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3 Reasons Women HATE Giving A Blowjob

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A blowjob is something that men cannot possibly understand. Here is exactly why women really hate giving them and how to overcome the hurdles for a fulfilling relationship.

1. She thinks “It’s Degrading To Women.”

It seems a little old fashioned to me, but a lot of women still think that giving you a blowjob is degrading to women. Due to cultural stereotypes, things they’ve seen in porn or feminist theory, they see fellatio as a way for men to show their domination and power over women.

And you know what? To some degree they’re right. Yeah, yeah, I know. I’m not supposed to say that, but on a deep and primal level getting a blowjob (or GIVING a blowjob) is about power, connection, service and submission. It’s about one person doing everything they can to make another person feel good. And done right it can be a hell of a boost to the ego of both people in the equation.

This might sound unbelievable depending on how often you get oral sex, but a lot of women actually LIKE the submissive aspect of giving blowjobs (more than you’d probably think.) And I don’t know about you, but I definitely DO feel powerful and virile and just plain GOOD when my girlfriend is going down on me.

I mean, there’s a reason we guys LOVE getting blow jobs in the first place and it’s not all physical. There’s a damned good mix of power and fantasy mixed in there as well. So while I agree that a first blowjob really can be about power (both your power over her and her power over you) I totally reject the idea that a blowjob is “degrading” to women.

When we get to the “step by step” part of this manual I’m going to show you how to “flip the switch” on how your woman thinks about blow jobs so instead of seeing it as something “degrading” and “humiliating” she sees it as a way of exerting her sexual power over you.

For now, I want you to do two things:

Accept the fact that getting a blowjob is about more than just physical pleasure for you. Deep down in your subconscious there’s a part of you that gets off on having a woman “worship” your penis and be completely dedicated to your pleasure. And you know what? That’s just fine. I’ll tell you right now, if you’re in any way “ashamed” about your desire for a blow job it’s going to be a lot harder to make this work.

So just accept it. You want a hummer. In fact, you want a great, eager, fun, toe curling hummer. It’s cool.

Stop thinking of a fellatio as something she “does for you” and start thinking of it as something you can SHARE together. We’ll get more into this later, but on a conscious level I need you to start seeing blow jobs as a POSITIVE thing that you and your woman can do together that you BOTH should enjoy.

2. She Thinks It’s “Dirty Down There.”

A lot of women don’t like giving oral sex because they think guys are dirty, disgusting pigs. And they’ve kind of got a point. If you haven’t taken a shower in two weeks, are wearing the same underwear you had on during the Bush presidency and think soap is “some kind of commie plot against masculinity.”

Well, there ain’t no way you’re getting head. Listen: In this manual I’m going to teach you EXACTLY how to get your woman to LOOK forward to giving you head and ENJOY it as much as you do. But if you don’t do some “basic maintenance” first the whole thing is going to blow up in your face.

So here’s some basic stuff you need to do:

TAKE A SHOWER. Seriously, dude. Get in there with REAL soap and clean up the whole area. Spend some time on it and make your whole undercarriage (balls, cock, ass) as spotless as humanly possible. Use some scented soap (something girly) so she can tell you actually cleaned up. (Women have MUCH more sensitive senses of smell than guys do.)

Mow the lawn. OK, I’m a big hairy guy (my ethnic background is French, Italian and Lebanese. I get hairier by the minute) so this is actually a sensitive subject for me. But I’m going to tell you right now your chances of getting a GREAT orgasm on a REGULAR basis go WAY up when you get in there with some clippers and clear out the underbrush. I mean, how the heck can she suck your penis if she can’t find the damn thing?

Be “Conspicuously Clean” And Let Her Know It OK, this is subtle but important. Make sure she KNOWS that you’ve cleaned up. Next time you’re planning on getting amorous with your lady (or before you play the “games” I teach you in the next section) do what girls do and “go freshen up.”

3. The Gag Reflex (She Chokes)

OK guys, good news and bad news. The good news is that most women really can learn to deep throat over time (and it feels great.) The bad news is that the odds are your wife is NOT Linda Lovelace.

