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Should You Engage In After Breakup Sex?

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Sex tips are essential when you are breaking up or going through a divorce. Getting back into the groove can be problematic for everybody.

Divorce is trying on emotions and the sex life. But there’s nothing better than that first orgasm you have after a breakup. And we’re not talking about the orgasm you initiate yourself.

For most people, during the course of a divorce or during a marriage that’s not functional, their hand (or vibrator) becomes their best friend. Where do you think the acronym B.O.B. came from?

You know: battery operated boyfriend.  It came from women that were frustrated during the process of being separated and getting divorced or breaking up.

Get Over The Frustration

I understand the frustration that occurs—sexually and otherwise—during a breakup. And it’s too bad really. But there’s nothing better than after breakup sex.

It’s almost like going to a car dealer for the very, very first time and smelling that new car smell.  There’s nothing better than the new-person smell, especially after the last one was so stinky and old and had too many miles on it. I’ve been there.

I’ve been married 2.5 times, so I know all about after-divorce sex.  The anticipation, the build up—oh my god, it’s so good! I’ve got to tell you, the first time you look at another person’s eyes, you look deep into them and you think to yourself “all I want is sex.”

All I Want Is Sex

“I don’t want to talk about the kids.  I don’t want to talk about money.  I don’t’ want to talk about anything. I just want you to do me, all night long.”

It’s the best foreplay you will ever have.

The first time you sleep with a new person after ending a relationship—whether it’s divorce or just breaking-up a relationship—consider that the person is literally re-taking your virginity all over again.

Some of you have cobwebs down there; it’s been so long.  Some of you are really, really rusty. But here’s the deal—and remember this because it’s really important: the first person you sleep with after you separate is the last person you want to have a relationship with.

Don’t Make This BIG Mistake

Think about it. You are full of emotion, full of desire and infatuation.  It’s lust.

And a lot of people go into the mistake of getting involved in relationships with somebody right away, because the sex is so good, because that’s what was probably  is lacking in your relationship.  Usually when people are going through relationship issues, the sex stops.

So, of course, it’s the first thing you want to replace, because you’ve been deprived for so long.  But, it’s also the biggest trap. That trap is hot sex. The first person you sleep with after a relationship ends is the last person you want to have a relationship with.

Remember that the next time you have that lust.  You need to spend time alone after a relationship ends.  You need to go back and get some good sex, have some fun, figure out what life is all about.

Don’t Fall Into This Trap!

Don’t fall into the trap of getting with that person that wants to do you in any way, shape or form—they’re really just feeding off of your sexually energy.  Because when we get out of a marriage or relationship, we’ve got incredible sexual energy.

It’s almost like a little kid being let loose on the playground.  It’s almost like the first day of school.  It’s almost like going to the best buffet in Vegas, all you can eat.

But the problem is, you don’t want to hit a buffet every single night.  You certainly don’t want to be in school forever, and you certainly can’t be in Vegas for longer than 48 hours.

So, think about that the next time you’ve got some good after-breakup sex.  Or if you are going through a break-up right now, don’t get trapped by that great buffet.

How To NOT Give Him Blue Balls!

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Sex tips are the best way to understand how the opposite sex works. Girls are notorious for giving guys blue balls, but here’s how to avoid being a tease!

What She Said:

Congratulate Yourself!

First of all, if your man is complaining of blue balls, check his ID.  No adult man would own up to the idea you are giving him blue balls.  And I have yet to know of any man who died of it.  I’m not sure it even exists.

But if for some reason your man is complaining of it, then you should congratulate him. He is obviously with one smoking hot babe that he cannot wait to get his hands all over.

So if he is “in pain,” it’s not your fault by any means. You have obviously just made him all hot and bothered. To relieve that, fool around with him.

What He Said:

Just Do It!

How do you prevent your man from getting blue balls? You drain them. On a regular basis. I know, I know, you’re not always in the mood. Maybe you’re never in the mood. Maybe he’s let himself go or maybe he’s not flirting with you or romancing you like he did when you first started dating (or before you got married).

Long term relationships are about doing things you hate because you know your other half likes or loves them. Just please them. I know you make not like oral sex or you may not be turned on enough for intercourse, but so what? Did your partner really want to spend Christmas with your family? Hell no! They hate your family! But they did it because they want their balls to be drained.

Romance is for short term love affairs. Sooner or later it goes right out the window and if it’s never happened to you, you’ve never had a relationship last long enough. If that’s you, consider yourself lucky.

