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Cure Premature Ejaculation – 7 Expert Tips For Instant Results

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Premature ejaculation will ruin your sex life if you don’t get a handle on it. Here’s how to get rid of premature ejaculation TONIGHT!

The key to lasting longer in bed doesn’t lie in any pill, cream or special condom. It lies in making a few small changes to the way you have sex. Now as a side-note, each of the tips below will help you last longer in bed, but I recommend you use them all together for MAXIMUM effect.

Urinate Before Sex

A full bladder means you’re putting unnecessary pressure on your genitals. Too much pressure means you’re much more likely to orgasm prematurely. Put a stop to this by getting into the habit of urinating before sex.

Thrust Slow In The Beginning

The first few minutes of sex are when your penis is most sensitive to the feelings of being in the vagina. If you add fast thrusting on top of this already heightened sensitivity then you’re really going to struggle to last long in bed.

Get Some “Pleasure Awareness”

Get into the habit of paying attention to your arousal levels during sex and notice when you’re getting close to orgasm. When you start getting close don’t just keep doing what you’re doing, do something different to lower your arousal levels or else you’ll have no chance of avoiding premature ejaculation.

Get Her To Orgasm First

A big cause of premature ejaculation is the pressure we men put ourselves under to perform. This pressure more often than not converts to premature ejaculation because of the negative effect nervousness has on our body. One dead simple way to get rid of this nervousness is to take away the pressure to perform. You can do this easily by taking more time during foreplay and being sure to give her an orgasm first during foreplay, so that when it comes to sex you won’t feel as much pressure to satisfy her, because you know you already have.

Use Tactical Sex Position Changes

Find you’re getting close to orgasm? Don’t just do nothing, take action. A great way to break up your pleasure temporarily to help you last longer is with a tactical position change. Every time you change positions you get a temporary break from the stimulation of sex. So start using position changes tactically when you need a little break and it won’t arouse any suspicion from her that you can’t last very long.

Use The Woman On Top Sex Position

Want to know a sex position to use to last long in bed? Get her on top of you while you lie on your back. What’s great about this position is that you can fully relax your leg and butt muscles in it. By relaxing these key muscles your body will find it a lot more difficult to orgasm and you’ll be surprised at how much longer you last.

Avoid Watching Too Much Porn

Porn is a terrible source of information when it comes to learning to be a better lover. Never forget that porn is edited and the men in it are probably using techniques to last longer in bed OFF-CAMERA that they won’t show in the footage you see. Wise up to this now and forget about using porn as a guide to last longer, because modelling yourself on the videos you see will only lead to premature ejaculation.

Oral Sex: To Orgasm Or Not To Orgasm

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Oral sex is an excellent way to bring a woman to orgasm before intercourse. But she may not always want that – here’s how to tell.

She May Not Reach Orgasm

Although cunnilingus is quite possibly the easiest and most direct approach to getting your partner to reach orgasm, this may not necessarily happen. Don’t stress! Your partner will still enjoy your efforts a lot. As you become more and more experienced, your ability to bring her to orgasm will likely increase, possibly to the point where she orgasms every time you perform cunnilingus.

This is the part where it is important to pay attention to her sounds and movements as well as discussing with your partner what she likes best during cunnilingus.

Communicating With Her

If you’re not comfortable yet asking her directly about her likes and dislikes, if you pay attention to what she’s doing during cunnilingus you will most likely be able to figure out for yourself which movements bring down the house. Movements and sounds that will alert you to an impending orgasm is bucking and shuddering (particularly her legs) and she may be gasping for air or making a lot of noise or none at all. If you’ve ever given her an orgasm before (whether by cunnilingus or other means), you will more than likely be able to recognize when she is on the verge of a mind-bending big O.

Once you start receiving cues that your partner is feeling really good, continue licking and sucking her vulva in the same manner until her orgasm. You can, of course, do a few variations, but most of the fancy tongue movements are for the beginning when she’s really getting warmed up. Most women, like men, need repetition when they are close to bring them to orgasm.

If you and your partner are comfortable with talking to each other about cunnilingus, this can be of great help to a man. Men function best when given clear, direct instructions and if your partner is willing, she can tell you exactly what she likes, where she likes it and when to do it. In this way, she can take control of her pleasure while still experiencing the wonderful and exhilarating feelings of cunnilingus.

You can help her to be more open to expressing her likes and dislikes through conversation by asking her questions about what feels good. You can say in a hot, breathy voice onto her clitoris “Do you like that?” You will almost always be able to tell by the enthusiasm in her voice whether she truly likes the movements or not. And she may surprise you by just saying no!

Vary Your Techniques

If you sense that she does not like a movement, switch to something else and ask her if she likes that better. If nothing seems to be working, don’t get frustrated! If nothing is feeling good for her, she will be frustrated enough for the both of you! Ask her gently to suggest a movement that she would like more and you can even ask her to demonstrate what she would like on your mouth. Keeping the lines of communication open is essential to her experiencing an orgasm. It is possible that she won’t, however, no matter how hard you try.

