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5 Sex Positions He Will Love

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Sex positions can really spice up lovemaking for a guy. Here are five sex positions we KNOW your man will go crazy over!

There are about four sex positions that all couples tend to use. Missionary, doggy style, girl on top and spooning are perfect for achieving different angles for sex. However, if you’re tired of the same old sex positions with your guy and you’re willing to branch out, there are a myriad of options to choose from. Different sex positions can offer different intimacy levels and different angles in which the penis enters you. If you’re looking to obliterate the humdrum positions in your sex life, here are a few that will keep your man’s toes curled.

1. Coital Alignment Technique

If you’re a big fan of missionary then you’re going to love the coital alignment technique. This sex position gives you all the comfort and eye contact of the missionary position while adding clitoral stimulation. As stated before, this is very similar to the missionary position. The basic concept is to lie on your back while your guy gets into missionary position. Instead of having your faces meet, have him push up a little further on you. His chest should be more at your shoulders than on your chest. Bend your legs at about a 45-degree angle and then tilt your hips up. Have your guy grind up and down to give you deep penetration while massaging your clitoris.

2. The Spork

This is a variation on the spoon and can add a different angle for your guy. This sex position can give you a natural lead in to other positions because it’s very universal. You can go from The Spork to other sex positions like missionary, girl on top or even a regular spoon. Basically, you will be on your back. You want to raise your right leg up and then have your guy position himself on your right side. He can hold onto your right leg as he enters you. Now place your left leg between his legs or spread your legs wide open. You can do this sex position facing him or turned away from him. This provides a nice angle for your guy and can make you feel very tight.

The Ribbon

The ribbon is a sex position that will give you increased intimacy and a very deep penetration. Both you and your guy should lie on your sides facing each other. Now you will bend your legs and angle your vagina toward him. He will come up and go between your legs. Wrap your legs and arms around his torso as he enters you. He can kiss your neck as he thrusts deep inside you. You should be wrapped around him like a ribbon on a Christmas gift. Thrust back and massage your clitoris against his lower abdomen for added stimulation.

The X

The X is a sex position that is great for your guy. This involves slow thrusts that will massage the tip of his penis. Lay down on the bed from head to toe. Your head should be at his toes and his should be at yours. Now have him come between your legs. Have him put your right leg between his. Now you should have a leg on either side of his legs. Have him go inside you and hold onto his feet as he thrusts forward. This is great because it is a controlled thrust. The position doesn’t allow for heavy movements so you get a very slow experience. The angle that he will go inside you should be around 80-90 degrees. This forces his penis to stay down and will feel great for him. At this angle, the penis will start to hit the g-spot so it’s added pleasure for you. This is also known as the Crisscross.

The Spider

The Spider is a sex position that more designed for you, but he’s going to love it Because of the angle that his penis will go inside you, the g-spot is going to be hit a lot. This makes you orgasm faster and will make him feel more like a man. This will also feel good for him because the sex position allows you to grind on his penis with minimal effort. Have him sit down and lean back on his hands. You come up facing him and put our feet up on his shoulders. Lean back let him start to thrust at you. You should start to feel the head of his penis hitting your g-spot immediately. Thrust back and forth in a controlled motion if you want to take control.

How To Give A Woman Wild Screaming Orgasms, Leaving Her With Uncontrollable Spasms!

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Orgasm tips are helpful if you want to give a girl the best climax of her life. Check out these orgasm tips and make your lover go NUTS!

How would you like it if your woman screams in bed every time you have sex? No, not screams of pain, but shrieks of pure ecstasy! Most guys would give anything to be able to pleasure any woman at will and give them the time of their lives. Well, then there are some guys whose partners just lay down there while they are thrusting away, with no emotions or just simply look bored.

Now, here’s the thing: if she looks bored during sex, it is usually not her fault. It takes two to tango, and it takes two to make amazing sex (or boring, dreary sex). Either way, if she is not enjoying sex, you probably are not getting the most out of sex either. So how do you give your girl the kind of shrieking joys of screaming orgasms that will put other men to shame?

The Truth About Screaming Female Orgasms

Believe it or not, for many women, screaming is what actually causes them to come to an orgasm. Let me explain. Well, it is not so much the act of screaming that that cause her to climax. It is the act of letting herself go, the act of totally relaxing her mind and body, the act of totally losing her inhibitions, that leads her to a sexual ecstasy like no other. It is like a self-fulfilling cycle. By encouraging her to make some noise in bed, she is actually priming and getting herself ready to achieve a more intense orgasm.

