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Female Orgasm – 2 Secrets That WORK To Prime Her For An Incredible Climax!

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An orgasm doesn’t have to be rocket science – with these two simple tricks, she’ll be well on her way to climax heaven (and begging for more!)

Sex Doesn’t Always Start In The Bedroom!

When a man gives his partner a great sense of sexual pleasure, he is aware of one fact that most guys don’t know: sex does not always begin in the bedroom! You should have a plan for a steamier sexual experience with your partner. You should do something beforehand to give her the best sex – and orgasms!

One great way to put your partner in a sexual mood is by giving her some kind of an intermission before the actual intimate act. Women cannot be turned on just with physical intimacy. Their minds need to be conditioned prior to the sexual intercourse. This can be done by spicing things up with a twist of romance.

There are two settings that you can use to liven up the sexual experience with your partner.

Cook Your Way Into Her Pants

You may begin by cooking a special meal while she is not yet home. Cook whatever recipe you know because even if it is not the best food that she will eat, your effort in preparing this will surely be appreciated. And, while she’s stuck in the traffic, make a path of candles and turn off all the lights in your house. Make it a candlelight dinner if you find it more appealing for your partner. Put white wine or champagne on your list of what to serve.

Just before the dessert, prepare a nice, warm bubble bath for her. Dim the lights and have candles lit around the tub. After dinner, take her to the bathroom and be the one to undress her. While you give her a bath, touch every sensitive part of her body, but do not begin your exploration with her breasts. Once she becomes in the mood for sex, you may start caressing her inner thighs.

Right after the bath, dry her up and begin with the most awaited foreplay. Not only will you prepare her physically, you will also put her into the feel of having an exhilarating moment with you – guaranteed to prime her for an amazing orgasm later.

Sexting Works Like A Charm!

If you and your partner have creativity in mind, you may take this passionate plan away from the privacy of your home. You can take her to a restaurant for dinner. Once in the restaurant, excuse yourself for some private time in the bathroom. Then call her using your cell phone, as she waits for you at the table. Tell her about your deepest and most intimate desires while on the line. This will surely please her because women are very imaginative about sexual fantasies especially with the person they go to bed with!

You may continue this sexual innuendo after dinner as you ride in the car to a secluded place. Play a sensual music in the background, something that will set the atmosphere for the two of you. Then whisper gently into her ears everything that you have planned to do to her.

Once you hear her ask for more, take her! If the car seems uncomfortable for the two of you, you may want to head to the nearest motel in town. And with the intense sexual anticipation already building up, you will certainly give her the best sex (and and climax) ever!

How Erotic Massage Will TRIPLE Your Partner’s Sexual Desire!

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Erotic massage can be exactly what your lover needs if your life has dwindled. Find out how erotic massage can make your girl want it again!

When She Doesn’t “Want It” Anymore

One of the most common complaints among men in long-term relationships is their female partner’s lack of sexual desire. And no matter how many different attempts they make to sexually are one of the most common complaints among men in long-term relationships is their female partner’s lack of sexual desire. And no matter how many different attempts they make to sexually arouse their partners, more often than not, they find themselves having to go to bed at night without sex, along with feelings of frustration and rejection.

What a lot of men don’t understand is that a woman’s desire for sex is directly linked to how she feels about her partner and her relationship. If her needs are being met by her partner and she feels happy and emotionally connected to her partner, she will be more receptive to sex.

Sexual desire is part of a man’s chemical makeup. That is not the case for women. A man is almost automatically wired to desire sex. A woman, however, has to have a reason to desire lovemaking. While a man can feel instant arousal by the sight of his female partner showering naked, it usually takes a lot more for a woman to feel aroused. And this is exactly where erotic massage comes into play!

How Erotic Massage Can Help

Erotic massage can be quite rejuvenating both physically and sexually for both partners. This is due to the massage having the ability to influence our brain chemistry through the stimulation of our endocrine glands. During this stimulation, our glands produce more serotonin, DHEA, testosterone, and oxytocin—chemicals responsible for inducing sexual desire.

For women, the effects of an erotic massage are like a natural aphrodisiac. In addition to the stimulation of hormones linked to sexual desire, the massage also increases blood circulation. As the hormones begin to flood into her enhanced blood stream, she becomes sexually aroused and her desire for sex increases. Erotic massage has also been proven to enhance orgasms in women. One scientific study conducted by the University of California San Francisco found that women given a 15-minute Swedish massage experienced increased levels of oxytocin—a hormone that is released during climax. So not only does her desire for sex increase, she’ll also be more likely to have an orgasm.

