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3 Exotic Sex Positions She Will LOVE!

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Sex positions that are new are wonderful additions to most couples’ repertoire. Try to incorporate one or two every few weeks to keep things fresh and exciting – even if that means the two of you laughing together while trying to get into the pose! Check out these three sex positions you are both bound to get a kick out of.

1. “The Swing”

It is definitely easier to perform this maneuver if you have got a swing with a flat seat to it (like a tire or plank of wood), but if you want to be really adventurous, you’ll get yourselves a swing just for sex.

Have your wife lie back on the swing so that it is propping her up between her shoulder blades, with her back flat and her legs firmly planted on the ground, if she can reach. Her knees should be bent and wide enough apart for you to put yourself between them, and she can use her arms to prop herself up on the swing so she can get a better view of what’s going on.

Put your hands on her hips – or the swing – for leverage and to move her between your legs. Make sure she holds on tight, or at least stays strapped in if you are using a special sex swing.

Climax Cue

If she props herself up, she will be able to control just how much clitoral stimulation she receives, and she can pull you towards her as well just using her legs if she so desires, controlling the tempo of your movement. It can be a bit tricky to get the rhythm right for this position to work, so have her keep her legs on the ground initially, if she can, just to get into a groove.

Also make sure that you stay in constant contact with her mons pubis, so that she can grind as she wants to and you can feel like you are reaching really deep inside of her vagina, even if you are only moving with the movements of the swing. This move is easier to perform if the swing is around groin height; if it isn’t, she can lower or raise her body accordingly and wrap her legs around your hips to get the right angle.

2. “Plug The Socket”

Have your partner lay on her back with her legs spread and knees bent. Get her to plant her feet and push her groin up so that her bum lifts off the bed. Lie yourself down sideways, perpendicular to her body, with your feet at her head and your head at her feet. Scoot yourself in between her legs, so that one leg fits under her hips, and the other lies over her mons pubis.

Put your foot over by her shoulder and prop your heel up by the area to support yourself. Hold onto the leg closest to you, and get her to do the same. Bend your penis slightly to enter her, and start having sex by grinding and moving against each other slightly, or have her tilt her pelvis up, down and from side to side.

Climax Cue

Make sure that you use your leg to really rub into her above her mons pubis, and encourage her to grind into you to do the same. By moving your hips forward and backward, you’ll rub against her clitoris with extreme precision, giving her an overload of oh-so-good sensations. You may also have a long enough reach to get at her clitoral head to play with it, but it might be easier for her to touch herself instead while you work on keeping the swing steady.

Make sure that you get really tight up against each other, so as to offer shorter, smaller spurts of penetration but lots of rubbing, twisting and humping, without pushing her right off the edge and onto the floor!

3. “Man Spider”

You’ll want to use the bed or some cushions on the floor to make this position work comfortably for you both. Have her lay down on her back, with her buttocks right at the end of the bed or cushions. She should bend her knees and rotate her hips so that her legs lift off their resting place and she is able to hold them up in the air, perpendicular to her body.

Get yourself in push up position, so that your feet land by her head, your pelvic region aligns with hers and your hands or forearms rest on the ground. She will need to take the initiative to insert your penis into her vagina, as you will likely need both of your hands to prop yourself up high enough to stay level with the bed or cushions. If she rocks her hips back and forth to move, you can lift and lower your penis to meet her.

Climax Cue

The unusual angle here helps connect you to your partner in ways she has probably never experienced, enhancing the sexual sensations for you both. For visually inclined women, this is also a highly recommended position because she’ll get a great view of you penetrating her.

The real magic with this position, though, is the possibility for friction: you can use your body weight to increase the pressure along her symphysis, and she can twist and turn her hips to ensure the exact angle of penetration, depth and rub that she requires for orgasm.

