, have fun with his foreskin. Massage it, pull it gently and twist it around to create a variety of sensations. Ask him to play with it in front of you so you can see what he likes to do with it.

7. Side To Side

While sitting in front of him on the bed – put both of your hands out as if you are going to “clap” and place one on each side of his penis – this side to side flat palmed action will be a different sensation and allows you both full view of his rock hard penis. It’s different for him from the way he would normally pleasure himself with his own hand.

8. Dry Massage

For a different approach, try a dry massage. Your partner may find this uncomfortable, however, especially if the skin around his penis is very tight and does not allow for much movement. This only works with light touches. When stroking his penis in a dry massage, just hold the skin tight enough so when you move your hand up and down the skin does not move but rather the inside of the penis moves. Men don’t always have the luxury of having lube on hand when they masturbate and they do just fine with a dry jerk off. It just takes a gentler touch.

Do Women Really Want Multiple Orgasms?

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The pressure is on – give your girl an orgasm, give her more than one and give them to her now. Society says that for men to truly please their partners, they need to give her multiple, over the top orgasms and become a master lover. How realistic is this? Do women actually want multiple orgasms? Or are some women okay with just one, or none?

A Woman’s Climax Pattern

When a woman climaxes, it is true that she remains in the climax “zone” for some time before coming back down to her pre-aroused status. When men have an orgasm, however, he immediately relaxes and his body goes back to normal and must stay in a non-aroused state for a period of time before allowing him to become turned on again. In Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, John Gray, Ph.D. compares a man’s climax pattern to a “blowtorch” – which quickly heats up, fires and quickly burns down, while a woman’s climax pattern is more similar to an “oven” – taking more time to warm up and cool down. But because a woman’s body allows her to be primed for multiple orgasms after the first one, does that mean she really wants one?

If The Orgasm Is Good Enough…

Men are obsessed with quantity. The more, the better. The bigger, the better. Therefore, men feel like the more orgasms they give their partner, the better the sex and the more satisfied she will be afterward. However, a woman doesn’t necessarily need multiple orgasms to have satisfying sex. In fact, some women are satisfied with just one orgasm while a few women don’t necessarily need an orgasm to enjoy sex with their partners. Some women feel pressured by their partners into having multiple orgasms, and therefore the orgasms become more forced and less pleasurable each time. Many women are more focused on the quality of the orgasm rather than the quantity of orgasms. If the orgasm is good enough, it’s entirely possible – and even plausible – that she will be completely and utterly blissed out with just one.

How To Give Her THE Orgasm

Make sure she’s relaxed, both mentally and physically. Like the oven, she needs time to preheat and get warmed up before the action starts. For a woman, this means she needs to be both emotionally and physically warmed up. Give her a massage or draw her a hot bath and let her stress from the day melt away. She will be more open and receiving to your efforts. Sexually speaking, when you get started, take it slow. Focus on her and don’t jump the gun. Don’t just go for the gold and expect her to have an orgasm right away. Show her that you are really into her, and enjoy being intimate with her. When you’re pleasing her, listen to her feedback – her body language and vocals will let you know what she likes and what she wants more of. A combination of all of these things can help your partner reach THE orgasm she wants and has been craving, and this time, it will be so good that just one will be enough.

The Incredible, Brand-New Sex Move You Have To Try – Tonight!

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Sex tips can help improve your bedroom routine, but many of them are still “run of the mill” stuff that gets boring after awhile. Even new things can seem old after some time, if you’ve been doing them regularly during sex. However, there are SOME sex tips are so hot they can only be used every now & then. These are the things you want to save for those nights where you really want to get crazy. They are the sex tips that are so awesome, you don’t want to use them every night for fear of burning them out. Do THIS brand new move – it’s so scorching you’ll only want to bring it out when you’re feeling SUPER sexy!

