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How To Sustain Sex Longer And Give Women Amazing Orgasms

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Giving an orgasm is at the top of the list for most guys, but many guys don’t know how. Here is a simple, powerful way to give an orgasm and sensational sex!

Emotional distress. Lower self-image. Relationship breakdown. Marriage on the rocks. Sexual infidelity. These are REAL problems that many men have to go through when they persistently suffer from premature ejaculation. And you know that if you can’t last long enough, you’re sure as heck not going to give her a great orgasm. While PE is twice as common as its other “cousin” – erectile dysfunction – it is FAR less understood by the majority of men. If you are keen to get a handle on your early ejaculation problem, you will want to read keep reading and learn one powerful way to delay YOUR orgasm so she can get hers.

The Preeminence Of Sexual Endurance

Many men equate sexual endurance as the prerequisite for giving women sensational sex. That is true to a large extent. In fact, many women complain that their partners aren’t lasting long enough to sexually fulfill them. And we probably know too well of relationships that have been torn apart because the man persistently ejaculates too early.

The Illusion Of The Magic Number

Premature ejaculation is when a man ejaculates earlier then desired. For 25 to 40 percent of men worldwide, this typically means a male orgasm occurs within 2 minutes during vaginal penetration. That said, many men focus too much on the specific duration they should last. They fret over the fact that they cannot last like porn actors do. The simple truth is, sex that lasts too long can be painful and uncomfortable for the woman! The lubrication in the vagina typically dries up from prolonged thrusting.

So what’s the magic number, you asked? Simple! In most cases, intercourse just needs to last as long as a You Tube clip to be satisfactory. That means 3-5 minutes on average, not including the amount of foreplay time. And studies have consistently shown that lovemaking that lasts 7 to 13 minutes is the most desirable.

“Endurance Superiority” vs. “Female Orgasms”

Women are biologically wired to respond VERY slowly to physical sexual stimulation. That is why in general, your wife, girlfriend or partner needs at least 7 to 15 minutes of consistent stimulation during penetration to get aroused to the point of vaginal orgasm. Compare that with the short one to two minutes that bring most men from arousal to orgasm!

So, if you want to desirable sex, you should be lasting at least 7 minutes during sex… and this poses a REAL challenge for the vast majority of men.

The Trick To Overcoming Early Ejaculation And Triggering Faster Female Orgasms

Stop relying on your penis to stimulate and bring your woman to a climax. In fact, a man’s most prized member is the lousiest tool to help women achieve the big “O”! Besides thrusting in and out, what else can your penis do?

Instead, what you should do is to focus on giving your woman enough stimulation to her clitoris. It is difficult to do this with your penis, so use your fingers/thumb or your tongue instead. Pound for pound, the tongue has the strongest muscle on the human body, and is extremely powerful and flexible in stimulating the clitoris. Plus, since you are not using your penis, it helps you manage your arousal better and gives you more endurance in bed.

Proper clitoral stimulation will quicken her ability to enjoy an orgasm sooner. So give her one before you start having intercourse with her. The great thing is, when you’ve made her climax BEFORE penetrative sex, it becomes ten times easier for her to achieve a vaginal orgasm during intercourse… and in her eyes, you become the man with superior stamina that she has been dreaming of!

My Boyfriend Wants Anal Sex – What Do I Do?

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My BF wants to try anal sex , but I’m not so sure I’m into it. It’s a bigger commitment on my “end,” so to speak! What do I do?

What She Said

Oh, honey! This is a question for the ages and I’m so glad you asked it. There are two schools of thought: (1) It’s great and everyone should try it. (2) No one wants to marry the “up the butt girl.” Yes, I’m pulling quotes from the Sex and the City series – those ladies had some good advice!

Is Anal Sex Actually Fun?

Let’s start with the “It’s great” theory first. Anal sex – with the right partner and the right lube – can be a lovely experience. If you choose to do this, have a frank talk with your boyfriend beforehand. He already knows you’re a bit nervous; if you agree to this, you get to call the shots. He needs to be gentle – he also needs to be willing to use lubricant and a condom. Your vagina and anus are separated for a reason – he can’t pull out and enter you vaginally in the middle of anal sex.

