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Sex Games: 12 Nights Of Passion

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Sex games can be as easy or as complicated as you want them to be. There are those where you just whip out a sex game board and be done with it in a few minutes – nothing wrong with that! – but there are also those that take some time in its execution.

Your sex life should never be a routine. That’s why it’s important to engage in BOTH simple and more complex sex games. One benefit of the latter is that the longer you delay actual lovemaking, the hotter you guys are by that time!

This sex game is designed for super extended foreplay. The goal is to reach the 12th night without having intercourse, making the 12th night one of intense lovemaking. Here’s a sample outline you can use.

1. Romantic Dinner

Have a romantic dinner either at home or at a fancy restaurant. While dining, play footsie and/or indulge in a little bit of groping underneath the table.

2. Cuddling

Sprinkle red roses in bed, light some candles and play some soft music, and then just cuddle each other till you sleep.

3. Play Strip Poker

Play strip poker and once all your or your partner’s clothes are off, engage in a little dry rubbing, but that’s it! Don’t engage in having sex.

4. “Silent Dirty Words”

Play “silent dirty words.” Get a pen and blank sheet of paper each. Write a dirty word or phrase on the piece of paper, tear it off and hand it to your lover. Your lover reads it and then drops it in a bowl. Now it’s her turn to write another dirty word or phrase and hand it off to you. Do not talk in between this exercise.

Just write, show the words and that’s it. The ‘loser’ is the one who runs out of dirty words first. (You will notice that at the end of this exercise, you guys have just collected a bowl of dirty phrases you can use for a future game!) After the game has ended, laugh it off, have a bowl of ice cream or something and go to bed.

5. Play Naked Twister

Play sexy twister. Take out the twister mat or board and play a traditional game of Twister – naked.

6. Oral Sex

It’s the sixth day, give yourselves a little bit of reprieve by engaging in some hot oral sex. You can bring each other to a climax but do NOT engage in intercourse.

7. Leave Your Porn Out

“Accidentally” leave out some adult-rated reading material for your lover to see and glance over. Make sure the erotica is hot enough to really bring about lust in your partner. When she asks you about it, feign innocence!

8. Sexual Massage

Give each other a sexual massage. Be naughty and daring but do not engage in lovemaking. You can engage in oral pleasure but not to the point of bringing on a climax.

9. Have Phone Sex

Give your partner a call at an odd hour of the day, say 2 PM or whenever she least expects it, and engage in some phone sex. Don’t go too far; just get each other excited. After that, say you probably dialed the wrong number and hang up, or change your voice to ‘normal’ and simply say “love you honey, see you tonight for dinner” and then hang up.

10. Read Online Erotica Together

Go online together tonight and preview a few adult-rated literotica.

11. Sexting

Send naughty messages to your lover all throughout the day! Send a sex joke via SMS, email a long and dirty joke, and others. By the time you see each other tonight, pretend like nothing happened!

12. Make Amateur Porn

Shoot a short erotic video of yourself. Don’t go all the way. Instead, at the end of the video, look into the camera and tell your lover where you should meet tonight. It can be a hotel room, motel room or your own bedroom but fancily dressed up. The minute your lover enters the location you indicated on the video, do not engage in foreplay whatsoever! After all these days, your pent up feelings will be enough for one of the hottest moments of your life!

This sex game is designed to bring about so many things in your relationship. It’s a sex game of creativity and control. But its real goal is to make each day one of heightened sexual pleasure and longing for each other. Can you imagine how you guys will come together by the 12th night after all that waiting and sexual highs and lows?!? Give this extended sex game a try and be sure to do it more than once a year!

Bondage 101: How To Get Started With Bondage

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Bondage can be fun, but how do you begin if you’ve never tried it before? It’s easy to get intimidated when you start checking it out, because there is some seriously hardcore stuff out there. But don’t think you have to go overboard right away – in fact, bondage is better when you start slowly and work your way up. Check out these great tips for BDSM beginners!

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Beginner’s Bondage Kits

No, you don’t have to go out and buy yards and yards of heavy duty rope to begin with a little BDSM. Lots of companies make excellent beginner’s bondage kits that have everything you need to get it on. While there’s probably some stuff you could use at home such as a spatula for spanking or a silk tie as a rope or a blindfold, a kit is going to be a lot more fun – and a lot sexier. What is great about the beginner’s kits is that they’re pretty softcore, so they’re really not going to scare anyone off.

Our Recommendations:

Fetish Fantasy Series Beginner’s Bondage Set

Comes with 4 velvety soft cuffs with silky ties, a feather tickler, 2 romantic candles and a satiny smooth blindfold so your partner doesn’t know what you’re going to do next!