How To Get Her To Love Sex Toys

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Sex toys are an excellent way to help women achieve orgasm during sex or by themselves. If you would like for your girlfriend or wife to LOVE using sex toys, there are a few things that you should know. Not all girls are going to be as thrilled about using a butt plug or a vibrator during sex.

Some of them will outright refuse it. However, the vast majority of women are going to embrace the sentiment of expanding their sexual horizon with you and engage in some kinky fun with sex toys if you present it to them properly.

Talk To Her About It

Before you rush off to an adult superstore or jump on your favorite website, talk to your girlfriend or wife about incorporating sex toys into the relationship. There are a lot of girls that would rather change positions or techniques rather than stick some plastic vibrating apparatus into their vagina.

If your girlfriend or wife is hesitant about trying a sex toy, tell that they don’t have to be dirty to have a sex toy. Most girls that are hesitant about using sex toys are embarrassed about their sexuality. Ask them why they do not want to use sex toys and about how sex toys can help them enjoy sex more.

Know Her Limits

You can’t just use any old sex toy on your girl. Make sure that you know her limits and what she is up for. While a girl might be game to use a small vibrator, that doesn’t give you recourse for buying a giant double-dong. Ask the girl what kind of sex toys she has always wanted to try.

Bringing her into the mix is going to increase the chances of a good experience. Chances are that she has always had a fantasy of something. This could be the perfect opportunity for you to learn more about her and what turns her on.

Shop Together

There are sex toys that come all shapes and sizes. Your girlfriend or wife is going to know her body much better than you do. Sure you spend a lot of time down there, but that doesn’t mean that you know big of a vibrator she needs. Remember that you’re not the one that the sex toys are going to be used on.

When you go to the adult store or shop online, do it together. She might have her eye on a g-spot massager where you are going for the clitoral stimulator. Girl’s know their body much more than you do so let her take the lead or at least give you an idea of what she wants before you ever spend any money.

Get Lube

Don’t rely on the girl to get wet just because she is trying something new. Yes, sex toys can exciting and she might not need it, but going to a sex store or even shopping online gives you the opportunity to stock up on a much needed item. Lube can be used for just about everything from sex to a massage. If you see a bottle of lube at the store, pick it up just to be safe. The toy might be a little bigger than she anticipated and that extra bit of lube can make a huge difference in her experience.

Don’t Rely On The Toy

One of the biggest mistakes that you can make is to let up once you have a sex toy. The toy is there to enhance what is already happening, not to replace it. Remember to use a lot of foreplay when you are with your girlfriend or wife. Don’t rely on a vibrator taking her to the edge. You should already know what is going to push her buttons and get her turned on before the sex toy ever comes out.

Let Her Take Control Of The Toy

Yes, you have a new toy and you want to play with it. Slow down though. Just because you want to play with it doesn’t mean that you’re going to know how she likes it. Let her be in charge of the sex toy. If she was a little hesitant to even bring the toy into the bedroom, the last thing that you want to do is have her feel uncomfortable with you poking and prodding at her. Let her do what feels good. Let her give herself an orgasm or two with it. When she’s ready, she will give you the go ahead to start using it on her.

Why Sex Gets Better Over Time

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Sex is something you’ll be doing for the rest of your life. It really is.

Maybe not as much when brittle bones and cardiac complications set in, but it will always be an element of your existence. Whether it’s vicarious sex or a simple interlocking of hands with your wife of 50 years, sex takes a whole lifetime to appreciate.

The Good News – Sex Gets Better With Age

Like wine, huh?

You get good at it the more you do it. You’ll soon master its in’s & outs and will be able to calibrate your woman down to the most minuscule detail. Similarly, she’ll also master you, discovering how you want booty served. As you two get to know each other, sex will spiral up.

Really?! Then why do people tend to spiral the other way?

For many couples, this is what happens: Sex was good, no, it was GREAT! They made love like the gods. They were Energizer bunnies who just won’t stop. They thought the passion would last forever… but nobody’s falling for that now.

