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How To Give An Amazing Leg Massage

Erotic massage can really make a difference when it comes to sex and foreplay for a woman. Use these leg & thigh techniques to make your girl melt!

Let’s get to the sexiest and most sexually arousing area of your lover’s body—her legs and thighs. After you’ve thoroughly primed her libido with lots of kissing and erotic massage, it’s time to go for the gold. But before you do, start out with a sweet long stroke completely around her body.

The Long Stroke

Placing both of your hands onto one of her legs (either one will do), begin moving them up her leg to the side of her body and continue up over her arm, up to her shoulder, and then up to the top of her head. Repeat the same movement down the opposite side of her body all the way down to her feet. Lightly touching and grazing sensitive and sexually arousing areas of her skin are highly encouraged with this move, and you should feel free enough at this point to tease her most private areas.

Once you’ve finished moving your hands up her body in one long stroke, you’ll want to move them back down to her legs, where you will begin your ultimate magic.

Massaging The Legs

Starting with one leg at a time, with palms facing down, place both of your hands on top of that leg just above her ankle. Now, using long slow strokes, massage up and down lightly the length of her leg. As you begin moving down from the top of either leg, let your hand drift and glide smoothly into the sensitive area of her inner thigh, then move down to her knee, over her shins, and all the way down to her foot. Repeat this move a few times over each leg and every time you do, come a bit closer to her vagina as you dip down into her thighs. You can even begin to ever so lightly graze her labia with the tips of your thumbs or fingertips to help prepare her for the erotic phase of the massage.

If she lets you go this far and is loving it, it’s time to crank up the heat. So the next technique is to lift up one of her legs by bending it at the knee. Next, place her foot flat down on the surface she is lying on.

Moving On To The Inner Thighs

By lifting her leg, it will create even more access to her inner thigh and other sensitive areas on the backside of her leg. This will allow you to massage deeper, further, and get closer to her most sensitive and intimate areas of arousal. A great location you can now easily stroke is the backside of her upper leg – this area is especially arousing in this position as you can massage all the way from the backside of her knee all the way down to her buttocks.

In this position, begin by rubbing her calf muscles gently with both of your hands in an up-and-down motion. Do this a few times and then move your hands over the top of her upper leg and then down towards her hip. As you come back up, with your hands now placed on either side of her upper leg, delicately stroke her inner thigh. Repeat this move several times.

Grazing Sensitive, Nerve-Packed Areas

Next, with a downward stroke, move your hand completely underneath the backside of her leg and stroke down towards her butt and even go underneath it a bit. On the way back up, stop at the skin behind the backside of her knee, and lightly stroke around there with your fingertips. The sensations of this combination will surely ignite her fire of sexual desire.

Another effective move for increasing her desire for sex is to place both of your hands on the sides of one of her legs, just above the top of her knee (while it is still in the bent position). Next, make slow circular motions while you run your hands down her thigh. As your movements get closer to her vagina, let the fingertips of your hand on the inner side of thigh lightly graze the outer lips of her vagina. Do this a few times up and down on each thigh area of both her legs. It will drive her absolutely crazy with desire!

By the time you get to this point of your massage, your lover should be very ripe when it comes to her level or sexual arousal and desire for sex!

Do Aphrodisiacs Really Work?

By loveandsex

Aphrodisiac products have quite the reputation – for both working and not working. Many people swear by them to get their libido going, while others have tried hundreds that haven’t worked for them. So what’s the real deal about aphrodisiac stuff? Is it worth it?

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What Is An Aphrodisiac?

Aphrodisiacs are foods, scents or herbs that claim to have the ability to make a man or woman more aroused. The idea behind this is that someone can eat, smell or consume certain things and their sex drive will increase – as in, they’ll suddenly start thinking about sex and nothing but sex. Many aphrodisiacs claim not only to boost sex drive, but also to make it feel better and produce faster, harder and more pleasurable orgasms.

Some foods that can be considered aphrodisiacs are avocados and oysters, while the smell of pumpkin pie or lavender is said to be a huge aphrodisiac for men. Yohimbe bark and horny goat weed are some of the popular aphrodisiac herbs and are found in many sexual supplements.