You’re probably thinking “hey wait! They’re not doing [insert random sexual or non sexual task/think you really like]! Why they hell would I please them if they aren’t doing what I want?

It’s simple, grasshopper. If you help them, they will do what you want. Having sex will scramble their brain and reduces any resistance to suggestion that they have. You won’t have to tell them to do what you want. You can imply it and they will snap to attention, even if you don’t scramble their brains by giving them all the oral sex, anal sex or plain old intercourse they can handle.

Why? Because if you’re screwing them eight ways to Sunday, and you ask them to go to Starbucks and get you that half double cap red eye latte that makes them cringe when you order it, are they really going to say no? No, they won’t. They will get you your stupid frilly over priced coffee drink. Why? Because you’re screwing them! A lot!

No one is dumb enough to walk away from an ATM that’s spitting out free money. So you will get your damn latte. Or your foot massage. Or someone to cuddle with while you watch Oprah or Jersey Shore or whatever it is that you love to do that your partner would rather take a cheese grater to the genitals than participate in.

It’s a win win, right? It’s a little counter-intuitive, I know. It really doesn’t make sense. You probably think I’m crazy. Or you will, until you try it. Then you will tell anyone who will listen what an incredible genius I am (it’s true. I am a genius. Literally and figuratively).

If you do this, you will have the partner of your dreams! You’re place will never be cleaner, you’ll never be happier and it might just save your relationship! Sound hokey, no, no it’s not. Sex is like the canary in the well of your relationship. If that’s great, so’s the rest of your relationship.

Now, of course, you should be getting yours. If you have to drain your partners balls whenever and wherever, they should be helping you too. You need to get yours. You will. Because they’re getting theirs.

How To Break Up The Right Way

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Relationship advice can help you avoid the pitfalls of a messy break up. Here is what real men and women are saying about breaking up the right way.

What She Said:

No Birthdays Or Text Messages

Breaking up with someone can get really messy.  Especially if you have been dating for a while.  If you want to end a relationship, one of the worst ways to do it would be via a text message.  If you text that things are over then you really are not giving someone the respect they deserve.  Even if your relationships turned out to be a complete disaster, it is important that you end things face to face.

Another terrible way to break up with someone is by using social media like facebook.  Changing your relationship status to single or worse, posting pictures of you with a new guy is just cruel.  Yes social media makes life easier but it should never ever show where your heart stands without telling the person first.

Another terrible way to break up with someone is when it is there birthday or a major holiday.  No matter how ready you are to move on, sometimes its best to wait a day.  If you end it on his birthday or an important holiday you will forever ruin that day for him and no one wants to have a bad reminder of his or her birthday or Christmas.

In a nutshell, if you are going to break up do not tell him all that he did wrong or high light is faults.  Break up and leave him his dignity.  Do not call him names, or worse, make mention to his penis size or bad bedroom skills.  He was once your boyfriend; respect what you had because there once was a time when you did care for him.

What He Said:

Run It Like A Business

Look, the fact of the matter is that the person on the receiving end is not going to like the rejection. There are exceptions to be sure, but this is a good general rule. Why is this important to realize? Because most people spend a lot of time and energy around planning their breakup speech because they want to be  nice or let the person down easy.

This is impossible.

If you know they aren’t going to like this, there’s no point in trying to plan it so that they will. Just make it fast and nasty. Tell them you don’t want to see them any more, then hang up. In person is good, but don’t do it during a meal or a typical date activity. No texting. No just disappearing, no avoiding their calls or texts until they “get it.” Just let them know and move forward.

This may sound harsh, and maybe in one way it is, but really it’s not that harsh. What’s harsh is drawing out or prolonging the process. The only real reason to do that is for your own ego, to make yourself feel better. That’s great and all, but making yourself feel better at the expense of others is not good.

So deal with it with the coldness of an IRS auditor or HR person. When you get canned, they don’t give you a big long flowery speech, they give you your last check and tell you to get your shit and go. They aren’t mean about it, they aren’t cocky they aren’t happy to do it, but they do it quickly and as painless as possible.

Run it like a business, bitches. If you have any of their stuff, make sure to give it to them in person when you do the breaking up. Don’t talk about the romance at the beginning or that you think they are a really, really great person and that they will find someone special soon or any of that typical breakup crap. Lying to them will prolong the process. Just end it.

It may surprise you, but they actually would rather you do it that way. They will feel relived, even if they don’t like the news they are hearing. They’ll move on and so will you.

