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10 Ways To TEASE A Woman

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Foreplay is crucial for a woman to reach orgasm. Here are ten incredible ways to tease and please your girl, so you can give her the best climax of her life!

The LONGER you take to get a woman’s clothes off, and the LONGER you wait to go down on her, and the LONGER you wait to have sex with her – the MORE likely she is to have an orgasm!

Why & How Women Need Foreplay

We’ve all heard the phrase “women are like an oven, they need to be warmed up” – but what most guys don’t know is WHY and HOW.

“Why” Foreplay Is Important

Guess what fellas – your most powerful weapon in the bedroom is not your penis, but the force of ANTICIPATION!

Girls LOVE to be teased way more than men! And the longer you take to do EVERYTHING, the more turned on your girl is gonna get!

“How” To Use Foreplay To Give Orgasms

Here is a step-by-step guide to undressing your girl in way that builds incredible anticipation that will drive her absolutely CRAZY!

By following these simple steps, you’ll have her so turned on by the time she is naked that she will be BEGGING to have you inside of her!

Warning: Some of these foreplay steps may sound basic, but I’ve thrown in some fun tricks to SPICE UP the simple stuff – so make sure you read this guide all the way through!

Kissing All Over

As you are kissing her, rub your hands firmly up and down her back. Once you’ve been kissing for several minutes, work your fingers under the bottom of her shirt, and circle back to her stomach (still kissing, but alternating between her lips, neck, and ear lobes).

Squeeze The Nape Of Her Neck

Gently scratch her back as you are kissing her, and softly but firmly slide your hand up under hair at the nape of her neck and give a nice squeeze.

Getting Her Shirt Off

Lift up her shirt and take it off in the smoothest way possible, being careful not to pull her hair!

Moving On

Now that her shirt is off, slowly progress your kissing downward towards her breasts, kissing the upper area, and still rubbing her lower body with your hands.

BONUS TIP! Gently but firmly, pin her arms above her head and hold them there with one hand while you caress her body with your other, still kissing all over. Girls LOVE this!

Unhooking Her Bra

As you are kissing her neck, reach behind and unhook her bra. If you get stuck, don’t worry! Just smile at her and say, “assistance please” and she’ll unhook it for you.

DO NOT GO STRAIGHT FOR THE BOOBS! Go back to kissing her on the lips and neck! (In fact, until you are fully going down on her, you should always return to her mouth every so often to kiss her passionately). Then, taking your time, make your way down to her breasts, but DO NOT GO FOR HER NIPPLES! Kiss them in slow circles, leaving the nipples for LAST!

Licking Her Nipples

When you get to her nipples, lick them gently, alternating between the two. When your mouth isn’t on one, your finger should be on the other (but lick it first for lubrication).

BONUS TIP! Some girls LOVE to have their nipple pinched! I would say at least 50% of all women! Start gently of course, and increase the pressure and watch her reaction. If she seems to be getting turned on, squeeze a little harder and ask her if she likes it. She’ll let you know =)

Moving Downwards

Move down to her stomach, and use the same slow, anticipation-building style. Try to kiss every inch of it! Slip your tongue under her waistband to tease her once in a while, and “accidentally” graze your chin over her “area,” breathing heavily.

Leave The Panties On

Kiss her on the mouth again while you go to take off her pants. But NOT her panties! It’s time for the fun part!

BONUS TIP: Take her right leg, and starting at her foot, kiss every inch of it, working your way down in slow circles! This should take A WHILE, and she will be loving every second of it! Then, when you get to her clitoris, breathe heavily OVER her panties, letting her feel the heat! Then go back to her left leg (start in the middle this time) and do it all over again!

By the time you get back down to her “area,” she’ll be BEGGING you to rip her panties off and give her more!

The Last Step – Give Her An Incredible Orgasm!

By this time, you should have her so close to climax that you can finish her off in just a few minutes. So just give her what she wants already!

So there you have it! This entire process should take around 30 minutes, and will get her more turned on then she’s EVER been before!

Building anticipation like this paves the way for her to have an intense orgasm, and lots of them at that. Oh, and if you’re with a woman for the very first time, this is a pretty good way to make HER be the one begging YOU to be inside of her, not the other way around.

This stuff will DEFINITELY give you an edge over the other men she’s been with. And if you’d like to get an even BIGGER edge and join the 1% of men who women call the best lovers in the WORLD – I have some great news for you!