What It Is

When having sex with your partner, assume the “girl on top” sex position. This really is the best sex position for this maneuver. As you are riding your partner and things are getting really intense (you should have had plenty of foreplay before this so you both are super turned on), have him reach around one of your legs and tickle your clitoris and vaginal entrance.

As you both get more into it, have him work his fingers inside your vagina, while he is still thrusting his penis into you. This may take a few tries, and make sure you are either so turned on you’re dripping wet or you’re using plenty of lube – or it can get uncomfortable.

Have him move his fingers around in your vagina and finger you as you have sex. He can even stroke his own penis this way!

Remember, spending a good amount of time engaging in foreplay before doing this will make it MUCH better. In fact, this move can be pretty lackluster if you and your partner aren’t so turned on you’re about to explode.

Why It’s Awesome

There are many reasons that this particular sex move is so incredibly amazing. First, it’s a surefire orgasm giver for both you and your partner! As your partner pushes his fingers into your vagina, you’ll have both his fingers and his penis inside of you, causing you to feel very full and engaging all the sensitive pleasure nerves that line the walls of your vagina. Also, the extra “fullness” will help push his penis on your g-spot, giving you the extra stimulation you need to either have a g-spot orgasm or a blended one.

This move is also great for him, because you’ll feel extra tight to him. This will help stimulate him, especially if you have trouble with his thickness and the width of your vagina working well together. He’ll also be able to feel your wetness with his hand and feel his own penis penetrating you. This is super hot for him mentally! He will LOVE feeling you this way. He’ll also be able to stimulate himself as he stimulates you by moving his fingers around. It’s almost like him masturbating and having sex with you at the same time!

Fun Variations

If his fingers aren’t working well for you in the girl on top sex position, use different sex positions. while girl on top is the best one for this maneuver, it can also be done in the doggy style sex position and even the spooning sex position. Experiment with them all and see which ones work the best for you and your lover! Skip him on top though, because it’s way too difficult for him to get his fingers in your vagina in this sex position. It will just be awkward and possibly very uncomfortable.

If his fingers aren’t doing it for you but you still like the concept of his penis and something else being in your vagina at the same time, there are also several sex toys designed to be worn during intercourse that slip inside the vagina. They can create the same sensation of fullness and the vibrations can be fun, but they’re not as good at pushing the penis up against the g-spot or stroking his penis the way fingers can. Fingers can move spontaneously and independently of each other, giving you and him both some really intense sensations.

This move is all about being creative and doing what feels good in the moment. That’s what really makes it so hot – if you’re both turned on enough and just experiencing the here and now, almost any sex tips are going to be on FIRE!

Why A Woman Fakes Her Orgasm

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The female orgasm can be elusive, and as a result, many girls end up faking in bed. Here’s the reason behind why not every female orgasm is the real deal.

Sadly, many women fake their orgasms. You might think you’ve given her the most powerful orgasm of her life, when in reality, her screaming, moaning and thrashing was an act that would give Jenna Jameson a run for her money. If you’ve ever found out that a girl has been faking with you, you probably felt let down, cheated and lied to.

Which is true – you were let down, cheated and lied to when she made you believe what you were doing made her come, when in reality, she was probably as far from an orgasm as she could possibly be. However, something you need to think about is why some women fake reaching climax.

They almost never do it for fun – because frankly, making it really believable isn’t that easy. And unless the guy she’s with is a total dolt or never watches porn, if she doesn’t do a good job at faking it, he’ll likely be able to tell right away. It’s harder to fake an orgasm than it is to have a real one, so why would she?

She Can’t Have An Orgasm

Think of all the reasons she might not be able to come – take any one of these and apply it to a faking situtation. If she can’t have an orgasm, for whatever reason, she’s going to be tempted to fake it. While some women are empowered enough to think, “You know what? He didn’t make me come and he should know that.” They know they have no obligation to you to cover up the fact that they didn’t reach climax, and they’re not going to hide that fact. Good for them. Other women, however, might be embarrassed about it.

