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How To Be A Confident Lover

Sex tips are what makes someone great in bed, right? Maybe not – here’s what it takes to have confidence when you’re getting it on. These sex tips are HOT!

When it comes to sex, nothing is bigger than confidence. Absolutely nothing. This trait alone will get you laid way more times than any god-like appearance.

He who feels he doesn’t belong in the same room or breathe the same air as a woman doesn’t deserve to get laid. She doesn’t want to be with a guy who fidgets like fish out of water, of course not! Insecurity is a turn-off worse than halitosis – it damns you by killing the mood and messing up your moves. A good lover doesn’t fluster his woman with any squirming or twitching, he comes to sex with no apologies, stands naked with self-worth intact, raw with confidence. He gets women thinking, “This guy knows what he is doing.”

Sex is something he desires, not fear – his confidence springing from a blend of knowledge and experience. He knows exactly what to do, and he’s done it many times – he exudes bewitching self-assurance.

How Confidence Manifests Itself

Imagine the bedroom is submerged in a swimming pool and the two of you are making love underwater. That’s how slow and smooth you should go – as if your body is moving through water. This says to a girl, “I have no nervous energy to dissipate because I am comfortable with the situation. You should be too.” It’s more relaxing than any nervous tick.

You can move faster as the sexual process unfolds, but never be in a hurry – that has always been the rookie mistake. Women don’t stay around with guys who act like someone’s chasing them, but they flock towards confidence. As I’ve said, the confident get laid way more than any ridiculously good-looking insecure guy.

What Sexual Confidence Really Is

Sexual confidence is simply knowing what you’re doing as a result of having (the right) sex tips and (the right) experience. That’s what it really boils down to. But these things won’t come knocking on your door, you’d have to grab them by the balls. That’s what you’re doing right now, you’re investing in the ‘knowledge’ part. As a result of the, you will know exactly what to do and will have the confidence leading your woman.

But sex is one of those things you master not by reading volumes, but by actually experiencing the dirty work for yourself. So go get some! Getting the right experience, I can only guarantee you one thing: you’re gonna have to pay your dues. You’ll commit mistakes – a lot of them. Now let me be completely clear. You can have one single partner your entire life and learn to be a masterful lover. You do NOT have to be with multiple women. In fact, that can be one of the biggest turn-offs to women – a guy who is “well used.”

You’ll crash, you’ll burn, you’ll be scratching your head in exasperation – well, maybe not that dramatic, you could simply be doing the moves and not getting the expected reaction. You waited for her to enter ecstasy, but she didn’t. She didn’t react at all.

What To Do When You Crash And Burn

How you handle situations like this will dictate if you will ever become great in bed. You need to be able to roll with the punches and not be bothered with disappointments. Don’t let them take you out of the moment and prevent your enjoyment of sex, don’t make a big deal out of it.

I have yet to meet a man who has gone on to become sexually confident but didn’t go through this journey of discovery. There may be shortcuts when it comes to sexual knowledge, but there are none when it comes to experience.

Honestly, this is the most exciting part of building sexual confidence – being in the trenches, learning and enjoying the process. As I’ve said, this is also the most decisive part, you could either get better over time, or your perfectionist and emotional tendencies could get the better of you and lead to a negative spiral where you get incompetent over time.

If I were you, I would just enjoy the process, NO PRESSURES.

Earning Your Red Wings – Should You Perform Oral Sex During Menstruation?

By loveandsex

Oral sex can be performed while a woman is on her period, but most guys avoid this. But is oral sex while she’s bleeding really all that bad?

Why Some Guys Don’t Do It (And Why Some Women Won’t Allow It)

Oral sex doesn’t have to be avoided during a woman’s cycle, although many folks aren’t terribly fond of it during this time of the month. Men and women alike are sensitized to how a woman tastes, smells and feels add to that the natural changes that occur during menstruation, and everything (good and bad) is magnified. However, if she uses a tampon, you can easily give her excellent orgasms during this time of the month provided that she’s interested. Some women’s libido goes through the roof at this time, whereas other women want nothing to do with sex when they are bleeding. But for those that are so inclined, there are a few ways to make it easier on both of you.

How To Make Oral Sex During Her Period Work

Before you get going, have your female partner put in a new tampon and then clean off the surrounding area with a wet washcloth. She can even tuck the string in so you don’t have any idea it’s even there.
As you would if you were performing cunnilingus without a tampon in, focus on rhythm and pressure throughout the event.
If you don’t want to lick down in her vagina area, that’s perfectly acceptable. You can give her just as much pleasure by licking around her clitoris.
You won’t be able to use your fingers completely as the tampon is in the way, but don’t worry too much about this. You can use your fingers to tease the outside of her vagina and her anal area.

Orgasm Time!

Most women will happily have an orgasm using the same techniques as you would during any other time of her cycle, it’s really just a matter of preference for both partners. As well, it should show that a woman can have a great orgasm without penetration or any sort of push-pull technique; that her clitoral network is really where the action is at, and that with proper clitoral manipulation, she’ll orgasm, and orgasm well.

