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How Time Distortion Can RUIN Foreplay!

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Foreplay is essential, but are you really spending long enough on it? Probably not, even though you think you ARE. Here’s why!

What Is This Thing With Time?

When you’re sitting in on a lecture or a company meeting, you might think you’ve been sitting there for hours. It drones on and on, and you’re completely certain you’ve wasted your entire day. Then, when you break for lunch, you realize you’ve only been there 45 minutes. This, my friends, is known as the distortion of time.

What Does It Have To Do With Foreplay?

When a woman complains about that lame foreplay, a guy might think: “What?! I’ve been down here giving her oral sex for almost an hour. My tongue is tired, my mouth is dry, and I have only 4 hours of sleep left. I have blue balls bouncing all over. And she still wants more?!”

Okay, first of all, he hasn’t been down there for almost an hour. It may have felt like 60 minutes, but it’s really more like 3. He thinks he’s the world’s most indulgent lover, pampering partner with extensive, soul-reaching oral sex and foreplay, or so he thought. He’s been played.

How can he be guilty? He’s been a true gentleman, always considerate of her needs.

But many fellas are in for a nasty surprise. A guy can be sincere, but he can also be sincerely wrong. What he thought was enough, wasn’t really much at all.

How Your Attitude Can Make It Worse

The fact that guys are acting like school children in anguish for the bell on a Friday afternoon doesn’t help at all. They’re thinking way ahead, imagining how good it would feel to be inside her, picturing her innocent face when he starts penetrating her.

But that’s not great sex!

Great sex is a moment by moment experience!

For example, when you kiss, think ONLY of her lips. Close your eyes and feel the suppleness of them. Gently explore her upper set, playfully bite her lower lip. Proceed to the sides where both meet. Notice it’s much thinner there. Probe the fleshy inner part of her smackers where it’s warmer and smoother. Feel how her lips transform when she smiles while kissing. How does that feel? Breathe deeply, inhaling her soul. Do this without care for time or the future.

And that’s just for the lips! We’re not even dealing with dynamite stuff here. But you won’t appreciate these details if your mind is somewhere else.

Your effectiveness lies where your focus is, so don’t ever think of anything else except what you’re doing IN THE MOMENT. When you nuzzle, think only of that and nuzzle your way into her entire body. Focus only on that. Focus, and your senses will reward you with awareness that’ll blow your mind. You’ll dawn to the realization that you were missing so much just because you were always out of the moment.

How To Slow Down Your Orgasm And Get More Stamina In Bed

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Premature ejaculation will make you kiss your sex life goodbye. Don’t let it control you! Delay your orgasm with these simple premature ejaculation tips!

The ability to control or slow down one’s orgasm and outlast a woman in bed is one of those skills that every hot-blooded, testosterone-driven man wants to learn. None of us are born with the innate ability to control our orgasm on command. In fact, for the purpose of efficient procreation, most of us are NOT predisposed to last very long. Premature ejaculation is very common, especially amongst healthy, fertile men in their 20’s to 40’s.

Even though Mother Nature has a humorous way to making men “come quickly” during sex, you can actually turn around this shortcoming and significantly improve your endurance in bed.

Achieving Quantum Shifts In Stamina With Your Most Powerful Sex Organ

No, I don’t mean a man’s penis. Your most powerful sex organ is not located in between your legs. Despite common perception, your brain – not your crown jewels – controls when you reach an orgasm.

Many men allow negative, self-defeating thoughts to flood their mind when they make love. For instance, they fear they will ejaculate too soon; they worry their partners will be disappointed with quick-fire sex, etc. Ironically such thoughts tend to have a self-fulfilling prophecy. They make premature ejaculation become a REAL problem.

“You Are What You Think”

In many cases, early ejaculation occurs or even worsens as a result of habitual negative thoughts. For example, when we ejaculate early, many guys start blaming themselves with thoughts such as: “I’m no good, I’m a total failure in bed” or “Nothing ever goes my way”. Our feelings follow what we think, and negative thoughts like these can keep us from fixing premature ejaculation and lasting longer.

The Converse Is Also True

Most men who are successful – especially those who are from humble beginnings – have one thing in common: they trust in the power of positive thinking. They don’t sweat the small stuff, and they believe in making incremental progress towards their goals.

The secret to success of any kind – including overcoming premature ejaculation – is to banish negative thoughts from your mind altogether and adopt a successful mindset.

It may take some time and effort, but practice this: Whenever you start to doubt about your own sexual endurance, banish that doubt from your mind, and meditate on your goal instead (e.g. lasting 10 minutes and giving her sensational orgasms).

Thinking positively does not mean you pretend that an early ejaculation won’t happen. It’s how you deal with it that counts. Don’t fear initial setbacks in your quest to last longer. Look upon them as learning experiences. You will only get better, and your sex life will transform, I promise!

Tantalizing Tips to Blast Her Into Orgasms With Effortless Ease!

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The female orgasm doesn’t have to be difficult to come by. Use these simple but effective techniques to give your lover a climax that is out of this world!

If you think that giving women an incredible time in bed seems like an impossible thing to do, you are not alone. Statistics have shown that most men are woeful lovers in the sack and that a great number of women can achieve an orgasm only through masturbation and not through intercourse. Sounds like you are one of those guys among this unfortunate statistic? There is no need to panic. It is not as difficult as you might think to become her “Don Juan in bed.”If you need some quick tips to drive her wild in bed and give her the most incredible orgasmic experience, you’re definitely in the right place.

The Bosom’s Her Best Friend, And Yours Too!

A woman’s breasts, like her genitals, are her most treasured possession and the gateway to her sexual pleasure. Her breasts are certainly one of the most important areas you should focus on during foreplay. Before you reach for her breasts, make sure you have sufficiently aroused her by gentle touching and caressing other sensual spots on her body.

