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How To Have Sex Like A Teenager

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Sex when you’re young is unlike anything else out there – it’s incredible! Here’s how to bring those feelings back and have sex like you used to.

You remember your adolescent self, and I’m sure you wouldn’t want to go back to being him for anything. Walking around with a hard-on twenty four hours a day, surrounded by girls in mini-skirts who won’t even let you touch them under their bras, so you spend most of your time beating off as much as possible without your mom catching on to all the time you spend in the bathroom.

Trying Something New

Fast forward twenty five years. You have fumbled your way through losing your virginity, making a few mistakes, and getting married. You now have a beautiful wife that you still find sexy as ever, but between work and family duties, the time you have to spend making mad, passionate love has dwindled. You want to try something new, but all the stuff you find on the internet requires serious contortions, and you’re not sure your bum knee can take it.

Maybe it’s not something new you need. Maybe it’s something from before you learned how to unhook a bra without help. Being a walking hard on was horribly frustrating, but it wasn’t boring. There are a couple of things you may have forgotten about since girls started letting you put your penis in them.

The Make-Out Session

I’m sure you remember your first girlfriend. The two of you used to make out for hours on end – you trying to touch her breast, her slapping your hand away. The hours and hours of kissing had you in such a frenzy, you didn’t even notice when her dad walked in. However, ever since you’ve been allowed to have sex with women, this adolescent passion probably hasn’t been equaled. To add some passion, go back to this old stand by.

Make out, and make out for a really long time. But how do manage to keep from taking the prize if you’re already allowed? Trying making it a bet, and make sure the wager is worth it. For example, whoever touches below the belt first gets to pick TV on Monday. If you go there first, you’ll be watching Jon & Kate Plus 8 during Monday Night Football.

Mutual Masturbation

I’m sure you cringed at this term when your health teacher presented it as an alternative to sex (unless you were in high school in the last eight years and received abstinence-only education), but the grown up version of this can be fun. Whether you’re fully clothed on the couch or naked in your bed, mutual masturbation bring some playfulness back into sex.

You can get reacquainted with each other’s genitals – rediscover those spots that really make her lose her mind. If you orgasm, you don’t have to have intercourse. Penetration is not a necessity every time you have sex. You’re a grown up now, so you can forget all those silly rules you used to make about what defines sex (“It was just a handjob! We didn’t even do anything!”). You can go ahead and make your own.

Oral Sex: How To Push All Her Hot Buttons!

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There’s no denying that couples of all ages love to engage in oral sex practices. In fact, married couples are likely to have more sex, and more varied sex, than single people and, according to stats, even oral sex is more common in married couples rather than single couples.

So here’s some advice to help you hone your oral dexterity.

Oral Sex Prepwork

One of the biggest turn-offs when performing oral sex on someone is not being clean, trimmed and proper. And assume that if you’re giving oral sex to her, she’s going to give it to you.

The clean side: Wash. Everywhere. For longer than three seconds. There are a lot of tiny hidden crevices in and around a man’s penis, and after a long day tucked into underwear and pants, naturally you’re going to sweat (and start to possibly smell – I’m not going to sugar-coat it). Proper regular hygiene creates a much more inviting environment for her face (and all of her senses). Even a quick washcloth wipe-down will be an improvement.

The trimmed side: Maybe you just missed the manscaping train, but it’s time to hop on because, well, hair is icky. Not all hair – just long, thick hair. It’s a trap for bacteria, it’s not the most attractive accessory, and it’s another deterrent when it comes to creating an appealing atmosphere.

Best Oral Sex Positions

Just as there are a countless number of techniques to satisfy your mate there are just as many varying positions you can use when engaging in oral sex, each with its own perks.

Need a few? OK, here goes:

She stands and you kneel in front of her. This is perfect for urgent sex plus it appeals to alpha females who like seeing you shamelessly submissive in front of him. And besides, if you want to see her in that position next, then you’d better get on your knees (put a pillow underneath your knees so she can see you’re not in any rush).

If you want to impress, lie on your back on the bed with your head hanging over the edge and get her to straddle your mouth. You may not be able to stay in this position for long, but she’ll definitely appreciate the effort.

Techniques That Will Drive Her Wild

All of the positions mentioned above can be effective but only if you use the right techniques. That means – you use all those tools, from your fingers and hands to your mouth and tongue, to manoeuvre your way around and get her off.

While a repetitive motion can be the perfect way to finish things off and help your wife to climax, a slow melange of kissing, licking, sucking, and even gentle blowing is the best technique to get her to the sheet-clenching stage. Mix long broad strokes with more delicate ones. Breathe lightly on her clitoris (never into her vagina) between licks.

