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3 Sex Tips For A Better Sexual Relationship With ALL Women!

Sex tips usually try to tell men how to last longer in bed. However, according to a recent study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, the “most desirable” length of time to spend having sex turned out to be only 7 to 13 minutes. Women started rating anything from 10 to 30+ minutes as “too long”. In fact, only 3 to 7 minutes of intercourse were needed for the act to be considered “adequate” and only when sex averaged one to two minutes or less did couples think that coitus wasn’t lasting long enough.

Be open, ask your wife which of the many techniques that she has experienced turn her on the fastest. Don’t worry about her finding the question awkward; she’s been waiting to hear it from you for years, but you haven’t afforded her a safe place to be explicitly asked about this delicate issue.

Knowing that she has an easier time coming all by herself, it can be easy to feel rejected and replaced. You’ve heard that old joke, right? “Why did God create man?” “Because a vibrator can’t mow the lawn.” That may be true – I’ve seen some pretty ridiculous contraptions in my search for sexual fulfillment, but none that could cut the grass!

But for women, sex isn’t a separate part of our existence. Lust isn’t distinct from our love and respect for you. These emotions intertwine and are incredibly complex. Here are 3 sex tips for better relationships.

1. A Vibrator Can’t Cuddle

Yes, sometimes when we are hot and bothered, when we need to relax and focus or fall fast asleep, masturbating is preferable. Sometimes we all just want to be alone – you too, right? But there is a clear distinction between the easiest way to orgasm, and the most enjoyable sexual experience. Sexpert Tracey Cox points out that “there is a reason why we jump through extraordinarily complicated hoops to not only make someone like us, but lust after us – it might be harder to have an orgasm with another person but it’s usually far superior quality.”

2. Throw Out the Calendar

What kind of hoops have you been jumping through? Sex schedules, couch cuddling sessions, couple’s therapy, a bevy of skills workshops – your brain is probably so full of new techniques that it’s ready to explode! Throw out that calendar. Women want the type of orgasms that are hot, exciting, intense, and don’t interfere with their afternoon workout and getting dinner on the table! The only way to ensure you are prepared for hot sex is to master one mind-blowing skill at a time.

3. Be a Musician, Not a Technician

You’ve warmed your wife up and she is primed and ready with you between her legs. As one hand heads for her soft bits, you run down the list of techniques to try in your head. You are so preoccupied with what’s next in your arsenal that you can’t really tell if she’s enjoying herself or not. You don’t bother to ask, because you’re too concerned with transitioning into the next move, and acting out the lie that you’re best for her as a “strong, silent type”.

A technician keeps a list of jobs he needs to get done and checks each one off in a row, making sure he hits every point until the machine in front of him is “fixed”. While an indispensable part of being a good man in day-to-day life, darling, this is not a sexy skill. Kim Cattrall writes that “the musician who never gets past technique never really plays music”. You need to be fit and finessed enough to know a few techniques really well when having sex. When you are a master at making love, you can have dozens of skills in your arsenal, but only when you can do them all well.

3 Easy Sex Tips To Banish the Anxiety Of Climaxing Too Soon!

By lloydlester

Premature ejaculation will really ruin your sex life if you let it. You can easily eliminate this from your sex life with 3 EASY techniques. So, if you constantly feel you are performing below par you can take control now. The simple truth is, premature ejaculation is a very common problem that many men face in the bedroom. It can affect even the healthiest men and deal a devastating blow to one’s confidence.

And the worse enemy behind longer-lasting sex is performance anxiety. Many men finish too quickly in bed because they fear they cannot perform to their partner’s expectations. These sex tips will tackle the nervous and anxious about their own abilities before the lovemaking even begins. Negative thoughts start to creep up on their minds. For example:

“Will I last long enough this time round?”
“I hope I don’t blow early again”
“I think I can’t please her enough”

Do you know what these negative thoughts will do? It will play out exactly what you fear most – an early ejaculation! These simple tricks will help you overcome your endurance shortcoming…

1. Cognitive Exercises

Imagine yourself with the natural ability to last as long as you want. How does that feel like? What will that do to your sex life? Will that give your woman the best sex of her life (I bet it will!)? You are what you think. The way your thoughts are played out during sex have a tremendous impact on the actual outcome and how long you last. So think positively!