Do me a quick favor:
Take your index finger . . .
Shove it down your throat as far as possible.
See what happens (You probably GAG and feel that vomit reflex.)

Was that PLEASANT?
Was that something you LIKED?
Of course not.

And unless your woman is an “old pro” at giving head or a genetic freak with no gag reflex, she doesn’t like it either. Most women I know HATED giving head the first couple times they did it because the guy they were with grabbed her head and made her choke. And weirdly enough that traumatic event really colored the experience for her and made it something she didn’t want to do again.

6 Ways To Be The Alpha Male She CRAVES

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Sex tips show you what techniques to use, but they won’t matter if you’re a wuss who asks permission to do anything. Here’s how to be the ALPHA MALE she wants!

There are a lot of ways to be authoritative with your girl. Here are six you can use to get on the right track, tonight!

Take Charge!

These sex tips start right from the beginning. Don’t ASK for sex. Just make your move! YOU must lead the interaction. Here’s a great way to show her you’re in control: Once you have her turned on, naked, and ready to go, tell her she isn’t ready yet. Tease her, and show her she has to beg for it before you will give it to her.

Then have her get in the positions you want, tell her what to say – just make sure you are leading!

Make her orgasm on your command. When she is getting close, say to her you want her to come for you, or say she isn’t allowed to climax until you say it’s OK. Then keep doing her hard and make her wait for your okay.

Use Dirty Talk

The whole authority thing backfires if you proceed to have silent sex with your girl!

Start early. If you’re meeting up with your girl later, call or text her ahead of time and tell her you’re going to do naughty things to her. Tell her she’d better be ready. Don’t know what to say once you are all over each other? Start by just describing what you’re doing, then let her know what you’re about to do to her.

Say what positions to get into. Make to talk dirty to you, but save the “I Love You’s” for another day! (Or right afterwards to show her that you LOVE how dirty and nasty she was just for you, but you still cherish and love her).

Do It Hard!

You can’t be authoritative if you aren’t giving it to your girl hard, plain and simple. Save the sensitive love-making for another time. You have to put me in positions that are good for this – doggy style is GREAT for this!

But don’t confuse hard with fast. You don’t have to be pounding away like a jackhammer – just full, hard, and deep.

You can also gently but firmly pull her hair from the back near the roots, slap her lightly on the ass, throw her onto the bed, “mock” rip her clothes off with your teeth!

Use Authority Through The Whole Experience

Use dirty talk and she will love it.

Do her hard and she will love it.

But do ALL of these things – and watch her totally lose control and come over and over at your command!

It’s All Relative

Authoritative for one couple might be completely different from authoritative for another couple. If you have been ignoring great sex tips, having boring, quiet, missionary sex, with the lights out for the last 15 years – you have to be careful not to do too much too soon. This can make her uncomfortable and ruin the experience.

So start out slow if you have to. As you both get more comfortable you can keep adding to the authority and having more and more fun!

It’s Not The Same As Being Mean

Authority is all about being in charge, and telling the girl what you want. It’s NOT about degrading her, making her feel uncomfortable, or being too serious. One of my favorite things is when a guy is authoritative in a playful way. It’s more about him knowing that I enjoy him being in charge, that he’s not afraid to tell me what he wants, and that I can just safely give in to him.

Remember, authority is one of the best ways to get and keep a woman 100% sexually satisfied.

Many men have told me JUST these sex tips have changed their entire sex lives! And taken them from clumsily messing around and “hoping for the best” in the bedroom to confidently giving their women orgasm after juicy orgasm – whether it’s their very first time with a girl, or someone they’ve been with for years!

3 Sex Positions Guaranteed To Make A Woman Orgasm!

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Sex positions can help you improve your game and make your partner orgasm – if you choose the right ones. Here are three that will leave her gasping for breath!

These three positions that drive me and most women CRAZY. These positions are a sure fire way to bring your girl to some of the loudest, most intense orgasms of her life.

Most guys, in their struggle to please women never understand the SPOTS that actually trigger climaxes so they flail around uselessly trying weird sex positions that don’t work.

The Real “Orgasm Zone” Of A Woman – And Why Traditional Sex Positions NEVER Hit It!

