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Striptease Tips: How To Give Him A Lap Dance He Won’t EVER Forget!

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A striptease can be a super hot gift to give to your guy. Men are almost solely visual creatures and by taking advantage of this, you can really kick your sex life up a notch and get your fella lusting after you like never before. Learn how to give him a lap dance that he will think about for a LONG time!

Song Choice

Song choice is actually very important when it comes to doing a striptease. You want to choose a song that sounds sexy and makes you think of sex as soon as you hear it, but also one that has a beat that works well with your current dancing skills. If the beat is too fast and you’re not experienced at the art of lap dance, you’re going to look funny doing it. Similarly, if you choose something too slow, you may end up feeling awkward when you end up with several pauses during the striptease. Listen to several songs before you make your selection, and make sure it’s a song that makes you feel sexy. If it doesn’t, you won’t look sexy doing it.

Outfit Choice

Although you’ll definitely be taking your clothes off (it’s a striptease, duh), your outfit choice for the lap dance is also important. You want to choose lingerie that looks good on you, no matter what body type you have. Accentuate the parts of your body that you and your man love (like a killer rack if you’ve got one) and hide the parts you’re shy about – a camisole teddy can hide your tummy if that’s your trouble area, or a pair of sexy stiletto “F-Me” boots will draw his attention away from your thighs.

You may think that perfecting your moves is more important than your outfit choice when it comes to giving a lap dance, but quite the opposite is true. You could actually have quite awkward moves, but if you’re wearing something that looks just right on you and accentuates the good and hides the flaws, you’re going to look a hell of a lot less like you’re dancing like a chicken with your head cut off. Your outfit also plays into your confidence – if you KNOW you look downright delectable, you’re going to feel that way. And you’re moves will be sexier during your striptease without you even having to try.

Watch YouTube Videos

There are a ton of YouTube videos that will show you how to do a striptease or a lap dance and actually watching what to do can be a lot more helpful than reading about standing “X” amount of centimeters from your guy and doing clockwise and counterclockwise hip grinds at a 90 degree angle. A lap dance shouldn’t be that technical! So do a little searching on YouTube and watch how other girls are doing it. You may find some striptease videos made by professionals, but you’ll find a lot more lap dance videos just made by girls who want to show off the goods. Don’t immediately discount these videos! Sure, you may just be watching some chick get her striptease on for her webcam, but some of those girls have some pretty killer moves. Just sayin’.

Practice! (And Consider Recording Yourself Or At Least Watching In A Mirror)

If your beau is away from the home at all, take advantage of ANY time you have alone to practice your moves. Practice makes perfect, and you’ll feel a LOT more comfortable doing a lap dance if you’ve done it by yourself several times first. It may feel awkward to dance for no one, but if you do your striptease for the very first time in front of your partner, you’re going to have way too much pressure on you – and it will most likely turn out to be a big FLOP.

Practice in front of the mirror, so you can actually see what you’re doing. Perhaps a particular move you do looks fab, but you just need to tighten your abs a little bit during that move to take it to the next level and make yourself look even hotter – or maybe you feel great doing a particular move, but it doesn’t translate well when you’re actually watching it. You would never know these things if you didn’t watch your own striptease! Professional exotic dancers do it all the time, and you need to as well. Consider filming yourself too and playing it back. The more you practice your lap dance, the more comfortable you’ll get doing it – and the HOTTER you’ll look when you actually DO it for your lover. If you have enough time to practice and perfect your striptease, your beau will be COMPLETELY surprised at how much you look and act like a PRO!

Grab Your Junk

Don’t be afraid to grab your breasts and squeeze or jiggle them, smack your own ass or even let your hand slip beneath your panties. Touch yourself the way you want him to touch you – but just like in a strip club, he’s not allowed to touch you. Inform him that the rules of the “club” are that the dancers are never to be touched, so he must only watch. Then, grab your own stuff, manhandle yourself, smack your ass, lick your own nipples (if you can) and drive him CRAZY by doing to yourself everything he wishes he could do to you! This is especially helpful if the actual “dancing” part is something you’re not that great at.

Have Confidence

More so than any “move” or “technique” you could do during a striptease, your confidence is what will make your man’s jaw drop. In a line of girls, you could be the WORST dancer, but if you’re confident enough to show off your stuff, you’re going to look way better than the girls who can actually dance but are too chicken to make eye contact. Besides, you’re not going to be dancing in front of your guy with a bunch of other girls. He’s going to be watching YOU and you only.

