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3 Premature Ejaculation Cures That Actually Work!

Premature ejaculation cures can help you restore your sex life to what it used to be, or even better! Here are three effective suggestions to use TONIGHT!

Now, to be able to last longer in bed you’ve firstly got to understand what causes us men to orgasm. Because the bottom line is, we don’t just orgasm out of no where. Orgasms happen for a reason and they always have a cause. And if we can understand the causes of orgasm and then change those causes, we have the power to last longer in bed.

Causes Of Orgasm

One cause of orgasm is high levels of physical tension in the body. You may have noticed during sex that just before you orgasm your muscles, in particular your leg and butt muscles, will tense up, and as you orgasm they’ll suddenly relax. This is because orgasms are a release of tension.

And for an orgasm to happen there has to be tension in the body. Here’s where being smart about the causes of orgasm comes in – remember how I just mentioned if we can understand what causes orgasm we can last longer?

Well, one way to last longer then is to eliminate tension from the body. By eliminating tension we remove the cause of orgasm and therefore last longer.

#1 – Get Her On Top

One of the best premature ejaculation cures is to use the sex position where she is on top, while you are lying flat on your back. What’s great about this position for lasting longer is that in this position you have the unique opportunity to fully relax your leg and butt muscles. In most other positions this just isn’t possible because generally you’re the one having to do the work which involves tensing of muscles.

With you on your back it’s a totally different story. Since she’s the one doing most of the work in this position you can focus on really relaxing your leg and butt muscles. And by relaxing those muscles you release tension from your body, which like I mentioned earlier, is a big cause of orgasm. By eliminating that cause of orgasm, you last longer.

#2 – Deep Breathing

Another great way to eliminate that unwanted tension from your body is with deep breathing. This is often totally counter-intuitive for men during sex, because instinct will have us unconsciously breathing shallow and fast.

This is just how our bodies naturally act during sex. But unfortunately this only leads to premature ejaculation, because quick shallow breathing INCREASES tension in our bodies.

So taking a minute during sex to focus solely on slow deep breathing can help you dramatically increase how long you last in bed.

#3 – Visualization

Now, I never used to be someone who was into “visualization” and all that “weird” stuff, but after I heard people talking about visualization for like the ten thousandth time I decided to actually give it a go. And I suggest you do too.

Because visualizing is a great addition to the premature ejaculation cures I’ve already mentioned, especially when it comes to relaxing and eliminating tension. Although PHYSICAL tension is what is actually needed to orgasm the thoughts going through our head dramatically influence your physical tension. For example, if you’re super-nervous and worrying intensely about sex then the chances are your body will be tensing up too.

Whereas as if you’re super-cool and you’re visualizing yourself being cooler than James Bond then your body will have a completely different level of tension, most likely a lot closer to NO tension than if you’re worrying intensely. As “new age” as it might sound to use visualization to help you relax and last longer just go ahead and try it.

Visualize yourself being relaxed, in control and lasting longer and you’ll find it’s one of the best premature ejaculation cures around.

Orgasm Tips – How The Orgasm Cycle Works In Men And Women

By loveandsex

An orgasm is the icing on the cake when it comes to sex, but men and women don’t experience an orgasm the same way. Here’s how to understand the difference.

The “Human Sexual Response” is a cycle of 4 stages. They are:

Excitement
Plateau
Orgasm
Resolution

Stage One – Excitement

This happens the first instance you see a scrumptious fox on the street (or on TV). Really, any physical or psychological event that causes parasympathetic nerve stimulation can commence the cycle. The stimuli vary and may also take the form of a sound, emotion or a naughty thought.

Things get ugly right away – your heart starts racing, respiratory rates shoot up, blood flow to the genitals increases. In seconds, little Johnny would have grown a few inches. Your scrotum thickens and the testes rise. It’s official, you’re horny.

A woman similarly experiences increased blood flow to the genital area, causing her clitoris to swell. The vagina increases in diameter & length, her cervix and uterus are pulled up. She starts producing more lubrication and is getting very wet. Her breast and nipples become erect, and she starts breathing heavily as heart and respiratory rates shoot up.

Now, while there are many similarities in how the genders experience Excitement, there is one glaring difference. Generally, MEN GET HOT IN AN INSTANT. Snap! And we’re good to go. Women need a reasonable time. For the life of us, we cannot understand why it takes a woman ages to be ready. For her part, she can’t comprehend the ridiculous speeds with which guys can be neutral one second and insanely horny the next.

