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Are YOU A Good Lover? Find Out NOW!

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Better sex is completely reliant on you. Making the same mistakes that so many other men make is not going to help you. Learning how to separate yourself from the rest will give you the confidence you need when pleasing a woman. Here are some ways that you can immediately improve yourself in bed.

Don’t Put Too Much Focus On Intercourse

Being a great lover you is about being able to please a woman. It’s all about her orgasm first. You must be able to bring her to climax before you. Then she’s going to want to bring you to climax and the sex is going to be that much better.

Too many men focus on the intercourse. They’re all about being good in the intercourse part, you know, good in the dynamic part of sex. A lot of men spend too much time researching sexual positions: how to flip a woman over and how to do it from behind and what the best missionary positions are.

And that’s all great. Understanding all the different positions and different moves and how to stimulate the g-spot are all fantastic. These are all things that you need to know to be a dynamic lover.

It’s All About Mindset

If you haven’t figured out by now, life is 100% mindset. When a man meets a woman for the very first time and there’s sexual energy between the two of them, it’s not just about what you’re going to do with them physically, it’s all about the foreplay ahead of time that really drives a woman wild and actually drives the man wild too.

When you’ve got a lot of mental foreplay with somebody, it opens up a whole new world of sexuality. A lot of men and women don’t understand the art of talking dirty, or how important it is to really bring somebody to orgasm. But more important, a lot of men don’t realize the emotional connection that women need to have. Because men tend to think with their little head, and women, well, they have a little head too, but their little head is so small they don’t really think with it.

Use Her Emotion

In order to massage a woman, in order to get her to really open up sexually to you, you need to be able to understand the way that she is wired emotionally. I’ve said so many times that women are like giant a giant clitoris. If you go in for the kill right away, they’re basically going to be shut down.

You’ve got to learn how to open them up. You got to learn how to really become a dynamic lover, because that is what they’re looking for. It’s like licking an ice cream cone. Spend the time to savor each and every drop.

Becoming the most dynamic lover is not just about physical. It’s about understanding her emotional core for then seduction and teasing her. Learn how to control your mindset, learn how to influence hers, and you’re already on your way to becoming the best lover possible.

Flirt Like An Alpha Male And Attract Women TODAY!

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Flirting and communicating with women, requires you first understand the fundamentals of attraction. Without this knowledge, the flirting formula and techniques you are about to learn won’t have any significant meaning to you. So spend some time now understanding these very core concepts to use natural seduction with women.

Use Sexual Evolution To Your Advantage

Have you ever wondered why men and women choose their particular partners? Women “say” they want men who are sweet, generous and caring – but rarely do they date this type of man.

Women stereotypically date football players, arrogant jerks and the “rebel without a cause” type. But to explain why this is so, we must first understand our instincts and how they influence our sex drive. After we understand that, everything else becomes clear.

Since the beginning of time men and women have carried out unique and completely different roles within their communities. In many primate species, 20 percent of the males mate with 80 percent of the females to make sure that the strongest genes survive. These male monkeys are also known as alpha males.

Survival Of The Fittest

This principle guarantees that only the strongest males pass on their superior genes, guaranteeing that the species continues to prosper, and to develop stronger and healthier offspring. This is why Mother Nature favors strong males, and is the reason “the hungry don’t get fed.”

So wouldn’t it be logical that you would want to display the attributes women are looking for in order to convince them that you would benefit their offspring?

A woman won’t find a man desirable because he wears nice clothes or has good looks. How would a well-dressed, handsome man benefit their offspring? When you think about it, attraction is a process that tricks a man and a woman into liking each other long enough for them to have sex.

Use Historical Perspectives

Back in primitive times the basic roles of men and women were as follows:

  • Men did the hunting, protecting and providing
  • Women did the nurturing, caring and raising of children

If men were the providers, and women were the child bearers, what differences would you expect of them?

Being the protectors, providers and hunters, men needed bigger bodies that were capable of quick bursts of energy to help them catch their prey, build shelters and protect their families from predators.

Being the nurturers and caretakers, women needed broader hips, breasts to feed their young, and slightly higher fat stores in their bodies to ensure their unborn children could survive harsh environments.

Mother Nature (or God, or however you view how life began) created men and women to be biologically and physically different and this helped to make them instinctively desire each other, and ultimately grow the population. Knowing these differences can help you become an alpha male that naturally attracts women.

The Do’s And Don’ts Of Stripper Seduction

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A stripper is not like any other woman. Before I get into some correct techniques to use when talking to a stripper, let me emphasize that over 90% of the guys in these clubs take a totally backwards approach—and make stupid mistakes that you must avoid. As with all aspects of stripper seduction, you want to make sure you NEVER behave like the typical customer. Here are the do’s and don’ts of talking to a stripper!