Many guys know the feeling of having sex and wondering WHEN their girl is going to orgasm. In a futile attempt to get her to come you keep pounding away hoping it will happen. But it never does. The reason is because you are not hitting the “orgasm zone” that causes us to have an orgasm! Think about it like this:

Let’s say you burn your hand on the stove. You REALLY need to get some cold water. Your friend runs over with a bucket of cold water. But, instead of dumping the cold water all over your hand, they dump it all over your FOOT. You scream in agony that you needed cold water on YOUR HAND because that is what burned. Obviously the analogy is a bit dramatic and simple but it proves a certain point. Yes you need water, but you needed it IN A CERTAIN SPOT. Let me explain how this helps teach you about female orgasms. She NEEDS your penis to have a vaginal orgasm with you inside her. But if your penis isn’t hitting the CERTAIN RIGHT SPOT, its like dumping water on your foot when you burned your hand!

Now let’s talk about where the “orgasm zone” is inside of her. Guys don’t realize that the actual “orgasm zone” is the TOP INSIDE WALL of the vagina. This is where the g-spot, the deep spot, and all other sensitive orgasm zones are located!!! When you are having sex in most positions your penis is going IN to her not UP AND IN where it will give her an orgasm. Your not even giving yourself a chance at giving us an orgasm. However, there is hope! Once you learn how to ADAPT certain positions you will be going UP AND IN and nailing that “orgasm zone” EVERY TIME. You can expect your lover to start having g spot, deep spot, and maybe even a squirting orgasm when you start putting these powerful tricks into play!

The 3 Ideal Positions to Hit the Orgasm Zone and Drive Her Over the Edge

Position #1) A Very Advanced Version Of Doggy Style

What you want to do in this doggy style sex position is when you are entering her from behind on the bed you want to flatten her out. But, before you flatten her out you want to stick a pillow under the lower part of her stomach. Once you have pillow under her stomach (to raise her butt higher) you want to lie down fully flat on top of her. Often people refer to this position with out the pillow as “froggy style.” However instead of staying even with her body, move up as high as you can. The goal of this is so that as you thrust you are hitting the top inside wall of her vagina. The entire point of the pillow and moving up on her is so that you are thrusting down DIRECTLY into her “orgasm zone.” As long as you can last at least 5 minutes in this position you are sure to give her a climax.

Here’s how to take it to the NEXT LEVEL:

If you are doing it right your head should be right above hers putting you in a perfect position for some dirty talk. As long as you feel comfortable and she is comfortable you can throw in some dirty talk and really send her into spirals of orgasmic pleasure.

Here’s another secret:

You can use your arms to lightly pin down her arms to show male authority – by doing this you are going to increase the “animal primal instincts” that doggy style provides because it shows her that you are totally in control of whats going on.

And one more:

Once she has orgasm DON’T STOP – she will have an orgasm and think she needs a break. However, you can keep going lightly and she’ll recover – and be ready for an even more intense second orgasm. Slowly increase your speed and pressure and she’ll come again and again and again!

Position #2) The “2 Inches Bigger G-Spot Missionary”

The missionary sex position often gets a horrible name. Critics call it boring, plain, and vanilla. However, when used the RIGHT WAY missionary position can be one of the most intimate, climax giving positions there is. I personally LOVE missionary for the intimacy and most women do too!

Here is how to change missionary position to “2 Inches Bigger G-Spot Missionary:” (note: not only does it hit the spot, it also makes you feel 2 inches bigger inside of her due to the “angle of the dangle”)

What you want to do is take a normal missionary position and adapt it to hit the “orgasm zone.” Here is what to do:

  1. Use a pillow (or two depending on physical proportions) under her lower back but this time in missionary position.
  2. Start inside of her in missionary and scoop under her legs and put them on your shoulders.
  3. Now place your hands under her lower back between her and the pillow.
  4. Lift her up so that as you thrust in to her again you are thrusting UP AND IN and hitting the top of her vagina! (note: the entire reason you have the pillow is so that you don’t have to support her entire lower body weight with your hands)
  5. Thrust up and in and the position that you have her in is sure to trigger an amazing orgasm

Here’s how to take it to the NEXT LEVEL:

If you have the flexibility lean forward and kiss her while you are inside of her. Due to the close physical contact with her (legs on shoulders AND hands around her lower back/ass) it is a very intimate position and adding in kissing makes it highly emotional. If you are a guy that likes romance (like women do!) then you can also tell her how much you like (or love her) and that she is your girl. This position is often a girl’s favorite.