How To Find Your Girl’s Secret Erogenous Zones

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Sex usually involves the same areas of the body each time – the genitals, the breasts, the butt, etc. But did you know about THESE incredible erogenous zones?

The Best For Breasts

Are you a boob guy? Oh right, who isn’t? Well, there’s a sweet melange of methods you can use to arouse this sensitive (and enticing) area of her body. They come in an endless array of sizes and shapes, and just as they are varied in form, they’re also varied in stimulation.

Some women like their breasts to be caressed, squeezed (gently), tweaked, held, kissed, and sucked. However, being too aggressive (and at the wrong time of the month) can cause her a lot of pain, so be sure that you proceed with some caution.

Surprising Female “Hot Spots”

The great thing about women is that they aren’t cookie-cutter sexual beings – different women have different areas that enjoy titillation. While most females will concur that the aforementioned erogenous zones are universally appealing, women love to compare notes on what makes them tick versus their friends. “I love when a guy puts his hands in my hair and massages my scalp,” one friend told me. Another said, “When he kisses or sucks the inside of my wrists, I turn into putty.” The list of possibilities is endless.

Body Mapping

While discovering every facet of her figure is a lot of fun, the practice of truly learning about her entire body is very important. There’s a term that the infamous Dr. Ruth coined and it’s “body mapping.”

There are a few rules to body mapping, and number one is, avoid the genitals. You already know just how sensitive they can be, and genital touching will cause you to rush because the desire to have an orgasm could become too strong to resist. But other than the genitals, leave no area untouched, no zone unexplored. You might have been skipping that lone spot even your partner didn’t already know about.

And don’t limit yourself to just touching. Licks and kisses can create different sensations. The idea is to spend your time exploring.

Using Your Fingers

With all the toys out there, who knew your own little fingers could be such a powerful sex tool? Give yourself some credit – women don’t only like little buzzing dolphins down there. They like it when you’re down there too (as long as you’re doing the job), and they like it even more if you can turn her on.

You just need to go in (no pun intended) with confidence, creativity, and most of all, clean hands (quick side note: if you want your wife to be receptive to you fiddling around down there with your fingers, please make sure you have clean hands and fingernails, with no rough hangnails, calluses, and even rings).

Want to add to your repertoire of fingering techniques? When you’ve been with someone for an extended amount of time, you can grow “accustomed” to your partner’s touch. However, that doesn’t mean you can’t find a bevy of places to explore as well as exciting new ways to use those fingers.

How Do We Get The Passion Back?

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Sex loses it’s luster after many months and years into a marriage. It’s easy for one or both partners to get comfortable with each other, which is actually one of the best benefits of marriages but can also wreak havoc on a great love life. Your sex life isn’t doomed though – here’s how to put the fire back into it.

I’ve been married for six years. I still love my husband very much, but we’ve become best friends instead of lovers. How do I add the sexual spark back into our relationship?

What She Said:

Don’t fret; your position is a common one. The great news is that the important components are here – love and friendship. You’re obviously in it for the long haul and nothing is more important than the unconditional love and companionship you and your husband share.

That said, sex is obviously a very important part of marriage – not to mention a lovely way to connect. It’s natural when passion fades. Our bodies aren’t made to keep up that level of hormonal output. The pheromones were there in order to draw you together; what you do with the rest is up to you and your hubby!

Putting The Spark Back In

How to add the spark back into your sex life? Start by thinking of all the things you appreciate about your husband. That will most likely lead to feelings of tenderness and will leave you more open to lovemaking. A romantic date night is still a tried and true approach of lighting the proverbial fires – an intimate dinner and a bottle of wine can go a long way!

Also take some time to reflect on your courtship. What made you hot then? Did you surprise him after work with a blowjob? Did you make out at the movies? Did you sneak off and have sex in the bushes outside your favorite club? Were you into costumes? If so, it might time to dust off the pom poms and slip into that cheerleading outfit! Revisiting the sexy times you two shared in the early portion of your relationship will most likely lead to a reinvigorated sex life in the now.

Don’t forget the day-to-day – hugging, kissing and saying, “I love you” keeps the connection open and reminds you both that you’re much more than friends.

What He Said

Things change. Mostly likely this started when the two of you took your eyes off the collective ball. You have to put in the effort to make the spark stay alive over time. That’s just how it is. It’s like this: If you look like a bodybuilder and you want to keep looking like a bodybuilder, you need to keep working out on a regular basis. You can’t stop working out for six months and then wonder why you aren’t in as good of shape as you used to be. It’s not magic, you (both) stopped putting the work in.