2. See The Bigger Picture

Chill out! Your sex life does NOT end with premature ejaculation. There is always another time to have a go at it again. The quicker you realize this, the sooner your anxieties will disappear. PE is not a lifelong disease. With the right conditioning strategies, you can completely stop early ejaculation and enjoy longer-lasting sex every time!

3. Open Up!

Communication is KEY in any long term relationship, even more so when it comes to making love. Talk to your partner about your anxieties. Share with her what you are frustrated about. Most men never open up to their partners. But if you do, you will be pleasantly surprised to know that she will have her own anxieties about sex too.

Just like you, your woman will be wondering if she’s pleasing you enough during sex, or if you are enjoying her company! So don’t fret about you being the only one who does not measure up!

8 SUPER HOT Fresh Takes On The Missionary Position For Guaranteed Orgasms!

By loveandsex

Sex positions can easily spice up your relationship, but make sure to follow the instructions closely. A small shift in your lover’s hips, body or where she distributes her weight can mean the difference between discomfort and pain, or pleasure and climax. Remember my recommendation for sex furniture if you’re having a hard time getting the angles right. There’s nothing wrong with a little extra help!

1. The Coital Assignment Technique

Most sex experts suggest this position as a regular staple to ensure your climax, because it focuses on giving you lots of clitoral action at an angle beneficial for deep, highly enjoyable vaginal thrusting which strokes the clitoral complex. This positions is also great for intimacy. When you can master this subtle but oh-so-effective movement while on your back, you can try it in all sorts of sex positions to enhance the experience.

Start by lying flat on your back. Open your legs to accommodate your lover’s body while he’s putting his penis inside of you. Take your partner’s hips and pull them towards yours, while tilting your own hips upwards like you’re trying to touch your navel to your partner’s pubic mound. Your back will round and you may need a pillow under your hips for comfortable support. Next, have your lover move his body up as much as possible while still keeping his penis inside of you.

You want the weight of your partner’s body propped up by his hands and your pubic mound grinding into his. With each thrust, have your partner focus on rubbing the fleshy part of his body just above where his penis meets the flesh along your vagina. Most women find this action and angle rhythmically pleasing and just enough pressure to come.

2. The Arch Opener

While lying on your back, have your partner place himself over you. Open your legs and have him lie on top of you like he would in missionary style. Once he’s inside you, raise your hips up so that you’re almost in a crab position. Your lover’s body weight rests on your feet, shoulders and the length of your arms.

When you are comfortably raised, put your arms up around your head, and have your lover hold your wrists to make a box-like shape with your upper limbs and shoulders. You can now use this frame as leverage to push back against your partner, in order to better grind your pelvis into his body for more clitoral action.

3. The Sit Up

When in missionary style, prop yourself up on your elbows so that it lifts your back off the bed. If you needs a bit of help, have your partner support your back with his hands by wrapping his arms around you. As he thrusts in and out of you, sit up even more, tilting your pelvis upwards, and then slowly laying back down again on your back. You’ll essentially perform continuous, assisted sit ups!

4. Legs To the Side

Pretend you’re having sex missionary style, but put your legs straight up in the air instead. It might be easier for you if you place a pillow under your head, but it’s not mandatory. Kneel down and just before your partner enters you, and take both of your legs and push them to the side, keeping them straight as possible. Your partner can use his hands to support himself if need be, or he can place his hands on the bed with his elbows out so you can rest her legs on them occasionally.

5. The Pretzel Cue

Lay on your back and lift your legs, pushing them back toward you a bit so that your knees are around your ears – keep in mind, only the most flexible women will be able to get their legs back this far, so take it easy. Have your partner push back slightly so that your back is off the bed yet still curled up.