A Note About Safe Sex

If you are practicing safe sex with your partner, you may want to avoid performing oral sex during your partner’s menstrual cycle, even when using a dental dam and tampon. The risk for STD or HIV transmission is much higher when there is blood present, and dental dams have a tendency to move around a lot during normal use, unless you’re holding them in place the whole time (which prevents you from using your hands and fingers to pleasure your partner).

2 “Touch & Sizzle” Techniques To Blow Her Mind

By lloydlester

The female orgasm isn’t as elusive as you might think. Here are 2 female orgasm tips that will get her so HOT, she’ll be begging for more!

Is your sex life in danger of facing a spell in the dumps? Not literally, but if you are reading this article, I figure you could use some help to improve your sex life. You have to remember that all women are naturally made capable of reaching climax during sex. You just need to find the best ways to make her let go of her sexual inhibitions. The way you caress your woman can have an incredible effect on her during sex. This is not rocket science but an easy art that any guy can master. Here are two tips you can use that will surely prime her for some sizzling, intense orgasms tonight!

Foreplay Is They Key To Excellent Sex

If you think foreplay is something you can skip, think again. You don’t want to skip it, EVER! Your girl needs lots and lots of warm up time to get her body and mind consumed by the idea of sex and let’s face it – you do too. So don’t be afraid to engage in a TON of foreplay! Stretch it out as long as you can – twenty minutes, an hour – who cares? In fact, if the foreplay is any good at all, you won’t be watching the clock to figure out when to stop and progress to sex. It will simply evolve into passionate lovemaking and afterwards, you’ll wonder how in the world you lasted two hours!

The Natural Prelude

Most men make the mistake of getting into fondling and groping mode as soon as lovemaking starts. Don’t make the same error! Instead, try to be natural when you start caressing her. Try to hold back and make her long for your caress. Also find new ways and places to feel up and arouse her. For instance:

Use the back of your fingernails
Stroke along the back of her neck (don’t underestimate this move – it is a powerhouse!)
Caress and kiss her back, forearms, the back of her knees and calves

As much as possible, take things slowly. Ironically, this is the fastest way to heighten her sexual anticipation! Don’t make a fool of yourself by rushing things because it isn’t sexy to her at all. For instance, take your time to remove her clothes.

An Advanced Permutation

If you are looking to take her to the next erotic level, do this: lay her face down on the bed. Gentle run your fingertips down her back to her butt and up again. This will slowly but surely get her aroused. You will also notice that the gentle brushing with your fingertips along her neck and the area below the center of her back will activate her senses as these are highly sensitive hot spots. Once you sense that she is aroused, you may start to add soft and gentle kisses to her body, and running your tongue along her spine.

Advanced Oral Sex Techniques That Will Drive Her WILD!

By loveandsex

Oral sex can be good at a beginner’s level, but it can be INCREDIBLE if you use these super hot advanced oral sex tips and tricks.

When you’ve mastered all of the “beginner” oral sex tips, it’s time to create your own routines, learn even more tricks, and improvise as needed. Here are some ideas to get you started, but feel free to adapt them to your own needs, wants and desires.

The Tease

This is a fun routine where no fingers are used at all. Only your tongue coaxes the climax out of your partner. It won’t be a full, heavy climax like when you play with her g-spot, but it will be exquisite nonetheless, and leave her panting for more.

Do not use your fingers inside of her at any time. Instead, use your hands to move her around or underneath you, and to position her at a different angle so that you can play with her vulva unpredictably and in ways you normally couldn’t if your hands were inside of her.
Use her legs so she can push against you; try having her in a partial split, or with one or both legs up around your shoulders. These positions also open her up more so that you can penetrate her vagina with your tongue.
Tease is the name of this routine, and for good reason: you want to keep most of your licking along the surface of her vulva, teasing out her clitoris and only occasionally touching it directly with a light flick.

Prolonged Pleasure

Multiple orgasms, and/or Tantric sex are mentioned in many Eastern sexual practice texts. Their premise sounds simple: men are trained to postpone their sexual release, while a woman’s pleasure is at the forefront of the experience. Both partners are encouraged to get to the brink of orgasm but then stop with the idea that when they do fall over the edge, it will be an incredible, connecting release like no other.

As women can have multiple orgasms in ways that men are rarely able to emulate, the differentiation between the pre-orgasm phase and orgasm phase aren’t important with this routine. Instead, the focus is on giving her the ultimate pleasure, so that she can ride out an even longer climax when it does occur. Therefore, your focus here should be to keep her in the pre-orgasm phase as long as possible without actually pushing her over the edge into release.

