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5 Sex Positions For Fingering

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Fingering isn’t just something high school kids do – it can be a legitimate form of hot, steamy foreplay and it can be an incredible addition to penetrative sex. In fact, many girls won’t get off on just penetration alone – they need some extra stimulation to their breasts or clitoris in order to reach orgasm. Using your fingers during sex can be extremely exciting for her! Try these sex positions for the ultimate fingering!

The true fingering aficionado doesn’t need to take a break just to get his hands into the mix. There are several different sexual positions from which you can extend a helping hand and touch your girl’s naughty bits, so get ready to get funky with these legendary moves.

1. Missionary

From the missionary position, you have your choice of easy access points, if you can keep your balance by kneeling or propping yourself up on one arm. Kim Cattrall recommends a pinkie in the pink. Reach around and while you are thrusting slow and shallow, place a well-lubricated pinkie finger against her anus and apply steady pressure. From this position, you can hold her tight and thrust away. Each movement will rock her insides just right!

Try spreading her outer labia as you thrust, or squeezing them gently around your shaft. If you want to get even greater access to her back door from the missionary position, have her bring her legs together up over her head, then bend at the knees to press the soles of her feet against your chest. From this position she has great leverage to lift up her butt, and you can explore some anal play.

2. From Behind

Whether you are kneeling on the mattress or standing up on the floor behind her, this position is not only super sexy in that primal sort of way, but leaves your hands totally free to play and explore with any erogenous zone you can reach!

Reach around and massage her breasts, hold on to her shoulders, run your fingers down her spine. If she is into it, you can get a good grip on her hair and give it a bit of a tug. Make sure you grasp it close to the nape of her neck, and get all of it in your clenched fist at once. Gentle tugs will stimulate her scalp and might just play into some kinky fantasies of hers too!

For an extra stimulating surprise, try angling away from her body a bit on one side, so you can reach your hand, palm down, underneath your penis. In this position, you can enter her with both your penis and one, or maybe two, fingers, crooked toward the mattress so you can hit her g-spot!

If you are coordinated enough and have enough reach, you can even use the other hand to stimulate her clitoris, or to ask her to rub herself while you penetrate. This is also a great position to use your thumbs for exploring her back door, so be sure to have lots of lube handy.

3. She’s On Top

When it comes to intercourse, studies conclusively show that the woman-on-top positions are the best for getting her to orgasm. This gives her the chance to set the pace and depth, but also gives you the complete use of your hands, with which to make her feel good.

Try just spreading her lips as she bounces on your shaft. If she doesn’t move too much, you can also try twiddling your thumbs over the sensitive nub, or massaging her labia. If she turns around to face your feet in this position, you’ll have great access to her rear passage, and if you sit or prop yourself up a bit, you can fondle her clitoris and breasts at the same time!

4. Side By Side

If what you really need is encouragement to slow down and escape from all the high impact thrusting, a luxurious, relaxing, side-by-side position is perfect for keeping things calm. While you are thrusting in this sex position, just about all of the earlier exercises described above in the “looking-at-her-feet” category can be used. Try resting the heel of your hand on her mons, to stimulate her labia and clitoris while you thrust.

5. Standing At Attention

It’s pretty daring, but sex standing up can be absolutely amazing. If you want to be able to use your hands for anything other than holding her up, have her bend over and put her hands on a table or chair to support herself, thereby leaving you free to use any of the “from behind” positions above!

What Is Foreplay?

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Foreplay is something many men have heard of, but some actually don’t know what it is! But foreplay is essential for great sex, so here’s what you need to know!

Foreplay is generally regarded as the set of activities couples enjoy before he mounts her and pump away. The list includes kissing, licking, sucking, biting, hugging, caressing, nuzzling, smelling, touching, slow dancing, eating off each other’s bodies, teasing, testing the limits of sex toys, kneading, scratching, oral sex, erotic massage, dirty talk and virtually anything inspired by the couple’s imagination that isn’t penis to vagina penetration.

(This list is actually endless.)

Women are suckers for these, it’s in their very nature to be so.

While men can do without such and still be happy, women are more engrossed by them. I’m telling you, investing on these sub-arts guarantees an unbelievable upsurge in your erotic affairs, adding oomph and pizzazz to your encounters.

What Is It For?

You thought foreplay was for heating her ovens, did you? It’s the all-too-common, “We’re gentlemen, so let’s get her hot & wet first”, where foreplay is seen as an opening act.

