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Last Longer In Bed – With This Special Masturbation Technique

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Last longer in bed with this simple trick – it’s so easy you’ll wonder why you didn’t think of it yourself! When you last longer in bed, your girl will love it!

Masturbation Affects How Long You Last!

One thing you’ve got to understand if you want to last longer in bed is how masturbation affects how long you last.

The problem that most men have when it comes to premature ejaculation that they DON’T EVEN REALIZE that they are actually causing it to happen, because of negative and unconscious habits.

As weird as it may sound, if you suffer from premature ejaculation, it’s not because you’ve got a “bad gene” or have the wrong penis size or are just plain unlucky, it’s because of the habits you’ve developed during life that are UNCONSCIOUSLY causing you ejaculate prematurely.

And one of the main examples of this that almost every man overlooks is masturbation.

Think About It….

Think for a second about what your habits for masturbation were like when you were younger and growing up.

If you’re like most men then when you were younger you probably didn’t have all the freedom in the world to masturbate. Maybe your mother could pop into your room at any time, or maybe you had a brother or sister that could come barging into your bedroom at any moment or maybe you were living in some kind of community where there really wasn’t any privacy.

Whatever your specific situation was, almost every man growing up can relate to the fact of not feeling like there was necessarily all the privacy available to them when they wanted it.

And what did this mean?

Well it meant that when it came to masturbating you didn’t have many options. You could either take your time doing it and hugely increase the chances of you getting caught, or you could try and orgasm as quickly as possible in an attempt to try and minimize the chances of being walked in on.

From all my communications with men in teaching them how to last longer in bed, my understanding is that most opt for option number 2.

Because no one wants to get caught masturbating. And it’s the logical thing to do at the time.

When Men Get Older, Do Their Habits Change?

But as our opportunities for privacy increase with age most men don’t change this habit. Because we’ve done it all our childhood, most men just keep masturbating with the aim to orgasm as quickly as possible.

But there’s one big problem here – when you masturbate, you condition yourself for how long you last.

Did you get that?

Because that’s an important point.

If you want to know how to last longer in bed, understanding the importance of masturbation is HUGE. When you masturbate you are literally training your body for how long you expect it to last during sex. Most men masturbate for only a few minutes, but when it comes to sex want it to last for over 30 minutes, but this just isn’t how the body works.

If you want to last longer in bed then you’ve got to realize this fact about masturbation and make the change to the way you do it.

And making the change really isn’t that hard. Most men just never do it because they don’t realize the impact that how long they masturbate for has on how long they’ll last. But now that you’ve got this crucial understanding you don’t have to make the same mistake.

Make this habit change today and commit from now on to always take your time to masturbate for as long as you want to go.

How To Be AMAZING In Bed!

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Sex tips are definitely a must have if you want to be an excellent lover. Arm yourself with these incredible sex tips and be the best your partner ever had!

Everyone loves to have great sex. And contrary to conventional wisdom, women love sex as much as guys do, if not more! But what if you feel that your sex life has turned somewhat dull and dreary and needs a little “oomph”? Don’t sweat it! There is plenty you can do to make ordinary sexual experiences into toe-curling erotic adventures in between the sheets. These three sensuous tips, for example, are a great start to give her the best sex of her life!

Set The Scene Right

One of the best sex tips is to make sure you have the right mood set in the area you’re going to be in. Ambience plays a great deal in making sex awesome. Pay attention to the sights and sounds. Try giving your bedroom a sultry, sexy backdrop by introducing colored light bulbs. Did you know that purple color can intensify a woman’s orgasm? It is a surefire way to amplify her erotic energy really fast. Why not spin some romantic, sensual music to get her in the mood too? Women love some moments of intimacy before getting into sex. Sip on a glass of wine and introduce some CD that is hot and delectable to turn up her passion. If you have a fireplace, cuddle up together and seek out her pleasure spots.