How to Please A Woman in Bed – 3 Things Every Man Must Know

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Have you ever noticed how hard it is to please a woman in bed? Chatting up a woman and getting her to go home with you is a lot easier in comparison, if you really think about it, and we all know doing that is not a walk in the park. Sleeping with a woman and making sure she enjoys herself does not seem complicated at first, until you realize that just days after your hook up, she’s avoiding you and won’t go out with you anymore because she thinks you’re a lousy lover.

What does it take to make a woman feel great in bed? What does it take to make her think she will never find another lover like you forever? These are some of the questions that have been plaguing men since the beginning of time. However, what we don’t realize is that there are certain things that can be done to guarantee you’ll always be great in bed.

Read on to find out the three things you must know when you’re in bed with the girl of your dreams!

Go Down On Her

Believe me, you will come off as a “wimp” if you tell a girl that you’re not into cunnilingus. Women enjoy that, and moreover, they expect to get that whenever they’re in bed with a man. If you’re less than willing to go for it, you might as well never expect a girl to go down on you. Just like everything else, oral sex is a two-way street. If you can’t give it, don’t expect to receive it.

Foreplay

If you’ve ever thought of skipping foreplay to get to the main event quickly, you’re risking being tagged as a lousy lover from the very start. You see, for women, foreplay is a big factor in what makes a man great in bed.

Kissing and touching at the onset increase a woman’s anticipation, and fires up her imagination. If you get her to that point of frenzy just by doing effective foreplay, you won’t have to worry about increasing her excitement enough for her to climax.

Cuddling

Cuddling is important whether this is done before sex or afterwards. I’m sure you want to sleep right after (who doesn’t?), but you have to consider that the woman you’re with might want to do something else after her climax, such as talk, hug and kiss some more.

Take these three tips and use them to improve your sex life.

After talking to so many men about their sex life for years, I recognize the main factors why girls tend to think some men suck in bed. Most men will never learn how to be a sexual dynamo if they don’t consider what the woman is feeling before, during and after sex. The fact is, the most mind-blowing sex can only happen if the man puts a woman’s sexual needs first before his own.

How To Make Sex Over 40 GREAT! (Ladies Only)

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Sex tips specifically for women over forty can help older women have a super hot, satisfying orgasmic sex life! Sex tips for these women differ slightly than sex tips for younger women, because as the body ages, it is important to realize that sex can be different too. But that doesn’t mean you can’t have AWESOME sex! It could be better sex than you ever had!

Use Plenty Of Lubrication

A lot of couples assume that if they’re turned on, they don’t need additional lubrication during intercourse. Having plenty of lubrication, natural or otherwise, is essential for great sex for both younger couples and older ones, although, older women may find that they need a little more than they used to. This is not at all uncommon. In fact, every couple should have a bottle of good, water based lubricant in their nightstand drawer, because honestly, it just makes sex feel better!

When there’s less friction and more sensual gliding, things are going to feel better. This is especially true for older women, because as the body ages, the vagina can become drier and less supple. Using good quality lubricants like Pjur can help moisturize the tissues down there and make your genitals look and feel supple and young – not to mention, sex will feel better without the uncomfortable friction!

Have Lots Of Foreplay

When you’re younger, you can often jump right into sex without a lot of foreplay because sex is newer and more fun – it doesn’t take long for the body to get excited. But when you’ve been around the block a few times so to speak, just the idea of having sex isn’t enough to get a woman turned on. Women naturally require lots of foreplay before sex to get them aroused enough for sex to feel good, yet this is one of the sex tips that is most commonly ignored.

Don’t underestimate the power of foreplay and make sure that you engage in it as often as possible. Foreplay can start as soon as you wake up – lovingly caress your partner, tease them and whisper naughty things in their ear. You’ll both be thinking about sex all day and by the time you get home, it will be all you can do not to rip each other’s clothes off and get it on right then and there.

Invest In Good Quality Sex Toys

When you get older and more experienced with sex, you will naturally want to try new things and stretch your boundaries a little bit. Investing in some good quality sex toys can definitely spice up your sex life. Go shopping with your partner or alone and look for sex toys that you can use together as well as during masturbation. Let your partner get a masturbation sleeve to spice up his solo sessions, and get yourself a great little clitoral vibrator that you can use with him or on your own. When you’re over forty, you can afford to take some risks and experiment with new and fun sex toys!

Share Your Fantasies

If you’ve never shared your sexual fantasies with your lover, now may be the time. You’re getting older, so there’s really no point in keeping everything to yourself and never getting to live out your fantasies. This works well when you’ve been in a long term relationship with someone for quite awhile, because you tend to get more comfortable with someone as you age and continue to have a relationship with them.