Position #3) This Position Is Seated “Girl On Top” With Her Leaning Back

Often your lover will climb on top and show that she wants to ride you for a bit. The reason she is trying to do this is because is instinctively trying to position herself so that you are thrusting UP AND in!!

With a few simple adaptions to “girl on top” you can let her take control while you lean back and watch her climax!!!

How to do it:

  1. Sit down in chair or sofa (not on bed) and have her get on top facing you.
  2. Have her put her feet forward on the outside of your body.
  3. Tell her it would be really sexy to see her lean back.
  4. As she leans back and start riding you thrust straight up, and due to the positioning you will actually be thrusting UP and IN.
  5. Lean back on the chair or sofa and watch her ride you to climax!!

Here’s how to take it to the NEXT LEVEL:

As she is riding you, reach forward and stroke her clitoris in a light circular motion. Now she is getting stimulation on the inside “orgasm zone” and the external  one.

Beware: She will climax quickly!

Now that you have learned WHY normal positions don’t give women orgasms and you have the knowledge as to what does give her a climax.

How To Give ANY Woman Multiple Orgasms And Have Her Sexually Addicted To You!

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This FREE VIDEO will show you how to give your girl the most incredible, heart-pounding sexual experiences of her entire life!

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When you watch this free video, you’ll learn secrets to get ANY woman off at ANY time, regardless of your penis size or sexual stamina, and even if you’ve been with your partner for YEARS and the “spark” seems gone.

The truth is, most men don’t have a clue how to touch a woman, make her feel good and get her off during sex – let alone give her incredible, body shaking orgasms. A lot of women cheat on their partners for one reason and one reason only:

Because she is bored with you in bed!

Women love and NEED sex just as much as a man, if not more! They crave orgasms given from their partner and not just any kind of orgasm – they want their lover to make them feel incredible! Girls want wet, wild, SQUIRTING orgasms just as much as YOU want to give them to her!

If you can give a woman INTENSE orgasms, she will do whatever you want, when ever you want! If you can please your girl, she’ll let out her inner freak and become totally, completely addicted to you! (Trust us when we say that her inner “bad girl” is way naughtier than you EVER thought possible)

You Probably Didn’t Know This But….

Girls HATE to tell you what to do in bed!

It’s completely embarrassing for a girl to have to show you what to do during sex – so much so that she’ll either go without and wait for you to get it over with, or find someone else who already knows how to please a woman. Even if she does show you what to do, she’ll be so turned off by the time you actually do it that she probably STILL won’t be able to get off.

You NEED to know what to do to get her off, WITHOUT her having to tell you!

This is the only way to have truly great sex and get her having multiple orgasms.

If you’re like most guys, you want to learn how to make your sex life SIZZLING HOT!

You might have struggled to give your female partner an orgasm, or you may never have been able to before. Rest assured, if you have problems getting your girl to reach climax, you’re not alone.

The Truth Is, MOST Guys Can’t Give Their Girl An Orgasm!

Most guys don’t know the first thing about how to put their hands on a woman, so forget trying to actually get her off. If you’ve been in that position before where you try and try and try to get your lover to reach climax only to fail miserably, then you KNOW how frustrating it is.

You KNOW how frustrating it is to go down on her for the better part of an hour, without her EVER having an orgasm!

You KNOW how it makes you feel like less of a man when you can’t give her the pleasure that other guys have before! 

There have been many nights where no matter how hard you try and no matter what you do, you just can’t get her OFF!

But does that mean you should assume that it’s impossible and stop trying?

NO!

You CAN have incredible sex with your lover – sex so good, she’s having 2, 3 or 4 orgasms and she’s so wild, she’s literally soaking the sheets as you thrust into her again and again! You CAN make your partner so satisfied in the bedroom that not only will she never even THINK of having sex with another guy, she’ll be begging and pleading for YOU to do her every single night!