That mindset has tripped a man too many. When you consider foreplay simply as a preliminary, you will inevitably suck at it. For how can you rock when you’re already imagining how wonderful it would be to slide inside your lover? The finest foreplayers are the ones who are lost in the moment.

Yes, foreplay will eventually heat her ovens, create palpable tension and bring her to a rabid sexual flush – but these are only the side-effects. Getting her hot and ready doesn’t overshadow the fact that foreplay is an end unto itself, not needing any ulterior motive. Side-effects should not be confused with the sheer delight of doing it.

Foreplay was never meant to be just a preliminary and you won’t recognize the delights offered by its outstretched arms until you stop seeing it as one. It would be a great sensual waste, for example, if you kiss with the hope of it leading somewhere, and miss on the fact that the kiss in itself is full of savory, mouth-watering treats. Such a waste.

Think about this for a minute: For many women – foreplay is it. (Let me give you time to let that one sink in.) For many women, foreplay is the thing, it is the sex thing. It’s their reason for the deed!

It’s when most of the things she loves take place – all the kissing, touching – everything! It’s where she feels those emotional stirrings and ecstasies women desire. It’s when they feel most wanted, most needed, most beautiful – it’s when you’re kissing them and holding them, (not when you’re feverishly thrusting into them). Many guys miss this. It blows my mind how guys simply breeze through something as big of a deal for a girl!

Why Does It Work?

Why do you think foreplay works in revving her engines in the first place?

It’s because women are great fans of it! That’s why it gets them hot and ready to ride you. In a world where girls don’t appreciate F – it won’t work, you can caress and tease all day long, and still end up with a lady bored to death. But our women do appreciate F, it inflames and energizes them. And rushing through it doesn’t endear you to her, as you’re making light of things she loves the most.

Stop treating foreplay as an opening act, and you will be a top act. You will see possibilities when you forget intercourse for the moment, and deal with what is at hand – you’ll do a much more amazing job too!

When that happens, your partner will experience the kind of longing that you want. She will have a real desire to be penetrated, to have you inside her. She will ask, bitch and nag just so you finally do her. So wise up!

How To REALLY Please Her In Bed

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Orgasm is something every guy wants to give a girl. But is that all she wants? Find out how to go beyond a female orgasm and give it all to her.

There is more to becoming a better lover than just the mechanics of sex. A man needs to be both the bad boy as well as a sensitive man in order to please most women. There are techniques that will work in various circumstances that any man can use and will turn any guy into a Don Juan. If you are ready to be the type of man who can please any woman in bed and prime her for wild screaming orgasms, then read on!

“Seductive Orator”

Tell her you want her. Sounds simple enough, right? But so many men just jump right into sex without even saying these words. Women need to connect at an emotional level before they can truly get sexually aroused. Tune her in, get her into the mood. Words have an extremely powerful effect on women.

Tell her how much she turns you on, that you were thinking of her all day and how much you want to give her an amazing time in bed. Get into the head of a woman FIRST and you will be the lover she has always dreamed about!

“Sensual Kisser”

Most men do not kiss long enough. And many women complain that they receive too little kissing from their lovers. In order to be the man of her fantasies, make sure you do not neglect her in this department. Her lips and tongue have millions of sensitive endings waiting to be stimulated, so light up her erotic passions through these areas. Put your tongue to good use and give her long, lingering kisses!

Don’t just focus on her mouth. Kiss, lick and nibble on her neck and shoulders too. Kissing is a great prelude to sensational sex and can turn on the “orgasmic furnace” in a woman like nothing else can.

“Whimsical Lover”

Lovemaking can get mundane for both you and her after a while, especially when you are in a long term relationship. That is the last thing you want in bed. In order to keep sex exciting, you need to be a bit unpredictable in the bedroom. One way to do this is to break out of your routine and do something new.

A new position, a new place to have sex – anything to get out of the rut! No one wants the same old, same old when it comes to sex. And an unpredictable move on your part is bound to light her passions and orgasmic fire!

10 Sex Toys That Will Scare The Hell Out Of Her

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Sex toys can be a touchy subject with many women, especially women who are not comfortable with their sexuality. Some women still feel like sex should be “enjoyed” in the missionary position with the lights off, and an orgasm is something only “dirty girls” have.

This neanderthal thinking can really hamper your sex life, but if your girl is shy about playing with sex toys, don’t criticize her for it. You know that sex toys could definitely spice up your sex life and increase her orgasm potential, but you don’t want to push the issue. If you’re thinking about introducing some new equipment into the bedroom, be careful of what you choose – here are ten sex toys to steer completely clear of because they’ll freak her out totally and she’ll take a long time to recover.