Don’t Try To Stay Friends

And for the love of God, don’t give them that “lets be friends” crap. You’re not going to be friends any more, so why pretend? And for the other love of God, don’t stay Facebook friends with them. Sever all social media ties. They don’t need to know what you’re doing and vice versa. It’s over.

3 Sex Tips For A Better Sexual Relationship With ALL Women!

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Sex tips usually try to tell men how to last longer in bed. However, according to a recent study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, the “most desirable” length of time to spend having sex turned out to be only 7 to 13 minutes. Women started rating anything from 10 to 30+ minutes as “too long”. In fact, only 3 to 7 minutes of intercourse were needed for the act to be considered “adequate” and only when sex averaged one to two minutes or less did couples think that coitus wasn’t lasting long enough.

Be open, ask your wife which of the many techniques that she has experienced turn her on the fastest. Don’t worry about her finding the question awkward; she’s been waiting to hear it from you for years, but you haven’t afforded her a safe place to be explicitly asked about this delicate issue.

Knowing that she has an easier time coming all by herself, it can be easy to feel rejected and replaced. You’ve heard that old joke, right? “Why did God create man?” “Because a vibrator can’t mow the lawn.” That may be true – I’ve seen some pretty ridiculous contraptions in my search for sexual fulfillment, but none that could cut the grass!

But for women, sex isn’t a separate part of our existence. Lust isn’t distinct from our love and respect for you. These emotions intertwine and are incredibly complex. Here are 3 sex tips for better relationships.

1. A Vibrator Can’t Cuddle

Yes, sometimes when we are hot and bothered, when we need to relax and focus or fall fast asleep, masturbating is preferable. Sometimes we all just want to be alone – you too, right? But there is a clear distinction between the easiest way to orgasm, and the most enjoyable sexual experience. Sexpert Tracey Cox points out that “there is a reason why we jump through extraordinarily complicated hoops to not only make someone like us, but lust after us – it might be harder to have an orgasm with another person but it’s usually far superior quality.”

2. Throw Out the Calendar

What kind of hoops have you been jumping through? Sex schedules, couch cuddling sessions, couple’s therapy, a bevy of skills workshops – your brain is probably so full of new techniques that it’s ready to explode! Throw out that calendar. Women want the type of orgasms that are hot, exciting, intense, and don’t interfere with their afternoon workout and getting dinner on the table! The only way to ensure you are prepared for hot sex is to master one mind-blowing skill at a time.

3. Be a Musician, Not a Technician

You’ve warmed your wife up and she is primed and ready with you between her legs. As one hand heads for her soft bits, you run down the list of techniques to try in your head. You are so preoccupied with what’s next in your arsenal that you can’t really tell if she’s enjoying herself or not. You don’t bother to ask, because you’re too concerned with transitioning into the next move, and acting out the lie that you’re best for her as a “strong, silent type”.

A technician keeps a list of jobs he needs to get done and checks each one off in a row, making sure he hits every point until the machine in front of him is “fixed”. While an indispensable part of being a good man in day-to-day life, darling, this is not a sexy skill. Kim Cattrall writes that “the musician who never gets past technique never really plays music”. You need to be fit and finessed enough to know a few techniques really well when having sex. When you are a master at making love, you can have dozens of skills in your arsenal, but only when you can do them all well.

Secret Survey Reveals Why ALL Men Lie!

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Watch this Free Presentation to discover the REAL reason ALL Men Lie to women they love and learn how to discover how he really feels about you without him saying a word…

Relationship advice will rarely tell you WHY your man lies – and if you think he doesn’t, you’re dead wrong. The truth is, ALL men lie at some time or another and many of them do it on a regular basis! They especially do it to the women they love! This FREE video shows you the dirty secrets men have been keeping from you all these years!

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Warning: Watch the free video all the way through, but be prepared to learn things you never, ever thought could be true! You’ve never gotten relationship advice like this before. This video will reveal to you the awful things every man you’ve been with has been dishonest with you about. It’s scary, but you deserve to know! 

You’ve Been Lied To By Every Guy You’ve Ever Met

The sad truth is that no matter how chivalrous the guy may have seemed or how sweet and caring he might have been, he’s lied to you – and he’s done it more than once. 

Every man you’ve ever dated, fallen in love with or trusted with your heart has lied to you. Men you loved (or still love), men you adored and trusted with everything have looked right in your eyes, smiled at you and lied to you about EVERYTHING!

He’s lied about what he wants, how he feels about you, what he’s thinking and what he desires.