The typical customer, like the average guy in a bar trying to talk to an attractive woman, broadcasts his interest right away. Right up front, he makes it obvious that he’s into her.

What You Don’t Want To Do

  • Tell the stripper how beautiful/hot/sexy she is.
  • Use the right body language.
  • Ask her predictable questions (“So how long have you worked here?” “How are you tonight?” “So where are you from, originally?”, etc.) No guy asks these questions unless he’s interested, right?
  • Offer to buy a dance or a drink right away.
  • Ask  her if she has a boyfriend (this question is pointless; if she does, she’ll never admit it because it would spoil the fantasy. Plus, it’s another indicator that you’re interested).
  • Maintain eye contact throughout the conversation.
  • Put your hands on her.

Use The Power Conversation

This means that everything you say, and every question you ask, should have a purpose behind it. I also want to stress the importance of going into these conversations with the right attitude. The most powerful way to separate yourself in her mind from all the other customers is to take the attitude that she must impress you. You are the one conducting the “interview.”

Your vibe should be congruent with this attitude. There are plenty of beautiful women in this place, and you’re somebody in here; you want to make her feel she needs to prove she is special if you’re going to grant her your time, get to know her, and buy her a drink. If you do this correctly, you should easily be able to get a first date.

So right from the beginning, I’ll start using Qualifying Questions and Statements to turn the tables. I’m sending the message that I’m curious to know more about her, because she’s someone I might be interested, but just as I’m not a typical customer. I’m not interested in “typical strippers.” She’ll need to show to me that she’s more than a pair of boobs with no brain.

Things You DO Want To Do

  • Try to get an authentic response from her. Every woman has (or likes to believe she has) something special about her that most guys would never guess. If she deflects this move, or tries to make a joke out of it, probe a bit deeper.
  • Tell her, “seriously, Melissa, I get the sense that you’re a pretty deep, interesting person. Guys make all kinds of assumptions about dancers, but I bet you’re a completely different person outside of this club. Am I right?”
  • Act confident and enthusiastic about the details she shares with you. If you’ve got things in common, point it out, and prompt her to keep sharing.
  • Control the flow. Keep moving it forward. Don’t get stuck on one topic and wind up searching for things to say, to fill dead space. Move on to something totally unrelated and keep things interesting.

How To Establish A Connection With A Stripper

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A stripper is the ultimate goal of any true Mack. When you are trying to gain the affection of a stripper, it is essential to establish a connection early on. Here is a short tutorial on how you can instantly separate yourself from the other guys in the club with little effort.

Make Eye Contact With Here First

Make eye contact with her before she starts to come over to your table. Give her a smile and a nod. As soon as she sees this she will start to come over to you. If she’s dancing onstage when you notice her, you can make eye contact and give her a subtle hand wave to indicate you want her to come join you when she gets offstage. Normally, dancers will alternate between sitting with customers and dancing onstage for a few songs.

Offer Her A Seat At Your Table

When she comes over to you, offer her a seat at your table. Do this before she tries to sit down on your lap. It’s always important for you to separate yourself, in her mind, from the endless parade of regular customers she encounters at the club. The other guys love the opportunity to get her on their laps, and start putting their hands on her.

A suave guy gives the impression that he already gets all the attention he can handle from females; he certainly doesn’t need to visit a strip club in order to get his hands on a woman. He knows that when he starts flirting with a woman she will be his.

Control The Conversational Flow

From this point, your goal is to control the flow of the conversation. Just as you’re not going to allow her to go into her routine, and start asking you questions, you’re not going to follow the typical customer routine and ask her stupid questions.

Listen to the average customer trying to “converse” with a stripper, and you’ll probably hear him ask her questions like these:

•    “So how long have you danced here?”

•    “Do you enjoy working here?”

•    “What’s it like working here?”

•    “Do your family/friends know you work here?”

She Won’t Date A Customer

Skip this pointless small talk and start talking about things that are completely unrelated to her work. This is a powerful way to frame yourself as an original, confident guy, rather than as a customer.

Remember, dancers don’t bang “customers.”

They all have a hang-up about this: dating a customer, in their eyes of their co-workers and management, could be interpreted as prostitution (or just plain slutty behavior). You want her to view you as a cool, confident guy who does none of the things that customers do, and therefore she sees you as a romantic/sexual option. You want to be an alpha male who is going to get her attention quickly.