The Placebo Effect

This is where things get really hairy, because it’s actually impossible to tell if many aphrodisiacs really work or if what is really happening is the placebo effect.

What Is The Placebo Effect?

Studies have shown that in some cases, a placebo medication will work just as well as the actual medication. What happens here is if the person is convinced they’re taking something that will be effective, it will be, simply because the brain is a powerful enough tool that it can control the body.

So basically, the placebo effect plays a significant role in assessing whether aphrodisiacs are effective or not, because if someone really believes that aphrodisiacs work, they’ll most likely get positive results whether the actual product did the trick or the person’s mind did.

Is An Aphrodisiac Really Effective?

The answer to this question is a big, resounding “Maybe!” It’s impossible to tell which aphrodisiacs are truly effective on the body and which ones aren’t due to the placebo effect. Some aphrodisiacs will increase blood flow (which in turn, increases blood flow to the vagina or penis), so people who use them may notice real, tangible effects on their bodies.

The most fun thing about trying different aphrodisiacs is trying them! Experimenting with different foods, scents and herbs that have the potential to light your sex life on fire is fun in and of itself and may just spice up your sexy time without the help of the actual products. When you play with aphrodisiacs, you’re likely going to find some that are effective and some that aren’t – and that’s the way it goes.

How To Try Them

If you really want to start “testing” out aphrodisiacs, you’ll want to follow a few simple suggestions.

Don’t try more than one at a time. If you’re testing them and one or more of them work, you won’t be able to isolate which one it was.
Consider keeping notes about which ones are effective and which ones are not. If you’ve only tried a few of them, it may be easy enough to remember that avocados don’t do much for you but the scent of lavender really does. If you’re trying a bunch, keeping notes can help you remember which ones to try next and which ones to avoid.
Keep track of which aphrodisiacs are for men and which are for women. For example, lavender and pumpkin pie smells don’t do much for the ladies, but are said to really rev a guy’s libido up. If you’re using something that is “aimed” towards women and you’re a guy, it’s probably not going to be very effective unless the placebo effect is super powerful.
Be VERY aware of what you’re consuming. Do not consume products that have not been verified as safe, and if you have any health issues such as heart problems, diabetes or other issues, discuss with your doctor what is okay for you to take and what isn’t.

Does It Really Matter, Anyways?

Think about it this way – does it really matter if an aphrodisiac works because it actually is effective or whether it was the placebo effect? Because at the end of the day, you’re turned on, whether it was the product or your brain that did it.

So make a point to have fun with aphrodisiacs and don’t stress too much about whether they work or not. Focus on relaxing, having a good time and don’t put too much pressure on yourself or your partner to perform – because that will backfire and you will likely not be having sex at all that night.

Kissing For The First Time – What To Expect

By loveandsex

Kissing someone you’ve never been with can be kind of nerve wracking. Here’s what to think about when kissing for the first (but hopefully not last) time.

The first kiss can nerve racking for any relationship. If you have been out with a girl a couple of times, you might be wondering when you should go into for the kiss. Kissing has the ability to overshadow the entire relationship if it’s not done properly the first time. Most guys do not understand how important the first kiss for a woman. That first kiss will determine whether or not she wants to kiss you again so make sure that you’re doing it properly and in the right setting. If you’re completely clueless about when to go in for the first kiss, here a quick guide to get you through to the next round.

Pay Attention To Your Hygiene

Although this should be fairly common knowledge, some guys do not learn. A great trick for any dinner date is to have a pre-pasted toothbrush. These come with the toothpaste embedded on the bristles. It’s packaged in plastic and can fit in any suit jacket or pants pocket. Excuse yourself at the end of the dinner and go to the bathroom. Open the packaged toothbrush and brush your teeth. This will get all of the food out of your mouth. These toothbrushes are disposable so chuck it when you’re done. Even though you will have fresh breath, pop a mint or some gum. Having a rank mouth is not the best route to go for when kissing. More than likely, she’s be doing the same thing in the ladies room.

