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3 Premature Ejaculation Misconceptions You Must Not Believe!

Premature ejaculation is often misunderstood. Clear the air and learn the truth about PE with these three untruths!

Almost three quarters of men are affected by premature ejaculation at some stage in their lives. Unfortunately, a lack of understanding of this sexual dysfunction has led to the birth of several misconceptions regarding this condition. If you have been suffering from the embarrassing problem of early ejaculation, you need to familiarize yourself with these false notions FIRST, before you have any chance of turning the tables on PE.

1. Premature Ejaculation Is Caused By A Weakened Libido

In fact, the reverse is true! Ejaculating early is often the result of getting too excited too fast. If you have a super responsive pleasure system, you are more likely to suffer from PE – which usually happens to young men (especially those in their early 20’s) who have absolutely no problems with their libido. The problem arises when men are unable to exert control on their arousal at the right time. This is what causes the male sexual arousal to peak in a hurry, resulting in a premature ejaculation.

The best way for you to avoid PE is to exercise your pelvic muscles and gain superior control over your arousal.

2. Mental Manipulation Is A Wonderful Way To Prevent An Early Climax

Not true. Think about this for a moment: What is the purpose of having sex if you are going to avoid the pleasure by putting your mind somewhere else? There are a number of ‘experts’ who would advise you to think about other things during sex so that you can avoid a premature ejaculation. This is NOT the best solution, and hardly practical at all if you truly want to enjoy sex.

3. There Are Quick Fixes To Cure PE

There is NO quick fix that can secure a permanent solution to your problem. Although there are some pills, desensitizing sprays or climax control condoms that can give you an instant boost in staying power, these solutions are really more of a clutch than a real cure. You can try out all the so called libido boosters and enhancers but again, these are not permanent solutions. By and large, premature ejaculation can be permanently treated only through a combination of natural techniques such as Kegel exercises and mental arousal control.

Get yourself acquainted with these myths and misconceptions about premature ejaculation. That is the first important step towards banishing PE from the bedroom and achieving a respectable sexual stamina to boot!

5 Places Never To Miss When Giving A Handjob

By loveandsex

A handjob is an incredible way to give your lover an orgasm without getting anything but – well, your hands – involved. Here’s how to give a great handjob!

First, let’s explore some of the places on a man’s genitals that are great for a massage. The more you know your man between his legs, the better your handjob will be.

1. His Scrotum

The scrotum (the sac where his balls are held) is a great place to hold, tug lightly and massage lightly. Cupping his scrotum with one hand can give your partner excellent sensations while you do the dirty work with your other hand! Just be careful not to massage your partner’s scrotum too hard – this is a very sensitive area and a rough approach just won’t work here. Think of his testicles as eyeballs.

You can actually massage your eyeballs, but if you poke or press too hard it hurts. The same with his balls. Try pumping up and down on his shaft, then giving a light squeeze every third or fourth stroke release. A feather to the balls is also very, very delightful.

2. The Perineum

This is probably the area that gives you the most advantage during a genital massage. Why, you ask? When pressure is put on the perineum, it stimulates a man’s sensitive prostate gland. Men love having their prostate gland stimulated (it is like a man’s G-spot) but not all of them know they do. That’s because other than the perineum, the only other way to gain access to the prostate gland is through the anus and there are more men that don’t like going that route than there are that do.

Pressing or rubbing on the perineum (the spot between his scrotum and his anus) during a genital massage can give your partner the thrill of a lifetime. Just make sure that your partner is comfortable with your hand in that spot and make sure he lets you know how low is too low if he is uncomfortable with your hand near his anus. And don’t be afraid to throw some lube down there first! Things will slide right along!

3. His Inner Thighs And Lower Abs

These areas are secondary to the others during a genital massage and you may want to use them just to help warm your partner up – but if he really likes it, feel free to use these areas during the handjob to give your partner more of an “all over” feeling. These spots can take a little more of a rough touch, so they are great to squeeze, press and manipulate when you are really ravaging your partner during a genital massage. Be careful not to do this too hard, your partner is not Play-Doh! If you prefer to go the softer route, these places are very responsive to light touching (such as running your fingers up and down them) or to tickling. Light touches in these areas are best for teasing.