Fetish Fantasy Series Pleasure Bondage Set

This one also includes soft ankle and wrist cuffs, but the cuffs can be connected using a sturdy O-ring. An inflatable pillow and a silky blindfold come with, but those who want to get a little freakier will enjoy the soft, breathable gag.

Play Sex Games

Playing sex games with your partner can be a lot of fun, and it can not only lead you and your lover to a night of intense passion, it can also teach you more about what you and your partner like in bed. Sex doesn’t always have to be serious, and that’s why playing a game can be so much fun – it lets you remember that sex is all about having fun, laughing and enjoying your partner. Go on a sexy scavenger hunt or play a game of titillating truth or dare. You’ll be amazed at how much you can discover about yourself and your lover when you play sex games together.

Our Recommendations:

Cosmo’s Steamy Sex Games

Straight from the sexperts from Cosmopolitan comes 118 super fun cards that will spark your imagination with tons of sexy new ideas for things you can do together.

3 Deck Sex Pack

Get three decks of sexy card games and never run out of ideas for new and exciting things you can do with your lover. Included are card games Sex, Porn and Naked! Compete to see who owns the most porn or the classic-but-always-fun strip poker.

Bondage At Home

There are definitely some things at home that you can use for BDSM, but many of them aren’t recommended. It’s much better to use things that are made for what you’re doing (such as lube instead of spit), and even though it’s a little more expensive, getting great, high quality sex toys that you can use over and over again is well worth the investment. Nevertheless, here are some things you can use at home:

  • A silk tie can function as a blindfold or hand/feet restraints
  • A spatula can make a great paddle
  • A feather duster (wash it first!) makes a neat tickler

How To Know When To Stop

When you really start getting into BDSM, role play and domination and submission, the word “stop” doesn’t always mean stop. When you’re getting into kinky sex, it’s so important to have something called a “safe word.” A safe word functions as the word “stop,” meaning that if the safe word is used, all activity stops immediately.

Before you and your partner get it on, agree on a safe word to use. Make sure that it’s not something that you would normally call out during sex play, and words like “no” or “stop” aren’t going to work. Try something like “purple pony” or “turkey sandwich” so there’s no mistaking that the play needs to cease immediately if the word is used. Always honor the safe word, even if you think that everything is fine and nobody is getting hurt. Part of having a great time with BDSM and kink is to be able to completely trust and let go with your partner – so make sure that if the safe word is used, you cool it right away.

Sex Games: How To Develop An Alter Ego For Sexy Roleplay

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Sex games can be a lot of fun and they can definitely help spice up your sex life. If your sex life is in a rut, you can use role play and sex games to bring the spark back between you and your lover. Role play allows you to let go of your public persona and inhibitions, while taking on a fun, sexy persona. In the bedroom, you can be whoever you want to be! Here’s how you can let your inner vixen out with some sexy role play!

Domination Vs. Submission

Very few people enjoy both domination and submission, so it’s safe to say you generally like one or the other. Now, domination and submission doesn’t always involve BDSM or sex escapades that are really out there. You can definitely experiment with dominant and submissive roles in the bedroom without getting too crazy.

Are You A Dominant Personality?

Think about what turns you on – do you like being in a position of power over your partner? Do you like to tell your partner what to do to you? If so, you may have a dominant personality. If you know you have a little bit of a dominant personality, take it a step further in the bedroom and really bring out your alter ego. No, you don’t have to bring out the whips and chains. Here are some easy ways to experiment with domination without going too far.

  • Order your partner around. Have them do sexy things for you or to you.
  • Try light spanking. Tell your partner that they’ve been “naughty” and need reprimanding.
  • Experiment with a little bondage. A silk tie makes a great blindfold or impromptu handcuffs. You don’t have to bring out the heavy duty rope to have a little fun with tying your partner up or taking away their sense of sight.

Are You A Submissive Personality?

If the idea of being dominant over your partner just doesn’t do it for you, but the idea of them being a little dominant over you intrigues you, you may be more of a submissive personality. Think about receiving a spanking from your lover or having your lover tell you what to do to them. Does it turn you on? If the idea sparks some interest but you’ve never tried it before, here are some ways to start to bring out your submissive personality.

  • Tell your partner that you’ve been very, very “bad” and need to be reprimanded. See if they catch your drift.
  • Let your partner gently tie your hands behind your back while they tease you, leaving you helpless to stop what they’re doing to you.
  • Get on your hands and knees in front of your partner. Crawl towards him slowly before unzipping his pants for a blowjob.
  • Let your partner use sex toys on you. This can be even more fun with a blindfold because you’re not sure what they’re going to use next!