Even if you have a small penis, average sexual skills or low stamina, you CAN become so good at giving your lover orgasms and pleasing her sexually, that she’ll think you’re a SEX GOD?

So, are you ready to say GOODBYE to a mediocre, boring sex life?

Do you finally want to be DONE with wondering if you pleased your lover in bed, or worrying whether she will find someone else that will give her the orgasms that you can’t?

Are you READY to make your sex life as hot as the porn stars?

She WANTS You!

2 Girls Teach Sex is a revolutionary video system that teaches you, step by step, how to seduce a woman and how to give her orgasm after dripping wet orgasm! When you use these insider sex secrets, you’ll be able to give your girl an orgasm with just a few simple moves! These are the super hot secrets that the PROS use, but never share with anyone! That’s right, you can get your hands on the sex tips, secrets and sex positions that will turn you from an ordinary (or bad) lover into an absolute and total SEX GOD!

Who Wants To Learn About Sex From A Book?

shawna_4_resizeThere are tons of sex guides out there that claim to teach you how to give your lover an orgasm. While some of these sex tips may be useful, most guys can’t sit there and read a book for hours, trying to visualize different sex positions and techniques and how they would work. Guys need to SEE something to actually learn it!

This is why 2 Girls Teach Sex is DIFFERENT than any other sex instruction product out there!

And that’s why it will WORK for you!

2 Girls Teach Sex features gorgeous professionals acting out the fingering, oral sex techniques and sex positions that make their legs shake!

Wait, back up for a second.

You mean to say that this product has hot naked women that SHOW YOU exactly what to do on camera?

YES!

2 Girls Teach Sex is an instruction video, but you’re not going to have to sit there and watch someone sit in front of their webcam and read from a script about sex. How would you learn anything that way? With THIS product, you can get STEP-BY-STEP, visual instruction on how to make your lover orgasm over and over again!

What You’ll Learn In 2 Girls Teach Sex

  •  A simple twist on the missionary position that will make your penis feel 2 INCHES BIGGER to her! And she’ll feel even tighter to you!
  • 3 spots you only have to TOUCH before sex to get her squirming with anticipation and BEGGING you to be inside her!
  • How to tell if your girl is faking her orgasm (THIS is a dead giveaway! You’ll be able to tell every single time!)
  • What lesbians know about oral sex that YOU don’t
  • 6 easy tricks to give her a powerful clitoral orgasm
  • A technique that will give her an orgasm through penetration alone (she CANNOT do this by herself! She will be ADDICTED to you after this!)

When you discover the powerful sex secrets that thousands of men DON’T know, you will see five incredible changes in your sex life, LITERALLY OVERNIGHT!

Sex Will Never Be Boring Again!

2 Girls Teach Sex isn’t about sex tips that you use once or twice and get bored of them quickly, like so many other tips out there. These are techniques that produce an orgasm every single time, and no woman ever gets tired of climaxing!

Even if you end up sticking with your lover for months, years or for the rest of your lives, you will still be able to use the techniques you learned to keep your sex life stellar.

That’s right, it won’t matter how long you’ve been together! The sex will always be hot!

Don’t wait. Take control of your sex life now!

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How To Make Your Girl’s Sex Drive Stronger Than Yours!

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Sex tips are definitely something you want to have on hand to keep your sex life fresh. If you want MORE sex, here’s how to revv up your lady’s sex drive.

Do you ever feel as though you have a HIGHER sex drive than your girl? Maybe you’re always the one who has to initiate sex, or maybe she’s just not in the mood as often as you are.

If you’re finding these things happening with your woman, you’re not alone.

But, I’m going to venture that the REASON WHY she doesn’t seem to want to make love as often as you do is NOT because she has a lower sex drive!

Why She Doesn’t “Want” Sex

What is really happening is you’re just not satisfying her enough during sex to make her CRAVE it!

