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Q&A: Do Girls Like Hairy Guys?

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Sex with men who have a lot of hair on their bodies isn’t something every woman likes. Especially when a woman goes to give a man a blowjob – she doesn’t want to get a bunch of hair stuck in her teeth. But do all women hate men with hair on their bodies, or do some women enjoy hair on men or at least aren’t bothered by it?

Question: I have this question that is quite funny, you could say but its ridiculous also. Do girls like men with hair or prefer no hair? By hair, I dont mean on the head – I mean on the stomach, chest, back, legs and butt! Please help!

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It’s All About Personal Preference

Everyone has different preferences when it comes to sex, and that includes the type of people you are sexually attracted to. Some women like other women, others like men, some enjoy g-spot stimulation, others enjoy clitoral orgasms. Still others like their men clean shaven while some women don’t mind if he’s covered in hair and looks like a sasquatch. In fact, she may just take a picture of him on their next camping trip and sell it to the tabloids claiming she’s found evidence of Bigfoot!

Whether a woman prefers hair on a man or not is entirely up to her personal preferences. There are women out there that hate hairy men, while many women like it or don’t care at all. In fact, many celebrities and characters in movies have promoted the hairy, “wolfy” look.

Finding Someone Compatible With You

If you don’t want to shave completely, for whatever reason, try to find someone who is compatible with you. Find someone that doesn’t mind a lot of body hair, or even better, a woman who is extremely turned on by it! Yes, there are women who feel like the hairier a guy is, the better. It’s all about finding someone who is compatible with what you like during sex and in a relationship, and is wants or needs what you have to offer.

Nobody Wants To Wade Through A Bush For Oral Sex

That said, there really are very few people that want to wade through a bush to give their partner oral sex, regardless of whether it’s a man or woman. While shaving down there can be painful for some fellas – especially for men who have very curly hair and are prone to ingrown hairs – it’s important not to overwhelm your lover with a face full of pubes. Also, completely shaving the genital area if you’re very hairy all over can look really weird. Another benefit to at least some kind of pubic hair maintenance is that the shorter the hair, the bigger the penis looks.

Grooming Options

Shaving is one option, but again, if you have hair all over your body, it’s going to look really strange if your penis and the surrounding area is completely bald. In this case – or if you just hate shaving – a nice trim is in order. While there are genital trimmers available on the market, there are several types of trimmers that will work well.

A hair trimmer with attachments that vary in length is something that almost every guy owns, and allows you to trim very close or leave yourself a little bit of length. A beard and mustache trimmer will work even better, because it’s smaller and easier to use on delicate areas.

Should You Change The Way You Look For A Girl?

If you really hate to shave, or if it hurts, don’t change the way you look or who you are for a girl. If you’re a man with a lot of body hair that is either dating, having sex or in a relationship with a woman who absolutely detests body hair, you probably weren’t a good match with her to begin with. You shouldn’t start shaving your entire body, or change who you are or what you look like just because she doesn’t like body hair. There are plenty of women out there that do.

This goes back to having enough confidence in yourself to not care so much what others think of you and being happy with who you are as a person and what you look like. If shaving yourself completely bald down there or all over makes you happy, go for it! Find someone who likes no body hair at all. If you don’t like to shave and enjoy having hair (it does keep a man warmer, after all), so be it! There IS someone out there that you’re compatible with.

3 Foreplay Strategies That Will Leave Her Breathless

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Foreplay is the #1 thing that women need to have great sex. Learn these three foreplay techniques that will make her putty in your hands.

Women seem to have an amount of sexual self control that men just can’t wrap their minds around. They can tease and play to the point where you are sporting some serious blue balls, and she hasn’t even gotten wet. Guess what, you can beat her at her own game. You just need a good game plan. Here’s a quick guideline to driving her mad for you.

The Prize

Guess what, buddy, you are the prize, and you probably never hear that. Women’s magazines are inundated with advice about how to love yourself. It’s practically all Oprah talks about. However, men don’t often get the same encouragement. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t hear it. You have something to offer. Sex with you is unlike sex she has had or will have with anyone else. Keep this in your mind on the way to the bedroom. There is nothing more arousing than confidence. If you’re unsure or apologetic, she will sense it, and it will make everyone uncomfortable.