Have your lover get comfortable between your legs, and he will press his knees up underneath you against your back, to help prop you up even higher. Have him Lean in and press his body against the backs of your thighs; you may want him to hold onto your legs for support and to keep you both in position. When he penetrates you, start to rock slowly, without him putting too much weight on your body from above, which could injure your lower back.

6. The Countertop Toe Curler

You’ve likely had sex already while you’re lying on something other than the bed, but this position takes things to a whole new level. You’ll see what I mean when you’re in this position. To perform it, lie back on a firm place: a couch, countertop, car hood or even a raised bed works. The tricky part is that when the man stands up straight, you want his pelvic region about a foot higher than yours if you’re lying flat on your back.

Have him get down on his knees if you need to, prop yourself up with pillows, or have him bend his knees a bit to make sure the height difference works. While you’re lying flat on your back, have him move himself in between your legs. Put your ankles on his shoulders, and tilt your pelvis up towards the ceiling so your body is like a flat plank.

Sex furniture is great for this sort of positioning, especially if you’ve never moved like this before. Only your shoulders and ankles should touch anything, with the rest of your body perfectly straight. He can grab under your hips to hold onto you while he thrusts into you, giving you both some leverage and support to keep elevated.

7. Legs Together Now

Start off in traditional missionary position. Have your lover keep his penis inside you with his body off the bed and his legs spread. Maneuver your legs in between his, while he focuses on staying inside you. Eventually, both his knees will sit outside of yours, and he’ll be crouched over you with your legs straight underneath him for better sex.

This is a shallow penetration position although your lover can increase the depth of thrusting by lying on top of you and using his arms to prop himself up. This hot sex position offers fantastic clitoral stimulation and a really tight fit for the both of you.

8. Two Chair Ride

You need two high-backed chairs to attempt this sex position, ones with firm armrests that offer a bit of padding for you. Place them side by side, close together, with a few inches between two of the arms. Stand between the two chairs, facing one with your back to the other.

From here, have your lover support you so that you can lean back, your shoulders resting on the arm rest furthest from your body, and your hips braced against the other arm behind you. Have him leave one leg on the floor between the chairs to brace you and add tension, while his leg that is closest to the backs of the chairs splays across armrests in front of you in a comfortable position.

To complete intercourse, he will lie with you so that his upper body is flat against yours. Have him brace his hands against the chair if need be, and have him lift the leg closest to the back of the chair to meet yours. Intertwine legs so that you can use his leg to push against while he’s thrusting.

5 More Female Orgasm Myths You Think Are TRUE

By loveandsex

A female orgasm is associated with a lot of myths. Here are 5 of the most common myths that men think are true.

1. Women Can Only Reach Orgasm Through Vaginal Intercourse

This is a myth that has caused many men and women over the years to take the sexual needs of a woman for granted. This myth was actually started by Sigmund Freud, the developer of psychoanalysis. Through his research, he discovered that women could easily reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation.

But Freud dismissed this type of stimulation as juvenile, as he believed it was important for women to become more sexually mature by focusing only on vaginal stimulation to reach orgasms. The problem is that the vagina was not designed for orgasms. It does not have the concentrated nerve endings that one finds in the clitoris or in the head of a penis.

As a result of Freud’s determination, women who could not reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse were considered to have some type of psychological impairment. All sorts of methods and devices were devised in an attempt to “liberate” women from their reliance on the clitoris for sexual pleasure, many of which failed.

2. Only Women Fake Orgasms

It’s important for both men and women to realize that orgasms are not going to happen during every sexual encounter. As a result, women aren’t the only ones faking things. Studies show that about one-fifth of men admit to having a fake orgasm with a partner at one time or another.

Their reasons were the same as women’s: they didn’t want to hurt their partner’s feelings, they were tired and wanted to get it over with, etc. Orgasms don’t always come easily in a partnership. Even though masturbation often results in an orgasm every time, it’s important to remember that it’s simply because you’re already feeling aroused (which is the reason you’re masturbating in the first place) and you also know your body and what gets you off.