Be gentle with her breasts as with all the other parts of her body. Massage her breasts in a circular motion using either your fingers, nails or both your palm and fingers. Try to incorporate your tongue without going for her nipples as it is ultra sensitive. Save it for later. By holding back and teasing just a little, you will heighten her sexual anticipation and build her up for a genuine orgasm later.

The Art Of Erotic, Sensual Lovemaking Is This!

One of the main ingredients that will make you a great lover is that you enjoy the whole process with her. So, you are probably thinking that you make a great lover since you do enjoy the lovemaking process. But, do you really? Far too many men look at sex as a great way to boost their ego. If you really enjoy having sex, you would want to try to make it last as long as possible for your lady, and not merely enter, thrust, ejaculate and end!

Seriously, lovemaking is a form of delicate art and therefore, you should take your time to master it. It all starts with what a woman thinks is important to her: kissing, touching, involving her feelings etc. Build up her erotic sense first, then everything will become easy for you (yes, even making her climax multiple times!). Do not have the misconception that she has any specific “erogenous zones” because her entire body is in fact ONE large erogenous zone! Do this simple thing right and you will become the Don Juan in her eyes!

Q&A: What Is The G-Shot?

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The g spot can be elusive and difficult to find. Many guys have searched and searched for it, without ever finding the pot of gold at the end of the tunnel, so to speak. Is there a way to make it larger, more noticeable and more pleasurable?

What Is The G Shot And What Does It Do?

Simply put, it’s a cosmetic injection administered by a doctor directly in a woman’s g spot.

It works to amplify a woman’s g spot.The patient gets an injection in her g spot and it becomes larger and more engorged. This makes it much easier to find and stimulate. Some people also say that getting a G shot actually increases g spot pleasure and orgasms.

Is It Safe?

It’s actually FDA approved, although it was discovered by accident. The shot was initially for joints that were experiencing inflammation and had lubrication issues. Things like knees, hips, elbows, and the like. Somehow, they found another application for this collagen-like injection, and thus the G shot was born. How they went from injecting Restalyne and similar substances into joints to injecting in the vagina we’ll never know, but whatever. Maybe scientists really do need to get out more. Or, maybe, they have sex like porn stars and and make Rick James and Hugh Hefner seem shy and inhibited.

Is it risky? You mean to say that you’re concerned about sticking a needle in your vagina? Why, whatever could possibly go wrong? To be honest, not much, generally speaking. There aren’t a whole lot of side effects, but the ones that are present are common with getting these kinds of injections. The most commonly reported side effects are swelling, itching and redness. They aren’t common, but they can happen. Above all, do your own research! Inform yourself about the possible risks and side effects and decide whether the benefits outweigh them.

What Is The Procedure Like?

So, let’s say you want the g shot in your g spot (try saying that five times fast). What’s the procedure like? Where do you go for it? What does it take?

It’s pretty simple actually, it can be done in any doctor’s office and only takes about a half an hour or so to have done. A quick internet search can find you a doctor in your area that does the procedure, or you can call your doctor and find out if they can recommend someone to do this to you.

However, this is generally not the kind of conversation you want to have in a church, your cubicle or in front of your in laws. Social media and smartphones seem to have made people really dumb. Granted, we grew up prior to 1997, so we remember that thing that doesn’t exist any more, what was it called? Oh, that’s right common sense. And privacy. So have this conversation where you can speak freely and not bother anybody.

Then What?

It claims to make a woman’s g spot easier to find and can make you have more pleasure during sex, however, but the jury’s out on that last party. Like Botox, the shot doesn’t last forever. It only lasts about four months, so if you do it and you like the results, plan on having it several times a year.

So is it really worth for you? Only you can really answer that.

3 Raunchy Secrets To Explosive Sex!

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Sex can be mediocre, or it can be INCREDIBLE! Here are three nasty, naughty secrets that will make sex better than ever! She will LOVE this!

The idea of knowing your woman is enjoying genuine sexual pleasure and shouting your name with orgasmic glee is simply unsurpassed. If you want to be one of the lucky men who have their women’s happiness (and faithfulness) at their fingertips, read on to discover 3 tips on making you her only man – in bed and out of it!

1. Memorize Her Body

If you want to master anything, you have got to start by learning it. Memorize the location of her G-spot. Many chaps likewise fail to touch the clitoris in the proper manner. The only way you could satisfy her is by familiarizing yourself with her body. Touch her as often as possible and enjoy and appreciate how she reacts to your every move.

You might be surprised with the simple things that turn her on. More importantly, learn to enjoy lovemaking. It is not a race or a competition. So don’t hurry! Most women love a slow, sensuous build up in sex. Believe me, once you get her in the right mood, she will achieve an orgasms faster than you would probably imagine!

2. Drop The Same Ol’ Habit

If you are sick with the same old routine at your work, how more sick could your girl be with the same sex patterns? Test various positions and watch carefully for the slightest reactions from her. Women all have their adventurous side, so you better change your moves.

Try out various sex positions and see which one produces the best effect on your lady. Your woman would like your guts and be more adventurous herself! The more things you try out, the more you’ll get closer to a happier and satisfied relationship.

3. Stimulate Her MIND!

If you think arousal is only a matter of the body, you are wrong. Arousal involves the mind as well. Sexual intercourse would be more passionate if your minds and hearts connect as well as the body. What’s lovemaking without words of love? Words, as with many other aspects of life, are powerful. In fact, there are times when all it takes is a single word to make her go from lukewarm to burning hot.

It is truly a skill to know how to bring your woman to an orgasm using your words, so start learning how to do so! If you learn to seduce her mind before and during sex, it will amp up the level of enjoyment for the both of you!