1. A Giant Dildo

Anything that looks like a realistic penis should be avoided. If she’s shy or reserved at all, this is going to freak her out bigtime, especially if you’ve chosen a large dildo. You may very will like the idea of seeing her take a huge schlong while you watch, but the idea of you watching her play with another penis (even though it’s a fake one) will really turn her off. Steer clear of these rubber monstrosities.

Alternative: An artistic looking glass dildo, nicely gift wrapped.

2. A Triple Rabbit Vibrator

A Rabbit vibrator is a gamble, because they tend to be large and have far too many buttons and functions for an inexperienced woman to feel comfortable trying at first. However, many women report loving Rabbit vibrators, so you may want to take this chance.

Triple Rabbit vibrators are a big no though – they have an anal extension (in addition to the clitoral vibrator that sits on top of the larger, insertable portion), making them look like some weird alien probing device. To stay safe, avoid Rabbits entirely, but definitely don’t get the triple freak-a-zoid vibrator.

Alternative: A high quality luxury vibrator like a Jimmy Jane or LELO product.

3. Freaky Bondage Equipment

Do not, repeat do not, introduce freaky bondage stuff to your sexual relationship if you haven’t already been experimenting with that kind of stuff or you know she’s into that kind of thing but you guys haven’t gone there yet. The sight of tight leather, ropes and God forbid chains, is enough to send a demure girl and possibly even those who are more experienced and open minded running the other way. Stay away from anything you wouldn’t find in a novelty store in the mall.

Alternative: Feather ticklers. A fuzzy paddle or fuzzy handcuffs. A blindfold. You know, that kind of stuff.

4. A Large Butt Plug (Or Any Butt Plug)

Don’t introduce a butt plug to your girl if she’s never tried anal anything before – for Pete’s sake, if you’re going to experiment with anal, use some lube and your fingers first! Anal toys, even the small ones, are just plain scary to some women because they say, “I’m just the beginning. I have brother and sister toys that are much larger and much more rubbery than I.” If you’ve talked to your girl about trying a butt plug or anal toy of any kind, get her a teeny, tiny one.

One that she can barely feel in there. Save the big stuff for…never. Always make sure you buy a bottle of lube when you buy an anal toy (you seriously cannot have enough lube for anal) and make sure any toy you purchase has a ring or a flared base on the end that prevents it from getting lost in there…because yes, that can happen.

Alternative: A really nice, high quality bottle of lube. By itself. With no anal toy.

5. Medical Equipment Of Any Kind

Steer clear of medical equipment. Period. Gloves and speculums are something almost every woman absolutely dreads, because they’re used to having an impartial doctor “play” with those toys once a year – and it’s never comfortable or fun when they do it. It makes a woman feel vulnerable and exposed, and she will probably never, ever associate those items with positive sexual feelings. If you bring them home, she will leave. And never come back.

Alternative: No medical equipment. How ‘bout that?

6. A Tongue Extension Vibrator

While this isn’t “scary” persay (although it may gross some women out because it just looks weird), it sends your girl a very clear message – you either aren’t skilled enough with your own tongue to give her an orgasm, or you’re too lazy to do it. Neither are good things to convey to your lover.

Alternative: Learn how to please her during oral sex with your tongue. It feels much better anyways.

7. A Pussy Pump

So you’ve read that a pussy pump can pump more blood into your lover’s clitoris, making it larger and more sensitive. Sounds great, right? Have you ever seen it in action? Maybe, and maybe that’s why it turns you on. Forget about that – how do you think seeing a pussy pump in action would make your girl feel? Remember, she doesn’t think that “bigger is better” like guys do.

Because if you give her one, she’s bound to look it up. And even if the majority of what is on the Internet is some sort of weird fetish stuff that you don’t plan on doing at all, the minute she sees a girl’s clitoris and can’t tell whether it’s a girl that has used a pussy pump or a hermaphrodite, she’s going to run the other way.

Alternative: A high quality clitoral vibrator. Get something classy, with lots of functions. When you use it on her clitoris, she’ll be more sensitive than she would be with any pussy pump.

8. A Masturbation Sleeve

This is a sex toy for you. Not her. This is like the guy who gets a fishing pole for his wife for her birthday. Bad idea! Don’t get a masturbation sleeve claiming she can use it on you to make giving handjobs easier on her or that it will spice up your sex life. It will spice up your solo time, which you will be having lots of if you get this as a “gift” for your girl. If you want one, fine. Just get something else for her too.