Unleash The Art Of Erotic Kissing

Women can’t seem to get enough of kissing from their loved ones. Kissing is super important in an intimate relationship and it surprises me why so many guys gloss over this crucial moment of intimacy. If you want to sizzle up your sex life, try some sexy kissing tricks to get her temperatures moving fast. For instance, suck on an ice cube or sip on a cold drink just before you kiss her. She will get hot really fast! Or consume some foods such as strawberries or honey to introduce some tantalizing sweetness in your mouth when you kiss. And don’t forget to kiss her even when you are making love!

Bring On The Sex Furniture!

Beds are dull and boring. Sex furniture is a great way to spice up the whole sexual experience. These are usually very discreet and blend in really well with the rest of your home decor. Unlike sex toys, both you and your partner can enjoy using sex furniture together. These allow you to experiment with intercourse positions that you don’t usually get with flat surfaces such as like beds or mattresses. With these, you can fit your bodies perfectly together and ensure that her clitoris and G-spot are properly stimulated during sex.

Oral Sex: How To Kiss The Clitoris

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Oral sex is the best way to get your partner turned on and ready for sex – but first impressions matter. Here’s how to start oral sex by kissing the clitoris.

First impressions are always of high importance, but few more so than the first moment that your mouth touches your partner’s vulva. If done correctly? It’ll take her breath away and leave her primed for arousal.

Take It Slow And Enjoy It!

Try to view your first mouth-to-genital kiss with a woman as something to be savored, not devoured. Like an expensive wine or caviar, its first blossom in your mouth is something special and memorable. Allow yourself the time to smell its bouquet, swish it around to see how it reacts, let it breathe or move on its own, and then, with delicious anticipation, take the first dip. Avoid chugging it (metaphorically) in one fell swoop; instead, appreciate every moment that leads up to your first clitoral kiss.

Here’s how to get her craving it:

  • If she chooses not to remove her pubic hair, run your fingers through it gently, or, if she has no pubic hair, tap her labia gently with the pads of your fingers.
  • Tease and tantalize the flesh surrounding the whole genital area. Kiss her thighs, lick her Mons Pubis, nuzzle her folds. Make the first contact more sweet than sexy, more tender than pressing.
  • Use your breath to warm up her privates, making sure not to blow any air inside her vagina.

NOTE: We’re talking more a gentle kiss of warm air that hits her nether regions than a forceful fan blowing. Blowing air into her vagina can be very dangerous, and can do a lot of harm. So instead, breathe on her, blow lightly, but never blow into any of her orifices.

What To Do If She’s Still Clothed

If she’s still got her panties on, lightly kiss her from her vaginal opening all the way to where her labia meets the mons pubis. Then, look her in the eye as you take her panties into your teeth, and tease her with removing them. Prolong the tease, without hurting her or ripping her panties. You can get rough another time, today is just for her pleasure.

Next, pull apart the skin surrounding her clitoris, and with incredible softness, breathe on it from mere centimeters away. Let her feel you right up against her clitoris, without actually touching it.

Peel off her panties, and look appreciatively at her vulva. Now is an excellent time to remind yourself of the pleasure you plan on bringing your partner to, as well as any mental notes. This is all about assisting your partner from arousal to orgasm – keep the focus.

Incorporating Dirty Talk

If it helps, you could also tell your partner:

  • How much going down on her turns you on, and that you are as excited as she is about the process.
  • To relax and feel like she has all the time in the world. That this is meant to pamper and savor her in full.
  • That she smells divine, will taste even better, and that you’ve never seen her look more beautiful or alive than you do at this moment.

Of course, if you don’t feel any of those things, don’t say them but then perhaps take a few more moments to get into that head space, because bringing a woman to climax with oral sex is more about both of your mental states than anything else.

Imagine if you can, that you’re at an event that you’ve been looking forward to for weeks. What do you say to the hostess? These are the same kinds of things you’ll want to say to your partner now: how beautiful she is, how much you’ve been looking forward to the event, how excited you are. Use this time to really tease the senses and mind. Make her think you’re going to extend this part of the evening forever, that you’ll never actually touch her clitoris at all. That all you’re doing is teasing her, leaving her frustrated – it’ll make her go mad for you, and turn her on even more. Then, when she’s almost at the brink of losing it because of the pent-up passion!