Be sure to let him know that health and safety come first, even before the two you. Now on to the fun stuff! If you’re feeling good about your talk, go for it. There’s no harm (with proper precautions) in trying something once. You might find that you love it – in which case you can consider adding it to your repertoire. If you didn’t enjoy it, you don’t have to do it again. At least you’ll be basing your “no go” from a position of experience.

And here’s the “flip side,” so to speak. No one wants to marry the “up the butt girl.” Of course this is an antiquated notion – anyone who would judge you for experiences you’ve chosen to have can shove off, in my book.

Would You Really Rather Not?

What I mean to point out via this example is: What’s the state of your relationship? Is he pushing you into trying something you don’t want to do? Is the decision to try anal based on a last ditch effort to save your coupling or is it based on a mutual agreement to spice things up? If you guys are on the rocks, he might be pushing for anal so he can try it before he dumps you.

Sound harsh? Imagine how you’ll feel if you give in to something you’re not comfortable with only to find yourself single weeks later. Why give it up for someone who doesn’t care? If the relationship is sound but this isn’t your preferred way of adding something new to your sex life, talk with your BF then buy a copy of the Kama Sutra. There are plenty of other sex positions out there that don’t involve the ass.

What He Said

Snoop Dogg once said “You can’t make a ho a housewife.” If you can’t, I’ll never get married. Seriously, the “no one marries the up the butt girl is” stupid and untrue. Your marital charms are not based on any particular sex act. If he likes you, he likes you, pure and simple.

IF you’re concerned about anal sex and don’t want to do it, just tell him he can screw you up the ass right after you get to screw him in the ass with a sex toy. (See the ‘Bending Over Boyfriend” series for details if he actually agrees to it)

There’s No Reason To Be Scared

If you’re into it and are scared for whatever reason, don’t be. You are not the first person on the planet to want their boyfriend to do them in the butt (assuming you’re into that). It doesn’t mean you’re a slut or a whore, or that you’re going to hell. Just that you like it up the ass. It’s that simple. Raise your concerns whatever they may be with your man and go from there. You’ll be glad you did.

That is, unless this is some last ditch effort to save your relationship. If it is, than it won’t work. You can’t take it up the ass to save your relationship any more than you can have a baby to save it. This can enhance it, but if it needs saving, that’s a whole other issue.

Not Having Sex? You NEED To Watch This!

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Sex is something just about everyone wants – but not everyone always gets it. Some single guys get a lot of sex and other guys hardly get any at all – and dating isn’t as fun when you’re in the latter category. If you’re not getting any, you’re probably wondering what the difference is between you and the guys who are getting laid every weekend – or more. If you’re not getting any, here’s how to fix it and start getting more sex!

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If You’re Single And Not Getting Sex

If you’re single and you’re not getting any, these three steps will help you get laid more often. However, if you’re married and looking to get more sex, these techniques are definitely not for you! If you follow these steps while you’re married, it will likely cause more trouble than it’s worth, considering that these techniques are all about how to score with lots of different women.

Step One: Approach One Girl A Day And Ask For Her Phone Number

Make a committment to approach one new woman a day and ask her for her phone number (bonus points if flirting is involved). This simultaneously achieves two things. First, you will inherently become much more comfortable talking to women. When you’re constantly going up to women and making conversation with them, you become more and more aware of what to say and when to say it.

Second, it increases your chances of getting a girl to actually say “yes” simply because after talking to so many women, one of them is bound to. By asking tons of women out, you’re actually improving your odds at getting a date – learn to focus on the number of women that say “yes” instead of the number of women that don’t. Even if you ask fifty women for their phone number and only get two responses, that’s still two women that are interested in dating you and possibly sleeping with you!

Step Two: Design A Date With Multiple Activities – Ending At Your Place

You’re much more likely to have sex on the first date if you design it so that it ends up at your place. Plan a date where you’re moving around a lot and doing multiple activities. Dinner and a movie is cliche, and afterwards, there can be an awkward moment when you’re figuring out what to do next, especially if you’ve hit it off and want to continue spending time with each other.

Here are a few ways you can convince her to go to your place, after you’ve taken her to a few other places first.

Make or purchase a really yummy dessert. Then, let her know that you “made” her something really delicious and she just has to come over and try it. This sounds cheesy, but it actually does work!