Go On A “Mini-Date”

Earlier, I mentioned how the best place to sit is near a speaker. This is because it  gives you a reason to tell her, “let’s move somewhere quieter, I want to be able to hear you.”

This shows you value what she has to say, and gives it the feel like a  “mini date:” you’re controlling the flow and taking her somewhere else to have this interaction, even if it’s just to the other side of the room.

If, when you get up to move locations, she suggests a trip to the VIP room (where the dances are way more expensive), use this joke: “No thanks, I’m too tired to dance for you tonight.” Then take her hand and lead her over to a more secluded seating area.

Take Action And Make It Happen

Macks are leaders with confidence. Macks take control of the flow and the tempo all conversations. One way to establish this early on is to take her by the hand, and bring her over to a quieter location.

As a Mack, you’ll take an “under the radar” approach that never shows your interest in her. You give her the impression that you’re a guy with high standards who is difficult to impress, but you think she might be a pretty cool chick, so you’re willing to talk to her and get to know her.

10 Steps To Have A Stripper Threesome

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A stripper is more sexually adventurous than most women. They like to get it on in all kinds of freaky ways!  Therefore, they are more likely to have a threesome with you.  But how do you get there?

1. Two Ways To Get Started

You can do this one of two ways – try to get two women to experiment that you met that night – OR get your regular girlfriend in on it.

2. Keep Your Game Tight

As for the two new women you just met – it could happen, but your game has to be TIGHT. If you get them a little drunk and playful, that helps. Just don’t let them keep playing with each other unless you’re involved. You want to be telling them what to do and asserting your dominance over them in a playful way.

If they’re REALLY into it, and you know they’re not going to have some freak-out because they’re leaving the bar, you need to get them home. I don’t suggest even trying to get her out of the club until after 1:00AM or so. If she feels like she’s ‘missing something’ at the bar, or with her friends, she won’t go.

3. Invent An “After-Party” At Your Place

You need a reason to get them to your place (or even one of theirs) that doesn’t “break her state of mind.” And you don’t want to make it obvious that this is why you’re leaving – to have a threesome. The reason needs to be MORE FUN.

You’ve got booze, you’ve got music, you’ve got a big couch with pillows, and you’ve got something they all have to see. Maybe it’s a huge lava lamp. Maybe it’s a movie where you were an extra. Maybe it’s your pictures from Australia. Just have something mega-cool to go see. This is the excuse they need.

Don’t ask them, either. TELL THEM. And start by telling one chick that the OTHER chick wants to go, and vice-versa. “Donna says she wants to go have some more fun, because this place is starting to get lame. C’mon.”

4. Have Your House Ready First

When you get them to your house, you make sure the lights are down, that funky light is on, the music goes on, and the drinks come out right away. I’m not going into how to setup your house here, bro, but you need to have all the clocks hidden, and the house neat and smelling good. This is stuff you should know by now.

5. Play A Game

You need to get them back to the same flirtatious feelings you were having in the bar, so I always pull out a game or something to mess with. I’ve got cards, dominoes, a Ouija board, dice, all in one drawer.

6. How To Get Your Girlfriend In On It

If you get your regular girlfriend in on it, make sure you’ve talked about her past and if she’s had one before. If NEITHER of you has had a threesome, you got something to discuss. She’ll get jealous, and you’re going to have a weird time. Get it straight FIRST. Then the rest will be easy for you. Just let her take the lead.

7. Introduce Erotic Massage

Start with a “massage circle” where everyone massages in a line, you in the middle. Then get them to massage on each other. From there it’s EASY to get them to start doing an erotic massage on each other.

8. Use The “Kiss Test”

Do the “kiss test” where you kiss one of the chicks and pull away. You say: “Hmm. Not bad. Let me try her…” Then you kiss the other chick. After that, you say: “Not bad, either. Here, you try her.” Then you gently pull the first girl over to the girl you just kissed and let them go at it.

9. Let It Roll

Once they get started, everything takes care of itself. Just make sure you start in the right place so you don’t have to move from the kitchen to the bedroom, or the hallway to the bedroom.

10. Don’t Push Them Too Far Too Fast

A threesome should happen at the girl’s pace. If you start seeing one of the women getting weird (you’ll see it in her eyes, where she looks, how much she’s looking down, etc.) you need to go back to making her comfortable and loosened up. She has to feel safe and protected in this zone. Which means you have to be willing to back off BEFORE she starts to put the brakes on for you.

This is important! If you miss these moments when a woman is getting all weird, and SHE ends up stopping you, then you probably will never get it back to where it was before.

If you focus on their enjoyment and make it about them, you can score the threesome. If it’s only about you, you’ll scare them off.