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Female Orgasm TRUTH! How Age Affects Her Climax

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The female orgasm is extremely elusive. It may be easy to assume that because you have an orgasm most or all of the times you have sex, your wife is having a smashing time as well, but statistics also show that only about 44% of adults are happy with their sex life. While you are more likely to be concerned with frequency – 41% of men are – your wife and I are more concerned with our feelings. Only 29% of women want more sex, which means the chances are that your wife is not entirely satisfied with the quality of your sex life, rather than the quantity

How She Comes

The most frequent sex act reported by couples is by far coitus, yet only 6% of women report being able to orgasm from penile stimulation alone. Even with clitoral stimulation or vibration, only 29% of women are able to orgasm every time they have sex. Your hands may not be the most obvious sex organ, but the science is clear – 34% of women say that masturbation with their hands or rubbing up against something is their preferred way to reach orgasm.

In the heat of the moment, when she is panting from your foreplay and begging for more, your penis isn’t necessarily what she means. Tradition says that variety is the spice of life. Switching to your brand new “swirly whirl” technique just as she’s about to come will probably stop her dead in her tracks.

Trying new sex positions and different stimulation keeps things interesting, but when it comes to making her come, all the tricks in the book can’t replace the dexterity and strength required for the consistent movement that will bring her over the edge. She has had decades of practice at this subtle movement. If you don’t learn to mimics her own masturbation, she’ll be left wanting. In the heat of the moment, when she is panting from your foreplay and begging for more, your penis isn’t necessarily what she means.

One Way or Another

Do you have a defeatist all-or-nothing attitude when it comes to sex? Do you pass up the chance to get down and dirty for the sake of scheduling, or do you take the time to play when the opportunity arises? When I used to wake up in the morning and try to cuddle with my husband, he would always push me away.

We were so busy that he didn’t think we had time for all the hard work he would have to put in to getting an erection and having an orgasm, so he didn’t even want to bother touching me. Making love is supposed to be an emotional, shared experience and shouldn’t be relegated to goal-oriented time slots when you can run the full routine.

Foreplay, intercourse and orgasm are a great combination, but each activity is also enjoyable on its own. Sometimes my husband and I have time to kiss and fondle, sometimes there’s only a few minutes for a rushed quickie, and other days we may have a long, luxurious afternoon to tease and please each other.

Don’t push away the chance to make your wife feel good because you’re worried you won’t get off in the process!

The Dirty Thirties

While people in their thirties tend to be a bit more adventurous, they are also on average much busier than their younger (or older!) counterparts. Young children are incredibly demanding of both time and energy, and according the sexpert Tracey Cox, the average parenting couple have sex around once a month and if that frequency rises as the child ages, it does not start to for several years.

This kind of physical rift in a relationship can cause long term emotional and physical problems that permeate the later years of a marriage, especially if cuddling, kissing and foreplay disappear with the all-or-nothing approach. Paradoxically, a woman’s capacity for orgasm rises dramatically during this time period as well.

While only 23% of younger women come on a regular basis, 90% of women over thirty report frequent climax, mostly during masturbation.

The Fighting Forties

As a result of the sexual dysfunction of an earlier decade, both men and women in their forties begin a downward swoop on the roller coaster that is sex and marriage. While only 23% of younger women come on a regular basis, 90% of women over thirty report frequent orgasms, mostly during masturbation.

More than half of all men develop erectile dysfunction and this number only rises steadily from age 40 on up. People in their forties also drop way off on their rate of sexual activity – 69 times a year compared to 86 times the decade earlier.

The numbers regarding fidelity are not much more encouraging. In fact, it doesn’t take much for someone to cheat – somewhere between 25% and 40% of people have been unfaithful to their partner, and not all those people were unhappy in their marriage. Those who were “pretty happy” were twice as likely to cheat as those who were “very happy,” and those who were “not too happy” were three times as likely as their very happy peers.