Recognize this distinction in arousal speeds. This single disparity will snowball through intercourse. Because they get aroused in an instant, men will often misjudge the readiness of their partners as they lustfully advance to the rest of the stages. As a result, women often feel left behind, even left out of the SEX. Not good.

Stage Two – Plateau

“Plateau” may bring images of restful leisure, but don’t be mislead, PLATEAU is a turbulent stage – no restful leisure here. Remember those ugly things that take over your body during the Excitement Stage? Well, they continue with full abandon during Plateau.

Heart rate reaches as high as 175 lustful beats a minute. Respiratory rates remind you of your track and field days, (who says sex isn’t a sport?) Your penis undergoes extreme congestion and you’ll be seriously thinking if it can explode or fly off your body. This is where you do most of the works – kissing, sucking, penetration, sexual positions etc.

Stage Three – Orgasm

Orgasm, this is the money-maker right here. Lasting only a few seconds, O’s are considered the most ecstatic moments of a person’s existence. After tension building in stages 1&2, blood congestion in the genitals is suddenly and decisively expelled through muscular contractions. This may sound straightforward, but the euphoria of discharging built-up tension sends people through the roof, profanity may be the only sufficient way to describe a pleasure-intensive experience.

Male vs. Female Orgasm

ROUND 1 – The First Blow

Who can orgasm faster?

Both male & female, with proper stimulation, can peak in 2 minutes or less. However, consider the labels. A man who ejaculates in a heartbeat becomes a Premature Ejaculator – a woman achieving the same feat, with moans and everything, is called a keeper.

ROUND 2 – Point Of No Return & Refractory Period

The POINT OF NO RETURN (PNR) is the point of stimulation after which no force in heaven or earth can stop a man from having an orgasm.

During masturbation or intercourse, a man crosses a line after which it is impossible to stop climaxing…even if he stops stimulation. It doesn’t matter if the security guard is about to walk in on them, he will climax, it’s going to happen and there’s nothing anybody can do about it. (Premature ejaculators should back-off or tone down stimulation before reaching PNR.)

Here’s the thing: Women don’t have PNR. Even when she’s on the verge of having an orgasm, you can easily frustrate her orgasm by suddenly changing the rhythm or focus of stimulation, for example. You have to build and stimulate a woman ALL THE WAY, plus the follow through.

Looks like women got the raw deal here, huh?

Not really. There’s something to balance this out – the REFRACTORY PERIOD. Guess what – only men have them too! This is the few minutes after orgasm when the penis begins limping, during which it’s impossible to reach orgasm.

Post climax, the Refractory Period sets in and no force in heaven or earth can make a man cum. A woman may give the best head, but it’s not going to happen, and there’s nothing you can do about it, Anna!

Women don’t have this Refractory Period. Whereas an orgasm returns men to pre-arousal levels, an ‘O’ brings Eve to pre-orgasmic levels. They simply return to blissful levels of the Plateau, capable of approaching orgasm again. That’s why they can hit a string of climaxes – also known as multiple orgasms!

After catching her breath, and about half a minute of extreme clitoral sensitivity, she can simply continue like nothing happened. If she so desires, she can jump off the cliff again and again like an Energizer bunny without any refractory bother. Only guys have the PNR and the RP.

ROUND 3 – Staying Power

For guys, an orgasm often signals the end. For many women, it’s really just the beginning – sort of a warm-up.

She may feel perfectly satisfied after one soulful blow, but she can definitely gun for more. While men find subsequent orgasms less satisfying and more difficult to build, women stack theirs – which means subsequent O’s are easier to build and can be stronger in intensity.

Ensuing blows are sweeter, deeper, more satisfying than the first one, some ladies even have problems when reaching the 4th or 5th because they don’t wish to stop anymore! They enter an “orgasmic cloud” where climaxes become blurred one from another and the whole experience blends into one long-lasting orgasm. It becomes an orgasmic overdrive and if not for sheer exhaustion, they wouldn’t retire.

It may take a girl some time to heat up, but she sure makes up for it later.

STAGE FOUR – The Resolution

After all that orgasmic hooplah, comes the Resolution – the period when genitals return to their unaroused state.

If men don’t gun for another climax after the Refractory Period, then the Resolution Stage automatically sets in. Since women have no refractory period after orgasm, they simply return to pre-orgasmic levels of the Plateau until they decide enough is enough.