Let your hair caress his thighs while your face is close to his penis and you are fondling and rubbing his erection.

4. The Anus

Obviously this area can be a big no-no spot for men. But the anus has a lot of pleasure points. Some men are fine with you massaging the outside of the anus and that is it. Others have discovered the incredible pleasure of having their prostate massaged via the anus. Insert your pointer or middle finger (after he has been well lubed of course) and find a spongy area the size of a walnut maybe 3 or 4 inches in and begin to stroke it. Do this when you think he is close to coming and it will most likely give him the explosion of his lifetime.

Here is how one of my readers described it:

“She would lube up her middle finger insert it in my ass and massage my prostate. Well you orgasm very quick and when she is massaging the walnut you darn near levitate!! Very powerful!”

And another one of my reader’s says this about the anus:

“Most guys will not admit it but a man’s anal area adds great sensations.”

5. His Penis

Well, of course the penis is the main area on your partner’s body that you want to pay attention to when giving a genital massage. None of the other areas have the capacity to bring your partner to orgasm – but it is important to note that concentrating on massaging the penis only during a genital massage can make it slow work for you. Accessing and utilizing massage techniques on the other areas of your partner’s groin area can make things go more quickly and actually, it will make the genital massage more exciting, pleasurable and satisfying to him.

How To Give A Woman Orgasms That Are Incredibly Powerful

By lloydlester

An orgasm is something not every girl expects during sex – but they all WANT it. Here’s how to give your lover an amazing orgasm EVERY time!

A lot of guys appear inconsiderate to women when it comes to sex. While this is not your objective, your woman could not be blamed into thinking like this, especially if you continue denying her the powerful orgasm that she deserves. To start changing your reputation in bed, why not start learning more about her anatomy and her sexual psyche? Men are different from women, and you should take this into account whenever you are seeking to give her pleasure.

There are many tips and techniques to completely amaze her and give her a wild time in bed. The following 3 tips are as easy as “ABC,” but they will prime her for “powerhouse” orgasms that will blow her mind – and yours too!

Accentuate Her Comfort

Let her be cozy. A woman’s comfort is a key aspect to consider during sex. To experience a truly powerful orgasm, she needs to let go all her inhibitions. This is not possible without her being at ease with you. Make sure she feels secure and comfortable in bed. When she is completely relaxed, she will be able to experience the most intense pleasure that you will be giving her.

Become One With Her Body

Survey her most sensitive areas, like her clitoris. Know them inside out. One special thing about women is that they are blessed with a lot of erogenous zones, so there are almost infinite ways for you to please her. Find out where her most sensitive areas are, by slowly caressing her body and seeing how she responds to each and every sensual spot that you touch. You will not only enjoy getting to know her body more, she will also increase her responsiveness even to the simplest of your actions!

Call Out Her Deepest Desires

Find out what her deepest and innermost sexual fantasies are, and re-enact these fantasies for her. Some women may take a little coaxing to come forth with their thoughts. Take the lead by revealing yours first! Finding out what she truly wants will make her more open to your moves, and prepare her for what is to come next!

4 HOT Advanced Sex Positions

By loveandsex

Sex positions can make a dull sex life incredible all over again! Here are four advanced sex positions for you to try TONIGHT to turn the heat UP!

1. Side By Side Position 1

If you’ve never tried having sex in a side-by-side position, then now is the time. Many couples find these positions are not only conducive to orgasms but it also allows for more physical contact and a mutual feeling of closeness which, let’s be honest, you want to feel with a special partner. With this first example, you and your partner must lie on your sides facing each other. You’ll need to be as close as possible. Also, make sure that your feet are facing your headboard. The sturdy surface will act as a brace for you when things get really hot.

Now gently lift your partner’s top leg in the air and slide inside her before placing her leg over yours. She should wrap her leg around you to give you more leverage during penetration. This way the two of you can work together to set a rhythm pleasing to both of your bodies while you also continue some heavy foreplay.