But before you ask your girl to start screaming her head off during sex, you should know this: It is not what she does that helps her achieve an orgasm, but what YOU do to help her reach that pinnacle!

Getting Her Comfortable And All Warmed Up

That is the key. You have to make her sufficiently relaxed in your presence to surrender her body to you. Get her to succumb to the kind of intimacy that she will feel entirely comfortable with you. Music is one utterly effective way to do that. Music serves two purposes here: First, it covers the noise that she will be making so that she can really surrender and let it all out without affecting the neighbors! Second, music inherently affects a woman’s moods and emotions.

And guess what? It is through her emotions that she will arrive at a level of trust and intimacy with you to completely release herself! And this is important – play the music that she (not you) likes. This will work her feelings to a boil and let her embrace sex with all its abundance. This will get her all primed for a tantalizing, screaming orgasm that she has absolutely no control over!

Why You Can’t Ignore His Balls When Giving Him A Blowjob (Or A Handjob)

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A blowjob should involve your man’s entire genital area – including his scrotum. You don’t want to just stick to the head and shaft of his penis – there’s lots more down there that has sensitive nerve endings that can create waves of intense pleasure. Here’s why you shouldn’t skip over his boys during a blowjob.

You Knew They Were Sensitive, Right?

It’s no secret that a man’s testicles are incredibly sensitive. You’ve heard how painful it is for a man to get “kicked in the junk” or to take any kind of hit to his testicles. This is because they’re extremely sensitive to pain – but this also means that they’re incredibly sensitive to pleasure as well.

There are lots of pleasure inducing nerves in the skin of his scrotal sac, but there are also nerve endings inside that can send waves of pleasure up and down his body when his balls are jiggled, sucked or fondled. So basically, that’s like 2 different sensations at once! Couple that with stroking the shaft of his penis while you pay attention to his boys and you’ve got a recipe for INTENSE orgasms!

Fondling The Scrotum With Your Hands

This is easiest to do during a blowjob, but can be done during a handjob also. When you’re giving him head, reach down and gently cup his testicles with the palm of your hand. Roll them around in your hand gently, and don’t be afraid to give them a gentle squeeze also. You don’t want to be too rough with this though, so pay attention to your guy’s body language when you do it.

If he seems to be shrinking away or is acting like he’d rather you be doing something else, then that’s probably the case and you’re making him uncomfortable. Play with your technique until you get him moaning, groaning and grinding his pelvis into you.

Licking And Sucking His Scrotum

This can feel absolutely divine during fellatio, but a lot of girls don’t like it because men are usually pretty hairy down there. Also, his scrotum is where most of his “manly” odor tends to hang out (due to the hair), so most girls tend to steer clear.

Encourage your man to shave and stay clean so you can tongue his balls. When he hears that you’re interested in doing it, he’ll most likely be more than happy to make the necessary arrangements for you to be comfortable down there.

While cupping his scrotum, bathe the skin with your tongue. Stretch your tongue out wide to cover as much area as possible. Gently suck each testicle into your mouth, but make sure you don’t graze him with your teeth or suck too hard. Again, make sure you’re paying attention to his body language so you can tell what gives him pleasure and what doesn’t.

Getting Down N’ Dirty

Remember that enthusiasm is almost 90% of a blowjob. If you’re going to be putting your mouth on his scrotum anyways, don’t be afraid to get a little down and dirty. Let things get WET! If your mouth is dry, use some flavored lube. Let it get sloppy and let your man enjoy watching and hearing you go to town on his entire “down there” area.

Spread his legs wide and make him feel exposed as you suck his penis and lick his balls. You can even lick up and down his perineum (the patch of skin below his scrotum but before his anus) if you’ve got enough guts to do it. If you do, make sure you use as firm a tongue as you can manage to indirectly stimulate his prostate gland.

Lick him from bottom to top over and over, and watch his eyes pop out of his head! Start at the perineum and lick all the way up, over his balls, over his shaft and all the way up to the head of his penis. Suck on the head of his penis some before you travel all the way back down his shaft with your tongue. Repeat this a few times before you really get going and he’ll be as hard as a rock and begging you to take him all the way into your mouth.

When it comes to stimulating his scrotum during oral sex, use your imagination. Do what comes to mind, see if he likes it, and if he does make a mental note to try it again later. If he doesn’t, scrap that idea and try something else. It’s all about having fun and giving your man incredible orgasms!