If you find yourself in this situation, try to bring her to orgasm using a sure-fire method that you know will work, such as using your fingers or intercourse. You may want to have a list of questions ready to ask though, because she may not be able to give you a blow-by-blow of exactly what she wants. Think of some questions beforehand so you can ask (and be sure to ask her gently) what she would like – all you will need from her is a simple nod or shake of her head! This makes it much easier on her – she may not even know what she wants at this point and suggestions can help her figure out what strokes and techniques she likes the best. Some good questions to ask are:

  • Do you like this speed? Would you like me to go faster or slower? Just a little faster (or slower) or a lot?
  • Would you like me to continue moving or stop moving for just a moment? If you want me to stop, just give me the green light to go again.
  • Is this stroke good? Would you like me to continue using this technique? Let me know if you’d like me to change it up a bit.
  • Would you like harder or softer strokes, or do you like the pressure I am applying right now?
  • If this is not the right spot, I would like you to show me exactly where you would like me to move to.
  • Would you like me to move my tongue around in circles like this, or do you prefer another type of movement?
  • Do you like long tongue strokes or short ones?
  • Would you like me to use a little suction or possibly a little more pressure? Let me know what feels good to you or what would feel better.

She Will Still Enjoy What You’re Doing!

There will be times in which she doesn’t want to have an orgasm at all, but is simply enjoying your efforts. That’s fine, but it is also another reason why communication is so important. If she is not going to experience an orgasm, it is important that she tells you before you become frustrated as well. Don’t react harshly if she does tell you that she is not going to have an orgasm (or you sense that she is not) because you may turn her off cunnilingus entirely or at least for a while.

If you feel that her body wants to have an orgasm but for some reason it is just not happening (even if you’ve tried using your hands or intercourse) give her the freedom to masturbate finish her orgasm for herself. She may want you to watch or she may need privacy. This is, of course, the last resort, but if you find yourself in this situation a time or two, don’t be judgmental about it and just let her get her groove on.

How To Set The Mood For Dirty Talk

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Dirty talk can revamp your sex life like nothing else – but you have to create a great mood first. Here’s how to introduce dirty talk into YOUR bedroom!

Using Your Voice

Dirty talk has to sound sexy. If you say “that feels great” in a very monotone, unexcited voice, then that is not very sexy. Put emotion into your dirty talk. Whispering and breathy comments can be quite sexy. Grunt, moan and make noises – varying the tone and the pitch occasionally so that it does not get monotonous. Scream or shout when you are really into it. Also, you aren’t giving commands like a Colonel or Major to his enlisted men.

The goal here is for both of you to be conveying to each other the passion and intensity of your encounter. It CAN and SHOULD be fun, not work. Imagine the basic tone of a football game. Everyone in the stadium has high expectations but as the game begins, as a sports fan, it starts out slow. We aren’t up off the couch screaming at the players at the top of our lungs from the coin toss.

Start dirty talk slowly – whispers and playful dialogue as you are kissing, and as you are face to face while first getting things warmed up. As the passion heats up you can change the tone and level of your voice to mimic the pace of what is happening in the room. If you’re further apart, or if he’s behind you, you’re going to need to be louder so that mid-stroke someone’s not saying “I’m sorry, honey what did you say??” That’s a sure fire way to break the momentum you have been building.

Another good example is a piece of symphony music. The first notes of the musical composition are not the loudest portions of the piece. The tempo starts out slower, building to the climatic heights in the middle, and then descending at the end.

Imagine your lovemaking as the same. A beautifully written musical form that should keep a pace that reflects the given situation. A lovemaking session where you have a whole night to play and explore would have a different tempo from one where you’re squeezing in a quickie between dinner and taking the kids to soccer practice.

Setting The Mood

Playing some music during dirty talk helps provide background noise that may make it easier so that you won’t feel so self conscious over the sound of your own voice. Some music also has great lyrics that will inspire you to pull them from the song and use them while using dirty talk with your partner. Have you ever known anyone to NOT be turned on while listening to Marvin Gaye, Barry White or Luther Vandross?

Songs like “Let’s Get It On,” “Sexual Healing,” “Got To Give It Up,” “If Only For One Night” and others are romantic, slow, sensual and have very erotic lyrics while providing great inspiration and setting the tone for a romantic night together.

Candles

Candles placed around the bedroom, living room, bathroom or any other room in your house only elevate the feeling of a close, private, safe haven for the two of you to explore each other.

Bubble Bath

Bubble baths are a great way to relax and spend a little more time with foreplay before hitting the sheets. Sitting in the tub together is a great way to start and work up some additional desire. By the time you have washed each others backs and played around in the bubbles, you maybe find yourself never even making it to the bed.

Aromatherapy

Perfumes and bed linen sprays are another way to set the mood for dirty talk in your bedroom. Spritz the pillow cases or the ceiling fan ahead of time so that the room takes on a special scent before it’s time to play. Once you’ve worn a special fragrance during an encounter and your lover smells it on you again, it will take you back to the moments you spent wrapped around each other in the heat of passion.