Make him feel like you’ve got eyes only for him by looking deep into his eyes as you touch your body. Strut your stuff! You’ve practiced, you’re wearing a killer outfit (you probably should do hair and makeup too – some guys dig a dolled up gal and some don’t, but often doing hair and makeup will make you feel even more like a bombshell) and the song you picked just oozes sex. Get it girl, and don’t stop until his eyes look like they’re going to pop out of his head!

6 “Innocent” Dirty Talk Phrases That Will Make Her Weak In The Knees

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Dirty talk is an excellent way to get your lover turned on and ready to take you all in. Use these six “demure” dirty talk suggestions during foreplay tonight!

“I Love How Wet You Are”

If she’s already wet, this dirty talk phrase will make her even wetter. A lot of women are self-conscious about being too wet – especially women who are able to ejaculate during orgasm. You’re probably thinking, “Yeah, right – that’s totally hot!” However, she may feel differently about it. Many women are self-conscious about their vaginal secretions, and they may even think that their ejaculate is urine and be embarrassed about it.

Let her know that you think that her wetness is arousing to you – tell her how hot it makes you when she soaks the sheets! This will make her feel sexy for letting go – which actually increases the chances of her squirting when she has an orgasm.

“It Feels So Good To Be Inside You”

She wants to know that her vagina feels good to you. She wants to know that she’s tight and that you love being inside her. Tell her how good her vagina feels against your penis! If you’re a little dirty talk shy, this can even be shortened to “You feel so good!” This should be a real, guttural response and it is best used when you first penetrate her. You can also use eye contact as you’re saying this (and as you’re penetrating her) to give it the maximum effect. Don’t be surprised when she wraps her legs around you and pulls you in deeper, gasping with pleasure!

“Wow, You Really Know How To Do That!”

Women put a lot of work into giving a great blowjob, handjob or whatever else skill your girl has mastered. If she’s halfway decent at giving head, commend her on her great skills! The same goes if she has just given you a handjob that rivals your own masturbatory skills.

Not only will this make her feel really great about what she’s doing to you, it will make her want to do it that much better. An added bonus is that she will automatically think that means she’s better at whatever she’s doing than every other girl you’ve been with – which works out great for you because you can make her feel that way without actually coming out and saying it (and possibly fibbing a little).

“I Don’t Want This To Stop”

Use dirty talk to make her feel like you want to be with her all night long. Of course, don’t use this phrase if you plan on having a quickie or are the kind of guy that gets yours and gets off. Telling her that you don’t want to stop must be accompanied by a long night of sensual lovemaking, where each step – from kissing to foreplay to oral sex to penetration – is elongated and more drawn out. Not only will she hear that you never want this night to end, she’ll feel it as you take your sweet time with each and every move you make.

“I’ve Never Been This Hard Before!”

Again, this makes your girl feel like she’s the best sex you’ve ever had – not only that, but that she’s also better than what you can give yourself (okay, maybe you are fibbing this time). Either way, this phrase calls attention to your erection (which she’s totally excited to have given you) and makes her feel like she’s turned you on more than anyone ever has before!

Don’t be surprised if after you use this dirty talk phrase that all she wants to do is lavish your penis with attention by giving you a slow, sensual blowjob!

“I Want To Eat You All Night”

So many guys make girls feel like going down on them is a chore. A lot of girls walk away from getting oral sex feeling like their partner didn’t like it, it was gross to him or he just wished it was over so he could get his orgasm and go to sleep. Don’t be that guy! Make her feel like licking her clitoris turns you on just as much as it turns her on!

This is another one of those things that you want to reserve for when you actually do want to go all night. She’s going to feel jipped if you say that and go down on her for ten seconds! So tell her you want to eat her all night and then actually do. Go slow, like it’s the most delicious thing you’ve ever tasted before!

How To Flirt Once You’ve Got Her To Go Home With You

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To flirt is easy at a club, but how do you flirt when the girl you like is finally at your house? Here are several good ways to flirt intimately!

Different types and amounts of flirting are acceptable in different circumstances. The flirting you do around groups of people is much different than flirtatious acts around only one woman.

