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2 Orgasmic Blowjob Sex Games That She Will Love!

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A blowjob is something lots of girls don’t like to give – but with these orgasmic sex games, she won’t mind giving a blowjob (or two or three) to you at all!

“Do You Want Me To Do You?”

Step 1:

Set a timer for 5 minutes and have her lay on the bed.

Say to her “For the next 5 minutes I will do whatever you want me to do to you.” (Note: Some women will panic at being given control like that. Make some suggestions. “I can massage you. I can touch you all over. I can kiss you all over. I can finger you.”)

When my girlfriend and I play this game she usually asks me to spend time sucking her breasts or focusing on something that I (I’m a horny dude and have a tendency to want to get in there and get to business) don’t usually take the time to do long enough when we’re having sex.

Whatever she asks you to do DO IT. In fact, do it with GUSTO. Let her know you’re ENJOYING giving her pleasure.

The great thing about this game is that it takes all the pressure off of her to perform or to do anything to you. She can just relax and enjoy what you’re doing to her. It creates a great sense of gratitude and reciprocity. (Taking penetration off the table can actually do wonders for your sex life in general, by the way.)

Step 2:

SWITCH!

After the five minute timer is up, ask her if she enjoyed that. Look her in the eyes and kiss her. Then ask her if she wants to switch places. She’ll probably say yes, but if she doesn’t, just go with it. Remember, this is a marathon, not a sprint.

If she does say yes (she probably will) DO NOT jump the gun and ask her to give you head. In fact, don’t ask her to do anything overtly “sexual” at all.

Whatever it is, make it something SENSUAL instead of sexual. Bringing her mouth into things is a GOOD idea at this point, but you need to make sure you’re not rushing to oral sex.

By telling her NOT to touch her cock (do it with a smile, not a bark. She needs to know she won’t be punished if she does) you free her up to make the DECISION to touch your cock or give you blowjob on her own. Expectations suck. Remove them and great things happen.

OK, that note wasn’t quick at all, but it was really important.)

“Do You Want Me To Do You? – REVERSE”

Reverse the rules.

Game two is essentially the same thing with reversed rules. Have her lay down on the bed. Say, “OK, now I’m going to spend 5 minutes doing whatever I want to do to you.”

It’s important not to act predatory or weird here. If you have some fetish she’s NOT into, this isn’t the time to bring it up. This isn’t a dom/slave thing or anything like that. Instead pick something you really DO want to do to her for 5 minutes, tell her what it is and stick to it.

The first time you do this you probably want to keep it pretty basic. Touch her all over. Give her a massage. Feed her your fingers. Massage her butt. (Butt massages turn women into jello, by the way.)

WORSHIP HER BODY. Make her feel like the sexiest woman in the world. Show her how much you adore her and even TELL her how much you adore her while you’re doing it. If she gives you signals that she really wants you to touch her clitoris while you’re doing this, go ahead and do it. But make sure it’s her idea.

NOTE: SHE GETS VETO POWER. If she stops you from doing something RESPECT HER. After you’ve worked on her for 5 minutes (the timer is important) reverse things again. Lay down and say, OK, now you get to do whatever you want to me for five minutes.

Ask her what she wants to do and let her TAKE CHARGE and be in control. Your only job is to LAY there. Keep your damn hands at your side. Only move if she tells you to move. She’s in charge and you’re there for her to do what she pleases to.

From experience I can tell you that if you’ve seeded the idea of a blowjob being a positive thing in her mind she may well take the initiative here.

5 Sex Games To Play When You’re Bored

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Sex games are great way to not only improve your sex life and intimacy but to also sure a common problem of boredom around the home. Many couples find that six games can be an excellent way to pass the time on rainy weekends or as a way to break up the monotony during the week.

If you would like to increase the intimacy in your relationship while also spicing up your sex life, these sex games are the cure you have been looking for. Here are 5 that you and your partner will love when you’re bored.

1. Meeting For The First Time

If you have ever had a one night stand you know the excitement that comes with meeting a new person. Building of the sexual tension between the two of you and not really knowing the other person can be a powerful aphrodisiac. If you’re looking for great sex game to play meeting for the first time can help you live out a fantasy of meeting your partner in a whole new light. Pick a local bar that you can meet each other at.