Use the things around you to your advantage. For example, do you have a great view from your balcony or your backyard? Do you have a pool or some really exquisite fine art? Perhaps you have a crazy roommate that your date just has to come meet. Look at the things around you and decide what could possibly be interesting to a woman and use that to your advantage when trying to get her to come back to your place.

Step Three: Acquire Sexual Skills

You can get different women back to your place with the above steps, but if you’re not wanting to bomb out and never have sex again with this same girl, you’re going to need to acquire some great sexual skills. This is the true secret to getting a lot of sex all the time. Most guys that get sex have a few girls that they have sex with all the time, rather than doing it with someone new every time. This is because a guy that is really good in bed will have the women he sleeps with coming back for more!

Take some time to research on how to give a woman a really great orgasm. Learn how to please a woman with incredible oral sex, and then learn how to stimulate the g-spot or the a-spot and give her types of orgasms she’s never had before. If you learn what a woman likes in bed, you’re really only going to have to date a few women – because if you blow their minds during sex, they’e going to want to go back to your place again and again.

How To Have Great Sex Without Penetration

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Sex isn’t all about penetration. It’s a common misconception that you have to actually have intercourse to have awesome sex, but the truth is, you can actually have wonderful physical intimacy with your partner while not bumping uglies at all! There is so much more to doing it than just “penis-in-the-vagina” – in fact, there are so many more enjoyable ways to experience your partner sexually while avoiding intercourse! Here’s how.

Why Couples Would Want To Skip Traditional Intercourse

You might be wondering why anyone in their right mind would want to skip out on the sex part of sex. There are, however, lots of couples who either can’t or don’t want to have traditional intercourse with each other for various reasons. Some couples may want to avoid unwanted pregnancy by not engaging in penetration (if they’re not using condoms or birth control) and other couples may be avoiding penetration for religious, spiritual or moral reasons.

After childbirth, women are often cautioned not to have sex for six weeks afterwards, leaving them at a loss on how to please their partners when sex is not an option. Other couples may not be a great fit physically down there and will get more enjoyment out of foreplay than actual intercourse.

Oral Sex

Oral sex is a great way to give your partner an amazing orgasm with no intercourse. Most people feel like oral sex is for foreplay only, but why not make it the main event? It is that great, after all! Take turns pleasuring your lover with your tongue and letting them do the same for you, or try the sixty-nine position and give each other simultaneous oral sex. You may not think it’s possible to feel completely satisfied after having only oral sex with your partner and forgoing intercourse, but the truth is, you might even have a better and more satisfying orgasm this way than through intercourse alone. Your partner will too!

Masturbation

If oral sex isn’t your thing or you’re just not ready to go there with your partner yet, think about masturbation. Not the flying solo kind, but the masturbating your partner with your hands kind. This is better known as fingering (if they’re a girl) and giving a handjob (if they’re a guy). Lots of people avoid this type of stimulation when they’re getting it on with their lovers because they feel like that manual stimulation is actually boring – especially since this is the kind of stimulation you get all the time when you masturbate alone.

However, you can give your partner amazing orgasms through manual stimulation! All it takes is time, a little hard work and lots and lots of great lube. Most people who don’t enjoy getting a handjob from their partner have forgotten that crucial component – lots of lube!

Sex Toys

If you’re not going to have intercourse with your partner, why not bring in some fun sex toys to play with instead? If she can handle penetration but just not with a penis (for example, if she’s trying not to get pregnant), try using a dildo or a vibrator. If penetration of any kind is out of the question, a clitoris vibrator can definitely come into play. This is a great way to give a woman an orgasm when avoiding intercourse, especially if oral sex or fingering isn’t your thing. Instead of letting her take care of herself with the vibrator (which a lot of guys do when they can’t do it with their ladies), take care of it for her and get off on her pleasure.

For the men, sex toys can also be beneficial when you can’t or don’t want to do it the traditional way. Male masturbators (also known as masturbation sleeves) can make giving him a handjob a lot easier, especially when you use plenty of lube. In fact, it will probably feel better for him too!

Kissing

If you’re avoiding sexual activity all together for whatever reason, don’t forget that you can stay physically intimate and close to your partner through kissing. Don’t just assume that the quick kiss you gave your lover before work will suffice – if you’re not having sex, take some time to have a really great and satisfying make out session with your partner.

