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6 Ways Tell If A Woman Is Faking Orgasm

The female orgasm is easy for a woman to fake, but it’s also simple for a man to tell when she’s not being honest about an orgasm. Here’s how!

Unless your girl is a professional porn star, it’s really not that difficult to tell whether her orgasm is faked or the real deal. Even if she is a professional (lucky you, eh?) there are still some telltale physical signs that will give her away. Here’s how to tell if she’s actually experiencing the big O or if she’s just a big liar.

1. She Sounds Fake

Listen to her. Is she moaning and groaning like she’s putting on the performance for best actress? Then she probably is. Is she perfectly capable of forming complete sentences? Then she’s probably not in the throes of a real orgasm. A woman who is truly headed over the brink of climax isn’t going to sound fake – she may even be silent as her eyes roll back into her head and her body is wracked with spasms of pleasure.

If she’s “telling the truth,” she’s not going to be able to really form words or sentences – she will likely say nothing at all or only be able to say a few things like your name or “Oh God!”

2. Her Vagina Doesn’t Contract

When a woman orgasms, her vagina contracts in such a way that really cannot be faked. It’s so fast and erratic that a woman can’t mimic it on her own – it only happens that way when she’s climaxing. Unfortunately, you can only tell if you’ve either got your penis or your finger inside of her as she’s coming.

So if you want to tell whether she’s faking or not using this method, either make sure she’s having an orgasm during intercourse or you’ve got a finger or two massaging her g-spot while you’re going down on her or fingering her. Feel for those “butterfly” spasms – if there aren’t any, she’s likely putting on a show.

3. She’s Not Breathing Heavy Or Isn’t Flushed

If she doesn’t look like she’s ran a 5k, then she probably didn’t have a real orgasm. A real orgasm will increase a woman’s heart rate, make her sweat, increase her breathing and cause the skin in her face, neck and chest to become red and flushed. If she’s just hanging out looking as chill as can be, you can bet her O was fake.

4. No Involuntary Movements (i.e. No Orgasm Face)

Women tend to lose control when they have an orgasm, much like you do when you have one. If this climax is the real thing, she’ll probably be making some involuntary movements when she’s in the throes of pleasure – such as twitching her arms or legs and making the orgasm face.

Don’t call her out on her O-face – the fact that she can’t control herself and might look like she’s about to sneeze as she’s coming will likely embarrass her. But pay attention to it in secret – if her eyes are closed but her face isn’t contorted even a little bit, she’s probably not being honest about her orgasm.

5. She’s Not Dazed And Confused Afterwards

Most of the time – although not every single time – a woman will be slightly dazed and confused after a real orgasm. She’ll have to hang out for a minute or two while she regains her breath and her composure. If it was really good, she may take a little longer, or have trouble standing up afterwards. These are all good signs! However, if she rolls off of you immediately, gets up and starts getting dressed to start her day, you can bet pleasure wasn’t on her mind at all – just her to-do list for the day or how great the new purse she got will look with her outfit.

6. Her Clitoris Isn’t Sensitive Afterwards

This is another telltale sign of a real orgasm, although if a woman is really skilled and good at faking, she’ll be sure to fake this too. Some women aren’t “in the know” about this aspect of their anatomy though, and you may be able to use this to your advantage when trying to determine whether she’s being honest with you or not about her climax. After an orgasm, a woman’s clitoris will be so sensitive it will likely hurt to touch it.

This only lasts a few seconds, so make sure to “test” her right after her orgasm. Touch her clitoris lightly after she’s climaxed and watch her reaction. If she’s totally cool with it, she faked. If she jerks back involuntarily and almost violently, her orgasm was real. If you were giving her oral sex, just keep licking for a few seconds longer than you need to and see what happens.

When trying to determine whether or not your girl was faking her orgasm, use your instinct and trust your gut. Your girl would have to be really, really good at faking it for you to not spot at least one of these signs, if not more. If you think she’s faking, just ask her. Don’t be critical of her and talk to her about it – but be prepared for the answer. Don’t con her into revealing that she faked by saying you won’t get mad, and then turn around and get mad about it.

If you want to talk to her about faking, make sure you’re doing so with an open mind and open heart. Talk to her about why she’s faking and be prepared to offer possible solutions. Be prepared to step up and make some changes if that’s what she needs. If you’re not ready to do this and are still just pissed at the possibility that she’s been lying to you about her orgasms, then you’re not at all ready to approach her about it. Getting mad about it isn’t going to get you anywhere except not getting laid at all.

6 Things You DIDN’T Know About Semen

By loveandsex

Sex and semen go hand in hand – you usually can’t have one without the other. It IS possible for men to have an orgasm without ejaculation (that’s another topic entirely), but most of the time, men release semen when they reach climax. If you have sex, you’re going to have to deal with semen and if you dealing with semen, it’s usually because you had sex first. A lot of women are grossed out by a man’s ejaculate, while other women – namely in porn videos – seem to absolutely love it (or they could just be getting paid to love it). Semen has bad rap for a nasty taste and a weird texture, but there are actually some benefits that sperm have to offer that you probably didn’t know about!

