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3 Tips To Warm Up Your Man For Sex

If you have been trying hard to “ignite” a man’s passion because you are eager to take the next step, or because you are very much into him, you are probably secretly dreading that he will remain lukewarm towards you and your efforts will amount to nothing.

What you need to know is that there are certain ways to make a man fall in love with you romantically and sexually. Some women have not figured out what it takes to turn the “sensual switch” on inside a man’s brain, and it is because these women do not fully understand what it is that arouses a man’s sense of passion and imagination.

Sexual Innuendo

Straightforward talk will not make your man ignite. Sensual talk, or that kind of conversation that involves all his senses, will arouse him more. What do I mean with sensual talk? It means you describe something rather than tell him directly.

For instance, you mail him while he is at work on a Friday and you talk about finding your old cheerleader outfit in one of the attic boxes you have been cleaning. Instead of saying you will wear the outfit that night, describe how skimpy the skirt is, and how the buttons on the blouse almost don’t close because your breasts have grown.

Sexual innuendo will fire up his imagination and get him thinking about you doing it with him.

Your “Other Side”

If you just started a relationship with a guy, or you’re in your first months of being husband and wife, you can pull this strategy off nicely. Casually ask your man about his first impression of you. Depending on his response, say something like “yeah, that’s the usual first impression. But there’s a quirk to my personality that you haven’t seen yet…”

Being mysterious even to a guy you’ve known forever will make him feel excited. He won’t know what to expect. He will be mystified and curious, so you’d better prepare a nice surprise. If you’re usually prim and proper, act like a harlot in bed that night. If you’re usually passionate and fiery, act like a blushing virgin.

Give Him A Blowjob

Blowjob, by definition, means taking him in your mouth. But did you know that for a guy, this definition has another clause attached to it? The truth is, a blowjob isn’t considered relevant unless you do it for more than thirty seconds. If all you ever do is quickly take him inside your mouth and bob your head a few times, I’m sorry to tell you but that’s not blowing him at all.

If you can prove to your man that you know how to please him, you won’t even need to warm him up. As soon as you give him the eye, he will come scampering to your side because he knows that sex will always be good with you.

4 Ways To Get A Blowjob WITHOUT Asking

By michaelfiore

A blowjob can be a fun thing for you and your wife or girlfriend. A lot of guys think that this is something the girl does for them after asking or begging, but there are simple ways that you can turn this activity into something you get on a regular basis. Here are a couple of basic rules and things you need to internalize in order to make this “blowjob” thing start to happen in your life.

1. Change Your Thinking

You need to permanently change your thinking around oral sex. Weirdly enough, if you want to get more head in your life you need to treat blowjobs as “no big deal.” If getting a blowjob is the “be all, end all” of your sexuality then it becomes too much pressure for her. If it’s “just something fun you guys can do” it’s more likely to happen and happen often.

2. Don’t Beg – EVER

Most women want their man to be the dominant but respectful one in the sexual relationship. That means you CAN NOT BE ASHAMED OF YOUR DESIRES. If you ever act embarrassed by something you want sexually your odds of getting it go WAY down. Whether you want her to go down on you or put on a sexy clown costume and juggle your balls, you need to OWN your desire and have confidence about it. This can be hard to pull off, but it’s incredibly important.

3. Don’t Be Misogynistic

This whole method is based around loving and respecting women. In my own life I’ve discovered that the more I respect and adore women the dirtier, sexier and weirder things they’ve been willing to do with me. Even if you really want to be dominant with a woman, the best way to get there is to have a sincere desire to give her pleasure and to have FUN with her.

4. Make It About BOTH Of You

You need to start thinking of blowjobs as “something you guys SHARE” instead of something she does for you. This is a really important distinction. Once you internalize this concept you’ll both start having a lot more fun with your sexual fantasies. It’s got to be fun for both of you.

9 Smokin’ Hot Handjob Techniques

By loveandsex

A great handjob or blowjob has three elements. Its WET, its WARM and it has good suction/friction.

When beginning a genital massage it is typically best to start with lighter, irregular strokes – like teasing. Do a wide variety to touches and strokes early on. Be quite playful. As you go further and further into the genital massage, stick with two or three main strokes that your partner really enjoys but do mix them up until you are ready for the big finale.