Make Sure You Have Privacy

Privacy is one of the biggest factors in the first kiss. Yes, we’ve all seen it in the movies: that big first kiss on the street after a great date. Life isn’t a movie. There are a few exceptions to the rule. The street is one of them. After the date, you can kiss her for the first time in the street, but make sure that it’s an intimate setting. If people are walking by you every five seconds and it’s noisy, kissing is not encouraged. Wait until you have her in a more intimate location before you go in for the kiss. Bars, clubs and other public places are not recommended.

Know When To Concede

There isn’t always going to be a full moon in the background. There isn’t always going to be the romance. Know when you shouldn’t go in for the kiss. The right moment is the right moment and you will know. If she wants to kiss you, she’s going to make it pretty apparent. If she doesn’t want to kiss you, she’s also going to make it pretty apparent. Trying to kiss her when she’s obviously not into could ruin the entire night or the budding relationship. Know when to concede and hope for the best on the next date.

Be Relaxed

One of the biggest turnoffs is being nervous or fidgety when you are kissing for the first time. Knowing what to do with your hands can make this a little easier. If she wants you to kiss her, put your hands on her hips and guide her body into you. If you are feeling a little daring, put your hands on her neck. Don’t choke her, but keep your hands a little firm. Brush her hair out of her face if you’re putting your hands on her neck. If you’re keeping your hands on her waist, bring them the small of her back as you’re kissing to pull her in closer.

Don’t Get Too Touchy

A lot of guys will use the first kiss as a way to get that first touch of the ass or breasts. Cease all inclinations of getting anything other than the kiss. Kissing is about kissing, nothing else. Keep your hands steady while you’re kissing. If she wants you to feel more, she’ll let you know.

Go Slow

Kissing is about passion. Passion is about taking your time. Taking your time means that you need to be slow. Don’t stab her with your face. Go slow and make sure that you’re not rushing anything. Move your lips slowly as you kiss her. If you’re rubbing her back while kissing, make sure that your hands are moving slowly. Go at half the pace that you would normally go. This can be intoxicating to a woman.

The first kiss can be a very memorable experience with the right girl. But if you don’t wait or respect her privacy, you could be ruining any possibility of a future. Following these guidelines will help at bat for the next date and any date after.

6 Lap Dance Techniques That Will Make Your Man SWEAT!

By serenapaige

A lap dance can be one of the most erotic actions that a girlfriend or wife gives her partner. Watching a woman dance in scantily clad clothing with eye contact could be enough to invigorate an otherwise boring sexual escapade. Lap dances build anticipation and allow you to tease your guy. When you tease him you can bring him to edge making the hour following the striptease as equally exciting. If you’ve never given a striptease before, there are a few things that you will need to know beforehand. Read on to discover the moves needed to give your guy a lap dance he’ll never forget.

1. The Ambiance

The ambiance of the room is going to determine how well your lap dance plays. Have you ever noticed that strip clubs have low lighting? This is to set the mood for the room. You want the room to be just as sexual as you are about to be. Lower the lights and have some music ready. If you don’t have dimmer switches in your bedroom, use a think blouse or shirt to cover the lampshade on your nightstand. This is an easy way to bring the lighting down on the cheap. Music is essential for your lap dance. Find a song that has a slow beat. Electronica works really well, but it has to be slow. If the music is too fast it won’t as hypnotic.

2. The Circle Grind

The circle grind is a great way to start off your lap dance. Turn on the music and stand about 2 feet away from your guy. Your feet should be about 3 feet apart and you’re going to arch your back. Use your hips to grind in a circle in front of him. After a couple of seconds, start to bend your knees. Remember to keep the arch in your back. This will push your breasts forward and can slim your stomach. Go down as far as you can and then come back up slowly. Always be slow with your movements. This move will put a smile on your guy’s face for sure.

3. Turning

You don’t just want your guy to see your front. A lap dance allows you to show your curvature and your back. When you’re turning, you need to do it gradually. Again, slow is the key. Some women like to turn to the left, some like to turn to the right. This is your choice. Whatever your feel most comfortable with will be sexier to your guy. Keep the circle grind as you turn.