Women Can Be Allergic To Semen

Yes, you read that right. About 5% of women are actually allergic to semen, making having sex (and possibly getting pregnant) a little bit more difficult for them than the average woman. Fortunately though, the allergic reactions aren’t usually severe and may just be more uncomfortable for the woman than anything else.

Women who are allergic to sperm can avoid reactions by using a condom during intercourse. Even women with latex allergies can use polyurethane condoms. Since an allergic reaction to sperm probably isn’t going to be that severe, precautions that are taken are more for the woman’s comfort than anything else.

Giving Head Can Make A Woman’s Pregnancy Easier

Believe it or not, if a woman gives her partner oral sex (and presumably swallows) regularly before getting pregnant by her partner, she will have an easier pregnancy and less problems with high blood pressure, pre-eclampsia and eclampsia. This is because her body has been given plenty of time to get used to the foreign DNA in the man’s sperm, so the mother’s body is less likely to reject the pregnancy!

It Can Make A Woman Feel Happier

There’s a reason that women feel elated after having sex with their partners, and it’s not always because he gave her an incredible, earth shaking orgasm. In fact, just the simple deposit of semen into her vaginal canal can boost a girl’s mood and make her feel happier and have a greater sense of well being.

This is due to the variety of hormones that are present in ejaculatory fluid, including testosterone, estrogen, prolactin and lots of different prostaglandins. A study at the University Of New York showed that women in relationships where condoms were always used were more likely to suffer from depression and anxiety than women in relationships where condoms were never used. Notably, women in abstinent relationships scored the highest on the scale as being the most likely to suffer from mood problems.

Of course, make sure that you are with a monogamous partner and you’ve both been tested for and are clear of STD’s before deciding to go condom-free!

A Man Will Never Run Out Of Ejaculatory Fluid

No matter how often a man has sex or masturbates, he will never run out of ejaculatory fluid. Studies have shown that a man only requires fifteen minutes (and in some cases less) to completely re-up his supply of sperm after ejaculating. This further proves that men are able to experience multiple orgasms! Men are less likely to ejaculate again during the second orgasm, however, it is possible since a man can completely replenish his ejaculatory fluid in very little time.

Semen Can Promote Tooth Decay

There are components in ejaculatory fluid that attract acid-loving bacteria and after fellatio, these bacteria can hang out in your mouth and go to work on your gums and teeth. This can promote cavities, tooth decay and gum disease, but don’t stress out too much about it. Giving your man head isn’t going to cause you to have dentures anytime soon. Just simply make sure you brush your teeth or rinse your mouth with a good mouthwash after you’re finished. But let’s face it – that’s probably already something you do after fellatio anyways.

Ejaculatory Fluid Is Nutritious

You might have heard that ejaculatory fluid has a lot of protein in it, but it also packs quite a punch with other vitamins as well. Here’s a breakdown of how just one teaspoon of semen can be considered a super food.

It’s low in fat at only 5-7 calories per serving!
Has about as much Vitamin C as an entire orange
Contains calcium, magnesium, potassium, vitamin B12 and zinc

So should you just start giving your partner more oral sex instead of taking your vitamins? Probably not – unless you want to start drinking it by the glass.

Orgasm Tips: The Technique That Will Make Your Partner Orgasm Like Crazy!

By shawnalenee

Orgasm tips can often lack what you need to REALLY make your girl have a powerful orgasm. However, this “triple play” technique just might make your partner SQUIRT!

I hope you’re excited, because today I’m going to reveal what is perhaps my VERY BEST technique for making your girl orgasm like crazy!

It’s called the “Triple Play” – because it involves stimulating her in 3 special spots at the same time – and creating a “pleasure trifecta” that will have her squirting like crazy in no time!

How To Do It

Using techniques to build ANTICIPATION, get to the point where you have her panties off and are about to go down.
Begin gently licking her clitoris VERY lightly! Remember, you WANT to be a tease!
Take the middle finger of your right hand, and begin touching her below where your tongue is, getting your finger nice and wet. Then, gently put your finger inside of her while you continue the soft, light tongue stimulation. Your hand should be facing upwards, so your finger is rubbing on her upper wall, towards the back – right on her g-spot.

Here’s Where The “Magic” Happens!