3. Men Only Care About Their Own Pleasure

This myth was probably true at some point in the past, but today more and more men worry about their role as lovers. Many strive to give their partners a sexual experience that’s just as pleasurable (if not more) as what they hope to experience themselves.

The only reason this myth continues to persist is a lack of understanding of female climax and how to help women achieve them. This isn’t something men and women are taught in sex education classes. And even if you asked your father, you’d probably still be left in the dark.

Every woman’s body is different, so even if you figured out how to give one partner mind-blowing orgasms, those same techniques might not work with another.

The key to knowing what’s sexually stimulating to your partner is communication. In an honest, caring relationship, the easier it is to share your thoughts and feelings, the easier it will be to experience a pleasurable sex life.

4. Most Couples Have Great Sex Every Time

Why does everyone else’s sex life appear to be better than yours? It could be because you’re at different stages of your relationships. You can’t compare sex from a six-month relationship to a six-year-been-there-done-that relationship. Our nervous system is designed to become desensitized to things that we routinely receive stimulation from. That’s not to say that long-term sex can’t be as pleasing—it’s just different.

If you and your lady know all the right buttons to push with each other (and you should after all that practice!), orgasm is often guaranteed and sex can still be very loving and passionate. My guess is that you wouldn’t be able to hold down a job with the amount of energy it would take you to sustain such a sex life.

5. Sex Is The Most Important Part Of A Relationship

Couples can only spend so much time in a relationship having sex. So if you love someone for more than just sex, you have no choice but to relate to each other on other levels. Sex is, indeed, a very important part of a relationship. However, most people (including men) have other needs, usually divided equally.

When you look at it this way, although sex tends to be a man’s number one need, it still accounts for only 25% of what he needs in life to be happy. Based on a variety of surveys and studies on long term relationships, approximately 20% of men believe that mind-blowing sex is “crucial,” whereas the other 80% look at it as “the icing on the cake” of a healthy relationship.

How To Give Her AMAZING Sex Even If You Can’t Last Long Enough

By lloydlester

Sex tips cover many different topics. One of the biggest genres is how to last longer in bed. You don’t need the whole repertoire of skills to please and completely amaze your woman. This article will reveal one simple tactic that will show her that you are still in control even though you orgasm way too fast. Believe me, most guys overlook this simple technique.

The Paradox Of Finishing Too Fast

Great sex often finishes too quickly. That is one problem facing most guys in the bedroom. This is also something that I have grappled with for a long time. I am just glad I don’t have to face this problem any more. You see, when you come to an early climax during sex, it makes your partner question your masculinity. You appear weak in her eyes.

Worse still, at the subconscious level, she will begin to look around for guys that can truly please her in bed. But here’s something that I discovered when I was a quick shooter.

I remembered I was pretty nervous when sex comes around, and the fear and anxiety made it practically impossible for me to have intercourse for more than a few seconds. It was just too embarrassing, even to think about it.

Hold Her Responsible For Your Early Climax (No Kidding!)

When a guy finishes too soon during sex, there are two ways a woman will think about the situation: she will think that the guy is really lousy. OR, she may think she is so incredibly hot that the guy just lost control.

But here’s the thing. Most women are so insecure about themselves that the first scenario is far more likely – unless in the first place you give her the idea that she is HOT!

So, if you come to an orgasm too quickly, be completely cool about it, and tell her “that has never happened to me, and I never thought a woman could do that to me, until you came along!”

Something magical happens when you assure her that you are totally attracted to her and enjoy her company and body immensely. Your woman will feel completely comfortable and secure about her own sexuality… and will be drawn by your masculinity too!

This is extremely powerful and a great way to turn the tables on your quick ejaculation. The sex may be over too soon, but believe me, she will remember that quick-fire sex as totally mind-blowing! But you better do better next time… else she finds someone else who does!