In isolated settings such as your place or her place, the rules change and you’re allowed to be more sexually flirtatious. Before we explore this type of intimate flirting, you must first understand how to successfully get there.

Touch Her!

Touching a woman is a great way to build trust. If you continue to go on dates and don’t even affectionately touch a woman’s arm, at some point it becomes harder and more awkward later on.

If you haven’t hugged, kissed or touched reasonable places such as her arm or hand, then you’ll have trouble making her feel comfortable in an intimate setting because she hasn’t felt any physical contact from you before.

If you watch a couple interacting from a distance, you can usually tell how close they are just by how far apart they stand. Most women only feel comfortable with men entering their personal space when they know them to a certain degree.

To ensure a woman will be comfortable when she’s having a date at your place, here’s a guideline for what flirtatious physical contact you can possibly do.

Create The Flirtatious Mood

The flirtatious mood incorporates the same flirting used during previous dates. This involves being playful, fun, teasing and confident. Here are some examples of fun things you can do in a secluded setting.

1. Bed Push

While the two of you are talking on your bed/couch subtly move over while performing a yawn or stretch to move her closer to the edge. Once she realizes what you are doing, she’ll try to move her way back on. Whether you decide to slowly push her completely onto the floor is your choice. Depending on the size of your bed/couch and whether this action can be done harmlessly or not is up to you.

2. Bed Hog

When she tries to get back on the bed/couch or even if she’s already lying with you roll over taking up most of the space. As she realizes you’re taking over she’ll try and win her share back. If she asks for you to move back onto your side you can say, “What’s in it for me?” or “Na, what are you talking about? I’m not taking up any room at all.” Be smiley and sarcastic when you say this comment, creating an “I’m hard-to-get vibe.”

3. Soft Tickle

If she’s comfortable lying next to you and being close, you should be able to tickle her gently to get a positive reaction. Tickling her hips, waist, feet or armpits work best. If she’s not ticklish or you don’t have the right touch to make her giggle, say something like, “I’m not trying to tickle you, really I’m not.” This saves you from looking like you’ve failed at tickling.

4. Pillow Fight

To increase the excitement, grab your pillow and start whacking her softly with it. If she joins in and gets more aggressive, turn up the pace but don’t use all your strength. If you’re looking for a great way to transition into a pillow fight throw your pillow at her when she’s across the room or on the bed with you. If she doesn’t throw it back tell her to throw it back. If she still doesn’t throw it back, get off the bed, grab the pillow, and throw it at her again. Eventually she’ll join in.

3 Things To Do With Her Clothes During Sex

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Sex tips will definitely spice things up in the bedroom – check out these three simple but super hot ways you can play with your lover’s skivvies during sex!

1. Involve Her Clothes In The Sex

Don’t immediately dismiss them to the floor. It’s not just about the beauty that awaits to be unveiled, it’s also about the beauty of unveiling it. Get the drift?

Run your hands on her clothes, barely touching them. You’re not touching her body, but her apparel. This in itself brings pleasure as you grope through the varied textures & cuts of a woman’s couture. In a way, it’s a good thing she spends half her day choosing the perfect outfit. Sensitize your palms to the feel of cotton, linen, silk and other fabrics. And even when she’s wearing the plainest top and those classic denim jeans, run your hands through. Feel the friction. Doesn’t that feel nice?

Imagine what it will be like for her. She’ll be in a limbo with this hovering hand technique. It feels like you’re touching her, but then again she can’t really be sure. It’s like you’re touching her aura. It’s exciting, but not too intense. (Watch as her breathing gradually quickens.)

After hovering around, gradually apply more pressure and touch her body THROUGH her clothes. Now she can really feel you, she now knows what it means to be held and touched by a man. You’ve set her up so she’ll appreciate and welcome the warmth of your touch.

2.  Spice It Up! Work It!

Being a dull mouse and simply going through the motions of getting your girl naked is a waste of erotic potential.

Add carnal appeal to the proceedings and combine everything you’ve learned so far into a potent & powerful sexual tool. Talk dirty, unleash those naughty looks as you slowly release her body from the restrictions that are her garments. Don’t act all mundane. You might have seen her naked a million times, and it might actually be no big deal, but it doesn’t mean you should take it for granted. Make her feel wanted by lightly kissing the patches of skin you uncover.