Kiss your lover deeply and slowly, with no regard to how much time you have or what is going to come next. Simply enjoy the kissing experience for what it is and encourage your partner to do the same. When done right, kissing can be an extremely satisfying way to stay physically connected to your lover when you can’t get it on!

5 Ways Exercise Can Improve Your Sex Life

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Sex is a very physical activity – there’s no doubt about that. Great sex will leave the sheets soaked with sweat, and even mediocre sex will leave you and your partner both out of breath if you’re not healthy and fit. If you’re not in shape, sex can definitely become lackluster and not just because you don’t feel confident about the way you look naked. Being physically ready for great sex will help you have sex that rocks your world. Check out these moves that will get your body ready for amazing sex.

Abdominal Workouts

Some of the most used muscles during sex are the abdominal muscles. They’re used for penetration and thrusting, they’re used for hip gyrating and strong abs can be extremely helpful when it comes to trying some of the more awkward sex positions. Strengthen your ab muscles by doing simple sit ups – as long as you’re doing them the right way.

Sit ups don’t have to involve you actually sitting all the way up. In fact, you can strengthen your abs by just lifting your shoulders off the floor – enough to tighten those muscles. Hold for a few seconds before resting your shoulders back on the floor and repeat. Do three sets of 10-15 sit ups three times a week for stronger ab muscles.

Another move for the lower abs involves assuming the same position as you would if you were doing a sit up and lifting your legs instead, using your lower ab muscles only. It might take a few tries to learn how to isolate the muscles you’re wanting to use (you want to feel the “burn” in your lower stomach, not your thighs), but these are the muscles that are going to be responsible for the majority of your hip movements.

Thigh Workouts

Both men and women can benefit from doing thigh workouts to enhance sexual stamina and performance. The thighs are used primarily during thrusting, and people with poor muscle tone in their thighs won’t be able to thrust for very long in bed, making sex shorter. A lot of men may mistake having a reduced libido with simply not being in good enough physical shape to continue thrusting for extended periods of time.

Simple squats can take care of this. Start without weight, and then add small amounts of weight as you get stronger. You don’t have to do this in a gym either – squats at home will work too. You can add weight by using cans of vegetables for the lighter weights and bags of sugar or flour for heavier weights. Just use your imagination! Three sets of 8-10 to start out with a few times a week is sufficient, but when you’re ready to step up your game, you can add repetitions.

Flexibility Training

Of course, to get into some of the more interesting sex positions, you need to be flexible. Flexibility is something that people have a lot of when they’re younger, and then they lose it as they get older. You can get your flexibility back, however, by doing stretching and training your body to stretch further and further each time.

Women can begin by practicing stretching their legs upwards while lying down, bringing the tops of their thighs and knees towards their shoulders. This helps stretch the tendons in the back of the thighs, allowing a woman to get her legs up farther when she’s beneath her man during sex or when he’s performing oral sex on her. Another great stretching move is actually simply learning to touch your toes in a sitting position. This helps a woman’s legs become even more flexible, allowing her to use them differently with different sex positions.

When stretching, simply practice a little each day, pushing yourself as far as you can go without experiencing a lot of pain (a little burn is normal). After several stretching sessions, you’ll notice that you can stretch a little farther each time.

Cardio Exercises

Cardio training is probably the cornerstone of getting your body ready for sex. Many people who don’t have a lot of stamina will get out of breath easily when having sex, especially if it involves more vigorous thrusting. If you want to last longer in bed, practice getting your heart rate up and keeping it there for a short period of time. You can do this with fast walking or jogging, or you can use a treadmill or elliptical machine at the gym.

Start small, with five to ten minute bursts of heart-racing activity. When you stop getting out of breath as much and your heart doesn’t beat quite as hard, it’s time to add another minute or two. After just a week or two of cardio a few times a week, you’ll notice a huge difference in your ability to have sex longer with your partner.

Safety

Of course, before beginning any fitness program (for better sex or otherwise), it’s important to consult your doctor first, especially if you have muscle or joint problems or any kind of heart condition. When doing these moves, make sure to listen to your body and stop if you become extremely uncomfortable, dizzy or are too out of breath.