Ice Is Nice: Chill Out With These Cool Oral Sex Techniques

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Oral sex can be taken to a whole new level by introducing temperature play. Even old maneuvers will seem new when you incorporate fun things like peppermint, popsicles and alternating hot and cold. These “cool” tricks will have your partner begging for release!

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Why Temperature Play Is So Much Fun

Even with the best sex tips and suggestions, oral sex (and sex in general) can get boring, especially if you’re in a long term relationship and are monogamous with your partner. It’s important to continue to try new things in a long term sexual relationship, to make sure that you have plenty of variety and you and your lover are satisfied physically and emotionally with your sexual relationship.

Temperature play is an easy way to spice things up in the bedroom. You don’t have to invest a lot of money in equipment to get started having fun with temperature play – in fact, you can probably try some of these things tonight, with things you already have in your home! Heat or cold can make oral sex feel totally new, even when you’re using the same old maneuvers that you always have. If oral sex has become monotonous, try incorporating these fun things to help your partner experience a totally new level of pleasure!

Peppermints

Peppermint candy is an excellent beginner’s tool if you’re just starting to get into temperature play with oral sex. Some men and women are very sensitive to temperature, so starting with ice and chilled sex toys may be a little too intense when you’re just getting your feet wet. Suck on a peppermint candy for a few minutes before giving your lover oral sex, and keep the peppermint in your mouth while you go down on them.

When you remove your mouth, gently blow air onto your partner’s genitals to increase the cooling, tingling sensations. When you combine wetness, peppermint and cool air, you can create some very intense feelings! Peppermint is also a great way to improve the taste and smell of oral sex for the giver.

Ice Cubes

If you’re feeling a little more adventurous and want to go for something colder than peppermint, ice cubes are extremely inexpensive and handy! Suck on an ice cube before oral sex to get your mouth cold, or suck on one during oral sex. Start small though – ice can be very, very cold and if you start out with a huge chunk, it’s likely to feel much too cold for you and your lover. Let the ice melt in your mouth a little, or let it melt over their genitals for tingling sensations that aren’t painful or uncomfortable.

Popsicles (For Her)

Popsicles can be fun to play with when performing oral sex on a woman, because you can either slide it around the clitoris (it has an easy to use handle) or insert it into the vagina. As the popsicle melts, it will create amazing sensations, especially when placed inside the vagina. Don’t go putting just any popsicle in there though, because sugar in the vagina can cause yeast infections! Make your own popsicles with plain water, so you don’t have to worry about giving your partner a nasty infection. This is easy to do and popsicle trays can be found at almost any store.

A Glass Dildo

If you and your lover really enjoy temperature play during oral sex and sex, invest in a glass dildo – it’s much easier to use than popsicles and ice cubes. You can put it in the freezer or refrigerator to get it really, really cold, or you can place it in a bowl of warm water to heat it up. It won’t melt either, so you don’t have to clean up a big mess afterwards! However, for some types of temperature play, the ice melting can be more erotic than just inserting a cold or warm glass dildo.

Alternating Hot And Cold

If you’re playing with ice, you can also play with heat and alternate between hot and cold. The different sensations caused by heat, and then by cold can drive your partner absolutely wild with pleasure! The easiest way to alternate between hot and cold during oral sex is to keep a glass of ice water and a cup of hot tea nearby when you go down on your lover. Take a sip of the ice water and lick around a few times, then take a sip of the hot tea and put your mouth back on your partner’s genitals. They will love never knowing what is coming next!

Erotic Massage: How To Give A Great Genital Massage

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Erotic massage should eventually lead you down to the land in between your partner’s legs. Here’s how to make her squeal with erotic massage “down there.”

At this point, your lover should be ready for some direct stimulation of her vagina and clitoris. In fact, many women are so ripe at this stage of the massage that they achieve orgasm very easily and very quickly.

The Right Lube For Erotic Massage Down South

Important note! As mentioned, when working directly in the area of the vagina, be sure not to use oil. It’s okay if there is a little oil on the outside of her vagina from when you placed your hand on top of it just before this point. Just don’t use it as a lubricant on the inside of the vagina or within the vaginal folds. Instead, use a lubricant made just for sex, such as Sylk, Astroglide, or Glyde. K-Y jelly will work, but it tends to be thicker than the other lubricants mentioned and doesn’t glide as easily. Be sure to prepare ahead of time by having a damp towel nearby. Use this to remove oil from your hands before warming the lubricant between your fingers.