Foreplay Tips – 3 Phenomenal Ways To Give Women Extended Orgasms!

By lloydlester

Foreplay is a great way to make sure that your partner is satisfied during sex. These three foreplay suggestions will help you get your girl hotter than ever!

When it comes to sex, many men tend to do away with foreplay and get into the act of intercourse right away. While that may fulfill your sexual desires, the same cannot be said of your woman. If you truly want to add some zest into your sex life and make sure she enjoys every moment of lovemaking with you, you should never skim on this important aspect of lovemaking. Keep reading for three essential foreplay tips that will surely light her passion and keeping her orgasmic engine revving wildly!

Bring On The Adult Books

There is something about adult literature that porn movies can never match up: it allows your partner to use her own erotic imagination to visualize what goes on in those story lines. Believe me, this is far more powerful than popping that adult movie into the DVD player. So grab one of those adult books and read them to her and watch as her vivid imagination goes wild!

Bring On The Big Sex Toys

Sex toys are doing a thriving business these days and they play a far more essential role in your sex lives than you would probably imagine. Vibrators and dildos will help you learn more about her body and what turns her on the most. For instance, different women prefer different speed, intensity and even angles of penetration. By learning what she likes best when using these toys, you can mimic or replicate the same movements on her when making love so that she receives maximum pleasure from you. Well, sex toys are not just for ladies. For example, the penis ring is a great aid to help men last longer in bed and give her a more sensational experience to boot!

Talk Dirty – With A Difference!

How about engaging in a sexy conversation through phone? Many couples who are a little too inhibited in bed find themselves far more liberated when they talk dirty though the phone. It can take the shyness off her when she cannot see you face to face. By engaging in phone sex, you can really get her to loosen up herself, and with the help of a little dose of alcohol, you may even spice up the conversation! And you don’t have to be far apart to engage in phone sex. Call her at home while you are just in the next room!

Last Longer In Bed Naturally With These 2 Fool Proof Tips!

By jackgrave

Last longer in bed and wow your girl with only these two simple, easy to do suggestions. Last longer in bed starting TONIGHT!

The secret to lasting longer in bed is to understand that premature ejaculation is all in your head. Now as much of an oversimplification as that sounds, it really is true. The biggest difference between the men who can last longer in bed and those who can’t is what goes on in their head.

Sure, there are a few strategies and techniques that can help you last longer in bed too, but you can make a dramatic difference in how long you last just by making a few distinctions and changes to what goes through your head before and during sex.

So below I want to show you the things that men who last longer in bed do differently to those who don’t so you can copy them and start having better sex right now!

They Don’t Take Sex Too Seriously

A major cause of premature ejaculation is anxiety and stress. Some studies claim that experiencing these emotions cause your body to release the hormones adrenaline and dopamine into the bloodstream which have been found to encourage premature ejaculation.

It’s no surprise then that the people who seem to last long in bed are the ones who don’t worry too much about sex and don’t take it too seriously. Why not join these people? Because when you think about it, there’s no real need to worry that much about sex. Sex is perfectly natural and is something that has been happening between people for hundreds of thousands of years, so why stress about it? If something goes wrong there’ll always be another chance to have sex.

This relaxed kind of attitude is shared by most men who can last long in bed so why not adopt it yourself? You’ll no doubt start enjoying sex a lot more when you stop taking it so seriously and allow yourself to just have some fun.

They Consciously Relax Themselves

No man is perfect and every man at times feels stressed even if he has some empowering beliefs about sex like the ones I just talked about. But the other thing that makes the difference between men who last and those who don’t lies in how they HANDLE stress. Most men who experience premature ejaculation don’t know how to handle stress, anxiety and nervousness when it arises.

And as a result often it will end up taking over and causing premature orgasm. The men who last longer in bed have a different strategy. When stress arises for them they react differently. These men don’t just let it swell and grow, they take a time out. They stop what they’re doing, stop their thoughts from running, just stop everything and they take a moment to consciously relax their body and mind and take in some long deep breaths.

Before they know it, their stress is gone.

It really can be as easy as that, but you’ve got to remember to actually do it. It’s too easy to let yourself get caught up in the moment and let your worries snowball. If you do catch yourself worrying about sex just stop what you’re doing for a minute and just observe your thoughts while you relax and take in a deep breath. The transformational effect it will have on how long you last is nothing short of phenomenal.