How To Keep Having Sex Even After You Ejaculate

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Foreplay is usually before sex, right? It doesn’t have to be! Use foreplay to give your partner an orgasm if you ejaculate too early.

Women don’t care if you’ve ejaculated or not, but THEY DO CARE IF YOU STOP THE FUN. They’re pissed with guys who don’t understand a most basic sexual principle: Just because you’re relieved doesn’t mean I am. The issue with premature ejaculators is not the white liquid – it’s that after they shoot, fast guns stop everything and act like the woman is also done.

Who Decides When Sex Is Over?

The man? The woman?

For most, it’s neither. It’s an orgasm. Semen is an oracle declaring to men, “That’s all folks!” Feeling relieved, they believe this and retire like car salesmen without any after-sales service.

But here’s the thing: Semen really is just semen. It means you climaxed, good for you! The juice represents the procreative aspect of things, but sex isn’t solely for procreation, is it?

AN ORGASM DOESN’T SAY OR MEAN ANYTHING unless you want it to. You can treat it as if nothing happened.

Men stray after they spray when they make their orgasm the sole goal.

When that’s the case, then there’s really no difference between masturbation and intercourse – the hot girl is irrelevant. (Be careful when setting goals, they’re double edged. They set your focus, but they also define your blind spots.)

Yeah, the penis-inside-the-vagina bit may be over, but not the fun. For there’s no stopping a couple from doing other stuff. Penetration isn’t the only thing on the menu. Thrusting may be over for now, but not the sex.

Doesn’t it makes more sense to wrap up when both partners are satisfied, whether this is attended by one orgasm or not, than wrap things up simply because one sees white liquid?

Treat Your Orgasm As If Nothing Happened

This doesn’t mean that you continue with the poking. No! What can you do with limp equipment, really? Forget your thing. After reaching orgasm, you experience a virtual absence in arousal, a refractory period of 5-15 minutes. Since you already got into her pants, you can easily dress up & leave or doze off, and there’s absolutely nothing she can do about it. Now this is where most men blow it big time.

Invest in the refractory period and distance yourself from the other guys.

MAKE THE NEXT SEVERAL MINUTES ABOUT HER!

Notice how easy it is to tease and please when you’re done? You really don’t need much after you’ve sprayed, do you? You can actually think straight, can you?

Forget your temporarily dilapidated tool and unleash your most prized possessions – your tongue and hands.

Give her oral sex and get busy. Explore her body as if the first time. Kiss her ears, neck and back. Stroke her hair. Pull it lightly. Caress her shoulders, gently sweep her inner thighs. Get busy with her nipples and stroke her breasts. (Are you sensing more foreplay coming?)

In a few minutes, you will feel another surge of the urge. In an instant, you will become a man again. It’s like being reborn, only better. It’s your second chance at bat, an opportunity the average guy rarely finds.

The loss of arousal and erection are not final. Barring medical conditions, arousal and erection should return. You may be calmed and satisfied after one blow, but just you wait a few minutes and you’ll be begging to ride her again.

Simply knowing this brings you on a different footing from the inexperienced boy who retires after one shot and anxiously wait for next week’s booty call. He never gets to meet his 2nd and 3rd winds!

This is the real issue with premature ejaculation, it’s how you treat her when you’re done.

Oral Sex Troubleshooting & What To Do If Things Aren’t Going Well

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Oral sex doesn’t always go as planned. Sometimes she won’t respond well to your technique – so here’s what to do to troubleshoot oral sex.

Have you ever had a situation with a woman where you had no idea what to do, or worse, you knew what was wrong but needed a nice way to say it? This is the article for you then, where you’ll get feedback on several tricky yet manageable situations and questions you know, the kind that you want to ask about, but were afraid to.

“She Doesn’t Seem To Enjoy My Oral Technique”

It could be that you’ve noticed her not as engaged as she usually is while in the heat of the moment, or maybe she isn’t as excited about you going down on her lately as she used to be. There could be a few reasons why she’s acting a bit different:

  • You’re so concerned about your technique and pleasing her, that her anxiousness is rubbing off on her and she’s not able to get in the mood
  • You’ve lost the fun quotient and are a bit robotic or mechanical, and she’s getting a bit bored with the lack of variety.

Really though, it doesn’t matter what the reason is because the answer is the same: if she gets even a whiff of you not being 100% enthusiastic or into cunnilingus with her, she’ll have a hard time enjoying it.

So how to remedy this? Put your concerns or fears out of your head for a bit, and focus on the aspects of oral sex that are a total turn on for you. Most women will go crazy with that knowledge, and be able to open up and enjoy themselves more fully. So flash her a winner of a smile with a tweak of naughty to it, and then just go to it. It’s highly unlikely that with that attitude, you’ll get any complaints.