Alternative: You can’t go wrong with a luxury clitoral vibrator. You really can’t.

9. A Giant Econo-Size Bottle Of Lube

Lube in and of itself isn’t something that is going to freak your girl out, but don’t be tempted to buy the econo sized tub of it in order to save money. This is a bad idea anyways unless you’re absolutely sure it’s a brand that you’ve tried before and you love – if it’s not, you might end up with a huge bottle of lube you hate! It’s also a bad idea because your lover is going to think one of two things – you either masturbate a lot or you plan on doing lots of very weird stuff with her. Neither of those is going to go over well with her, so opt for the normal size bottle of lube.

Alternative: A sampler pack of lubes. She’ll actually have fun trying them out with you and deciding which ones she likes the best.

10. Ben Wa Balls

She might not know what these are – in which case you’ll have to explain them to her. This is bad. How are you going to explain to your partner that you bought her Ben Wa Balls to tighten her vaginal muscles without implying that her vagina is loose? And if she does know what they are and what they do? This is bad. She’ll assume you’re implying that her vagina is loose. You can’t win here. Don’t bother.

Alternative: A luxury clitoral vibrator. Yes, that again.

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6 Super Naughty Fingering Tips

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Fingering isn’t played out – at least these hotter than fire tips aren’t! Here’s how to engage in fingering with your girl and give her a WET orgasm!

1. Stirring The Pot

Another great all-round stimulator, this little trick allows you to stimulate the circumference of the vaginal wall at just about any depth, and is another type of sensation she may have never before experienced.

With one or two fingers inserted, slowly begin to make clockwise circles around the entire vaginal canal – bottom, left side, top, right side. You can change which direction your finger pads point to mix things up, or switch directions. Try to keep it up while thrusting!

2. Twist & Shout

A very special move using two to three fingers, this one allows you to stimulate her G or A-Spot, her clitoris, her urethra, her inner and outer labia; her entire vulva, in fact. A favorite in our house, this one has just the kind of sensations that are guaranteed to bring me over the edge after some stimulating massage and stretching.

Using your index and possibly your middle finger, penetrate and find the G-Spot, (or A-Spot, depending on how deep it is and how long your fingers are) thereby creating a “C” shape out of your hand, so that your thumb curls around to cover her clitoris. The sensitive inner webbing of your hand will cover her inner labia, and can stimulate her U-Spot here as well.

Once in position, slowly begin to twist your wrist from side to side, keeping your arm stationary. Not only will this rock back and forth inside her, causing her to lubricate and possibly squirt, but the changing pressure on her clit at just the right rhythm is certain to be a show-stopping favorite.

3. Upping The Ante

If you’re feeling extra frisky, you can add a second digit to any of the moves described above, either massaging her perineum and anus or fingering her clitoris. If you can figure out using multiple fingers and your tongue at the same time, you’re golden!

4. Three, Four And More

As she turns on, her vagina will begin to stretch and expand, preparing to accommodate something a bit bigger than a finger or two. As this happens, your wife will probably be interested in more stimulation, which is where these more complex moves come in. If you are still learning to read your wife’s reactions, take your time here to work up to them. She needs to be communicative; not just to ensure her pleasure here, but to avoid any unwanted pain.

5. The Three-Way

You can modify the Twist & Shout position above, with two fingers inserted to hit her G-Spot and A-Spot at the same time, along with her clitoris and possibly her urethra. Doesn’t that sound like the kind of party you want to get in on? As she turns on, her vagina will begin to stretch and expand, preparing to accommodate something a bit bigger than a finger or two.

As this happens, your wife will probably be interested in more stimulation. With your two fingers inserted deeply, trace your middle finger toward you, along the front wall of the vagina, until you find the A-Spot. Keep the finger in place as you crook your index finger closer yet, finding the G-Spot just inside the vaginal opening. Now that you have both spots in hand, you can reach your thumb for her clit.

In this position, you can both twist at the wrist as I mentioned earlier, and thrust very gently with your inserted fingers in the come-hither motion to stimulate all her special spots!

6. The Pubic Press

This movement actually puts a bit of pressure on her uterus and ovaries, giving you an opportunity to stimulate these internal reproductive organs from inside her vagina. Some women may find this a bit uncomfortable, if they aren’t used to it, so go slowly and gently and get lots of feedback. With your fingers inside her, let the heel of your other hand find her pubic bone.

Just above her mons and below her abdomen, you can press down to gently move her internal reproductive system closer to the vaginal canal, and the clitoral tissue that surrounds it. Thrusting in this position can be incredibly pleasurable.