That was yesterday, viewed through rose-colored glasses. Today, sex (with that same old hag) has become boring – almost a drudgery. All they have are memories of what has been…and they are just 27 years old!

What’s up with that? If sex is supposed to get better over time, then why end up in a rut where it has become soulless, dead, ho-hum and unexciting?

It’s Only Up To A Point

Beyond an optimum point, things start going downhill. The body cannot realistically maintain levels of brain chemistry that cause passion to wax hot. The Law of Averages dictates that over time, all things come back and plateau on the average. Passion has to simmer down when the novelty of sex ceases. If it’s all the same – same partner, same set of breasts, same sexual positions, same moans – sex will definitely get old.

Chances are, a day will come when you’d rather sleep than make-love to that fat ogre beside you. There’s no set time, but it’ll definitely happen. You’ll feel it, she’ll feel it, you two will definitely feel it. When you hear things like, “I’m just not as horny as I used to be,” you’re getting there.

But that’s okay. Things getting old is fine, that’s life. Nothing is wrong with the idea of sex losing its charm, it’s your response to this new sexual dynamic that needs tweaking.

New Challenges Await You

Recognize that when this “up to a point” comes, it only means A NEW STAGE IN YOUR SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP HAS BEEN ACHIEVED. This brings with it a new set of challenges and it’s important that you appropriately respond to them. It doesn’t mean your run is over, you don’t need to swear off sex altogether.

Whereas the challenge in the past was getting home in the least amount of time, your new challenge could be finding new and exciting ideas to bring into bed.

And that takes work, a lot of work. Not manual labor, but brain power. You need to don your creative hat for this. And for many people, the very idea of honing creativity for sexual purposes is just too much, they’d rather find someone else new. But in committed, long-term relationships, it’s not that simple – or wise.

Sheet Soaking Oral Sex Techniques

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Oral sex is often one of the only ways men know how to get their partners off. Unfortunately, even oral sex doesn’t automatically bring women to orgasm. Remember that a sizable percentage of women have never had an orgasm, and many of them are probably guilty of faking orgasms during oral sex. After all, they feel even more pressure to climax when you’re selflessly trying to please them. Plus, we can’t discuss oral sex without talking about some ways you can pleasure your partner while she pleasures you. In this section, we’ll look at some techniques that can help in both areas.

Humming Rotating Tongue

Most men resort to a type of licking motion when performing oral sex on a woman, however, its the movement of the tongue which matters when it comes to helping her achieve orgasm. Have you ever watched a dog drink water out of its bowl? If so, then you’ve seen the short, fast movement of its tongue in the water. That’s the type of movement you can imitate during oral sex.

If your partner enjoys the way a vibrator makes her feel inside, then you can turn your mouth into a vibrator during oral sex just by humming. You can try humming an actual tune or just maintaining a single pitch. Either way the vibration in your mouth and jaw will be transferred into her pelvic region and her clitoris. This technique may be especially useful if your partner’s not quite aroused enough for direct clitoral stimulation.

Because she receives quick jolts of pleasure interrupted by a brief moment of no stimulation, its almost as if you are teasing her and this is going to increase her sexual tension and help her build towards the climax. When she is nearing that point, however, you may need to switch to a technique that provides more continuous stimulation.

Face Straddle

Another trick to try when it comes to oral sex is having your partner straddle your face. While she straddles, your mouth and your tongue are going to work on her clitoris. You can also have your hands on her hips and move her body in a circular motion or in the diamond-shape we discussed earlier. This will add even greater stimulation and may make her reach orgasm faster and harder.

Some women love circular stimulation. That’s why grinding into your partner during vaginal intercourse can often bring her to orgasm. During oral sex, you can use the same trick with your tongue. Move your tongue around her vagina or around her clitoris in a rotating motion. Start slowly, and then begin to move faster as her pleasure builds.