Erotic massage can also reduce anxiety about sexual performance in both men and women. Preliminary findings of a study at the Touch Research Institute showed that couples that massaged each other had lower levels of sexual performance anxiety. They also reported increased physical intimacy (Hernandez, 2000). With reduced anxiety and increased affection and intimacy, many couples’ sex lives are rejuvenated by introducing sensual and erotic massage into their relationships.ouse their partners, more often than not, they find themselves having to go to bed at night without sex, along with feelings of frustration and rejection.

Dirty Talk Ideas That Will Make Your Girl BEG For More!

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Dirty talk can make a woman absolutely ecstatic with pleasure – here are some great ways to get started with dirty talk!

Making Erotic Noises

Most everyone is comfortable with erotic noises and it is a very good place to start. They are as natural as making a deep exhaled sigh as you relax down into a hot bubble bath or when you are getting a massage. Moaning, groaning, sighs and breathy exhales are normal and instinctive when something feels so very, very good.

“Nice” Phrases

Nice phrases are simple, yet effective, and step two to the process. They are an easy way to dip your toes in the water of dirty talk and will add a little excitement to your romp.

  • “Yes, right there!”
  • “Oh yeah, that’s nice.”
  • “You smell wonderful.”
  • “That feels soooooo good!”
  • “I am so happy to be wrapped up here with you.”
  • “Your mouth feels amazing.”
  • “I have been thinking about doing this to you all day long.”

HOT, HOT, HOT Phrases!

Once you have mastered some erotic sounds you will feel a little more comfortable vocalizing with your mate. Try adding some of these hotter phrases, but feel free to change up the ‘body part’ words with what you are most comfortable with. Below are some examples:

  • “My panties get wet just thinking about what you are going to do to me.”
  • “I want your ____!”
  • “I love your breasts!”
  • “Oh baby, I want to come all over you.”
  • “Who makes that cock so hard, cowboy?”
  • “Let me suck on those nipples.”
  • I want to ___ you all night long!”
  • “Mmmmm, harder… don’t stop!!”
  • “Can you feel how wet you get me?”
  • “Oh yeah, that’s it, don’t you dare stop _____ me.”
  • “You like banging this slick ____, don’t you?”
  • “Put me on my knees and bang me until I come all over you!”
  • “You are so tight!”

Hardcore Phrases

Edgy, raw and being totally frank about what it is that you want, hard core phrases convey just that. Not for the timid and not the first thing you should throw at your partner during your first ever encounter with dirty talk. Consider this the ultimate walk on the wild side compared to the basic ‘tamer’ talk we just read.

Many couples will never make it to this level. And that’s okay. It is not some video game where the higher you go, the better. It is really all about your partner. If you find that hardcore phrases turn both of you on, then go for it. But if it ruins the lovemaking experience for your beloved, don’t go there. Take it down a notch or two. We are all a little bit different in what rocks our world.

Here are some examples of hardcore dirty talk phrases:

  • “I want your fat cock to spew all up inside me!”
  • “Whip it out and come all over my ____.”
  • “Watch me while I’m sucking your ____.”
  • Get on your knees and suck my _____ dry!”
  • “Do you want to spank my ass while you’re grinding me from behind?”
  • “Tell me you want to swallow my load!!”
  • “Do you want me to deep throat that cock of yours, baby?”
  • “I want you to sit on my face!”
  • “I’m going to ____ that dripping wet ___ all night!”

“Play By Play” Dirty Talk

If you are at a loss for words, you can do “play by play” dirty talk. Simply describe what’s taking place as you are doing it:

  • “Oh yeah, you’re sucking on my nipples and it’s getting me so wet!”
  • “I’m fingering your dripping, wet ____.”
  • “I’m going to climb on top of you and ride you, cowboy.”
  • “I’m going to lift my legs so you can watch yourself _____ me!”
  • “I can see your dripping cock sliding in and out of me from this position and it’s getting me even wetter!!”
  • “I’m going to explode!”

Asking Questions

Asking questions works also, because you can often get a response out of your partner that way and engage them in dirty talk, even if they’ve never done it before or are nervous about doing it.