Wine, Or Your Drink Of Choice

Bring a bottle of wine to bed and poor some slowly into her belly button. Sip it out and then do the same to your partner. Ladies, when he’s going down on you, take a little wine and pour it into a shot glass. Pour it slowly from the top of your mound and it will drip down the inner creases of your thighs – ask him to lick it up. This is an excellent way to put a new twist on oral sex!

3 EXPLOSIVE Tips To Give Your Girl Mind Blowing, Exquisite Orgasm!

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Female orgasm is like the holy grail of sex – but it doesn’t have to be THAT unattainable. Try these three tricks to give your lover the orgasm of a lifetime.

Men want to deliver it. Most women never get it. What is it? The female orgasm.

Playing Hard To Get

Why is the female orgasm so elusive? Well, it is not, at least not when a woman is seeking self-gratification on her own. But when guys come into the picture, more than 50% of women have to fake one in order to please their partners, or simply to get the act over and done with.

So what is it about the female orgasm that most guys simply don’t get it? Read on for three unusual tricks on giving her the first one, tonight!

Appreciate Her Pleasure, With Or Without The Big ‘O’

Stop fussing over whether she will get one. When she knows that you are relaxed about sex (which you SHOULD), she will naturally let go of her own inhibitions too. Relaxation is the key to inducing a female orgasm. Show her that you appreciate her sexual pleasure, even if she does not climax. This will ironically speed up her orgasmic response and bring her to the edge sooner rather than later.

Be Her Bosom’s Best Buddy

A woman’s breasts are her gateway to her orgasm. Don’t believe? When you are engaging in foreplay on her breasts, stay away from her un-aroused nipples first. Instead gently caress the side, top and bottom of her breasts before slowly moving towards her nipples. When she is getting aroused, you will notice the nipples swelling up and flushed with flood, signaling that the time is ripe for direct stimulation. Give her breasts and nipples a good 2 to 3 minutes of your attention and you will induce greater blood circulation and lubrication in her genitals, priming her for an orgasm later.

Put Friction To Good Use

If you want to maximize the amount of pleasure she is getting, try increasing the amount of contact with her clitoris during penetration. For example, when she is lying down, use the base of your penis to rub against her clitoris. When you penetrate her, do so in an up-down movement instead of a direct in-out thrust. Alternatively, you can gyrate your hips and rotate your pubic mound against her clitoris. This will take a great deal of stimulation off your penis glans, helping you last longer, and giving her maximum stimulation at the same time.

There are plenty more tips and techniques to give a woman an orgasm. These 3 tips will give you a great head start and prime her for a sizzling time in bed, as soon as tonight!

Erotic Massage: How To Take It To The Next Level

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Erotic massage is an excellent prelude to sex, but here’s how to go from just erotic massage to something much, much more!

Whether it’s before or after your lover has experience an orgasm (or two), there will come a point when she will be very receptive to your penetrating her vagina with your hard penis—and believe me when I say, it will be very hard at this point!

She’ll Want To Engage In Sex

Although you can expect her to pull you into her and gyrate around until you experience the same orgasmic pleasure, keep in mind that this might not be all she’s willing to do. Being in a highly sexually aroused state, she may want to take you in her mouth or use the oil to give you the best handjob you’ve ever had.

How you get your pleasure at this point isn’t what’s important. What’s most important is that through the art of sensual and erotic massage, you were able to meet both the emotional and sexual needs of your partner and provide her with a highly intimate experience that will surely make her long for more of the same.

Don’t Focus Only On One Area – Involve All Her Erogenous Zones

When you continue on to lovemaking, keep in mind that while there are fairly obvious pleasure zones, women have other body parts that are very sensitive to caresses, strokes and kisses that can increase their desire for sex and intensify their orgasms. These areas vary from woman to woman, but it’s definitely worth paying attention to the ears, neck, back, arms and other less obvious places to see what she likes. When you find those magic spots, spend some extra time stimulating those areas both during and after your massage. Don’t just focus strictly on her vagina to keep her going. Pay attention to her entire body. This will help to intensify her desire for sex and provide a more intense love making session.

Be sure to spend adequate time playing with your lover’s breasts, as well. If you’re lady is a size DD, paying attention to her breasts probably isn’t a problem for you. But if your woman has small breasts, you might be like some men and bypass them on your way to what you might perceive as what matters most—her vagina. For most women, however, both big breasted and small, their breasts are highly erotic zones and a vital part when it comes to stimulating her sexually.

How To Play With Her Breasts

Explore her breasts by sucking, licking, stroking, nibbling, and gently squeezing them. Although the nipples and areola (the pinkish-brown circles around her nipples) are known to be sensitive, so are the undersides of her breasts just under the areola. Some women don’t feel a thing when their nipples are touched. But stroke or lick just under her areola and, zing, the nipples instantly harden. Be sure to use your fingers, tongue, lips, hand, and even the head of your hardened penis to explore and stimulate her breasts.

Some women enjoy having their nipples pinched, bitten or flicked. However, this depends on your lady’s personality, mood, where she is in her menstrual cycle, as well as how many glasses of wine she’s had! There might be times when just the pads of your fingertips feel to rough. Other times, she might beg you to bite her nipples harder and harder. There’s really no way to tell what she’s going to be up for from one day to the next, so be sure to ask her what feels good.