Eventually you will want to develop a good rhythm that your partner can get into – that is the key to bringing your partner to orgasm with a genital massage. When your partner is arriving at an orgasm, it is very important that you don’t vary your technique at all! Moving even slightly into a different hand position can bring your partner back down from the brink and cause you to have to start bringing him back up again. If your partner is close to having an orgasm, the same stroke over and over will push him over the edge! You know how it works with rubbing your clitoris! Not much difference here.

1. Use More Lube Than You Think You Need

Use an excessive amount of lube if you know he can get cleaned up afterwards. If you are at his office in the high rise you can’t be quite as liberal with the slick stuff. Lots of lube will give him a super-sexy, ultra-slippery feeling all over his scrotum, penis and perineum. You can probably never use too much lube, the slicker the better.

2. Tickle Him First

Begin by just using the tips of your fingers. Let them float all around your partner’s penis, pressing lightly and then moving into a firmer press.

3. Use Your Palms

Roll the shaft of his penis in between your palms. You can do this lightly or harder if your partner likes more stimulation. Some guys like it if you shake his member gently and then toss it back and forth between your hands (open-palmed). Obviously you do that more when it is still a bit soft.

4. Stroke With Both Hands

Take one hand and wrap it around his shaft, pulling towards the head. As you’re finishing the stroke with that hand, begin a new stroke with the other hand. Be careful not to pull too hard, however, because anything more than a gentle to a medium pull can give your partner the uncomfortable sensation that he is being “milked” or that you are rubbing his skin raw.

5. The Big “O”

Do a reverse of the technique above. Make an “O” with your hand and put it on the top of his penis and push it down so the head pokes through. As you are moving your hand down take your other hand and do that same. Then take the bottom hand and move it on top. Do this in smooth succession like he is entering an endless vagina.

6. Stimulate His Head

Hold the base of the shaft firmly with one hand while rubbing your palm on the head. This traps blood at the head, making it more sensitive to whatever you’re stroke you’re using on the head.

7. Twist It Up

Give a long stroke from the base all the way to the tip of the head in a twisting motion. You can twist up the entire penis or save the twisting until you reach the head for a varied effect. Put both hands on your partner’s member, one at the base and the other at the head. Use the above technique, but twist with both hands at the same time. You can also twist in different directions to spice up the move.

8. Different Strokes For Different Folks

Try using different strokes with your partner’s shaft pointed in different directions. This causes blood to flow in different areas, making him more sensitive to your movements.

9. Give Him A Ring

Make your thumb and forefinger form a ring around the base of your partner’s penis. Move this ring up and down the shaft in long strokes. You can do this gently or in a more firm fashion depending on the stage of genital massage your partner is in.

6 Ways To Be The Alpha Male She CRAVES

By shawnalenee

Sex tips show you what techniques to use, but they won’t matter if you’re a wuss who asks permission to do anything. Here’s how to be the ALPHA MALE she wants!

There are a lot of ways to be authoritative with your girl. Here are six you can use to get on the right track, tonight!

Take Charge!

These sex tips start right from the beginning. Don’t ASK for sex. Just make your move! YOU must lead the interaction. Here’s a great way to show her you’re in control: Once you have her turned on, naked, and ready to go, tell her she isn’t ready yet. Tease her, and show her she has to beg for it before you will give it to her.

Then have her get in the positions you want, tell her what to say – just make sure you are leading!

Make her orgasm on your command. When she is getting close, say to her you want her to come for you, or say she isn’t allowed to climax until you say it’s OK. Then keep doing her hard and make her wait for your okay.

Use Dirty Talk

The whole authority thing backfires if you proceed to have silent sex with your girl!

Start early. If you’re meeting up with your girl later, call or text her ahead of time and tell her you’re going to do naughty things to her. Tell her she’d better be ready. Don’t know what to say once you are all over each other? Start by just describing what you’re doing, then let her know what you’re about to do to her.

Say what positions to get into. Make to talk dirty to you, but save the “I Love You’s” for another day! (Or right afterwards to show her that you LOVE how dirty and nasty she was just for you, but you still cherish and love her).