4. Ass Slap

The ass slap is a staple of lap dances. This used from about 2 feet away and shows your partner everything that you’re working with. The basic concept is easy. Spread your legs after you turn and bend down with the beat of the music. Make sure that you do this slowly. Once you can touch the floor, slap your ass a little bit. This can be very flirty and your guy will love it.

5. The Lap

The lap dance is called a lap dance because eventually you need to get near his lap. Dance you way over to him slowly and get between his legs. Get as close to him as possible and then turn your back to him. Lower your butt to his lap until you feel him under you. Rest your hands on his knees and grind against his penis with your ass. You should start to feel him getting hard. Don’t pummel him or you’ll ruin the moment. Go soft and slowly with the music.

6. Show Your Breasts

Turn around from the lap dance and get on top of him. Rest your hands on his shoulders to show dominance. This should frame him with your body so he feels pinned down a little bit. Brush your nipples against his chest as you grind down on his crotch. Bring your breasts up and brush them against his lips. This will drive him crazy. If he tries to kiss them or suck on them, pull them back. This will leave him wanting more.

Giving your guy a lap dance that he will never forget is not a difficult task. You can easily do it by following these moves. You don’t have to be a professional stripper to give your guy a lap dance, but some basic information can help you make your guy forget about any other woman. Remember to be playful and flirty. Overt grabs at his crotch can make the lap dance seem cheap. Teasing him can be one of the best pieces of foreplay in your sexual arsenal.

How A Girl Sizes You Up (And How To Work It To Your Advantage)

By deancortez

For seduction to work, you must understand the way a woman looks at you first. Put your best foot forward and the seduction can begin right away! So let’s talk about “regular” beautiful women for a moment—the ones who aren’t doing stripteases for a living.

Beautiful women, who are constantly being hit on, are naturally going to put up barriers when they get the sense that a guy is sexually interested in them. (This is sometimes referred to as a “bitch shield.”)

What Happens When You Start A Conversation With A Hot Girl

So when a random guy tries to start a conversation with a hot chick, one of two things will happen:

If she is completely uninterested in the guy, she will ignore him or blow him off as soon as possible. (“Nice to meet you, but I need to go find my friends…”)
If she’s having fun talking to the guy, or finds him interesting or attractive in some way, she will begin to screen him. She will use certain questions and behaviors to elicit responses from him. The manner in which he responds will allow her to form a judgment of him: is this a guy she can picture herself having sex with (or dating), or does he lack the qualities that she is screening him for?

(If so, she might continue talking to him out of politeness, and even give her phone number if he requests it, but there’s no way she’s ever going to have sex with him. She’s already made up her mind about that.)

Your goal, then, is to control the conversation so that you don’t give women the chance to start screening you. You want to “turn the tables” so that you are the one screening them.

How To Get To Where YOU Are “Screening” HER

Remember this—because it applies in and out of the strip clubs. The main things a woman “screens” you for are your status and value. If she senses that your status and value are lower than hers, she knows she doesn’t stand to gain anything by being with you. So she won’t be interested.

If she feels that your status and value are higher than hers, she’ll want to keep talking to you—and she’ll begin to feel attraction, if you push the right buttons.

This has nothing to do with how much money you’ve got, or what kind of car you drive. There are much more important ways in which any guy can demonstrate status and value.

For example, if you give a stripper (or any girl, for that matter) the impression that you know other people at the club, and you’re familiar with her profession and how the whole “game” works, you’re conveying a higher status than the typical customer.

If you tease her during the conversation (instead of trying to kiss her ass) and qualify her (which means you say things that indicate you’re not so impressed by her, and want to find out if she measures up to your standards), you’re also showing status.

Give her VALUE

Providing value means she can tell she will gain something, or improve her situation, by hanging out with you. (In a strip club, a guy’s “value” normally means what he’s carrying in his wallet—but you’re going to attract women by different means, and in a more powerful way.)

Bringing value can be as simple as making her laugh and feel relaxed with you. Other ways of providing value include getting her to share her ambitions and goals (strippers always have some other “plan” for their lives), and encouraging her to go after that goal.

You want women to feel that if they spend time with you, you’re going to make their lives fuller and more exciting, and you’re going to help them grow and better themselves. That’s super-valuable stuff.