It’s far easier to maintain something than it is to re-create something.

That’s the bad news.

The good news is that it’s faster to get back in shape than it is to get in shape in the first place. Your body remembers what it was like to be in shape and wants to go back to that.

So does your relationship. You can get it back. But you will both need to accept that you’re romantically out of shape before you can get back into shape. Take sometime to figure out how you fell in love in the first place and recreate it. It will take a bit of time, but it will be worth it. A romantic getaway is a great way to start. It might be a bit of effort, but it’s worth it.

10 Foreplay Faux Pas To Avoid

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Foreplay can make or break sex – if you do it wrong, you might not be getting any at all. Here are some “don’ts” to keep in mind when getting hot and heavy.

Sometimes, in our quest for better foreplay and better sex, we tend to get a bit carried away – to the point that we do things that TURN OFF our partners. Some of these mistakes are not just overzealousness but due to myths propagated in adult films and magazines.

Cleanliness Is Next To Godliness

Take a shower and be properly groomed. I’m not talking about going to a salon here. Just ensure that your breath and body are clean. Also, if you’re planning to do some ‘poking’, ensure that you cut your nails down. Nothing hurts more than long nails, or can be more disgusting (in case you poke into something and er… take out something with your nails! Yuck!)

The Sound Of Music

Put on some music. Foreplay can be a very embarrassingly noisy event (wet slapping noises, an escaped fart or two, etc.). To hide these sounds, drown them out with a bit of sexy music.

Don’t Overdo It

Don’t OVER-tongue him/her. Don’t ram your tongue into your partner’s eardrums or throat when kissing. It can be a complete turn off if he/she feels the need to tilt his/her head (from having clogged ears) or feels the need to gag.

Don’t Embarrass Your Lover

Don’t embarrass him/her. I once advised a client to ‘start foreplay early during the day’ and mentioned some of my ‘foreplay techniques’ like rubbing against each other, dry humping, footsie playing, etc. Well, I guess my client got carried away as she tried footsie playing with him during a business dinner. She thought she was being ‘naughty’, he thought it was annoying. Moral lesson? Know WHEN to make your moves.

Nipple Play

Don’t twirl, tweak and twist her nipples hard. No. Despite what you often see in porn films, she really doesn’t like it if you play too roughly with her nipples. They need to be caressed, not manhandled.

Be Aware Of Body Image Issues

Don’t be the one to request to turn the lights off. Almost all women have body image issues. So don’t do her a favor by asking to have the lights off. In contrast, she’ll immediately think you find her body offensive in some way. If she’s not exactly the ‘cover girl’ type, don’t over compliment her either because she’ll know you’re lying. Instead, just tell her you prefer women with ‘curves.’

When To Stimulate The G-Spot

Don’t go for g-spot stimulation if you don’t know what the hell you’re doing! Sure, g-spot stimulation can bring her almost sexual nirvana but it can be painful for her if you don’t know what you’re doing. I’m not saying don’t attempt it. Rather, be very attuned to how she responds to your fingers.

Don’t Ask A Man To Wear A Thong!

Don’t ask him to wear a thong. Ladies, despite what you hear about the ‘metrosexual man,’ don’t ask him to put on a thong. It really does turn most men OFF.

Don’t Smother Him

He’s given you oral sex and boy do you love it! You’re delirious with pleasure and because of this you… try to squeeze your thighs shut and/or start to grab his hair and knead his face against your crotch. Well, let’s see what you’re REALLY doing to him hear. With the first one, you’re like a praying mantis trying to squeeze and rip his head off. With the second one, you’re making it hard for him to breathe! Ease up girls. Show your appreciation the RIGHT way and he’s bound to lick you to the ends of the earth again.

He’s Not A Mind Reader!

Don’t expect him to read your mind. One of the worse things you can do during foreplay is to expect him to know exactly what you want to happen. With this attitude, you’re really setting yourself (and him) for a disaster. Let him know that you like what he’s doing to you, or better yet, TELL him EXACTLY what you want done. He’ll appreciate it and you get what you want. Win-win!

Increasing Sexual Tension

Foreplay is all about increasing sexual tension in a way that is pleasurable for you and your partner in more than just the sexual sense. It should be in an atmosphere of comfort and trust, and maybe even with a hint of sexual danger, and not be forced or selfish in any way.

Think about this the next time you engage in foreplay with your partner and you’re bound to have a great and sexually thrilling time!