The Strategic Back-Off

So you are at the point where you are definitely going to have sex. A man’s first instinct is to get in there, and get the job done. Yes, this is fun. For you. For around three and a half minutes. However, you can make it better. For the both of you. Instead of ripping her clothes off and diving in penis first, ease into it. Pull the straps of her dress down, and kiss her shoulders. Then push her straps back up, and kiss her mouth. If you’re about to head downstairs, pause to nibble around her belly and inner thighs. A woman’s sexual experience is multi-sensory. Every touch, caress, and kiss sends shocks through her body. You can drive her to near insanity.  Isn’t it more fun for her to beg for sex?

The Payoff

The Payoff is really, really good sex. It’s not just good sex for her, but for you, as well. When you tease her, you are teasing yourself. You may want to lick her lips or suck her breast more than anything, but if you wait until the point where you just can’t hold off anymore, the taste of her mouth and her breasts is even sweeter. If you’re running your lips across her inner thigh, savoring her flesh before you pleasure her, then your own sexual energy builds and builds. The more it builds, the more it releases, giving you a more intense, satisfying orgasm.

3 Mind Blowing Sex Techniques

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Sex can drive her wild – IF you know how to do it the right way. A lot of guys don’t know their way around a girl’s anatomy, let alone actually use tried and true sex techniques to bring her to orgasm. Here are three ways to make a girl go crazy with sexual pleasure!

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The Art Of Teasing During Foreplay

A lot of guys rush in during sex, anxious to get to the main event. Intercourse feels so great for a guy, he automatically assumes that it feels that excellent for a girl without really thinking it through. However, skipping the foreplay stage can really lower the pleasure factor for a woman – even completely. So take your time with foreplay and tease your partner. Get her to really want and crave your touch! Here’s how:

Kiss Lightly Up Her Legs

Start at her feet and kiss and lick lightly all the way up her legs, as though you were going to give her oral sex – but don’t! Get your mouth close to her vagina, nibble or kiss a little on the inside of her thighs, and then make your way back down her legs again all the way to her toes. Do this a few times and she’ll be begging you to put your mouth on her!

You can even take the teasing up a notch by giving her a little oral sex but then backing off for a few minutes while you caress your partner’s legs. If you tease too much without any stimulation, she may get bored with it. However, with the right combination of teasing and actual touching, you can really drive your lover wild!

Take Your Lover By Surprise

Every woman gets tired of the same old same old when it comes to seduction. What worked before isn’t always going to work, so you have to keep looking for new ways to get your partner’s attention and get her turned on. Even things that seemingly worked like magic just a few months ago aren’t necessarily going to work again, so you always want to stay on top of your game with new ways to seduce and tease your lover. Here’s how to surprise your partner with an extra bold kiss:

The Door Slam

Grab your lover and slam them up against the door or a wall and start kissing her aggressively. The idea here is not to hurt her – so you don’t want to do this too hard or be too aggressive with your kissing – but to her by surprise. Slamming her against a wall when done the right way won’t hurt at all – it will be surprising and a little disconcerting, especially since it usually makes a loud noise. This will take her breath away, and then she will melt right into the kiss.

Making Eye Contact

Eyes are called the windows to the soul for a reason – great eye contact can help you bond emotionally with a woman in a way that nothing else can. Eye contact works great during flirting, but you can also take it up a notch and work eye contact into sex. A lot of people look away from each other during sex, or look somewhere else on their partner’s face instead of looking directly into their eyes. Eye contact during sex can be such a powerful way to intensify your lover’s orgasm. Here’s how:

Eye Contact During Orgasm

When your partner is about to reach orgasm, have her look directly into your eyes. If she tries to look away, stop stimulating her and doing whatever it is that you’re doing that is bringing her closer to the brink of climax. This forces her to look into your eyes, and you’re “rewarding” her with pleasure when she does.

At some point, she’s going to go off the edge and slip into the abyss of orgasm while holding eye contact with you. It can be an incredible experience for your partner to look into your eyes as you give her intense pleasure, and watching your partner so deeply while their body is wracked with spasms can be amazing for you too.