2. Side By Side Position 2

Here’s another way you can enjoy the side-by-side position while helping your partner reach orgasm. This time you won’t be facing each other. Instead, you’ll be on your side behind her. In order to penetrate her, you may need to raise her upper leg a little. Once you are inside and have found a steady thrusting rhythm you should gently lean her backward so she is almost lying on top of you.

Now while you are still thrusting in and out of her vagina, use your hand or a vibrator to stimulate her clitoris.

3. Grinding

When women masturbate with their fingers, they often rub their clitoris using circular movements. Since you know that, you should attempt to use similar circular motions during penetration. To do this, you need to grind into your partner the way you would if you were doing some erotic dancing. Move your hips in a circular motion and make sure that you are pressing against her groin area. The combination of your movement and the pressure on the area will stimulate her clitoris and bring her to orgasm.

4. Alphabet Position

If your partner is more comfortable with the missionary position, but she is still having trouble reaching orgasm, then this position may help. Again, she should be lying on her back, preferably on the floor or a large comfortable bed. You’ll spread out across her on your side, perpendicularly so that the two of you resemble a lowercase “T.”

Place her legs over your body or have one of them hanging off the bed, whichever is most comfortable, and slide your penis inside of her. At the same time you penetrate her, begin using your finger to gently massage her clitoris. Try to mimic the intensity of penetration with your clitoral stimulation. For example, if you’re doing a slow grind, use slow circular motions to stimulate the clitoris.

How To Delay Ejaculation – Naturally!

By lloydlester

Premature ejaculation will ruin your sex life completely if you don’t get control over it. Learn how to wait as long as possible before ejaculation now!

Are you sick and tired of not lasting long enough during sex? Is delaying ejaculation becoming an arduous thing to do, one that causes you great embarrassment in front of your lover? There are many forms of sexual dysfunction that occur among men, and nothing is more debilitating than premature ejaculation. Yet the good news is also that premature ejaculation is the easiest to treat among all male sexual problems.

Indeed, you can completely cure PE using natural, practical methods without making embarrassing trips to the doctor. These are the key techniques and strategies:

1. Understand Your Ejaculatory Process And Sexual Responses

Without a proper understanding of how your body responds to sexual stimulation, you will never be able to control how soon you ejaculate during sex. Arousal control is key to keep PE in check. And before you can control your arousal, you have to understand how it works. In a nutshell, your body goes through 4 key stages of response during sex. The first stage involves “excitement” when your penis starts to fill with blood and becomes erect.

The second stage occurs when your penis is fully erect and you feel relaxed and under control. Stage 3 is when intense sensations begin to envelop your penis and you are about to “pop.” This leads into the final stage where ejaculation takes place. The arousal and erection fade away soon after.

2. Develop Mental Control

Much of a man’s inability to hold ejaculation stems from psychological or confidence-related issues. The very thoughts that run though your mind during sex will affect your sexual endurance. Some guys allow the sensations of intercourse to rule over their head and that is a quick and surefire way to blow early.

You must learn how to control your arousal right from the beginning. This can be achieved by focusing NOT on intercourse but on the entire sexual experience. This is a huge difference. To develop mental or arousal control, you need to focus on the ALL the sensations you experience and GIVE during sex, and not just focusing on how you feel in your own nether regions.

3. Regain Physical Control

Adding physical control to mental control will allow you to totally re-wire your ejaculatory triggers so that you can decide when you want to ejaculate. Training your ejaculatory muscles is critical to developing physical control. You see, your pelvic or perineal muscles control when you ejaculate. By strengthening the proper set of muscles, you are able to keep them relaxed at all times even with the most intense sexual stimulation.

There is no better time to start than now!

Many guys just lament that they can’t last long enough, and never make the effort to address this problem. Others resort to short-term tactics like desensitizing sprays and lube which don’t address the root causes. But if you are willing to put in the effort to understand how you body responds and develop both mental and physical control over your ejaculatory reflexes, you will be able to completely TRANSFORM your sex life and enjoy sex to the fullest!