4 Male Masturbation Techniques For Better Orgasms

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Male masturbation is something that every guy learns to do by the age of about 14. While there isn’t a guy in the world that would rather masturbate then have sex with a woman, sometimes a do-it-yourself job is all that is available. If you’re tired of using the same techniques, there are few ways that you can spice up your solo masturbation regiment.

Doing the same old same old can easily get tiring and become humdrum when you’re by yourself. Spicing things up can give you different sensations and easily take your mind off of being single. Here are some solo masturbation techniques that can get you through any dry spell or spice up how your girlfriend gives you a handjob.

1. The Standard Single Fist Technique

The standard single fist is probably the most commonly used masturbation technique used by men today. The technique is fairly simple. You wrap your fingers around the shaft of your erect penis and then slide your hand up and down from the head to the bottom.

This technique gives you the most contact between your penis in your hand. While hand lotion and lubrication is not always around, the standard single fist technique can easily be used without these items. Lube or lotion can take this technique to a newer level, but if you are going to use such items it’s better to use a more advanced technique.

2. The Churning Butter Technique

Male masturbation can be boring if you’re not using different techniques. The churning butter technique involves both hands and plenty of lube or lotion. The technique is fairly simple. Simply apply lube or lotion to both of your hands and then put one hand on top of the other and go up and down on your penis.

For a better sensation you can twist both of the hands around the shaft and head to make it seem more like a vagina. Make sure that you’re not holding your hands too tight as you could cut off the circulation to your penis. When you are about to have an orgasm, you can either stay with the motion or you can use the standard single fist to finish it off.

This method gets its name because it will actually look like you are trying to churn butter. This can make for an excellent alternative to your standard masturbation technique.

3. The Jelquing Technique

Jelquing is another male masturbation technique that you can employ in your arsenal. While this technique is typically used to increase penis size, it can also be used for masturbation. The idea is to push the blood from the shaft of your penis to the tip to increase the erection state.

Jelqing is a whole new aspect to masturbation and gives a completely different sensation. You basically want to use your index finger and your thumb to make an “O” shape. Tighten your index finger and your thumb around the bottom of your penis and then slowly work it up to the head.

Make sure that your index finger and your thumb are not too tight or you could hurt yourself. This method requires either lube or lotion. Never do this with a dry hand.

4. Using Sex Toys

Sex toys are one of the best ways that you can increase the amount of pleasure with your male masturbation. While toys are typically used with women, there are toys out there for men also. Male masturbators are commonly used for male masturbation with single guys, however, they can also be used with couples. This gives the man the feeling of a vagina or a mouth in order to get them off. These toys can be found at local sex shops or online.

They typically cost anywhere between nine dollars and $80 depending on the model and the store that you are buying them from. If you are going to buy a male masturbator be sure to get one that is going to encompass your entire penis. There are a lot of male masturbators out there that are very short and will not take your entire penis.

There are also different variations on how tight the masturbator will be. Make sure that you are buying one that is not going to go loose within a couple of uses. The best thing about these toys is that it can train you for having sex with a woman. They are typically used to increase stamina while also providing a little spice to your normal male masturbation regiment. All toys will require lube as well has a thorough cleaning after use.

How To Last Longer In Bed & Give Her Better Orgasms TONIGHT!

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How to last longer in bed is one of the most common concepts on the minds of many men. And if you’re reading this, you probably wonder about it too, don’t you? Ask any guy the reason he wants to know how to last longer in bed, and chances are, he will tell you that he wants to maximize his lover’s pleasure. So does having better stamina really give her better a female orgasm?

In short, it DOES. In fact, a lack of sexual stamina is one of the major causes of unfulfilled sex lives. Lasting longer will give you a great shot at triggering female orgasms. Out of evolutionary needs, Mother Nature has pre-conditioned the average man to be able to endure only 5 minutes of sex before climaxing.

Give Her Constant Stimulation

On the other hand, most women need ten to fifteen minutes of CONSTANT stimulation in order to be sufficiently turned on and achieve an orgasm (and you can certainly see how it does not add up!). The simple truth is that getting women to orgasm quickly goes against the need for men to spread their seeds and multiply in numbers.