This may not happen exactly right on the first try, and it may take a little while to build your partner up to the point where she can look you in the eyes throughout the entire climax. However, the process of learning how to do it can be just as much fun as actually doing it!

Bondage 101: What Every Player Needs To Know!

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Bondage is a sexual practice that involves restraints and the immobilization of a submissive partner for sexual gratification. Although it can be done for art, as in the case Shibari (Japanese rope bondage), but it is largely practiced during sex. It can be done with a number of mediums, including handcuffs (of both the metal and fuzzy variety), rope, Japanese silk rope, masks, gags and more.

Why Is It So Popular?

Bondage is popular for many different reasons. For some, the act of tying their lover up or being tied up is in some way liberating. Part of the appeal is that there are two very different roles required to make it happen – the dominant one, or the “top” and the submissive one, or the “bottom.” People are naturally inclined to be either a little more submissive or a little more dominant – and whichever role they seem to lean towards appeals to their inner desires in a bondage scenario.

How To Introduce It To A Nervous Partner

If someone who really enjoys the bondage and fetish world lands in a relationship with someone who has never tried it before, it can be quite nerve wracking. The partner with expertise in the area often wonders how to introduce their fantasies to their newbie lover, and they are of course, terrified of scaring them off or freaking them out.

The best way to introduce any type of sexual fetish, including bondage, to a person that has never tried it before is to start small and work your way up. Don’t bring in a huge ball gag and frightening looking metal cuffs for the first time.

Try a little light restraining with something benign like fuzzy handcuffs. Pair the restraint scenario with a favorite sexual activity of theirs that you know they absolutely love – like oral sex. Associating something new with something they already love sexually is a great way to put a positive spin on something that could otherwise be really “outside their box.”

As your partner gets more and more into it, you can talk to them about their fantasies (you’ll definitely want to give them the opportunity to express and act out their own sexual fantasies too) and gradually work your way up to whatever level of restraint you and your partner are most aroused by and comfortable with.

Experimenting With Restraints During Sex & Masturbation

Lovers of bondage as well as those who are new to it can play during sex with a partner or alone, during masturbation. While restraint scenarios are much easier to get into when there’s a partner involved, singles don’t have to give up their BDSM lives during their singledom just because someone else isn’t there to tie them up. Try wearing a ball gag or handcuffs during masturbation.

There are also lots of great places to meet fellow bondage and fetish enthusiasts, especially if you live in a larger city. If you’re single and are either looking for a romance with a dom or sub, or just want to engage in some casual play, there are tons of resources out there.

How To Get Started

If you’re new to bondage, whether you’re interested in experimenting with it on your own or have a partner that wants to get you into it, it can be a little intimidating getting started from scratch. Your first order of business is to invest in a few good tools of the trade. A basic silk rope or a restraint kit is perfect for beginner’s arm and leg restraint. A feather tickler and a paddle are also fun ways to get started with pain and pleasure play.

What’s New In Bondage & Fetish?

There is always something new and exciting in bondage & fetish, because the whole idea is to push the boundaries of what is acceptable and what isn’t. BDSM enthusiasts are always trying to push the envelope, so there’s always something different to find.

Recent adult films and many fetish-centric websites show some of the never before seen, don’t-try-this-at-home restraint scenarios, while many adult toy stores are starting to shelve some of the newest and sexiest bondage gear out there.

No matter what you’re looking for, whether it’s a beginner’s kit and a very vanilla video or a leather whip and a ball gag that you definitely wouldn’t want company to see, it’s out there. Bondage is sex, it’s art and it’s loved by many!

Q&A: Can I Get Rid Of My Fetish?

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A fetish is a common thing for some people to have, and most men and women have a fetish of some kind or another. You’ve probably heard of many different kinds of fetishes, from a foot fetish to bondage and more. Most individuals indulge in their fantasy without thinking about it, but what do you do if you want to get RID of yours?

Question: I just finished watching your video about the teenager who is a macrophile, which motivated me to ask my question. I am a 16 y/o female and have been into omorashi my whole life. I don’t know when it started, but I can remember this fetish existing back to age 3. I hate it, I think it’s gross, I don’t know why it started, and I want to get rid of it. Can I do that? It is the only thing I get off on (for lack of a better term) and I don’t want it to be. I feel like a freak. Can you guys help me? Also, if I can’t get rid of it, how do I go about telling a future boyfriend/husband about this?