You see, in order for a woman to experience REAL sexual pleasure, she MUST be having orgasms. Her moaning, saying its good, or just letting you have sex with her IS NOT ENOUGH. Think about how sex would feel for YOU if you always got “close” but were never able to fully get off. That would pretty much suck, right? Well that’s exactly what your girl is going through if you’re not giving her the mind-blowing orgasms she craves!

If you’re not giving your girl orgasms when you make love, it may SEEM like she is having fun. But in reality, she’s probably just being nice, and sleeping with you because she feels she has to. And if this is the case, then she’s not going to want to have sex with you very often.

Worst case scenario, if she’s been with a guy in the past who was capable of giving her orgasms – and you are not – she’s probably not going to stick around very long unless you are married or financially supporting her.

It’s sad, but true.

But fortunately since most guys DON’T know how to give a woman orgasms, you probably don’t have anything to worry about. (But in a way, isn’t that even MORE sad?!?)

Getting Her Off

On the upside, giving a woman orgasms is not difficult, it’s just DIFFERENT! A woman’s body works very differently than a man’s, and once you know the subtle differences, it’s actually very EASY to give your woman not just one orgasm, but 2, 3, 4 or more – even different kinds like blended orgasms!

When you ARE able to give your woman orgasms, sex with you is not frustrating… it’s FUN! So of course, she’ll want to have sex with you all the time! Often times, she’ll even be the one asking you for sex!

How To TELL If You Are Getting Her Off

The lesson to take away here is that your girl’s “sex drive” and how often she wants to have sex with you have nothing to do with body chemistry and everything to do with whether or not you are sexually satisfying her.

With this in mind, here’s how to tell if you are:

  • If your girl wants sex at least 3-4 times a week, then you are satisfying her.
  • If she DOESN’T want sex at least 3-4 times a week, then I am sorry, but you are not.

It’s really that simple.

How To Make Absolutely SURE You Satisfy Your Woman Every Time

Start by giving her a foreplay orgasm each and every time. Giving a girl an orgasm through intercourse is a MUCH more intense experience for a girl, and giving her one of these body-shaking orgasms usually requires you know some techniques.

On the other hand, giving a woman a foreplay orgasm is easy.

So easy, that there is NO EXCUSE for not being able to give your girl a foreplay orgasm! But first, REMEMBER:

While you’re going to give her this orgasm during foreplay, it’s important that you continue to think of foreplay as PART of the sex, because to your girl, it is! Women love foreplay and you can keep it going until she is DESPERATE for you to be inside of her. Women LOVE this!

Here are a few ways to keep foreplay going:

  • Kiss her for 10-15 minutes before taking off clothes (hers or yours)
  • Rub her over her “area” for 5 FULL minutes and refuse to take her panties or clothes off no matter how much she or you wants it – tell her how much she wants you AND how much you want her
  • If you start the technique I’m about to share with you AFTER you do all this stuff then you are almost GUARANTEED to give her a foreplay orgasm!

Giving A Clitoral Orgasm

The easiest way to give her a foreplay orgasm is by stimulating her clitoris. Here’s one way to do it that I know your girl will like:

  1. When massaging it, use one finger in circular strokes directly on it, but to the upper right. Think of it like the 1:30 position on a clock. For reasons I can’t explain, this particular area of a woman’s clitoris is packed with even MORE nerve endings than the rest!
  2. Make sure she is wet, or add lube (you can also lick your finger).
  3. It’s important that you keep a steady pressure the whole time, but not too hard! We girls are much more sensitive than you are, so start off light, and don’t go harder until she starts pressing herself against you.
  4. Once she starts lifting her hips towards you, go just a little bit faster – and tell her softly and gently, “Come for me baby and totally relax.” This reassures her that it’s “okay” to let herself go, and often you reassuring her is exactly what she needs to go from feeling really good to going OVER THE TOP and having an incredible orgasm!

Discover How To Give Her More Advanced Orgasms

Giving a woman a foreplay orgasm is always a good time, but if you REALLY want to take her pleasure to a level that no man ever has before, you’re gonna have to give her the more ADVANCED types of orgasms that make her whole body pulsate with pleasure! The type of orgasms that leave her lying there wondering what just happened – and instantly have her calling you the BEST she’s ever had!