And how times have changed! Instead of having sex just for reproductive purposes, women now look (and crave) for fulfillment when they make love. Hence, the longer you are able to last, the greater the chance of inducing an orgasm in her. For most women, a man’s improved sexual stamina works almost like a charm in giving her incredible, longer-lasting sex.

What If She Can’t Reach Orgasm From Penetrative Sex?

But, some women just cannot get an orgasm from penetrative sex, no matter how long it lasts. And I can tell you that if she cannot get that big “O”, the constant thrusting can be a painful experience for her. So what do you do if your lover cannot climax from intercourse?

Well, you just got to do things a little differently. Use clitoral stimulation. Mother nature made the clitoris for only ONE purpose – for women to enjoy orgasms. So you need to focus on this small, super sensitive area. The way you have sex will be important here.

For example, if you are in the missionary position, gyrate your hips in a circular fashion during penetration so that your pelvic bone rubs against her clitoris. Taking your time and going slow is an excellent tip for how to last longer in bed. If she prefers “rear-entry” on all fours, use your free hands to stimulate her clitoris even while you are penetrating her. This will give her sufficient clitoral stimulation and ensure that she gets the orgasms you know she deserves!

4 Fingering Methods That Will Get Your Girl Off Every Time

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Fingering your girlfriend will probably take you back to high school. However, fingering can be one of the most erotic ways to give your girlfriend or wife an orgasm. Sometimes using your fingers can make your girl orgasm even harder than using your penis or your mouth. If you have never been the best at fingering a girl, there are a few things that you can do to put a smile back on her face.

Knowing the right amount of tempo, speed and the amount of fingers to use while you are performing this act is essential to pleasure. While there are a lot of techniques that you can use there are five that are almost guaranteed to bring your girl to orgasm.

1. The Clitoral Rub

The clitoris is the main point of stimulation for every woman. The clitoris is located on the outside of the vagina at the upper part of the lips. The clitoris looks like a small bean and you may have to push back her lips in order to find it.  One of the biggest mistakes that guys make is giving her a dry rub.

Have you ever had a girl give you a dry hand job? How did it feel? More than likely you were begging the girl to stop within a couple of seconds. The same goes for women. Before you start to rub her clitoris, make sure that you wet your fingers. If she is already wet, you can use her natural lube. If not, use a little bit of your own spit. Rub it slowly to begin with and then work your way up to a quicker motion. Gauge her response and you will be in the clear.

2. The Standard

Fingering is typically two fingers inside of her vagina going in and out. While this isn’t the most creative way to get her off, this is a standard for a reason. Use your index and pointer fingers to enter her. Make sure that your fingers are wet and use lube if needed. Spit works well too, but lube is a great way to speed up the process of getting her wet, especially if you think that you’re going to have sex after you finger her.

Don’t shove your fingers all the way inside her. Make sure you are working your way inside and touching the top of her vagina. Curl your fingers inside her so that you are kind of scraping the top of her vagina. Do this about 3 inches in and you will be touching her G-spot. The G-spot is known to give women some of the deepest orgasms of their life. If you have never found the G-spot, it’s a fleshy patch of skin about 3 inches inside and on the top of her vagina. You will know when you start to touch it.

3. Two Hands

Using both of your hands to finger her is another method that works extremely well. This is basically the standard method while rubbing her clitoris with your other finger. This is going to take some practice. Knowing how to use both hands together is not something that you are going to get right off the bat.

It’s best to start out with the clitoral rub and then work your way up to the standard method of fingering her. You want to be careful when you are using this method. Some women will find that they love this amount of stimulation, however, other women will not like having this much stimulation to the vagina. Everyone is different and they like different things. Starting out slow will give you the ability to gauge how much stimulation your girlfriend actually likes.

The Two-Hand Alternative

The two-hand alternative can come in handy with women that feel too much stimulation from both hands being used on their vagina and the clitoris. The basic method of fingering with the two-hand alternative is to use your tongue on her clitoris. While this might be seem like oral sex, using your fingers on her vagina while licking her clitoris is still a method of fingering. Most women can reach orgasm through oral stimulation or vaginal stimulation alone.