So instead of being shy and keeping all of your sexual fantasies to yourself, take a little risk and start to tell your lover what really turns you on. Take turns sharing with each other what new things you’d like to try, or different ways you’d like to do things. If you’re comfortable and safe in your relationship, revealing your innermost desires can really be a lot of fun!

The Fantasy Box

Even if you’re older and wiser, sharing your deepest sexual fantasies with your partner can be a little nerve wracking. Try a Fantasy Box. The Fantasy Box concept is an excellent way to introduce new and different things in your sex life in a fun, new way. Each of you write a few different fantasies that you’d like to try and put them on slips of paper. Put them in a special box, a hat or whatever you can find and mix them up. Pull one out and have a blast acting out the fantasy! This way, you both get to try each other’s fantasies without judgement.

21 Short & Sweet Sex Tips You CAN’T Miss!

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Sex tips come in all forms – lengthy, detailed and more. But THESE sex tips are easily digestible, so you don’t want to miss out on these sexy little jewels!

If You Have Trouble Reaching Orgasm

Masturbate before sex first, but don’t let yourself reach climax. Then, when you and your partner start getting it on, you’ll zoom to the peak in no time.

If You’ve Never Had An Orgasm

Masturbate. Enough said.

Use Your PC Muscles During Sex

Girls, squeeze his penis with your vaginal muscles as he’s thrusting. Do this one the “out” stroke and it will be easier on you, do this on the “in” stroke and you’ll feel super tight to him.

Don’t Neglect Your Nipples

Either have your partner pinch, lick and suck on them or do it yourself. This works especially well if you’re on the edge but just can’t seem to tip over.

Act Out Your Fantasies

There are lots of ways to act out your fantasies, even if you can’t go all out. Get a few inexpensive props and let your imagination run WILD!

Do The Opposite Of What You Usually Do

Most people start having sex slowly, and work up to a faster and faster pace. Mix things up by turning it around so you’re starting out super fast and slowing down as you get closer and closer to orgasm. This will drive you both absolutely crazy!

Talk Dirty

If you don’t already do this, start. It makes a huge difference in how hot and naughty your sex life feels.

Use Pillows

Invest in some really good, fluffy yet sturdy pillows. Use them to help you reach different angles during sex by propping various body parts up with pillows. Get creative with this!

Bring The Edibles To The Bedroom

You know, the sexy ones. Cherries, whipped cream, caramel, chocolate sauce…you get the idea! Have your lover for dessert!

Try Sixty-Nine

If you’ve never had simultaneous oral sex before, now is the time to try. Once you get going and get lost in the moment, it will be hard to tell who stops and starts where and who is doing what!

Show Your Partner What You Like

Are you shy? Get over it! Display your masturbatory habits to your partner so they can see what you like and re-enact it.

Forget Missionary

Sure, it’s great and all but work some other sex positions in there too. Girl on top helps a woman reach orgasm faster, while doggy style feels absolutely naughty.

Never Underestimate The Power Of The Wet T-Shirt

Don a white t-shirt and undies, and step in the shower. If you’d rather not get the house soaked, make sure he’s in the shower when you get in.

Engage In PDA

Not the romantic kind, unless it’s that kind of event. We’re talking about the nasty, naughty, get-a-room kind of PDA here.

Try On Lingerie Together

Visit a lingerie store and try on your favorites together. This is especially fun if you don’t have the money to buy anything but still want the experience of seeing each other in your sexiest skivvies. Bonus points if you actually end up getting it on in the dressing room.

Give Your Partner Only Oral Sex, All Night Long

Forget about yourself for a night, and give your lover hours and hours of oral sex. Make the night all about THEM. Can’t stand the torture? Masturbate yourself while you go down on them. They’ll love it!

Be A Show Off

Walk around the house naked. Do the dishes naked. Better yet, next time you lie down for your partner, spread your legs wide and let them get the best view imaginable. They will love the fact that you’re not even a tiny bit shy in front of them (but only them).

Look Mom, No Hands!

Give your partner oral sex with your hands held (or tied) behind your back. The feeling of only your mouth will drive them absolutely insane!

Sex Games

Sex games are severely underrated. Find a brand new sex game that you’ve never tried and do it TONIGHT!

Go Deep

The best sex positions for the deepest penetration vary from couple to couple based on both individuals’ body types. Experiment with different sex positions until you find the one that allows you to have the deepest possible penetration!

Don’t Be Afraid To Scream!

Unless you’re going to get kicked out of your place, don’t be afraid to let a guttural moan or scream out every now and then. The animalistic sound is incredible!