  • “How hard does my cock feel inside of you?”
  • “Do you like the way my tongue feels on your clitoris?”
  • “How sloppy do you want it to sound when I’m giving you a blowjob?”
  • “Can you feel my cock getting harder inside of you?”
  • “Do you like the way my breasts bounce around when you’re giving it to me like that?”

Use Your Imagination

With dirty talk comes creativity. Use your imagination and speak whatever comes to mind. If you’re really in the moment, what comes out of your mouth is going to be as hot as what you’re doing!

How To Train Yourself To Have Multiple Orgasms

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Multiple orgasms are incredible – or so you’ve heard. If you’ve never had more than one big O during a sex or masturbation session, you’re seriously missing out. The way a woman’s orgasm works leaves her halfway to her next orgasm after she’s had the first – so every girl is capable of reaching a second, third or fourth peak. But can you actually “train” your body to have multiple orgasms?

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It’s Easier For Women Than Men

Everyone is “capable” of having multiple orgasms, however, it’s a lot more difficult for a man to reach climax more than once during a sex or masturbation session than it is for women. This is because men tend to put a lot of focus on their orgasm being tied to ejaculation, when in fact, it isn’t. Women, however, are designed a little differently. Once they reach climax once, they only come back down about halfway, instead of returning to their normal, unaroused status right away like a guy does.

Learn Your Body

Many women have not fully explored their body and all of their sensitive spots – namely because female masturbation has been labeled “taboo” for so long. Many girls have never even had one orgasm, let alone multiple orgasms! If this happens to be the category you fall into, take some time to learn your body and explore what feels good and what doesn’t.

Try Masturbation By Yourself First

If you try to experiment with multiple orgasms for the first time with your partner, it’s likely not going to happen right away or at all. There’s a lot of pressure trying something for the first time, and you’re going to feel pressure to perform and your partner is going to feel pressure to give you a climax. Instead, experiment with your body during masturbation alone. There’s going to be less pressure, and you’re going to be able to really find what you like and what you don’t like without worrying about anyone else but yourself and your own pleasure.

Use Whatever You Need To

While there are tons of sex toys and vibrators out there for women, a lot of girls are too nervous or scared to buy their own and use it. A lot of girls also avoid erotica and pornography, simply because “watching porn” is how men masturbate. But don’t be afraid to use whatever you need to get yourself turned on enough to make it possible for you to want to continue having multiple orgasms!

This is also another reason why it is essential that you try by yourself for the first few times. If you’re really turned on by watching a certain porn or reading erotic and you know that’s what will take you over the top again and again, you may be nervous doing it around your partner. So if you’re alone, you don’t have to worry about getting caught or watching or reading what you want. If you only need a tiny clitoris vibrator, go for it. If you need a larger Rabbit style vibrator, use that. Do whatever you need to give yourself that intense pleasure.

Allow Yourself To Come Back Down First

If you experience the first climax, allow yourself to come back down a little bit to the halfway point. If you try for multiple orgasms right away, your clitoris is going to be too sensitive and you’re not going to want to continue. Allow yourself a few minutes to breathe and enjoy the afterglow before you get back to it.

Also, you can try stimulating different areas – for example, if you’ve just had a clitoral orgasm, try stimulating your g-spot. This can help you get over the top again in a different way.

Relax, Have Fun And Keep Trying

You may not experience multiple orgasms the first time you try, or even the first few times. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to perform. Remember that this is about your pleasure, so just do what feels good! Relax and have fun! Continue to try if it doesn’t happen, but release any negative feelings you have about not having multiple orgasms right away. If you have negative feelings about not being able to “get there” instead of just enjoying the ride, you never will “get there.”

As you continue to try new things, different sex toys and different masturbation techniques, you’re going to become more in tune with your body and you’ll be able to figure out what you need to do to bring yourself to that multiple orgasm phase.

Oral Sex – Safety First (And How To Talk To Your Partner About It)

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Oral sex is commonly engaged in without thought to safety – but you should take precautions. Here’s how to have safer oral sex, and how to bring it up.

Why You Need To Consider Safer Oral Sex

It’s relatively common for people, especially with younger couples, to engage in oral sex without talking about safety first. As the Guide to HIV at About.com reports in an article called: The Risk of Oral Sex, many believe that oral sex is a low-risk activity because of its inability to get someone pregnant. Unfortunately STD’s are still a concern, even if they aren’t as prevalent as with penis-vagina intercourse.