However, some women need both to reach their orgasm. By giving them both of these methods you should have no problem getting your girlfriend off. The reason that you’re going to use your tongue instead of your hands for clitoral stimulation is that the tongue has a different texture and is not as hard as your finger.

Your tongue can easily feel much better to her without the hardness of your index finger. Lick the clitoris in circles while you make the “come here” sign with your fingers inside her gently brushing up against her G-spot.

5 Female Orgasm Myths Men Believe That AREN’T True!

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Female orgasm myths are said time and time again. Some men think that there are women that simply can’t have one. Others believe that their penis size is the root cause. Here are 5 myths that simply aren’t true.

1. A Woman Can Reach Orgasm More Easily If Her Partner Has A Big Penis

If you think your penis size has something to do with a woman’s ability to climax, you need to think again. The truth is that size really doesn’t matter all that much. Look at it this way: just as large breasts may be fun to play with and look at, they really don’t have anything to do with whether or not you climax.

Just as they say “more than a mouthful is a waste,” the same holds true for penises, except our saying goes “more than a vagina full is a waste (and sometimes painful).” Since only the first two inches of a woman’s vagina are sensitive to stimulation, anything over that amount is kind of useless during intercourse, at least from a woman’s physical perspective.

2. A Woman Doesn’t Enjoy Sex Unless She Has An Orgasm

Listen up: NOTHING COULD BE MORE WRONG!!!! Although a majority of men believe that the only way a woman enjoys sex is if she orgasms, nothing could be farther from the truth.

For many couples, sex is generally a physical and emotional expression of love, intimacy, and trust. Because women thoroughly enjoy being close to their partners, many enjoy the physical aspect of feeling their partner’s naked body against theirs during sex, even when it is not accompanied by climax.

The physical touch of her partner helps satisfy a woman’s need for affection, so sex can be very satisfying both physically and emotionally even if she doesn’t climax. An orgasm is an intense pleasurable feeling but it is not the sole source of sexual pleasure for a woman.

3. There’s Nothing Wrong With Faking An Orgasm

A lot of women sincerely believe this myth, but the truth is that there’s A LOT wrong with a fake orgasm. Although faking an orgasm may benefit the woman in one way or another, it does absolutely nothing for her partner. Faking an orgasm is nothing more than a lie.

It doesn’t matter if her reason for doing so is to spare your feelings or to get the act of sex done and over with. Allowing you to believe something that isn’t true is lying. While faking an orgasm may help a man feel good about himself in terms of his ability to satisfy his partner, the truth of the matter is that he is not satisfying his partner.

4. Some Women Just Can’t Have An Orgasm

While there are a percentage of women who have never had one, there is no evidence to suggest that some women are physically incapable of climaxing. One of the reasons some women have never had the pleasure of experiencing an orgasm is because they just don’t know how.

While men have a lot of practice pleasing themselves through masturbation, many women lack the same experience. As a result, they don’t understand what the big deal is about sex and give up trying to learn how to reach climax. The main reason behind this failure to achieve an orgasm is improper genital stimulation.

Contrary to popular belief, a woman requires clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, not vaginal stimulation. Without proper stimulation of the clitoris, orgasm is unlikely for most women.

5. Women Take Longer To Orgasm Than Men

This is another common myth, which has not been supported by research. The reason many men and women believe this to be true is because of their lack of understanding sexual arousal.  A woman’s pattern of sexual arousal is much different than a man’s.

As a result, it takes women longer to “want” to have sex than it does men. Once a woman is fully aroused, she can have an orgasm just as fast, if not faster, than her male partner. But should she fail to reach that optimum level of sexual arousal, it can appear to take her longer to have an orgasm than a man.

The key is to learn how to get your partner hot and horny first. Because men often don’t know how to sexually arouse their partners, they often engage in sex sooner than their partner is ready for. As a result, achieving orgasm can be difficult for the woman, if not impossible. Not only will that help her to climax faster, it will also help her to climax more often.