Sex Toys: How To Use Them During Oral Sex

By loveandsex

Sex toys can add an extra element of surprise and pleasure during oral sex. Here’s how to use sex toys to give your lover amazing orgasms during cunnilingus!

For the really advanced cunnilingus masters (or those who are just looking to try out a few new tricks), the use of toys during cunnilingus may spice it up just a bit. Of course, you will want to make sure that your partner is comfortable with using toys first. She may not be comfortable with the idea at all or she may be comfortable with some things and not others. If you’re really lucky, she’ll be up for anything!

Communicate First!

Communication is key to avoiding a potential argument and canceled cunnilingus session – take a trip to the adult toy store and let her pick out some of the things she would like to try during cunnilingus. If she seems apprehensive about it, don’t push the issue. She may need to get warmed up to the idea first. Of course, if she isn’t willing to use toys in the bedroom period, it is important that you leave it at that to avoid making her feel uncomfortable. If your partner feels uncomfortable or pressured, she will not open her mind and body fully to cunnilingus and your efforts will be unsuccessful.

What Kind Of Sex Toys To Use?

There are lots and lots to choose from in this department. To simplify things, we’ll separate them into two distinct categories – toys that stay outside of the vaginal canal and toys that go in it.

Outside The Vulva

These sex toys are probably the best to start out with, especially if your partner or you are at all apprehensive about bringing toys into the bedroom. These can be any number of things – they don’t have to be specially purchased toys, although they do manufacture some great ones just for the occasion. We should probably note that most of the toys that are used outside the vulva offer some sort of vibration, like a clitoris vibrator. This can feel wonderful coupled with long, soft strokes by a tongue! There are so many different vibrating toys available for clitoral stimulation; it’s difficult to know exactly where to start. If you’re not keen to visit an XXX store to purchase something specially designed, a trip to your local department store or general store should suffice.

Back massagers and neck massagers work well – even a consistently ringing cell phone on vibrate will do the trick (just kidding). Foot massagers and the like generally won’t get the job done, so stick with a good back massaging wand for maximum effect. Your partner may even want to use it if you’re out of town! If you’re in the mood to see what the local XXX store has to offer, you’ll find dozens of devices specifically with a woman’s pleasure in mind. Most of these are small, wand-like vibrators (some are even waterproof) that stimulate the clitoris in just the precise way. Some have jelly tips with different textures on them and others will strap on to the thighs and be controlled by remote to provide constant stimulation. Do be careful however – it is important that your partner be involved in both making the decision to bring toys into the bedroom

Inside The Vagina

These types of sex toys are generally not for beginners. Both partners must be extremely comfortable with sex and cunnilingus before bringing these to the table. These toys are generally phallic-shaped and some are even made with silicone to directly resemble an erect penis. Other models of this type of toy are more simply designed (think bullet or dome shaped) and are sleeker. There are many shapes and sizes, so it is important to choose one that both you and your partner are comfortable with. This type of toy can come with or without vibration, and with or without extra “pieces” that can stimulate the clitoris and other parts of the vulva. Generally, you will only find toys such as these in a XXX store.

How To Use Sex Toys During Oral Sex

Like everything else, you want to introduce it gently. It is never good to rely solely on a toy during an oral sex session (unless this is something your partner has directly requested), so be sure to provide most of the stimulation with your warm, wet tongue utilizing the techniques described earlier in the book. For toys that stimulate the clitoris, you can gently move them around the vulva first (never place them directly on the clitoris at first) and then move in to the clitoris when your partner is more aroused.

It is important to pay attention to your lady’s cues at this time as well – you’ll need to find out how fast she likes it, what kind of pressure she likes, so on and so forth. For toys that go inside the vagina, you can use them just as though you would use your penis for intercourse.

Be careful though! This must always be done gently and you must take your cues from your partner or it could spell disaster. Inserting anything into her vaginal opening without her arousal and consent may end very badly.

Once you and your partner become more comfortable with sex toys, this may not be necessary for every cunnilingus session – the key is, of course, to follow your partner’s cues. Keep in mind that when purchasing toys for use in the bedroom that your partner needs to be very involved in the decision of what to buy. Do not purchase something you think she’ll like and whip it out seconds before a cunnilingus session! She will need to determine the size, shape, color and intensity of every toy that is going to be used during cunnilingus (or intercourse) and she may even feel like different toys based on her mood. As long as you pay attention to your partner and listen to what she’s saying (both verbally and non-verbally), you can almost guarantee cunnilingus success.