She might not want to admit to you that she couldn’t have an orgasm – so she fakes it instead. For women who have never had an orgasm or don’t know how to “get there,” faking is even more common. For these girls, screaming in “ecstasy” at the right time may be all she knows how to do, or what she thinks she is supposed to do. No matter what the reason behind her inability to have an orgasm is, if she can’t do it, she might rather fake it than admit that she just can’t have one.

She Doesn’t Want You To Feel Bad

Women are sensitive creatures, especially to the feelings of others. She may believe that you knowing she isn’t going to come would make you feel inadequate or bad about yourself, and she may very well be right. She doesn’t want this for you, so she’d rather fake it than see you get hurt. If she fakes it, you’ll feel good about “making her climax” and she won’t have to watch your insecurity climb.

However, this is actually a huge problem – how are you supposed to know what pleases her and what doesn’t during sex if you constantly think everything you’re doing results in a killer orgasm for her? She’s actually hurting you and hurting herself in the long run, because she’s not teaching you how to pleasure her – something that can only be done when you see your techniques pay off with a real orgasm.

The truth is, most guys are smart enough to figure out if they do something that results in her climax that it needs to be done again. So if her man is doing the wrong thing and she fakes it, she’s only teaching him bad habits. But her motivations may be in the right place – she doesn’t want you to be upset that either she can’t climax or you can’t help her get there.

She Knows She Won’t And She’s Ready For It To Be Over

Women who are experienced in having an orgasm can usually tell if they’re just not going to get there this time. Again, this can be due to a variety of reasons, but if she knows she’s not going to reach climax, she’s probably right. This of course can be self fulfilling prophecy too, but whatever. Let’s just assume for the moment that for whatever reason, she’s not going to get off and she knows it.

You’re doing your thing and she’s just not getting anything out of it. She’s patient, she’s happy you’re getting your groove on and she’s going to hang out underneath you until you get yours. The clock ticks by and you’re still thrusting away. The lube is drying out and things are getting kind of uncomfortable for her. You’re going faster, slowing down, changing sex positions – and still not ejaculating. Then she realizes the truth – you’re waiting for her.

You’re not going to let go until she gets hers – which is sweet, but when she knows it’s not going to happen, what does she do? Many women won’t have the guts to look you dead in the eye and say, “Honey, I’m just not going to orgasm tonight. Go ahead and do your thing.” She might be afraid you’ll be upset. She might be embarrassed. Whatever – she’s just going to fake it because the sex has to end sometime. She might as well be the one to end it. She’s not doing it to hurt you – she’s doing it because she’s too chicken not to.

You Suck In Bed

And lastly, a woman who has plenty of experience with good orgasms, mediocre ones and no orgasms at all will be able to determine whether your sexual techniques are any good or not. And unfortunately for you, you might suck in bed. Now, this doesn’t mean you suck with every woman (although this may also be true), but you’re just not doing it for the girl you’re with at the moment.

Now rewind a bit and remember that her faking it means she’s too scared to do anything else. If a woman fakes it because you’re bad in bed, it’s because she doesn’t have enough balls to either tell you what she likes, direct you in the right direction or flat out tell you that it’s not working for her. She also doesn’t have enough balls to just masturbate while you watch. So she fakes it.

There are many reasons why a woman will fake her orgasm, but it’s almost never because she wants to hurt you or make you angry. It’s usually because she either wants to protect you from hurt feelings that she’s not coming, or because she’s too chicken to actually communicate with you about what she likes or what you need to be doing differently.

If she can’t communicate with you, that’s a whole other ball game – she’s either just scared by nature (in which case you’re better off with another woman who’s not a pansy) or she doesn’t feel safe talking about her sexual feelings with you (in which case you’re doing something in the relationship that’s causing her to feel closed off – or she’s going some serious emotional baggage.

Women are hard to figure out, but you knew that already). If she’s faking and you find out, give her a break. Don’t automatically get pissed and walk away. She’s not being malicious. Consider the why and try to talk to her about it.