Take your left hand and put it ON TOP of her public bone, and using the fingers of your left hand, rub the spot on the OUTSIDE that is directly on top of your fingers on the INSIDE – so both are hitting the same spot! Rub in a soft, circular motion. You are now stimulating 3 of her hottest spots at once!
Go light at first, and pay attention to her body and her breathing. As she gets more and more exciting, slowly increase the pressure of your fingers (both hands), along with the speed and intensity of your tongue.
Now for the Grand Finale!!! Once her body is quivering and she is moaning and thrusting her hips, put your mouth OVER her “love button” and gently suck on it while still stimulating it with your tongue. Then, WATCH HER ORGASM LIKE NEVER BEFORE!! I guarantee you have NEVER seen your girl orgasm like this!!!

After she’s had an amazing orgasm – or 2, 3 4, or 5 (she’ll let you know when she’s had enough by motioning for you to come up), give her a passionate kiss, and lay down next to her. After experiencing the intense orgasms this technique creates, she’ll need to rest a bit before she’s ready for anything else.

But once she’s rested up – WATCH OUT! A girl who’s just had some VERY intense orgasms is going to be VERY ready and eager to please you!

So there you have it, my very BEST orgasm-giving technique! Go try this TONIGHT while it’s fresh on your mind – but be warned: After you get your girl off like this, it’s very likely she’s gonna want to have sex ALL THE TIME.

6 Lingerie Items He REALLY Wants To See You Wear

By loveandsex

Lingerie isn’t for girls – it’s for guys. Men enjoy seeing women in lingerie, no matter what size or shape she is. Instead of picking out lingerie YOU like, get what YOUR MAN likes. Here are six lingerie items that top almost every man’s fantasy list, so you can wow him with a surprise underneath your clothes next time you and your partner get frisky.

A Garter Belt

A garter belt is a piece of lingerie (the fabric is usually lace or satin but can be other materials such as leather) that slips over the hips. On each leg, there are two clips that hold up a pair of thigh high pantyhose. A garter belt doesn’t function as panties – it is only worn to hold up thigh high stockings. They can be adorned with ribbons, lace, bells, leather, fringe and more for added erotic appeal. This is a much sexier way to do pantyhose!

The reason that men find garter belts so sexy is because they just look sexy. You can turn a normal bra and panty set into a titillating outfit by just throwing on a matching garter belt and a set of thigh highs. Garter belts can also be worn under a woman’s clothes during the day, such as with a pair of slacks or a dress. This gives her man a super sexy surprise when she gets home and lets him see what is underneath! Garter belts are also a lot of fun to use during sex. Your guy will like feeling the straps on your hips and legs as his body thrusts into you!

Crotchless Panties (Or No Panties)

Crotchless panties qualify as lingerie, but are pretty much pointless to have if you’re trying to use them as functional underwear. That’s why men enjoy them so much – they know if you’re wearing them, you’re already thinking about sex and want them to have easy access to your genitals. Oral sex over a pair of crotchless panties is incredibly hot (for you and him) and can be a super hot surprise for him at the dinner table or in the movie theater.

You can also go commando and forgo wearing panties or lingerie all together for the same effect. Lean over and whisper to your lover at dinner (or in some other public place) that you’re not wearing any panties. If you’re wearing a dress, let him slip his hand underneath and look for himself. You’ll give him an instant erection right then and there.

Cheekies

G-strings are great for showing off your butt and they’re a great way to provide your partner with easy access for anal sex, but they leave little to the imagination. Your man appreciates nudity in any form, so he’s not going to tell you that the g-string is played out and it would be great to have you wear something a little different. Of course, granny panties are off the list, so what do you do when your g-string collection gets old?

Cheekies are panties that look normal in the front, but are curved up slightly in the back to let the bottoms of a woman’s butt cheeks show. You may wonder why a guy only likes to look at the bottom of your cheeks when you can see the whole thing in a g-string, but that’s what makes cheekies so sexy – they turn guys on by highlighting your best assets while still leaving something to the imagination. Seduction is rarely about full on nudity anyways.

A Corset Or Bustier

Corsets can be considered the beginning of lingerie, and were worn under dresses hundreds and hundreds years ago before the bra was ever invented. The idea behind a corset or bustier is to lift the breasts and create cleavage, as well as to hug the waist and bring it in to make a woman appear thinner yet more curvy. This is done with wire shaping in the corset and ties in the back that are laced as tightly as is comfortable for the woman. Corsets and bustiers are still very popular, especially in the world of burlesque.

A corset or bustier instantly says to your man, “I’m an old fashioned kind of sexy.” Your man will enjoy seeing your body all tied up in a corset and you’ll like the way it shapes you and makes you look really good. Let your man slowly untie your corset or bustier while you stand in front of a mirror – and watch his face as the corset drops to the floor after it’s untied. Your partner won’t be able to keep his hands off you for long!