“She Has Lots of Pubic Hair?”

Some gents are quite fond of the 70’s look, but others would much rather see what they are doing, or they find the trimmed and/or baby smooth look a real turn on. Doesn’t matter really what matters is how you deal with it.

If it’s the first time that you’re going down on her, it may just be that she hasn’t had time to do any shaving yet. Give her some warning next time and see if she takes care of things without you having to say anything on the matter.

If your hints don’t get the job done, it’s time for the next step: subtlety. If the two of you ever watch porn together, try casually mentioning how hot you find the barely there hair on the ladies. Or, don’t trim your pubic hair. When she’s done going down on you next time, apologize for not keeping things neat and tidy, and then say with a naughty smile, “I will if you will!”

If neither of those tactics work and you really need her to perform some maintenance, your only other option is to talk to her about it directly. “I think you’re amazing, and I love going down on you. I find it difficult to see what I’m doing though, and I’d really like to give you the most amazing orgasm ever! Is there any way that we could trim things up together? I’m totally willing to help.”

“It’s Taking Too Long”

The length of time it will take to get your partner off depends on her as long as it takes. There’s really no way to predict how long, other than to use your past experiences with this woman as an indicator as to what might happen in the future.

Some women, it takes a while to get to where they need to be, both mentally and physically. Others can build the necessary tension in a few minutes, and can fly towards orgasm straight-on without a lot of coaching or encouragement. And for different women it’ll change based on their mood, cycle, past experiences, stress levels, diet, medications, and even alcohol. (Alcohol, while in small amounts can help her relax, but too much and it’ll take her much longer to climax, if at all)

Another factor that needs to be taken into account as to how long a session will last, is how much foreplay time she received prior to oral sex. The more time you spend prepping her, the less time it’ll take for her get to the finish line.

Also, the better you know your partner, the easier time you’ll have of figuring out what’s ‘normal’ for her, and how long it should take to make her orgasm.

“She Doesn’t Smell Fresh”

She may have looked irresistible when two of you went out dancing before your night of bliss, but once those beads of sweat have cooled? They aren’t anywhere near as appealing.

The easiest answer is to suggest getting her out of her clothes and hopping into the shower together. Take the sensuality one step further by lathering her up yourself, making sure not to get any soap inside of her or else she’ll be dry and may complain about itching and burning later. Icky.

If you don’t have the opportunity to take a shower together, flavored dental dams work really well to mask offensive odors in a pinch, as do some flavored lubes. Worst case scenario? Grab a warm cloth and gently wipe her down yourself, making sure to let the heat of the water soften up her vulva while you kiss and stroke her skin elsewhere.

“I Think She’s Addicted To Her Vibrator and Can’t Have an Orgasm With Me”

There is such a thing as too much, as you probably well know from your own masturbation experiences. When someone gets used to a certain method, feeling, or approach, it can be incredibly difficult to respond without it. Less variety in this case isn’t a good thing, so you may need a bit of time to, literally, retrain your partner’s clitoris to accept different, softer kinds of fondling.

If your gal isn’t willing to let go of her vibrator for a while and try playing without one (it may take her longer to have an orgasm, but in time she’ll reprogram her body to react in the same way), try it her way instead. Buy a long handled vibrator, so you can use it in tandem with your hands and mouth. See if you can alternate movements or change things up a bit with the extra ‘hand’, and watch carefully how she responds. It may take a bit of time for her to relearn how to orgasm by someone else’s hand, but eventually she’ll find the pleasure completely worthwhile.

“When She Has an Orgasm, She Pees. Ick!”

What you think is pee is probably just a tiny bit of liquid that women squirt during orgasm. It’s extremely rare for a woman to pee during orgasm same thing for a man so assume that it’s really her body’s signal that she’s had an amazing orgasm. G-spot orgasms can also create a much larger amount of fluid, but again, it’s not urine.

If the liquid really grosses you out or you’re convinced it is pee, there are a few things you can do. First, go to the bathroom before you start your next oral episode, and then ask your partner if she needs to go too. It’ll prompt her to empty her bladder just in case, without you having to say it. Also, make sure that there’s a towel handy for quick and easy clean up after you’ll want one too for your orgasm anyway, so it’s not out of the ordinary. Dental dams provide a separation between her fluids and your mouth too, and if it’s only a small amount you’ll likely not even notice.