Use whichever routine or techniques you enjoy to bring your partner to the pre-orgasm phase. For some playful fun, you may want to introduce a bit of light bondage if she’s up for it, because it’ll make your work easier to keep her from making herself cum. Many women find this process so exquisite that they don’t want to wait to orgasm and will take matters into their own hands. Having said that, don’t tie her up if she’s not willing, and create some sort of ‘safe word’ so that she can yell it out in the heat of the moment so you know she needs to be released immediately. Try for some words that neither of you would accidentally say during a lovemaking session.
When you notice that she’s in the pre-orgasm phase, pull back on whatever it is you are doing. Stop pressing so firmly, don’t lick as heartily, or stop altogether. See if moving back still propels her forward. If it does, stop completely for several seconds before starting again, even more lightly than before.

Fingering

To engage in fingering, you’ll want to lie next to each other on your backs with your arm across her abdomen. Put your hand by her vulva; if it hurts or you find the position uncomfortable, move so that your arm is supported by her body. This way you can manipulate her manually without fear of getting tired or having a sore hand, plus it allows you to give her the kind of stimulation she requires to orgasm.

The process of finger play has several aspects to it:

Where the two of you lie next to each other, your hand rests on her pubic bone and you fingers drop down to play with her. One finger parts her lips and traces the outlines of her labia and thighs.
The same finger then plays with her vagina lightly using the “come here” stroke.
Move your whole hand in unison, making small, circular movements that apply pressure to both the g-spot and clitoris.
Take your hand out of her vagina, and lay your palm flat against her vulva. Let her press up against you and use her tension to arouse herself. If your hand is getting sore, this is a great technique to give it a bit of a break and let her do some of the work, which isn’t rude, but rather, just what her body needs to build towards climax.

As you lie next to her, change it up between these three techniques, using each one as you feel she wants or needs it. If you like, and if you want a different angle to play with, have her roll over onto her belly while you play with her that way.

Whatever you choose to do, do it slowly and carefully. Build up to a climax like a good story builds to a grand finale.

How To Choose The Right Dildo For You

By serenapaige

Sex toys are great fun, but there are so many to select from, it’s hard to pick! Use these tips to find the perfect one to meet your needs – and desires!

A dildo is one of the most implemented sex toys in the lives of couples and singles around the world. If you are ready to buy your first dildo there are few things you must know beforehand. Choosing the wrong one could be a waste of money. Buying one that is too small or too big for you is not going to give you the satisfaction that you’re the looking for. Choosing the right kind is essential to staying happy in your sex life. If you are unsure about the kind that you need, do not fret. Here is a very quick guide to get you started.

Consider Size

The size of your dildo is going to determine the kind of model that you want. Do you want a 7-inch or a 10-inch length? Do you want a double-dong or are you going more for a model that has a lot of girth? All of these issues will come into play when you are searching for the right one. Are you really tight? What was the size of the best penis that you’ve ever had? The best dildos are going to be slightly bigger than the best penis you have ever had. Most of the one on the market are going to measure from about 4 inches or more. You can even find them up to a foot and a half.

Consider Shape

The shape is extremely important. They come in a wide variety of shapes and can accommodate any woman. You can choose from a shape that is a replica of a real man’s penis, or you can go for something with a more manufactured look. The main thing they need to remember whenever you were buying a dildo is that it is going to be inside of you. They can come curved or straight. Curved dildos are typically used to hit the g-spot on track.

Consider The Materials

The material that your sex toy is made out of is another issue. Typically, dildos are made out of silicone; however, they can also be made out of different materials. Jelly is another material that you can find in the markets. Jelly looks a lot like silicone, however, jelly is more porous and will have to be cleaned on a regular basis. If you are going to be sharing yours with a partner, it’s best to stay away from jelly.

Pyrex glass is a very popular choice because it is extremely hard and can be cleaned very easily. Glass dildos can be heated or cooled with water to give you even more excitement. These tend to be more expensive. If you want to ride it, you might want to go with silicone. If you’re looking for something to use more like a vibrator for continuous hand propelled penetration, you can go with glass.

Vibrating Dildos

So you want to kill two birds with one stone? A vibrating one is the perfect solution for you if you want a vibrator and a dildo all in one. These work the same way as a vibrator and you’re going to get the same experience as you would from any other once it’s turned off. Some come with a suction cup on the bottom so you can ride it. These need batteries so be sure that you have some around. These typically take AAA or AA’s. The problem with these is that they usually don’t come with a clitoris massager. You will only be able to use it for vaginal insertion or you will have to pull it out to use it on your clitoris.

The Cost

The cost can vary depending on the materials, the size and the quality. When you’re looking, always buy a product that is going to last you a long time. This is one of the reasons that so many people buy silicone and glass. They are typically more durable than jelly or the new “cyberskin” models. They can cost anywhere from $5-120 depending on what you’re looking at. It’s better to spend a good amount of money right now and have it for years than to have to replace the dildo in a couple of months because the material is being worn out. Your dildo should come with cleaning suggestions. Follow these, as they will help you keep the materials clean and long-lasting.