Toys & Cunnilingus

Even though oral sex provides some women with orgasms, some report that these orgasms are not as fulfilling because they are not accompanied by that sense of fullness provided by the penetration of your penis in their vagina. To alleviate that problem and to even improve the odds of attaining an orgasm, you can use a dildo or a vibrator on your partner at the same time you are performing oral sex. If you don’t want to share her vagina with a toy, use a vibrator designed for anal stimulation instead.

Oral Sex & Popsicles

Popsicles may be the most perfect edible sex toy. Not only are they an ideal shape, but also the handle makes them easier to use than bananas or other items. Take a popsicle in your favorite flavor and gently insert it inside your partner’s vagina as if it were a dildo or vibrator. The coldness of it inside the warmth of her body is going to send chills through her body and definitely kick her arousal up a notch.

You can either thrust the popsicle gently in and out of her body, or you can use the tip to rub circles around her clitoris. When most of the popsicle has melted, its your turn to use your tongue to lick up all of the melted sweetness.

Sixty-Nine

Most people have heard of this sexual position but not as many have tried it, even though it provides both you and your partner with an ideal method of achieving orgasm. For those of you who are not familiar, this position would involve you performing oral sex on your partner while she is doing the same to you. Some couples prefer to use this technique in a side-to-side position while others prefer one partner to be one top of the other.

Either way, your biggest problem is going to be staying focused on pleasing your woman while you are being pleasured. This can be a tremendous distraction and often sixty-nine sessions end with the man climaxing before the woman even has a chance. This possibility can be reduced if she is sufficiently aroused before you get started.

Stop Premature Ejaculation And Never Be Embarrassed Again!

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Premature ejaculation will completely destroy any chance you have at a great sex life if you let it. Here’s how to get rid of it so you can enjoy sex again!

For many men, premature ejaculation is one of the most embarrassing problems that can happen in the bedroom. It can sneak up on you when you become extremely aroused, and any slight movement or extra friction on the penis can bring you to the point of no return. Very often, ejaculation occurs within one minute of sexual intercourse, and this ill-timed event can frustrate both you and your partner.

But the simple truth is also that PE can be permanently reversed. Any man can learn how to re-train his ejaculatory reflexes and keep an impending climax at bay until he or his partner is ready for it. Here are two simple tips that will add minutes to sex and amp up your lovemaking.

Associate The Sensations That Happen Before Your Orgasm

Unlike women, men are far more easily aroused during sex. Thus to control your ejaculation, you first have to learn to recognize the sensations that come immediately before an orgasm, as well as associate the sensations while you are climbing up the arousal curve. This helps you become aware of the amount of stimulation your penis can take before you come to a climax.

Such “cognitive feedback” will enable you to modulate your actions and movements during sex so that you will stay clear of the “point of no return” until you are ready.

Establish Physical Control To Delay An Orgasm

This brings us to the next point. So how do you modulate your movements to keep your ejaculation at bay?

First, start things SLOWLY. Adopt a gradual, sensuous build-up to sex. Unlike men, women take FAR longer to warm up to your advances, so take your time to arouse her mind and body first. She will love your undivided attention… plus, it also helps buy you more time in bed!

Second, pay close attention to the things that cause you an early ejaculation. For instance, if a certain sex position speeds up your climax, switch things up when you feel your arousal climbing. (Hint: for most men, the missionary position is the culprit of quick-fire sex). Do you get aroused too fast during foreplay? If so, ask your partner to avoid making excessive contact with your genitals.

Third, try adopting a different thrusting method during intercourse. Instead of penetrating deeply, alternate between shallow and deep penetrations. This helps you in two ways. Shallow penetrations, coupled with gyrating hip movements, will give your woman greater clitoral stimulation and gets her aroused faster. On the other hand, deeper thrusts create less friction on your penis glans and helps you last longer!

Remember, premature ejaculation is NOT permanent. By understanding your own sexual arousal patterns and making simple changes to the way you have sex, PE will soon become a long-forgotten past!