Do It Hard!

You can’t be authoritative if you aren’t giving it to your girl hard, plain and simple. Save the sensitive love-making for another time. You have to put me in positions that are good for this – doggy style is GREAT for this!

But don’t confuse hard with fast. You don’t have to be pounding away like a jackhammer – just full, hard, and deep.

You can also gently but firmly pull her hair from the back near the roots, slap her lightly on the ass, throw her onto the bed, “mock” rip her clothes off with your teeth!

Use Authority Through The Whole Experience

Use dirty talk and she will love it.

Do her hard and she will love it.

But do ALL of these things – and watch her totally lose control and come over and over at your command!

It’s All Relative

Authoritative for one couple might be completely different from authoritative for another couple. If you have been ignoring great sex tips, having boring, quiet, missionary sex, with the lights out for the last 15 years – you have to be careful not to do too much too soon. This can make her uncomfortable and ruin the experience.

So start out slow if you have to. As you both get more comfortable you can keep adding to the authority and having more and more fun!

It’s Not The Same As Being Mean

Authority is all about being in charge, and telling the girl what you want. It’s NOT about degrading her, making her feel uncomfortable, or being too serious. One of my favorite things is when a guy is authoritative in a playful way. It’s more about him knowing that I enjoy him being in charge, that he’s not afraid to tell me what he wants, and that I can just safely give in to him.

Remember, authority is one of the best ways to get and keep a woman 100% sexually satisfied.

Many men have told me JUST these sex tips have changed their entire sex lives! And taken them from clumsily messing around and “hoping for the best” in the bedroom to confidently giving their women orgasm after juicy orgasm – whether it’s their very first time with a girl, or someone they’ve been with for years!

3 Dirty Sex Moves Men Crave In Bed

By jessicaperez

Every guy craves dirty sex. Most of them are hesitant about asking their partners to do certain things in bed for fear of offending the other person, or being judged. However, most crave a few “naughty” things in between the sheets, even if they are afraid to ask for it. Spice up your sex life by anticipating the “taboo” things your man wants to do to you and give him dirty sex tonight!

Orgasm Inside Your Mouth

Every porn video he has ever seen contains a variation or two of this oral sex activity. Since he has spend a lot of time fantasizing about “cum in mouth” and “cum on face” scenes, he might want to try these when you’re having sex. But some women are offended at the thought of swallowing a man’s sperm. She may also feel affronted at the thought of a man’s semen spraying all over her face. But if your man cannot do these things with you, who else would he do it with?

Save him the trouble of him asking by telling him to orgasm in your mouth. If he asks why you feel like doing it this time, just say you want to taste him in the most intimate way possible.

Analingus

Being the recipient of oral sex should tell you how sensitive the skin around your anus is. It’s called the perineum, where the skin is thinner than anywhere else around your pubic area. For women, it’s the patch of skin that stretches the most during sex. If you felt all sorts of pleasurable sensations when your man caresses that area, you should know that it’s the same for guys. But some women feel grossed out at the thought of licking their partners there, so men usually don’t ask.

While you’re blowing him, slide down to that place and don’t slow down. He might feel surprised, even shocked, at your daring but the pleasure will overpower him after a few minutes of analingus. Slide your tongue over his anal sphincter to intensify the sensation.

Anal Sex

Anal sex on you is something that you and your man might have tried. But have you ever thought about doing it to him? Like rimming, he might be craving for you to shove your tongue or your finger up his ass but never knew how to ask.

Once you’ve graduated from rimming, you can proceed with exploring his anal region with your fingers and your tongue. However, be prepared for some sort of resistance, as straight men who have never tried this before may feel like they’re getting violated.

If your man shows signs of detesting the act because it feels “gay,” remind him that a woman is doing it to him so he shouldn’t feel that way. It’s probably better to discuss the possibility of anal sex on him before you proceed. A man needs to prepare himself mentally and physically for the act.

There are women who can do the things I mentioned effortlessly, but there are women who don’t want to do these things because these activities are “dirty,” literally. If you’re one of these women, you can easily solve this problem by doing it in the bath or under the shower.