If you’re like most women, it’s driving you CRAZY! It’s kept you up at night and it’s pushed you to tears as you wonder WHY?

Why can’t he just tell you the truth?

Why can’t he just love you?

Why can’t he just be that man you’ve wanted for so long?

Why can’t he be the man you deserve?

You know what it feels like. The anger you get in the pit of your stomach. The nauseous feeling you get when you know you’ve been lied to by a man…again! The feeling you get when you have been manipulated and used.

How You Can Have An Amazing, Almost DANGEROUS Power Over Men

Our good friend Michael Fiore is a nationally known relationship advice expert who, through his extremely controversial free video, shows women how to REALLY understand men. When you watch this video, you’ll learn what really goes on in a man’s mind – what he lusts after, what he dreams about and WHY HE LIES!

Michael sent a secret questionnaire to the thousands and thousands of men and women on his email list, asking women what they truly need to know about men and asking men what they wish they could tell women but never have been able to.

Some of the questions that women asked are the same questions we KNOW you’ve asked at least once in your life:

“What does he think about me?”

“Why does he look at other women?”

“Why do men lie?”

“Is he cheating on me?”

“Why doesn’t he talk to me?”

“Why does he get so quiet?”

“Does he really love me?”

“How do I make him love me?”

Hundreds of women, just like you, felt angry, locked out and betrayed by men.

But what did the guys say?

The TRUTH That No Woman Has EVER Heard!

Michael’s survey seemed to unlock something in men, who started spilling the beans about things they had agreed to never tell women! These men broke the “man code” and put their deepest, darkest desires out there. They revealed what was really going on in their hearts and minds, and WHY they do the things they do.

They revealed how women hurt them and emotionally devastated them (and how women can do this without even knowing or trying) and why they lied to the women they loved – and why they felt they HAD to lie.

Everything that women have always wanted to know was finally poured out! And Michael took all that relationship advice and compiled an easy, 4 week training program.

Are You Brave Enough And Smart Enough To Accept This?

The hidden truth about men isn’t something just any woman can listen to and benefit from. Revealing this stuff is like giving a woman super powers! She’ll be able to see deep into the mind of any man she wants and know what he’s REALLY thinking – it’s like mind reading.

You’ll be able to:

  • Wash away decades of anger, backbiting and arguments
  • Stop stupid arguments in their tracks
  • Have the powerful, amazing relationship that you’ve always wanted (and that you DESERVE!)

The Secret Survey 4 week online training program will show you what men desperately want you to know but could never, ever tell you!

If You Can Log Into A Website (And Put Aside Your Pride) You Can Learn The Honest, Dirty Truth About What Goes On In The Minds Of Men And Transform Your Relationships With Guys Forever In Just 30 Short Days!

What you’ll discover:

  • Why men are like dogs and you’re a bad owner
  • How to use “Projective Empathy” to instantly know what is going on in any man’s head
  • Why men lie to women they love
  • The 3 reasons men lie to women
  • Simple conversation tricks to get any man to open up to you in 5 minutes flat! 
  • What men say about you when you’re not around
  • How he REALLY feels about you
  • Why he looks at other women (and how he feels about YOU when he looks at other women)
  • The truth about why men cheat
  • How to CHEAT PROOF your relationship
  • What men REALLY want in bed

And those are just the main relationship advice topics the course covers! Some other valuable things you’ll learn are:

  • How to use “Emotional Judo” to MASSIVELY multiply his desire for you!
  • Why trying to make your man happy will kill your relationship
  • How to banish insecurity from your relationship forever
  • How to seduce a man in shockingly little time!
  • How to get a man to chase you, even if you’ve been together for YEARS

Just Imagine What It Can Be Like!

No more arguments and fighting. No more backbiting. No more anger or anxiety. No more begging and pleading for him to open up to you, or asking him why he’s closed you off.

No more wondering if he really wants you or if he really loves you.

With Secret Survey, you can make ANY man happy. You can be adored by any man you want. You can have loving, satisfying relationships where you feel cherished and happy. You can be fulfilled in your love life, even if you never have felt that way before!

If you’re not ready to hear the REAL truth, then the Secret Survey program isn’t for you.

But if you’re sick and tired of being lied to, being manipulated and being shut out, it’s time to make a change!

The Secret Survey could be your only chance to really understand men, or your last chance to get the guy you love to really open up to you. This may be your last chance to create true, unconditional love!

Get in the program now, while you still can!