Have your partner dress-up and go to the bar at a specific time. Meet your partner at the bar and pretend that you’re both meeting each other for the first time. Try to pick up your partner and take her back to your place. Reenacting this one night stand scenario is an excellent way to live out fantasies that you have never explored before.

2. Power Control

Power control is a great game for couples who like to mix up the dominance in the bedroom. Get an egg timer and set it to 3 minutes. Determined which partner is going to be dominant first. Allow the egg timer to start and that partner will be the dominant one until the timer has reached the three minutes.

Once the timer has reached the three minutes, the dominance will shift to the other partner. Reset the timer each time. See how long each of you can last under this power struggle game. If you or your partner has an affinity for being the dominant or the submissive one in the bedroom, you will definitely find that this game will bring you out of your comfort zone.

3. Blindfold

The blindfold was made for sex. In this game, you or your partner will be blindfolded on the bed. They have to keep the blindfold on the entire time. The other partner must tease and caress their partner while the other doesn’t know what to expect next. This is a great game that you can play with each other and it incorporates trust and intimacy into the relationship. One of the features of this game is that it relies on the element of surprise and anticipation. The only rule to the game is that you can’t peek.

4. Master/Slave

It’s not the most original game, it’s a staple for a reason. The master slave relationship is usually found in the BDSM scene, but you can use a much more light version of the game for your regular romps in the bedroom. One of your is the master and the other is the slave. You can choose whether or not to blindfold, tie up or do anything else you deem appropriate to the slave. The slave must abide by all of your rules at all times.

If you are the master, make sure that you’re not pushing the limits on what your partner is going to feel comfortable with. The last thing that you want is for them to break character instead of being completely enticed with your sexual dominance.

5. Strip Poker

Strip poker has been seen in movies, TV shows and in the adult industry for a reason: it’s fun! Try your hand at strip poker with your wife or husband to really get a prize for winning. If your partner does not know how to play poker, teach them. Each time they lose a hand, they lose a piece of clothing.

If you really want to make things interesting, each of you can also bet sexual favors. For instance, you can bet a blowjob or an erotic massage on the hand instead of clothing. This is one of the best games to play on a rainy night or on a weekend getaway. Make sure that you have a proper deck of cards so there is no cheating and so neither of you has an unfair advantage over the other.

Discover The 3rd Element Of Sex That Will TWIST It Up! (Hint: It’s NOT Another Woman!)

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Sex games are a great way to add spice and fire to your sex life. Use role play, food, sex toys and more to change things up and reignite the passion TONIGHT!

If you want to bring back the fire in your rapidly dwindling sexual relationship, you need to bring this third wheel to bed. When you have this third “member” in your bedroom, the sexual possibilities become so logistically incredible that you can have the balls to say that you never have the same sex twice. It will always be new, it will always be fresh – even though you’re with that same old fart. The third aspect will always make it beautiful for you.

So, what is it?

It’s The “Twist” To Regular Sex!

It’s the imaginative element you introduce to the daily grind that spices up sexual encounters. You’re still the same, she’s still the same, it’s the twist and how you two interact with it that makes your sessions an event worthy of the name sexcapades.

It not only adds another source of pleasure, it distracts the couple from the sameness that is their love-making by focusing their attention not on that-same-set-of-breasts but on something else. The twist provides the avenue for novelty in spite having the same sexual partner – which comes in handy for people in long-term, committed relationships.

Ways To Change It Up

This aspect can be about anything. Let’s say the couple decides to make the change in location. That is, they never have sex in the same place or that they make sure they’ve done it in every corner of their house, or every bathroom/floor in the building. Or they vow to do it in every branch of a famous hotel chain around the country. Some retirees plan their trips so they make love in every state in the US.

Another example would be the time change, which is replete with many variations. A couple could set their timer for 5-minutes, during which they could do anything they want. But after the 5-minute mark, they have to drop everything – no matter how orgasmic it is. It’s a quickie with a time limit! Or they can dare set personal records for the fastest quickies.