6 Ways Tell If A Woman Is Faking Orgasm

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The female orgasm is easy for a woman to fake, but it’s also simple for a man to tell when she’s not being honest about an orgasm. Here’s how!

Unless your girl is a professional porn star, it’s really not that difficult to tell whether her orgasm is faked or the real deal. Even if she is a professional (lucky you, eh?) there are still some telltale physical signs that will give her away. Here’s how to tell if she’s actually experiencing the big O or if she’s just a big liar.

1. She Sounds Fake

Listen to her. Is she moaning and groaning like she’s putting on the performance for best actress? Then she probably is. Is she perfectly capable of forming complete sentences? Then she’s probably not in the throes of a real orgasm. A woman who is truly headed over the brink of climax isn’t going to sound fake – she may even be silent as her eyes roll back into her head and her body is wracked with spasms of pleasure.

If she’s “telling the truth,” she’s not going to be able to really form words or sentences – she will likely say nothing at all or only be able to say a few things like your name or “Oh God!”

2. Her Vagina Doesn’t Contract

When a woman orgasms, her vagina contracts in such a way that really cannot be faked. It’s so fast and erratic that a woman can’t mimic it on her own – it only happens that way when she’s climaxing. Unfortunately, you can only tell if you’ve either got your penis or your finger inside of her as she’s coming.

So if you want to tell whether she’s faking or not using this method, either make sure she’s having an orgasm during intercourse or you’ve got a finger or two massaging her g-spot while you’re going down on her or fingering her. Feel for those “butterfly” spasms – if there aren’t any, she’s likely putting on a show.

3. She’s Not Breathing Heavy Or Isn’t Flushed

If she doesn’t look like she’s ran a 5k, then she probably didn’t have a real orgasm. A real orgasm will increase a woman’s heart rate, make her sweat, increase her breathing and cause the skin in her face, neck and chest to become red and flushed. If she’s just hanging out looking as chill as can be, you can bet her O was fake.

4. No Involuntary Movements (i.e. No Orgasm Face)

Women tend to lose control when they have an orgasm, much like you do when you have one. If this climax is the real thing, she’ll probably be making some involuntary movements when she’s in the throes of pleasure – such as twitching her arms or legs and making the orgasm face.

Don’t call her out on her O-face – the fact that she can’t control herself and might look like she’s about to sneeze as she’s coming will likely embarrass her. But pay attention to it in secret – if her eyes are closed but her face isn’t contorted even a little bit, she’s probably not being honest about her orgasm.

5. She’s Not Dazed And Confused Afterwards

Most of the time – although not every single time – a woman will be slightly dazed and confused after a real orgasm. She’ll have to hang out for a minute or two while she regains her breath and her composure. If it was really good, she may take a little longer, or have trouble standing up afterwards. These are all good signs! However, if she rolls off of you immediately, gets up and starts getting dressed to start her day, you can bet pleasure wasn’t on her mind at all – just her to-do list for the day or how great the new purse she got will look with her outfit.

6. Her Clitoris Isn’t Sensitive Afterwards

This is another telltale sign of a real orgasm, although if a woman is really skilled and good at faking, she’ll be sure to fake this too. Some women aren’t “in the know” about this aspect of their anatomy though, and you may be able to use this to your advantage when trying to determine whether she’s being honest with you or not about her climax. After an orgasm, a woman’s clitoris will be so sensitive it will likely hurt to touch it.

This only lasts a few seconds, so make sure to “test” her right after her orgasm. Touch her clitoris lightly after she’s climaxed and watch her reaction. If she’s totally cool with it, she faked. If she jerks back involuntarily and almost violently, her orgasm was real. If you were giving her oral sex, just keep licking for a few seconds longer than you need to and see what happens.

When trying to determine whether or not your girl was faking her orgasm, use your instinct and trust your gut. Your girl would have to be really, really good at faking it for you to not spot at least one of these signs, if not more. If you think she’s faking, just ask her. Don’t be critical of her and talk to her about it – but be prepared for the answer. Don’t con her into revealing that she faked by saying you won’t get mad, and then turn around and get mad about it.

If you want to talk to her about faking, make sure you’re doing so with an open mind and open heart. Talk to her about why she’s faking and be prepared to offer possible solutions. Be prepared to step up and make some changes if that’s what she needs. If you’re not ready to do this and are still just pissed at the possibility that she’s been lying to you about her orgasms, then you’re not at all ready to approach her about it. Getting mad about it isn’t going to get you anywhere except not getting laid at all.