Playing Pretend

You may think that playing pretend is for kids, but you can turn it into sex games to make it a more adult activity. Think about different roles that would work with your inner personality. For example:

Fun Role Play For A Dominant Personality

  • Have your partner be a “dog” while you be the owner. This is a great role to use when you want your partner to perform oral sex on you.
  • Act out a teacher/student fantasy. Give your partner a test and then tell them that they failed it and you need to “tutor” them on how to do it correctly.
  • Be a dirty cop. “Arrest” your partner for a crime and keep them hostage until they “earn” their way to freedom.
  • Try being a sexy nurse. Have your partner assume the role of a wounded patient that needs your immediate “medical” attention.
  • Capitalize on the recent craze in vampires and approach your partner wearing a pair of sexy fangs. Let them know you’re not out to suck their blood though – and you can prove it by showing them what you do want to suck on!

Fun Role Play For A Submissive Personality

  • Act as a French maid, or a maid of any kind. Clean up after your partner, or “serve” them sexually.
  • Try adopting the personality of a “school girl.” This can be with or without an outfit, but an outfit will make you look and feel more submissive to your lover in this role.
  • Look for a Princess Leia slave costume and act out the role with your partner. Surprisingly, a ton of guys – especially Star Wars fans – dig this sex fantasy.
  • Have your partner act out the part of a sexy firefighter that rescues you from a burning building or from being trapped in a car.
  • Don an Indian girl costume and have your partner assume the role of “John Smith.”
  • Be Little Red Riding Hood while your partner acts as  the wolf – and completely takes you over.

Bring In Costumes

While you may feel a little shy about wearing a sexy costume, but even just a few props can make the role play feel more realistic and be a lot more fun! Even home made costumes can really make a difference! Consider getting a few things to make your role play more fun, such as a red cloak to be Little Red Riding Hood or a sexy police costume to act out the role of a dirty cop. If you can’t get your hands on an adult costume, here are some easy things you can grab from your house and turn into a sexy prop:

  • A white dress shirt can be tied at the waist and paired with a skirt for a “sexy school girl” outfit.
  • A bikini with a few silk ivy leaves glued to it can easily make a sexy “Eve” costume for an Adam and Eve role play.
  • A cut up sheet can suffice as a Pocahontas or Indian outfit.
  • Check out thrift stores in your area – you’ll be surprised at what you can find if you use your imagination!

6 Valentine’s Day Sex Games That Don’t Break The Bank

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Valentine’s Day is all about having fun and spending time with your significant other – in the bedroom, of course! Instead of taking your partner out for dinner and a movie, try these sizzling sex games to ramp up your sex life and turn up the heat between you and your lover. These sex games prove that you don’t have to spend a lot of money to have super hot sex with your partner on Valentine’s Day – or any other day for that matter!

Cosmo’s Steamy Sex Games Kit

Cosmopolitan – a popular love and sex magazine – has created a one of a kind sex games kit that includes several different games to play with your partner on Valentine’s Day (or whichever day you choose). Try a sexy scavenger hunt, dirty truth or dare, daring dice or sexy tarot cards. There are literally a dozen different games to choose from, so you and your lover definitely won’t get bored any time soon. Printed on super colorful cards, for $10, Cosmo’s Steamy Sex Games Kit is something you just can’t pass up.

Pros: Inexpensive and you can use it over and over again

Cons: You’ll want to use it on more than just Valentine’s Day – but is that really a con?

Oral Sex Dice

Dice may seem played out when it comes to sex games, but Adam & Eve’s Oral Sex Dice will still help you turn up the heat in the bedroom with just a flick of your wrist this Valentine’s Day. Instead of just heading south of the border to give your partner some oral sex, throw these dice around and see where else you can put your mouth and tongue to titillate your lover. Great for couples or even threesomes or foursomes, they’re a super cheap (only $6!) way to make oral sex even steamier than before.

Pros: Super cheap way to spice up oral sex with your lover

Cons: These can only take you so far before you’ve exhausted all of the different options

Sex! Card Game

Another great yet inexpensive card style sex game can help you and your partner ramp up your sex life and get you both hungry for more. The Sex! Card Game focuses mostly on sex positions, but is color coded according to foreplay ideas, scorching hot sex positions and much more in between. Play fun games like Fortune Teller, Lover’s Libido or Ultimate Fantasy! Again, just $10 gets you the deck of cards and a night full of unlimited passion!

Pros: Inexpensive card games are an easy way to light the fire under your sexual imagination on Valentine’s Day

Cons: There really are a lot of card style sex games out there, isn’t there?

Silver Beaded Rope And Whip

Take your bondage fantasies to the next level with a gorgeous silver beaded rope and whip kit this Valentine’s Day. For only $20, you get the super fun silver beaded rope (which is great for experimenting with restraint in dozens of different sex positions), a matching whip to tease and titillate your partner, and a free love mask to blindfold your lover with and have your way with them. For the price, this is a really pretty kit that will be a great addition to your collection of sex toys.