A couple may also decide on different intervals before they can bump uglies. For example, they can set a 3-day interval for sex – regardless if they get horny or not – making them look forward to the day they can have it. (The interval can be increased or decreased as the couple sees fit, or they can write different intervals on sheets of paper, throw them in a hat and draw one.)

Adding music also presents many variations. A couple can change their background tunes on a weekly or monthly basis, knowing full well that the beat to which they make-love will affect the love-making itself. Sex accompanied with Beethoven symphonies will be different from that with Jamaican groove.

The Only Limit Is Your Imagination

As you can see, there is no limit to the elements one can introduce. And the change in focus from the partner to the third aspect of sex doesn’t negatively affect the relationship since the twist is not a 120 lb. blonde who lives next door.

In fact, quite the opposite happens, the excitement brought about by the eroticism of a mutually endorsed twist rubs on the partner and strengthens the bond. There’s that feeling of being partners in crime, a certain “we-ness” developed because “we” are doing something others are not.

The third aspect of sex can truly be anything – anything at all. It need not take you to different locations and can be as simple as: running different types of fabric on each other’s bodies while blindfolded. It’s deceptively simple, but when you actually try it, it’s as if you’re in a different world.

Go with themes, topics and variations that interest you. The process of coming up with the creative twist is in itself a very challenging and exciting affair, making for warm and playful coffee table conversations. If you can engage your woman and dial-up her anticipation and desire for it, you’ll have someone who’ll never let you out of sight.

3 Role Play Sex Games That Will Make Your Valentine’s Day UNFORGETTABLE!

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Valentine’s Day is an excellent time to have some out of the ordinary fun. Most couples like to try something new and a little different when February 14th rolls around, so if you want to spice things up, here are some exciting role play sex games that will make this year absolutely memorable.

Lonely Man On A Business Trip

This is an excellent role play for Valentine’s Day because it is a fantasy that allows you to get really creative if you want. Just imagine your partner is a lonely business man out on work related travel. He’s depressed and all by himself on Valentine’s Day with no one to talk to.

You can play this scenario out a lot of ways. Have an “affair” while he is out of town on business and his wife is at home. Be the sexy maid that stops by his room to give it a clean, only to find him undressed and alone. Use your imagination! Here are some great ways to give this fantasy a sexy spin.

  • Book a hotel room
  • Wear an outfit that works for the part you’re playing (for example, a sexy maid’s costume)
  • Nice champagne over ice

Sexy Stripper

You really can’t go wrong by playing the part of a stripper on Valentine’s Day and giving your lover a sexy striptease to get him turned on. Even if this idea seems played out to you, it most certainly is NOT played out to your man. Men can watch the same girl do the same striptease over and over again and STILL get excited. Why do you think strip clubs are so popular? Here are some things to consider if you want to make your striptease as fun and exciting as it can be.

  • Pick a good song that you’re comfortable with
  • Practice! You’ll be no good if the first time you dance is on him
  • Consider taking lessons
  • Get an outfit that he’s never seen before – one that not only looks great, but feels great on
  • Have confidence! He’s going to love it no matter what you do or how good you are

Teacher/Student

This is another super fun sex game you and your partner can play on Valentine’s Day. Even if you’ve done this one before, the subject is so broad that you can literally do teacher/student ten times and never do it the same way twice. So don’t count this one out!

This is a fun fantasy to play out, no matter which way you do it – whether you’re the teacher and he’s the student, or the other way around. If you decide to go with playing the part of the teacher while your partner plays the part of the student, you can really take it to a whole new level.

If you’re the teacher, use this as an opportunity to get your lover to try a few things that they wouldn’t normally try. Now you don’t want to go too far out of the box here, but make sure you do teach them a few new things. Because it’s a game, they’ll be more inclined to try some activities that they ordinarily wouldn’t go for, as long as they’re only slightly outside your partner’s comfort zone and not way out there in bestiality and whatnot. Here are some ways to make the teacher/student sex fantasy even more fun!