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What Is Omarashi?

Omarashi is the Japanese term for a “panty wetting” fetish. It’s not necessarily the act of urinating in the underwear that is arousing to Omarashi enthusiasts, it’s the act of “waiting until you can’t hold it anymore” that is the turn on. This can also be called bladder desperation. While enthusiasts find the actual wetting arousing, they may also be sexually attracted to the feeling of having a full bladder or to someone else who is experiencing the feeling of a full bladder.

Most Fetishes Aren’t Harmful

Some people are freaked out by their own fantasy more so than they are the fetishes of others – which is saying something, considering that it’s common for them to think that their own fantasy is “normal” while what other individuals enjoy is “strange” or “weird.” However, most fetishes are actually completely harmless. Some individuals may think a foot fetish is odd (even the person with the fetish), but in all actuality, there’s nothing harmful at all about enjoying feet sexually or collecting sexy shoes and high heels.

Even “stranger” fetishes like wetting, macrophilia, infantophilia or diaper fetish, and cuckoldism among others are completely harmless, although they wouldn’t necessarily be considered “normal” by most. As long as no one is getting hurt and everything that happens is between consenting adults, there’s really nothing wrong with any fantasy that’s out there.

Don’t Let Others Judge You – And Don’t Judge Yourself

If you’re ashamed of your fantasy or prefer to keep it hidden, you probably don’t have to worry about others judging you. However, some fetish enthusiasts can be pretty hard on themselves for liking what they like – and if it’s not hurting anyone and you’re still able to lead a relatively normal and fulfilling life, there’s no reason to be so critical of what you enjoy. If you have a different sort of fantasy that might hurt someone or something like rape or bestiality, it’s important to seek help as soon as possible. However, if it’s not hurting anyone and it still bothers you, try to think about what exactly it is that freaks you out about it.

What Bothers You About It?

Find out what it is about your fantasy that bothers you – what exactly is it that you find distasteful in what you enjoy? Is it because you and others see it as “dirty” or “wrong” or is it due to hygiene issues or anything else? There are tons of possible reasons as to why something that you enjoy sexually might gross you out or bother you in some way – it’s your job to dig around and find out which one it is. Once you isolate the real issue, only then can you begin to resolve it.

Getting Rid Of A Fetish Because It’s Overtaking Your Life

If you have a fantasy that is overtaking your life and you’re unable to live a normal, healthy and happy life, getting rid of it is definitely in order. Here are some signs that it’s going too far:

  • It’s all you ever think about. For example, with a masturbation addiction, masturbation will nearly consume the thoughts of the addict. How often are you thinking about your fetish?
  • You can’t afford it and it hurts you financially.
  • It affects your relationships with your friends, family and significant others.

How To Overcome It

You most likely want to see an unbiased counselor that you’re comfortable with to talk through your issues with your fantasy. A lot of people with issues they’re ashamed of won’t go see a counselor, however, it’s pretty difficult to work through something like this on your own. This goes back to not letting anyone judge you – there’s nothing wrong with seeking help, ever. If you’re seeking help for any problem that you have and you’re committed to working through it, more power to you. Don’t let anyone bring you down! Also, remember that everything that goes on at a counselor’s office is confidential.

Redirect The Energy To Something Else

Whenever you feel the urge to engage in your fantasyg, think about consciously redirecting that energy to doing something else. For example, instead of looking at porn, try to meditate or do yoga. Pick up a hobby that you really enjoy such as painting or working on cars and do that whenever you feel the urge to engage in your fetish come on. Try getting out of the house – take a walk or adopt a pet that requires a fair amount of your time and attention.

Accepting Your Fantasies

Your sexual fantasies may not be something you are able to rid yourself of – let’s face it, people like what they like and sometimes you can’t change that. If your fetish isn’t hurting anyone and it only involves consenting adults, consider simply accepting it. Consider not letting anyone judge you for it, including yourself! There are individuals out there that enjoy the same things you do, or enjoy things that would be complementary to what you enjoy, like with BDSM where a submissive personality and a dominant personality get together and enjoy their fantasies. If you can’t make it go away of it, learn to accept it!