Pros: A pretty beaded rope and sexy love mask may entice even the most conservative folks

Cons: The price is a little steep if you’re trying to go the cheap route

Sex Casino Game

For a totally different “spin” on sex games, try the Sex Casino Game from Adam & Eve. This cute little game clocks in at just $20 and includes a spinner, dice, sexual favor betting chips, scratch-off lotto tickets and a manual with 25 different sex games to try in the bedroom. You and your partner definitely won’t get bored with the Sex Casino Game, because there are so many different things to try. You’ll have fun staying up late and spinning, rolling and scratching to see who gets the biggest orgasm!

Pros: Different things to try all night long

Cons: Some of the items in this sex games kit are one time use only

Oral Sex Essentials Kit

Who doesn’t want a blowjob on Valentine’s Day? Make it hotter with the Oral Sex Essentials Kit, which includes desensitizing spray for deep throating, flavored lubes for both him and her, and BJ Blast Oral Sex Candy that pops and sizzles like Pop Rocks! At $15, you’re getting everything you need for an oral sex-fest that will make your partner squirm.

Pros: Lots of different items to try to see which you like best

Cons: If you want more stuff for her, try the Good Head Kit For Her too

Top 5 Best Sex Toys For Valentine’s Day

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Sex toys are a great gift for Valentine’s Day – they let your partner know that you want to do naughty things with them all night long! Picking the best one for your partner (or for both of you) doesn’t have to be hard – in fact, shopping for them can be as much fun as the sex itself! You and your lover can shop together or you can pick a special gift out for her to use alone or with you. Here are the top 5 best Valentine’s Day sex toys – choose one or more for a night full of passion and explosive orgasms!

Ben Wa Balls

Ben Wa balls make an excellent Valentine’s Day gift because it is something that will not only titillate you and your partner tonight, they can help make your sex life better in the long run too. Ben Wa balls are small ball-shaped sex toys that are inserted into the vagina and held there. This will exercise the kegel muscles (the muscles used to stop the flow of urine). They can enhance g-spot orgasms during oral sex and will help tighten a woman’s vaginal muscles for more powerful orgasms. With regular use, Ben Wa balls can make sex feel like the first time all over again! The weighted spheres are inexpensive and can be made out of a variety of different materials including glass or silicone. Some are available with vibration to make the experience extra special!

Glass Sex Toys

Glass sex toys and are beautiful works of art in their own right – and they make excellent Valentine’s day gifts for your lover to use alone or for you to use together as a couple. Many glass pieces don’t even look like sex toys at all – they could be easily mistaken for a gorgeous glass sculpture or a paperweight. Only you and your partner will know what it’s really being used for! The best part of using a glass piece is that it holds temperature really well. If you want to experiment with heat and cold during sex, glass is the way to go. They are also very easy to clean and last a long time because the material is hard, smooth and doesn’t break down easily over time.

Prostate Massage

What better day than Valentine’s Day to try something new? If you’ve never tried prostate massage (and you’re a guy) you’re in for a real treat. You have to get over the initial apprehension of anal play, but after you’ve gotten used to it, you can experience wilder, more explosive orgasms than you’ve ever had before. If this is your first time trying prostate massage, start with small anal sex toys and work your way up to the bigger ones. Always make sure that any anal sex toy that you use has a wide, flared base on the bottom (a ring also works well) to prevent it from getting lost in the anal cavity and garnering you a trip to the emergency room. If you’re nervous about trying prostate massage for the first time in front of a partner, try a toy that is easy to use on your own during masturbation. Then work your way up to doing it with your lover.

Sex Swings

Sex swings will allow you to get into tons of different sex positions quickly and easily, making sex this Valentine’s Day super hot! Sex swings allow you or your partner to get into the more difficult sex positions without straining your neck, back or legs and can be used for intercourse, anal sex and oral sex. If you have a lot of space (and a lot of money to spend) try the stand alone love swing – the swing is mounted on a large metal four-legged stand. If you live in a small home or apartment or want to save a little money, try the over-the-door sex swing instead.

Bondage Kits

If you want to try a little bondage, try using a pre-made bondage kit. Usually these come with paddles, fuzzy handcuffs, feather ticklers, blindfolds and the like. Some of them are even made with soft heart shaped paddles and heart pillows, making them a perfect Valentine’s Day gift! Surprise your partner with a bondage kit and tell her that you’re going to tie her up and have her way with her – after she has her way with you! A little light BDSM and bondage can go a long way in making it a night you and your lover are going to remember for a long time to come.