  • Dress the part. Again, costumes are a great way to really up the immersion factor when doing a role play.
  • If you’re into domination or submission, you can also consider “punishing” the naughty student. This can be exceptionally fun if you’re teaching your lover how to do something very, very naughty.

When experimenting with role play for Valentine’s Day, whether you’ve done it before or are just trying it out for the first time, remember that the most important thing is creativity. Even if you can’t afford to book a hotel room or splurge on costumes, it’s your attitude that is the most important thing of all.

While it’s nice to keep a sense of humor about the whole thing, you’re not going to enjoy it as much if you and your partner think it’s so silly you’re laughing your asses off. So use your imagination and be creative as you can, but make sure you’re taking it seriously enough that you and your partner actually get into it. Remember to relax and have fun, because that’s what it’s all about! Having fun!

How To Get A Girl To Do A Striptease For You

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A striptease is something every guy wants from their lover – but how do you get your woman to do it? These striptease suggestions will get your lady to dance.

Men are drawn to women who take their clothes off slowly. If you don’t believe me, take a trip to your local strip club and watch the dollars come flying out of their wallets. If you’re in a relationship and you only have eyes for your girlfriend or wife, a striptease can be a very sexy way to spice things up in the bedroom.

Watching her dance slowly as her clothing starts to fall to the ground can be erotic and make her feel sexy. But how do you get your girlfriend or wife to do a lap dance for you? It’s actually easier than you think. Here are a few suggestions to get you started.

Make Her Feel Sexy

Is your girlfriend or wife comfortable with her sexuality? Does she masturbate when you’re not around? Can she have an orgasm with you? If your girlfriend or wife is cold about sex, she might not be into doing a striptease for you. On the other hand, this might be a way for her to gain some of her sexuality back. Women want to feel sexy. Ask her if she’s up for it. If your girlfriend is highly sexual it might just take a few hints to get her to do a striptease for you.

Tell Her You Think It Would Be Hot

If your girlfriend or wife likes to experiment in the bedroom then this could be a next step in kink. Get some good music and tell her that it would be really sexy the next time that you’re horny. By telling her that you think it would be hot you convey confidence in her ability to turn you on.

This confidence should transfer to her and she could be more likely to do a striptease for you. Although the relationship is not all about your needs, your partner should be willing to try something that might make you happy.

Offer To Pay For Pole Dancing Classes

Made famous by Carmen Electra, pole-dancing classes have become a popular way for women to regain their sexuality and stay in shape at the same time. Consider paying for some dancing classes for your wife or girlfriend. One reason that she might not want to do a striptease for you is embarrassment or not having enough confidence. Going to a class geared toward the right moves can get her started in the right direction. While you might not have a pole in your home, she can get the gist of sexualizing her dances.

Take Her To A Strip Club

All right, this one might be a little out there, but some girls really thrive on the environment a strip club offers. Women can appreciate the body of another woman without feeling intimidating. This isn’t the same for men.

Take your girlfriend or wife to a strip club and tell her that you would love to see her doing the moves. Not only will this shower her some tips for when she’s doing a striptease for you, the whole evening can be sexualized. Get her to put a dollar down the girl’s G-string for a little added fun.

Buy Her A Video

If your partner is at all bashful about taking a class or going to a strip club, she could learn how to do a striptease for you right from her own living room. There are a ton of videos on the market that specialize in teaching women how to dance with sexuality. Taking their clothes off slowly and using their body as a tool to get you turned on is a skill that must be learned.

Look into some products that will help her get the basics and show her suggestions along the way. If you don’t like some of the dances that the videos are teaching her, tell her about it. Don’t make a big deal out of it, just say something like “I like when you do this much more.”

The body of woman is something that can make men melt like butter. With low lighting, the right music and the right lingerie, women can bring their men to the edge within a few minutes. If you would like to get your girlfriend or wife to do a striptease for you, you should ease her into it.

Being honest about your desires is essential to having a healthy and happy relationship. This interest is something that she will want to explore if she really does care about what gets you going. Don’t put any pressure on her if she doesn’t want to do it. Just let her know that you are confident in her ability to give you the best striptease you have ever had.