How To Get Started

You’ll want to be the focus on her intimate zone by gently stroking her pubic hair over the outer portions of her vagina. Be sure to use very soft and gentle motions. Next, gently stroke and tap her outer vaginal lips with your fingers, making sure to keep a consistent and regular rhythm.

To stimulate her clitoris, gently spread her legs apart and place your hand between her thighs in the form of a fist. Apply the knuckles of your first two fingers to the outer lips of her vagina and knead them around her clitoris, moving forward and backward as you massage. Make sure you’re not pinching her skin. You should be gently kneading. Working your way downward, massage the entire labia with a slightly firm but gentle pressure. Make your way toward her anus and then lift your knuckles and start from the top again. You can also use your first finger and thumb if it feels more comfortable.

Better known as the “bread and butter” or “two-finger” stoke, this technique is one of the easiest ways to give a woman pleasure. Place your thumb and index finger comfortably just under the hood of the clitoris (just inside the lips). Gently rotate your fingers around the top of her clitoris and then move your fingers in a downward direction.

Things To Keep In Mind

Be sure to massage and roll evenly, rubbing up and down on either side of the vagina, settling into an even rhythm. When she opens her legs wider, raises or pelvis, or pushes against your hand, that is your signal that she is ready for more direct stimulation of her clitoris.

When massaging the vagina and clitoral area, it’s helpful if you imagine the face of a clock, with the portion just above the hood of the clitoris being the 12 o’clock position and the lowest point near the vaginal opening being the 6 o’clock position. Pay attention to what she tells you feels good and make a mental note of the location in terms of the clock position (9 o’clock, 3 o’clock, etc.) for the next time around.

Circular Strokes

Now, take the tip of your finger and move it around her clitoris in a circular motion. Slowly move down the entire length of her vagina, alternating between bigger circles, stroking, and teasing caresses with your fingers. Next, move back to her clitoris and circle over it with the tips of your fingers. Be gentle when doing this, as every woman is different when it comes to clitoral stimulation. Some women don’t like it. So keep checking with her on what feels best using the clock as your guide. If she enjoys what you’re doing, attempt to “pull” the clitoris between your two fingers through the hood. Although it’s not possible to grip the clitoris itself, the sensation the pulling motion creates is fabulous!

Fingering And G-Spot Stimulation

Next, you’re going to apply a stroke that works both the clitoris and the G-spot at the same time. If done correctly, it will bring your lady to orgasm.

After ensuring her vagina is well lubricated, insert one or two fingers, curving them upward so that you’re working on the vaginal wall closest to her stomach. Hold your finger motionless for a few seconds so that she has time to relax and get comfortable, then being feeling for her G-spot.

The G-spot feels like a small, spongy lump. When a woman is aroused, the area will engorge with blood and become much more sensitive to the touch. After you’ve found her G-spot, move your finger in a “come here” motion, as if telling someone to come over to you with your finger. Don’t apply constant or hard pressure. All she needs is a gentle stroking motion to experience intense pleasure. You can also try a zig-zag motion from time to time so that your finger avoids focusing too much on the same area as it passes over the G-spot.

With your other hand, continue circling her clitoris with your thumb, finger, or the flat surface of a vibrator. When you sense she’s about to orgasm, move back and forth over the clitoris.

Don’t Overwork The Clitoris

An important thing to know about the clitoris is that it is very sensitive. Even when thoroughly lubricated, it is extremely sensitive. If your touch is too direct, too rough, or if you spend too much time stimulating the clitoris or even apply the stimulation too soon, it will become oversensitive. This will result in discomfort or pain, as well as a loss in sensation and inability to achieve an orgasm. So when it come to focusing exclusively on the clitoris, be sure to do so only when you know your lady is close to reaching climax. As soon as she does, back off from the clitoris until her sensitivity lessens.