A Shelf Bra

Like crotchless panties, a shelf bra is lingerie that is basically pointless to have underneath your clothes because it actually doesn’t cover up your breasts at all. A shelf bra is designed to go underneath the breasts, almost as though an underwire bra were cut in half. Your breasts will come up and over the top of the shelf bra, showing pretty much everything, including your nipples. Some half bras do cover up the nipples (but not much else), but that’s not what a true shelf bra is. A true shelf bra is designed to hold the breasts up, but show them completely.

Your man will really like the idea of this item of lingerie because of the fact that it is, indeed pointless to have. If you put one on, it’s purely for his viewing pleasure. It’s to make your breasts look amazing so they can be ogled. Your partner will love that you donned something like that just for him.

Platform Stilettos

While platform stilettos aren’t actually lingerie, they make pretty much any combination of lingerie – even your most basic black bra and panties set – look absolutely amazing. There’s a reason that strippers always have platform heels when they’re dancing, even when they’re completely naked. They make your legs look a thousand miles long and your body will instantly look leaner and more seductive.

Invest in a basic pair of platform stilettos (yes, platform – the scary looking ones that strippers actually use) and get used to walking around in them and wearing them when your partner isn’t home. Next time you don one of your lingerie outfits, slip the heels on too and watch your lover’s reaction when you strut your stuff.

Why Flowers And Jewelry Are Murdering Your Sex Life

By michaelfiore

Have you ever sprung for a fancy night out on the town, a lavish bouquet of flowers or a piece of sparkly jewelry that makes your paycheck want to shrivel up and commit ritual suicide, thinking it was going to light a MAJOR fire in your sex life?

Only to find yourself hours later, feeling frustrated, horny and ripped off, staring at the ceiling, cursing your hard on and wondering why the night of head-board-cracking passion you were desperately dreaming of failed to materialize?

If you have, you sure as heck ain’t alone!

“I ain’t saying’ she’s a gold digger , but she ain’t messing with no broke bloke” – Kanye West

“Are those space pants? Because they make your ass look out of this WORLD” – Unknown.

Fact is a the world is chock full guys who have been brainwashed into thinking that the way to turn a woman on (whether she’s your wife, your girlfriend or even just that hot and sultry check out girl who always mangles your bread with such erotic passion) is by “being romantic” and “buying her stuff.”

Why Buying Romantic Stuff Won’t Get You Laid

It’s totally insulting to women and paints them as “gold diggers” who’s motors go into overdrive thanks to physical things (I think you can agree with me if you’re on this site that women are sexy, wonderful, awesome and smell great.)
It’s complete and utter BULLSHIT.

No Woman Can Really Be Seduced By Flowers

Despite what the romance industry and “Sex In The City” would tell you, NO WOMAN actually gets turned on by flowers (or by jewelry, or by super-price tickets to Cats. Actually, tickets to Cats might be grounds for divorce in some states.)

Now, I’m not saying your wife (or girlfriend or the mail carrier with the delectable thighs) won’t sleep with you if you shell out a lot of cash for on her.

A lot of women, when faced with a big bouquet, a bottle (or three) of good wine or a rock that makes your monthly mortgage look like pocket change will lay back and LET you make sweet (boring) love them out of a sense of duty or gratitude.

But There’s a Huge Difference Between Gratitude and LUST

Out of a sense of GRATITUDE, your wife (or girlfriend or that one waitress with the sexy limp) might LET you have your way with her .

But she probably won’t ENJOY it. She won’t BRAG to her friends about what an amazing lover you are and she won’t count down the moments until the next time she can pounce on you like a lioness digging into a porterhouse steak.

Bringing back my high school algebra, the equation is:

“Materialistic Romance” = “Sense of Gratitude and Duty” = Boring “by the numbers” sex where you think about porn stars and she thinks about knitting, or no sex at all because you’re both “too tired” and “married people don’t have that much sex anyway.”

Getting into her lizard brain and TURNING HER ON = Overwhelming, logic-killing lust = Silly grins, swishing hips, orgasms that make you pass out and the kind of cheat-proof marriage that builds nations and rolls back unfair taxation.

Pretty big difference, huh?

So how do you actually TURN YOUR WOMAN ON?

You don’t do it by “buying her stuff.”

How To REALLY Turn Her On

You’ve probably heard this before, but a woman’s biggest erogenous zone is her MIND (while a man’s biggest erogenous zone is his stomach. Wait, that’s probably not quite right.)

And the biggest way to “tickle” that erogenous zone – blowing past all her defenses, making her feel like you’re the ONE MAN who understands how to turn her on and get her so hot and ready she eye-f*cks the check out boy at the supermarket – is with stories and WORDS .

The simple fact is if you can TALK to your woman, draw her attention to the fires burning in her body and engage her imagination, you’ll have the “bed-destroying” sex you’ve been craving since your honeymoon, and that no amount of flowers, overpriced entrees or blood diamonds can ever replicate.

I’ll be teaching you some specifics about how to use language to turn any woman on in my next few articles.

In the meantime…