And as you strip yourself – put some feeling into it! Nobody cares what ridiculous blob lies beneath your “I’m with Stupid” T-shirt, take it off with erotic appeal – there’s absolutely nothing sexier than confidence.

3. Pause Every Now And Then

Cease your hostilities with fabric and get busy with simpler stuff like kissing. Sometimes it’s good to back-off for a moment, leave her half-naked and recognize that she’s sexiest when she’s ALMOST BARE. There’s that tension again of being naked, but not quite. Of almost being there, but not yet.

Dig up all the sexy calendars you’ve collected over the years. Most ladies in there are not totally naked, they are almost naked, or perhaps covering chest and crotch with their oh-so-lucky palms. Feel the tension this creates. She lets you see the rest of her, but the parts you want the most, she leaves to your imagination. She doesn’t give it all away, always making you want more.

Perfect sexual tension. It’s not always about censorship.

Pause every now and then. Get an eyeful, (but without looking overly impressed.) Notice how incredibly sexy a woman with bare breasts in denim jeans can be. Leave those on and do something else. Caress her face or play with her hair. Don’t worry, those jeans will unzip themselves later.

4 Things Guys Say To Get You Into Bed

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Seduction is something many fellas are skilled at because many of them just want one thing and one thing only – sex. Be aware of these seduction techniques!

There is no shortage of guys trying to get women to go to bed with them. If you have ever experienced the seduction techniques of a guy trying to get you into bed, and almost every woman has, then you are probably familiar with some of the methodology. Although you might think that you’re well versed in this subject, there are a few staples that almost every guy uses to try to get laid. Here are the top 4 things that guys say to get you into bed.

1. “Let’s Watch A Movie”

It doesn’t matter if you are at a bar or hanging around your house in sweatpants, if you ever get a call from a guy asking you to come watch a movie, he’s probably trying to get you into bed. On the offhand occasion that you actually meet a guy that is a film buff or a nice guy that knew you wanted to see a particular movie, you might want to accept, but remember to keep your guard up.

One of the best moves is to get you over to his place and then make some kind of excuse as to why the movie has to be watched in his room other than in the living room. This is usually because of a roommate situation or because the better TV is in his room, etc. For the most part, watching a movie doesn’t mean watching a movie. It means sex.

2. “Let’s Go Out For A Drink”

Ever get this call? “Hey! Just seeing what you’re up to. I wanted to know if you would like to meet up for a drink tonight.” This is a classic move. He’s not asking you out for dinner. He’s not asking you out for rock climbing. He’s not even asking you out for ice cream.

He’s asking you out for “a” drink, which probably means several drinks to loosen you up. When a guy calls you and asks if you want to go out for a drink, he’s not really interested in getting to know you or interested in following the traditions of courtship. He’s looking for a fast track into your pants. Don’t fall for the “Let’s Get A Drink” gag.

3. “Let’s Go Somewhere Else”

Number 2 actually leads us to Number 3, the technique known as “The Bounce Back.” The Bounce Back is a staple among the pick up artist community. This typically involves meeting a girl in a bar, club, grocery store or any other public forum. The guy will get to know you a little and then ask you to go somewhere else with him. This could be a restaurant, another bar or club, an art gallery or essentially anywhere else that is not the place you are currently at.

The theory behind it is that with each change of venue, you feel more comfortable with him. The more comfortable with him, the more likely you will have sex with him. The worst thing about this technique is that it works and it works really well. If you have met a guy in a bar or out for a drink, be weary of going to a new place with him. He might just be trying to get you into the sack.

4. “Let’s Hang Out”

This is a tried and true method of seduction. It’s a calm and ambiguous way of simply getting together. This is fairly similar to the movie idea, but it is less planned. The guy will probably not have any activity planned other than getting you over to his house.

When a guy asks you to hang out, make sure that he has something planned. One of the easiest ways to get around this is for the guy to say something along the lines of “Well, just come on over and we’ll figure something out.” If he says this to you, you might want to just hang up the phone right then and there.

If the guy is really interested in you, he will want to impress you. Impressing you doesn’t involve getting you over to his house a romp in the sheets. Avoid the “Let’s Hang Out” and you will be avoiding heartbreak in the long run.

Recognizing these 4 seduction methods will keep you out of trouble. A guy that is not going to follow tradition is not somebody that you want to be with. Make it a point to be on the lookout for any of these techniques and your life will be free of pick up artists and players alike.