Oral sex also increases the risk of other STDs, such as Herpes, Human Papillomavirus (HPV), Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, and Hepatitis C. These nasty bugs are transmitted by saliva, skin-to-skin contact, genital lubrication, and/or ejaculate, and can then be passed along to someone else via more oral sex, kissing, or other forms of skin-to-skin contact.

Barrier Methods

You may be familiar already with dental dams; they are what dentists use to keep any bits and pieces during a root canal or other mouth surgery from falling down your throat. These simple pieces of latex are slowly becoming well known in lesbian and bisexual circles, and men are now following suit.

Most, but not all dental dams are made out of latex. They stretch and are flexible, but hold their shape and are much firmer than say, Saran Wrap. They are square and come in several different colors, translucency and tastes. Almost all of them are powdered, and it isn’t terribly difficult to find ones that are flavored, scented, or both.

If the taste or smell of an cunnilingus encounter isn’t your favorite part of the occasion, dental dams are a very welcome addition to your arsenal. The only issue with them however is that latex takes a bit of getting used to in the taste department as well, so it’s highly recommended that with your first few attempts, you purchase a package that offers a variety of flavors or scents to get you through those first few moments of uncertainty.

Latex Allergies

For those with allergies to latex, there are a few options to consider. The easiest is to buy some Saran Wrap that isn’t made to be used in the microwave; there are extra additives in the special stuff that isn’t vagina-friendly. A step up from Saran Wrap (which can be difficult to keep in place) is to buy some non-latex condoms, like polyurethane condoms, and then cut a slit up one side of them to make it into a longer, flatter piece.

What A Dental Dam Feels Like

‘Feeling’ a woman while using a dental dam takes a bit of getting used to – just like using a condom. You won’t feel the squishiness of your partner’s excitement, and it’ll be more difficult to tell how she’s reacting to your hard work. Getting your tongue in the right place can also be trickier, because you’re having to feel her with your tongue through the barrier. Yes, these are definite drawbacks, but no more so than using a condom – and as already discussed, their drawbacks are more than worth the knowledge that you’re having protected sex.

Getting The Dental Dam Ready To Use

Choose the side that you want to lick and the side that you want pressed up against your partner. Dab some lube on the side that is going on your partner – it will feel MUCH better to her. Also, make sure to keep the same side on her each time, or else you’ve defeated the purpose of using a dental dam. If you can’t remember which side you were licking, discard it and grab another one. An easy way to ensure you don’t get mixed up in the heat of the moment is to take a magic marker prior to your sexual encounter, and write on one side, “Lick here!”

Broaching The Subject

Never used a dental dam? That okay. Most women haven’t either. That doesn’t mean she’ll be adverse to using one though she’ll just need a bit of information is all, so she knows what you’re up to, and why. Learn as much as you can before, so that when you do whip one out, you can easily answer all of her questions and alleviate her fears of the unknown.

Do however make a point of letting your partner know that you plan on using a dental dam, especially if it’s the first time that you’re together intimately. Worst case scenario? You don’t tell her and she stops the whole flow of the moment with a, “What on earth is that?!” or something even more jarring, and you’re left crouched between her legs looking sheepish and trying to explain yourself. Trust me: if you take a bit of time to explain what a dental is, and why you’re using one, you’ll save yourself tons of embarrassment and heartache, and might even earn a few brownie points for ensuring you’re both safe sexually.

How To Use a Dental Dam

Let’s first begin with keeping the slip of latex in place. There are only three ways: you hold it, your partner holds it, or you use something to hold it in place. Of the three, having something else hold it in place is by far the most desirable. In the throes of orgasm she’ll struggle with keeping it in place, and you’ll want the extra hand for other activities as we move through this process.

Therefore, when purchasing dental dams, look for the ones that have an adhesive tip along the top, so that it sticks to wherever you put it in this case, along the top of her Mons Pubis. If the woman you are giving oral sex to is clean shaven however, you can use double sided tape or spirit gum instead, just make sure that you don’t get any near her vulva or vagina.

When first using a dental dam on your partner, try and do what you’d normally do without one. See how she reacts, and if she asks for more or less stimulation. Check her sexual response as well, and if she’s not getting aroused as you’d expect, increase the pressure to her clitoris or add a bit more lube to see if that makes a difference.